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Laughter is Love

 One thing that connects us all is humour. Never lose your sense of it.

Laughing makes me feel good.

Making others laugh makes me feel good.

Laughter is the best medicine seems so cliché, yet so true! Have you ever laughed so much and so hard that you feel as if you did an abdominal workout?, or the tears flow so freely your nose runs and clears your sinuses? That is how effective laughter is! It shifts the mood immediately and adds some lessons in there as well. Most of the time the lessons involve letting go.

I know what makes me laugh, I go to it when I feel the need to. Certain TV Shows, standup comics and comedy sketches online.

Hearing my friends give their stories, listening to my grandmother and her adventures are all belly hurting laughs which lifts my mood so much!

I am so grateful for the gift of laughter.

What are some of the things that bring you this type of joy?

Peace

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The Ego Only Lives for Itself

 It is impossible for the ego to feel the suffering of the soul. It only lives for itself. It's major source of satisfaction is being right - Lise Bourbeau

Yesterday,  while having a conversation with a group of ladies, I caught myself going down the road of proving to be right. I wanted to be so right so badly, I started interrupting them while they spoke, I started trembling because I felt as if I was losing control. I was ready to literally weep to stop the conversation to get them to "see what I meant". 

When I realized that the tone of the conversation was changing  to become a full on argument, I took ten seconds to breathe,  it became clear that I was in living in my ego, from my ego.

Why? I wanted to prove to them that they were wrong and I was right, I wanted my own way. I wanted to feel validated and was willing to do whatever it takes. Underneath that was a feeling of fear and resentment.

When I act from this space I know that there are some lessons that I have to recall, some lessons I forget:

1. There is nothing to prove - say what you have to say and leave it there.

2. Let people be - it is not your role to police others, your role is to live your life as a demonstration of what you believe. Those who are in your tribe will be around, stay around and feel comfortable enough to converse with you. Those who are not of your tribe will feel threatened, disrespected and offended. You then choose.

3. Listen to others - there is always something that you can learn.

4. Don't take things personally and be honest.

As I took the time to breathe, I changed my approach to speaking my truth rather than wanting to be prove or be agreed with. This approach takes practice and tucking your ego aside, but trust me, it's great for inner peace!

Peace

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Morning Rituals

 What are the three things your inner self absolutely has to have in order to feel good every day? Carolyn Myss

I love waking up on mornings before the sun rise  going outside for a short run as the sun comes up. I love sitting on the porch eating watermelon and other seasonal fruits as I write in my journal or - confessions on the Journey - scroll on IG and Twitter. 

I love to listen to music while I get ready to leave the house to start my day, pop on my playlist and sing loudly as I pretend to be some version of Chaka Khan!

When I follow this ritual, I feel ready for the world. 

When I don't I miss it. 

I get a shaky feeling, I feel as if something is missing, I have to adjust accordingly.

Making time to do the things that make me feel grounded reflects to myself and the Universe that I'm putting myself first.

What are your rituals?

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2020 Wrap Up

You have to give everything back, nothing is yours, you just borrow things from here and destiny will take them back whenever it wants to, without notice - Chhota Saifians 

 Use one word to describe what this year has taught you?

My word: Surrender

Your turn....

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Both Sides of the Coin

 When I allow myself to be Served, I can be of Service to others. - Seven Stones Leadership

The Law of duality is one lesson that I am truly happy that I discovered.  It allowed me to accept, as the old adage says, that there are two sides to every coin but ultimately there is one coin. 

There is day and night - separated only by time

There is life and death - separated only by breath

According to ancient wisdom, What becomes problematic with the Law of Duality is when we start thinking that one aspect of the spectrum is better than the other aspect of spectrum. We get into labeling things as right or wrong.  Unlike mankind’s laws and morals, there is no right or wrong.  For example, in America they drive on the right side of the road.  In England they drive on the left side of the road.  Who is right and who is wrong?  Similarly there are no good or bad experiences.  Experiences are just experiences nothing more, nothing less.  What one learns from the experience is all that counts.  We have all had experiences that initially proved unpleasant but they became the greatest thing that happened to us.

All of this allowed me to see things from different perspectives, to remember that there are two sides to each coin and to keep an open mind. The Law of Duality reminds me to work for, rather than against. 

Duality moves towards balance. The aim is to be in balance, rather than to be in extremes. It in an ongoing journey.

This is what the Law of Duality is all about. It is about remaining at your centre even when the hurricane of life is swirling around you.

