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July 27, 2020
Know what you know, and then act like you know
The fact that your intuition doesn’t explain itself to you means you don’t have to explain yourself to anyone.
Tasha Bee
There are many times when I want to do something, when I want to take a particular action and I share the idea with others. People start asking me questions. Confessions on the Journey - when I don't have the answers. I get annoyed with myself at first because I do not have the answers. All I know is that I am doing the thing or going to the place.
When the responses come out of my mouth, many times, doubt sets in. I start doubting myself and the action. I am given reasons, rationales and justifications why it is not a very well thought out idea.
It has always been a challenge for me to explain when I get a hunch, a message, a gut feeling. I have been practicing lately that when I get them I act immediately on them. I don't wait, I tell no one. When I start I share it if required and those who are on board come on board. They sometimes still ask questions. I have already started so the doubt comes in with the continuation rather than the starting.
According to Iyanla know that you know what you know, and that is ok to know!Anything you know is for your own good.Your knowledge will protect you.Your knowledge will strengthen you.Not only intuitive knowledge open your eyes to see what you need to see, it will also let you know what yo so about what you see.Taking the time to get still awakens one's intuitionTaking the time to connect with nature allows the still voice to come throughTaking the time to be courageous and discipline when guided will always be a huge part of taking this journey.Taking action is key.
Know what you know, and then act like you knowPeace
Have you read any of Akosua's work?What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
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There are many times when I want to do something, when I want to take a particular action and I share the idea with others. People start asking me questions. Confessions on the Journey - when I don't have the answers. I get annoyed with myself at first because I do not have the answers. All I know is that I am doing the thing or going to the place.
When the responses come out of my mouth, many times, doubt sets in. I start doubting myself and the action. I am given reasons, rationales and justifications why it is not a very well thought out idea.
It has always been a challenge for me to explain when I get a hunch, a message, a gut feeling. I have been practicing lately that when I get them I act immediately on them. I don't wait, I tell no one. When I start I share it if required and those who are on board come on board. They sometimes still ask questions. I have already started so the doubt comes in with the continuation rather than the starting.
According to Iyanla know that you know what you know, and that is ok to know!Anything you know is for your own good.Your knowledge will protect you.Your knowledge will strengthen you.Not only intuitive knowledge open your eyes to see what you need to see, it will also let you know what yo so about what you see.Taking the time to get still awakens one's intuitionTaking the time to connect with nature allows the still voice to come throughTaking the time to be courageous and discipline when guided will always be a huge part of taking this journey.Taking action is key.
Know what you know, and then act like you knowPeace
Have you read any of Akosua's work?What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
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July 25, 2020
Self Awareness
Just Be Aware
- Iyanla
Hello Lovies
Do you check in with yourself?Do you check in with yourself and ask yourself how you are feeling?These questions allow us to become more self aware.
On this journey, self awareness plays such a critical role in guiding us during our daily lives.It is inevitable that there will be things that happen which we cannot control. There may also be events that take place where all we can do is respond in the moment. There will also be situations where we are called upon to give more than usual in time, effort and energy. We may also have to support others on the journey which calls us to tap into areas of ourselves that may be dormant or overused.
I have learnt that checking in with self brings us to a point of awareness which can lead us to making better decisions and learning or unlearning where we can be more of our true and highest self.Becoming self aware is the first part of healing and growth. We can only move forward when we face and know what we are dealing with.
Check in with yourself, become aware of your breath, your feelings, your response. In that way, you can move forward in full control of yourself.
Peace
Have you read any of Akosua's work?What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
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Hello Lovies
Do you check in with yourself?Do you check in with yourself and ask yourself how you are feeling?These questions allow us to become more self aware.
On this journey, self awareness plays such a critical role in guiding us during our daily lives.It is inevitable that there will be things that happen which we cannot control. There may also be events that take place where all we can do is respond in the moment. There will also be situations where we are called upon to give more than usual in time, effort and energy. We may also have to support others on the journey which calls us to tap into areas of ourselves that may be dormant or overused.
I have learnt that checking in with self brings us to a point of awareness which can lead us to making better decisions and learning or unlearning where we can be more of our true and highest self.Becoming self aware is the first part of healing and growth. We can only move forward when we face and know what we are dealing with.
Check in with yourself, become aware of your breath, your feelings, your response. In that way, you can move forward in full control of yourself.
