Akosua Dardaine Edwards's Blog, page 156
December 21, 2016
Stand in your Power
Just put it on the table and let people deal with it
- Michelle Obama
How many times have we dimmed our light?
How many times have we been afraid to admit- even to our own damm selves that we did a good job, that we are smart and worked hard?
How many times have we dumb it down to make people feel comfortable around us?
Hell, I have been doing that and sometimes unconsciously but you know what? Knowledge is power and once we know we cannot go back to acting as if we don't know
So here is the thing - It ends NOW
As Ms Obama says- put it out there, let people deal with the you that is beautiful, powerful, smart, bright, amazing, and awesome. And if they cannot deal with it, then breathe and walk out with your head held high
There is nothing more demeaning than dismissing your own power
Don't do it
Do you
Peace
How many times have we dimmed our light?
How many times have we been afraid to admit- even to our own damm selves that we did a good job, that we are smart and worked hard?
How many times have we dumb it down to make people feel comfortable around us?
Hell, I have been doing that and sometimes unconsciously but you know what? Knowledge is power and once we know we cannot go back to acting as if we don't know
So here is the thing - It ends NOW
As Ms Obama says- put it out there, let people deal with the you that is beautiful, powerful, smart, bright, amazing, and awesome. And if they cannot deal with it, then breathe and walk out with your head held high
There is nothing more demeaning than dismissing your own power
Don't do it
Do you
Peace
December 20, 2016
What Are Your Non Negotiables?
For we are a reflection of our surroundings So allow me to surround I with Love, Self Love and Acceptance. For anything else is irrelevant. Anything else is a sentiment Floacist
It starts with you. How you treat you, then it extends to who is in your crew. Who is in the circle.
What you allow will continue. Some things are just non negotiable and that must be a conscious decision, if it is not then it must be one taken based on experiences.
What are some of your non negotiables? Do you even have any?
I have learnt that somethings are just off the table, those who want to bring them back on the table unfortunately cannot become part of my crew.
This decision I have also learnt is an absolute life saver
And so it is
Peace
It starts with you. How you treat you, then it extends to who is in your crew. Who is in the circle.
What you allow will continue. Some things are just non negotiable and that must be a conscious decision, if it is not then it must be one taken based on experiences.
What are some of your non negotiables? Do you even have any?
I have learnt that somethings are just off the table, those who want to bring them back on the table unfortunately cannot become part of my crew.
This decision I have also learnt is an absolute life saver
And so it is
Peace
December 19, 2016
It's Alright
Get this groove get you to move, it's alright, alright, alright
- Earth Wind and Fire
As the year comes to a close, I am reminded of how "alright" everything really is. No, seriously, it really is "alright". Everything, every occurrence, every heartbreak, every celebration, every encounter is not by chance. It is a combination of our beliefs and vibes we send out coupled with the Universe sending us a message.
What happens is that we get bogged down in fear, shame, how it will look, how much time we "invested" in the thing and what will happen next.
As a Course in Miracles taught me be willing to see it differently, Start there
And so as 2016 comes to a close, I am getting into the groove because its alright!
It's alright to give thanks despite how it looks to you now
It's alright to feel the feelings
It's alright to cry
It's alright to laugh at yourself at times
It's alright to take a break
It'alright to celebrate
It's alright to piss some people off if it is in keeping your boundaries and promotes self care.
It's alright if he or she says they want out and is moving on
It's alright because you are alive
You just move yourself and groove yourself and share the spice of life
Peace
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As the year comes to a close, I am reminded of how "alright" everything really is. No, seriously, it really is "alright". Everything, every occurrence, every heartbreak, every celebration, every encounter is not by chance. It is a combination of our beliefs and vibes we send out coupled with the Universe sending us a message.
What happens is that we get bogged down in fear, shame, how it will look, how much time we "invested" in the thing and what will happen next.
As a Course in Miracles taught me be willing to see it differently, Start there
And so as 2016 comes to a close, I am getting into the groove because its alright!