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From Confusion to Clarity

 Where confusion festers fear steps in Deepak Chopra

For the last few weeks of 2020, my journey is focused on moving from confusion to clarity.

2020 has been confusion and confusing for me, there were no clear guidelines, no clear boundaries, no clear way forward. And I am not saying that this was a bad thing at all. 

The period shone light on the fact that there will be times that I have to be clear in my own approach and in my own life to deal with the uncertainty and confusion that is out there in the world.

How do I get clear?

Know who you are - the bright side and the shadow side, accept yourself for all that you are.

Know that you have what it takes to navigate uncertain times and even if you cannot see it or touch it, just know that you have it either in trust or in somewhere inside of you waiting to unearth it.

It is for this reason that I am sharing with you from now until January 7th

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Peace 

Notice. Accept. Allow

 Notice. Accept. Allow - Olivia Jade

Confessions on the Journey - over the past few days I have been feeling overwhelmed. I have been feeling As if life has been running ahead of me and I am playing catch up in the back like:

Everything has slowed down, the running on a Sunday's, my writing . As far as people, I could do without having to deal with many of them, at the slightest invitation I am ready to mouth off and cut them off.

Is this because a long break is due or maybe overdue?

2020 has been a different type of year, filled with even more uncertainties and shifting, it has called me into a space of surrender - I must admit I liked the space. I enjoyed the surrender of control, of wanting things to be a certain way, of responsibility- many times for the things that are filled with no substance!

What I did not like is that once I got comfortable with surrender, I was called to "go back out into the world" I was angry and upset that I had to find another way of being - or did I?

I believed that I did.

So being called into an entirely new space, I resisted.

The result of this resistance are my feelings of overwhelm. I don't want to DO anything so I am NOT DOING IT!

What has been happening? Things have been slipping.

What I have learnt from these feelings of overwhelm?

1. Rest - Rest Yourself. Resting yourself involves more than sleeping. It involves quiet time, it involves self care, it involves unplugging and sitting with your feelings

2. Do not ignore the signs - what is your life reflecting back to you? Life loves you enough to reflect to you what you must pay attention to

3. Feel all of your feelings - Feelings buried alive don't die

I have moves swiftly to book a get away for some quiet time!

Thank you for your patience in the meantime

Peace

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Awareness takes practice

 What you are not aware of, you cannot change - Deepak Chopra

Are your responses habitual or mindful?

Are your interactions balanced or out of balance?

Are you feeling connected or disconnected?

These are all questions which you must ask yourself in cultivating self awareness

In answering the questions, your level of honesty and authenticity must be super high minus any self judgement.

How do you respond when triggered? Do you even know when you are being triggered?

Is your response a mindful response or a habitual one?

I know now, that my habitual response is to withdraw, to put up a wall, and to become silent. 

Now t

hat I am aware of my habitual responses, having asked myself the questions, I can make a mindful response  the next time I am triggered. I can also identify my patterns and habits.

Why is being aware important? Because it saves us guilt, making up stories that are untrue and terrorizing, self judgement!

It also allows us to know myself better as I navigate challenging relationships.

Awareness takes time, courage, practice and honesty. We are all the better for it

Peace

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Available from March 2021

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Dear December

 

Among all the opinions of you, the opinion you have of yourself must be the one on the top. Ehimeora

Dear December

Let me remember: Expectations, control + perfection are not real problems - stay focused Your ability to cope is a gift not a test. Courage, commitment, clarity is within. To let go of any struggle to be worthy, as you already are.Peace

Now What?

 If you serious about growth, be serious about accountability - Inner Practioner

Now What? 

Now that I have learnt some valuable lessons - some the hard way.

Now that we are living in a pandemic.

Now that I know who I am.

Now that I have the tools and more importantly the courage to love myself.

Now that I am accepting the truth rather than making up stories about how and what it should be

Now that I know better

Now that I am listening to my intuition more

Now that I have the tools to love myself

Now that I am loving myself

Now what?

Now What is the name of the 4th book that has been birthed through me.

I am excited to share the stories

Trust me, the lessons continue, the fears, doubts, mistakes, missteps but now, I can spot them earlier or deal with them with less resistance, I can pull out the tools and apply the lessons

Its actually quite a Journey - never boring!

I invite you to join me on the Journey and Ask Yourself 

Now what?

Drops in March 2021

Pre Orders begin on December 1st 2020

1st hundred books will be signed by moi!

Peace