Peace
Have you read any of Akosua's work?What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
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July 22, 2020
Do Something New
Courage not only means being able to do something new. It also means taking steps to "be" someone new. Iyanla Vanzant
Hello My loviesI have been away for a few days, unplugged from the technology and the rest of the fast paced world. This was by choice. I wanted to do ground myself in nature away from what had seen to me to become distractions of phone, television and noise. I wanted to challenge myself as well.I took a boat out to the islet. Boats and me are not friendly - AT ALL!As I got on the small pirouge, I asked Cleve, the captain for a life jacket. He said "oh no! I forgot them on shore, but the sea is nice today!" Here we go!I did ask for challenges.The boat journey was thirty five mnutes. During that time I was mostly silent having an inner dialougue with myself. The talk was around convincing myself that I was able to do the ride, be safe and be courageous.I was so happy to see the shore. Happy to be on land and happy to see that the positive self talk worked, happy to complete the task.I spent the few days walking on the wbeach, waking up early to see the sun rise and being in place to see it set. Going into the ocean - which I never do. and waking up without checking my phone and social media!I throughly enjoyed the few days with just nature.It's important to challenge ourselves, to do new things, to show ourselves that we are courageous and can do without things that we believe are essential because it is a trend.Peace
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Hello My loviesI have been away for a few days, unplugged from the technology and the rest of the fast paced world. This was by choice. I wanted to do ground myself in nature away from what had seen to me to become distractions of phone, television and noise. I wanted to challenge myself as well.I took a boat out to the islet. Boats and me are not friendly - AT ALL!As I got on the small pirouge, I asked Cleve, the captain for a life jacket. He said "oh no! I forgot them on shore, but the sea is nice today!" Here we go!I did ask for challenges.The boat journey was thirty five mnutes. During that time I was mostly silent having an inner dialougue with myself. The talk was around convincing myself that I was able to do the ride, be safe and be courageous.I was so happy to see the shore. Happy to be on land and happy to see that the positive self talk worked, happy to complete the task.I spent the few days walking on the wbeach, waking up early to see the sun rise and being in place to see it set. Going into the ocean - which I never do. and waking up without checking my phone and social media!I throughly enjoyed the few days with just nature.It's important to challenge ourselves, to do new things, to show ourselves that we are courageous and can do without things that we believe are essential because it is a trend.Peace
Have you read any of Akosua's work?
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July 15, 2020
A Delay is Not Always a Denial
I am willing to see this differently
- ACIM
I was thinking about rejection today after having a conversation about it with a friend of mine. According to good therapy, Rejection can be defined as the act of pushing someone or something away.
In that discussion, it also dawned on me that rejection is one of my triggers, particularly after getting a divorce and having to face the effects of that upheaval.
The conversation pushed me to think about how I want to move forward when or if someone or something pushes me away.
There are so many factors involved in others making a decision, many times, the decision has so very little to do with us, but we take it personally, and so my first lesson is:
1. Do not take it personally- some people are making decisions based on where they are and what they know.. Some people are out to win at all cost, and others have to make the best decision for themselves in the moment.
2. Use it as a guide that my readiness to be or deal with that situation requires more time. the saying a delay is not a denial can be applied in this care. Sometimes we just aren't ready to face or deal with a situation.
3. Feel all of the feelings - denying or hiding them will only prolong the fear or pain. Feel them then deal with them. Have compassion for yourself and know that there is nothing wrong with you.
4. Learn from it and don't let it define you - There are always lessons on the journey in every single encounter, learn from the experience.
Rejection can be a very good teacher once we are willing to see things differently
Peace
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I was thinking about rejection today after having a conversation about it with a friend of mine. According to good therapy, Rejection can be defined as the act of pushing someone or something away.
In that discussion, it also dawned on me that rejection is one of my triggers, particularly after getting a divorce and having to face the effects of that upheaval.
The conversation pushed me to think about how I want to move forward when or if someone or something pushes me away.
There are so many factors involved in others making a decision, many times, the decision has so very little to do with us, but we take it personally, and so my first lesson is:
1. Do not take it personally- some people are making decisions based on where they are and what they know.. Some people are out to win at all cost, and others have to make the best decision for themselves in the moment.
2. Use it as a guide that my readiness to be or deal with that situation requires more time. the saying a delay is not a denial can be applied in this care. Sometimes we just aren't ready to face or deal with a situation.
3. Feel all of the feelings - denying or hiding them will only prolong the fear or pain. Feel them then deal with them. Have compassion for yourself and know that there is nothing wrong with you.