It's alright to give thanks despite how it looks to you now
It's alright to feel the feelings
It's alright to cry
It's alright to laugh at yourself at times
It's alright to take a break
It'alright to celebrate
It's alright to piss some people off if it is in keeping your boundaries and promotes self care.
It's alright if he or she says they want out and is moving on
It's alright because you are alive
You just move yourself and groove yourself and share the spice of life
Peace
Link.share.comment on my TedX Talk
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VH1K7...
Purchase a gift for your loved ones
https://www.amazon.com/Learn-Lessons-...
https://www.amazon.com/Nyabo-Madam-Li...
http://www.lulu.com/shop/akosua-darda...
December 17, 2016
Ask the Questions
You never told me you were waiting. Contemplating
- SOS Band
In the four agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz, he talks about not making assumptions but asking questions to be absolutely clear. Doing that requires courage and knowing that you may hear a response that may not be what to hear. There is the danger of running around in your head with a made up story without knowing the real deal when you don't have the courage or whatever it takes to ask and be clearIn my country they say when you make assumptions it can make an ass out of youSo what would it take to asking these hard questions apart from courage?
1. Self Belief - believing that whatever the outcome and answer you are ready and capable to handle it
2. Trust - Trust yourself, trust the process
3. Honesty - complete and sometimes brutal honesty is required
4. Believing that the other party will take responsibility for their feelings
Peace
In the four agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz, he talks about not making assumptions but asking questions to be absolutely clear. Doing that requires courage and knowing that you may hear a response that may not be what to hear. There is the danger of running around in your head with a made up story without knowing the real deal when you don't have the courage or whatever it takes to ask and be clearIn my country they say when you make assumptions it can make an ass out of youSo what would it take to asking these hard questions apart from courage?
1. Self Belief - believing that whatever the outcome and answer you are ready and capable to handle it
2. Trust - Trust yourself, trust the process
3. Honesty - complete and sometimes brutal honesty is required
4. Believing that the other party will take responsibility for their feelings
Peace
December 16, 2016
The truth remains true
what was never true is not true now, and never will be
ACIM
An untruth cannot be changed into truth, despite our best intentions and wishes. We tend to make up stories. We make them up for different reasons when we are faced with the truthIt isn't supposed to be like thisI can make it betterMaybe I can live with thisIt will changeI will ignore it and it will go away
Maybe, maybe not, but the truth is the truth no matter what reasons, rationale, justification or excuses we makeThe challenge is once we know we cannot go back to not knowing, with knowledge comes responsibility. Many times it is scary to move, especially when it involves change and the unknown. Who says action must happen right away, we can take our time before we move, meditate, ask questions, pray, then act. The most important thing is there is nothing to fear and it is all lessons
That's the truthPeace
An untruth cannot be changed into truth, despite our best intentions and wishes. We tend to make up stories. We make them up for different reasons when we are faced with the truthIt isn't supposed to be like thisI can make it betterMaybe I can live with thisIt will changeI will ignore it and it will go away
Maybe, maybe not, but the truth is the truth no matter what reasons, rationale, justification or excuses we makeThe challenge is once we know we cannot go back to not knowing, with knowledge comes responsibility. Many times it is scary to move, especially when it involves change and the unknown. Who says action must happen right away, we can take our time before we move, meditate, ask questions, pray, then act. The most important thing is there is nothing to fear and it is all lessons
That's the truthPeace
December 15, 2016
Celebration Time
Whatever win you had today, whether it's getting the laundry done, or writing that one blog post, or actually meditating, or remembering your friends birthday, or achieving a BIG goal...celebrate it. Acknowledge what you've done. Take inventory of what you do. I know there will always be more on the table. There will be a list longer than the Mississippi waiting for your attention. But with each thing you've accomplished, big and small, c e l e b r a t e.
.. yourself. Maxi McCoy
I'm celebrating today! Yes I am, a party with me myself and I! why? I am usually always on to the next thing, never stopping to say job well done, or take in the hurdles that I have crossed. It's about what's next, what to do, what do I still have to do, what is missing? I'm celebrating every little step I have made today, I just dropped my Journal and I'm off again figuring out how to "get" to the next milestone! No, not today, Today its a celebration, I am celebrating just being here, alive and kicking ass!