4. Learn from it and don't let it define you - There are always lessons on the journey in every single encounter, learn from the experience.
Rejection can be a very good teacher once we are willing to see things differently
Peace
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July 13, 2020
Family Histories
disentangling yourself from what you've inherited requires mess. it requires chaos. it requires darkness. it also requires acceptance. it requires your intention. it requires your softest + strongest presence
. Olivia Jade
On Friday I drove to the South of the Island to visit my grandmoother, she lives just over an hour away from me, I must admit that over the past few months both with the Rona and restrictions I have not seen much of her.Growing up I thought she was a goddess, she dressed like one, smoked Benson and Hedges and took me to places where we ate sandwiches after speeches were made. In my eyes she could do no wrong.When I was grown I started to question some of her decisions - of course not knowing the full and entire story. I put in my two cents in and made some judgements about her rationale for making those decisions, when I did that I decided to pull away from her a bit, my expectations were shattered and I was mad as hell!When I started becoming more aware, I realised that I had expectations of perfection from her and she was only human. I let go the expectations of perfections and decided to accept. I would now look forward to spending the time with her on the kitchen table while she made me my favourite dish. It bacame a ritual of sorts.Now that she is near 89 years old, still vibrant, I see her less mainly due to me not liking to drive over an hour when I have free time. We rarely have those kitchen table rituals.When I saw her on Friday I told myself I must make a better effort to see her more often.As we were chatting on Friday she presented me with two books and causually said- the second book has my writings!Your writings?Yes, I have been writing for decades.I opened the book and in the neatest of had written pages were sayings and poems about life, living and her experiences that she had been writing for years. I shut the book immediately becoming overwhelmed by emotion. Thank you was all I managed to say in the moment.When I got back home I opened the book and started reading, tears came to my eyesI have written 3 books and to me, there were no other writers in the family - well look at how I had incorrect information!There has been a writer and a speaker in the family all along.Give thanks for this knowledge and for the ability to receive this gift.Funny how many things we take for granted and not know right in our own families and communities.
Peace
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On Friday I drove to the South of the Island to visit my grandmoother, she lives just over an hour away from me, I must admit that over the past few months both with the Rona and restrictions I have not seen much of her.Growing up I thought she was a goddess, she dressed like one, smoked Benson and Hedges and took me to places where we ate sandwiches after speeches were made. In my eyes she could do no wrong.When I was grown I started to question some of her decisions - of course not knowing the full and entire story. I put in my two cents in and made some judgements about her rationale for making those decisions, when I did that I decided to pull away from her a bit, my expectations were shattered and I was mad as hell!When I started becoming more aware, I realised that I had expectations of perfection from her and she was only human. I let go the expectations of perfections and decided to accept. I would now look forward to spending the time with her on the kitchen table while she made me my favourite dish. It bacame a ritual of sorts.Now that she is near 89 years old, still vibrant, I see her less mainly due to me not liking to drive over an hour when I have free time. We rarely have those kitchen table rituals.When I saw her on Friday I told myself I must make a better effort to see her more often.As we were chatting on Friday she presented me with two books and causually said- the second book has my writings!Your writings?Yes, I have been writing for decades.I opened the book and in the neatest of had written pages were sayings and poems about life, living and her experiences that she had been writing for years. I shut the book immediately becoming overwhelmed by emotion. Thank you was all I managed to say in the moment.When I got back home I opened the book and started reading, tears came to my eyesI have written 3 books and to me, there were no other writers in the family - well look at how I had incorrect information!There has been a writer and a speaker in the family all along.Give thanks for this knowledge and for the ability to receive this gift.Funny how many things we take for granted and not know right in our own families and communities.
Peace
Have you read any of Akosua's work?
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July 11, 2020
What I Learned from living in the Not Know
This time has forced us to not know. Maxie McCoy
This is such a peculiar time in history, this new time is one where uncertainty has certainly been a feature in most of our lives.
Because of the Corona, the predictability of life as we once knew it has gone.Many people cannot plan for the future, even for simple things. I was taught that if you fail to plan, you plan to fail. I respected that view and made a comprehensive plan for my life which was going well until it blew up like a bomb and forced me to restart.So in this time where planning is no longer a fool proof method that leads to a successful execution and outcome, many people, including me, are out of sorts.
What I did learn from the uncertaintly is that half of the so called planning was based on control and fear. Wanting to make sure everything goes right, no mess ups!I also leared that there can be creativity and innovation in the meantime, in the unknown.We find new methods to live and work, some of it worth keeping.I have learned that surrender does not mean giving up, it means doing all that you can and then getting out of your own way to trust yourself and trust the process.I have learnt that not knowing does not translate into "I am a failure" or "I have failed"Solutions can come from the not knowDiscipline can come from the not knowSelf Trust can come from the not knowNot knowing is now part of the process.We can move forward without knowing everything- how boring would that be if we left no room for mystery?
Peace
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This is such a peculiar time in history, this new time is one where uncertainty has certainly been a feature in most of our lives.
Because of the Corona, the predictability of life as we once knew it has gone.Many people cannot plan for the future, even for simple things. I was taught that if you fail to plan, you plan to fail. I respected that view and made a comprehensive plan for my life which was going well until it blew up like a bomb and forced me to restart.So in this time where planning is no longer a fool proof method that leads to a successful execution and outcome, many people, including me, are out of sorts.
What I did learn from the uncertaintly is that half of the so called planning was based on control and fear. Wanting to make sure everything goes right, no mess ups!I also leared that there can be creativity and innovation in the meantime, in the unknown.We find new methods to live and work, some of it worth keeping.I have learned that surrender does not mean giving up, it means doing all that you can and then getting out of your own way to trust yourself and trust the process.I have learnt that not knowing does not translate into "I am a failure" or "I have failed"Solutions can come from the not knowDiscipline can come from the not knowSelf Trust can come from the not knowNot knowing is now part of the process.We can move forward without knowing everything- how boring would that be if we left no room for mystery?
Peace
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July 9, 2020
A Full Time Student of Life
Synchronicities are always present when you learn to observe and pay attention.
Dieon
Every Monday we would sit together to brainstorm on how to manifest the vision for the community.
Many times there were fireworks(passionate discussions) & always there were lessons!
On this particular Monday, as soon as I walked in, “Madam, I have something for you to execute”
Really? Do tell?
So, I was thinking that we set up a toll free line for the farmers, when they are in the villages it is often difficult for them to come in to see us & we only visit them periodically, but they all have mobile phones so set it up, execute it!”
Amm hello jus so?
Madam, You cannot learn about yourself if you are always staying within the confines & borders of the familiar.
You must step into unknown worlds which may feel unsettling, many times these are the places where you get your best lessons. Transport yourself to a place of possibilities, of living now in the vision, you will never get there by clinging to the approval of others, living the safe way, doing the normal & safe ,doing the same same same . Come on Madam.
I said, hmmm that’s good, I love what you just said - take myself to a place of possibilities! Loving that, what does that have to with executing the toll free line?
Madam, you supposed to be smart you figure it out while you set it up.Peace
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7h
Every Monday we would sit together to brainstorm on how to manifest the vision for the community.
Many times there were fireworks(passionate discussions) & always there were lessons!
On this particular Monday, as soon as I walked in, “Madam, I have something for you to execute”
Really? Do tell?
So, I was thinking that we set up a toll free line for the farmers, when they are in the villages it is often difficult for them to come in to see us & we only visit them periodically, but they all have mobile phones so set it up, execute it!”
Amm hello jus so?
Madam, You cannot learn about yourself if you are always staying within the confines & borders of the familiar.
You must step into unknown worlds which may feel unsettling, many times these are the places where you get your best lessons. Transport yourself to a place of possibilities, of living now in the vision, you will never get there by clinging to the approval of others, living the safe way, doing the normal & safe ,doing the same same same . Come on Madam.
I said, hmmm that’s good, I love what you just said - take myself to a place of possibilities! Loving that, what does that have to with executing the toll free line?
Madam, you supposed to be smart you figure it out while you set it up.Peace
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7h
July 8, 2020
I am willing to see this differently
I am willing to see this differently
- ACIM
This is one affirmation that has guided me so many situations and experiences.I am willing to see this situation differentlyDifferently to the pastDifferently to the what I am seeing nowDifferently to what I am used to doingDifferently to allow for peaceDifferently to allow for joyDifferently to make way for new
I am willing to see things differently to learn, to learn something new, something useful I am willing to see this differently to love myself, to love periodI am willing to see things differently for progress
When a situation occurs and I go into reactionary mode, I remember this affirmationWhen something triggers me, I tap into this affirmationWhen I want peace in a situation - I tap into this affirmation
I am willing to see this differently because it advances progress.
Peace
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This is one affirmation that has guided me so many situations and experiences.I am willing to see this situation differentlyDifferently to the pastDifferently to the what I am seeing nowDifferently to what I am used to doingDifferently to allow for peaceDifferently to allow for joyDifferently to make way for new
I am willing to see things differently to learn, to learn something new, something useful I am willing to see this differently to love myself, to love periodI am willing to see things differently for progress
When a situation occurs and I go into reactionary mode, I remember this affirmationWhen something triggers me, I tap into this affirmationWhen I want peace in a situation - I tap into this affirmation
I am willing to see this differently because it advances progress.
Peace
Have you read any of Akosua's work?
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July 6, 2020
Use Your Inner Voice
Sometimes we second guess ourselves and stay in expired circumstances. Going forward, reclaim your time by trusting the voice within.
Dr Thema
How many of us use the guidance within? And if you don't know or believe that we all have inner guidance, I am here to tell you, think again. We do! Whether we use it or not.
We all have that small voice within us, to ask us questions and to guide us.The challenge is when the voice leads us into the unknown and the illogical based on where we are.I am here to tell you again - most times the voice does that.It shows up time and time again when we are off path, off purpose
What I have learned is, the voice is drowned out with the noise of busyness, with the noise of external voices, with the noise of habit.To tap into the voice within brings courage and clarity and authenticity and faith.We have to be courageous to go into the unknown, to have faith to trust in the unknown, to be our true selves.The voice will always be there when you are ready.It remains still, it remains available and it never leads us astray.When we ignore it, second guess it, we tend to make choices and decisions which are not for our best selves. The lesson remains on loop until we learn.Trust yourselves takes on a whole new meaning.Peace
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How many of us use the guidance within? And if you don't know or believe that we all have inner guidance, I am here to tell you, think again. We do! Whether we use it or not.
We all have that small voice within us, to ask us questions and to guide us.The challenge is when the voice leads us into the unknown and the illogical based on where we are.I am here to tell you again - most times the voice does that.It shows up time and time again when we are off path, off purpose
What I have learned is, the voice is drowned out with the noise of busyness, with the noise of external voices, with the noise of habit.To tap into the voice within brings courage and clarity and authenticity and faith.We have to be courageous to go into the unknown, to have faith to trust in the unknown, to be our true selves.The voice will always be there when you are ready.It remains still, it remains available and it never leads us astray.When we ignore it, second guess it, we tend to make choices and decisions which are not for our best selves. The lesson remains on loop until we learn.Trust yourselves takes on a whole new meaning.Peace
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July 3, 2020
Happiness is a Choice
Happiness is a Choice
I have a sign up on the wall where I live, as soon as I enter the stairs,the sign says " Do something everyday that makes you happy" I deliberately put the sign there as a reminder to self that life is more than work, fixing probems and routine. There must be a balance.
Putting yourself first must be a priority, we are talking taking care of your needs in a way that makes you useful to both yourself and to others.Have you ever asked yourself what makes you happy?What brings you joy?And actually do them?without feeling guilty? without questioning why?
Do it and see what happens to you, your mood and those around you when you show up in joy. Joy is an inside job. It surpasses happiness which can be dependent on circumstances.Joy says even in the moment I know, I just know this will pass and I can return to a space of something good.When you treat yourself you say to the Universe that yes, I am worthy, I am valuable, I am preparing myself for that you - Universe- wants me to partner with you in doing.So go ahead, do something today that makes you happy.You will reap the results from that decision- and so will everyone else around you.Peace
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I have a sign up on the wall where I live, as soon as I enter the stairs,the sign says " Do something everyday that makes you happy" I deliberately put the sign there as a reminder to self that life is more than work, fixing probems and routine. There must be a balance.
Putting yourself first must be a priority, we are talking taking care of your needs in a way that makes you useful to both yourself and to others.Have you ever asked yourself what makes you happy?What brings you joy?And actually do them?without feeling guilty? without questioning why?
Do it and see what happens to you, your mood and those around you when you show up in joy. Joy is an inside job. It surpasses happiness which can be dependent on circumstances.Joy says even in the moment I know, I just know this will pass and I can return to a space of something good.When you treat yourself you say to the Universe that yes, I am worthy, I am valuable, I am preparing myself for that you - Universe- wants me to partner with you in doing.So go ahead, do something today that makes you happy.You will reap the results from that decision- and so will everyone else around you.Peace
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