Give thanks
Come join me
Peace
I'm celebrating today! Yes I am, a party with me myself and I! why? I am usually always on to the next thing, never stopping to say job well done, or take in the hurdles that I have crossed. It's about what's next, what to do, what do I still have to do, what is missing? I'm celebrating every little step I have made today, I just dropped my Journal and I'm off again figuring out how to "get" to the next milestone! No, not today, Today its a celebration, I am celebrating just being here, alive and kicking ass!
Give thanks
Come join me
Peace
December 14, 2016
Distractions
Anything (person, place, gig, idea, arrangement, obligation, practice, policy...) that does not resonate with your deep heart... is distraction.
Activity that pulls you away from your true strengths… is distraction. Thoughts that do not sync with your deep trust… is distraction.Relationships that do not support your full potential… distraction.
All the opposites of your pleasure, your strength, your truth… distraction Danielle La Porte
It takes determination to fool proof the distractionsIt takes courage to fool proof the distractionsIt takes self belief to fool proof the distractionsIt takes discipline to fool proof the distractions
According to Danielle La Porte "Distraction is inevitable, it’s essential, even, because we learn through contrast. Distraction is a gear that we grind to move forward"
The challenge is being stuck in the holding pattern of being distracted! it also is when you have managed to come out of the pattern what do you do? I celebrate! I think its pretty darn awesome to get over the distractions and forge ahead! I celebrate like a soca star because trust me, this shit ain't easy
I pat myself on the back and then I wheel and come again!
PeaceCheck out my Ted Talk
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VH1K7...
December 13, 2016
When you surrender
Action just for the sake of action isn't always helpful. Maxie McCoy
I have been attempting to sort financing for a car for the past six months. I honestly believed that my actions before of paying off all my debts and not venturing into any more by using cash only, were in my best interests.
The exercise showed me how much knowledge is key, and my perception of what is best may be nest for a time or a purpose. And then when the rejections started coming in thick and fast I realised that I was sadly mistaken, my actions were in direct contravention to what these financial institutions wanted more than that, the more I resisted the more the process became frustrating. The more time I took dwelling on what I did not have the less I actually had.
I felt like I was in quick sand, and the more I looked for finance the more it eluded me in every part of my life. The jobs, the books, just basic having money too! I was panicking. Then I took out the lesson tool box, first thing to come out was - Surrender
So, I let go, I said, give thanks in advance for this and just let go, follow the feeling, do not fight it. Decide and claim it. You have done the work, planted the seeds now wait for the harvest.
As soon as I did that, the people who could have assisted me came like a flood, people were helping me, giving me contacts and here I am almost there I received a call today saying that I can get some of the financing, not all but it is better than zero
I also started getting more paid speaking gigs as well! Hey who knew surrender was such a magic potion!
So- onward, upward and forward
Peace
Check out "There is Power in your story" - My Teds Talk
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VH1K7...
My new journal also drops soon- sneak preview
http://www.lulu.com/shop/akosua-darda...
I have been attempting to sort financing for a car for the past six months. I honestly believed that my actions before of paying off all my debts and not venturing into any more by using cash only, were in my best interests.
The exercise showed me how much knowledge is key, and my perception of what is best may be nest for a time or a purpose. And then when the rejections started coming in thick and fast I realised that I was sadly mistaken, my actions were in direct contravention to what these financial institutions wanted more than that, the more I resisted the more the process became frustrating. The more time I took dwelling on what I did not have the less I actually had.
I felt like I was in quick sand, and the more I looked for finance the more it eluded me in every part of my life. The jobs, the books, just basic having money too! I was panicking. Then I took out the lesson tool box, first thing to come out was - Surrender
So, I let go, I said, give thanks in advance for this and just let go, follow the feeling, do not fight it. Decide and claim it. You have done the work, planted the seeds now wait for the harvest.
As soon as I did that, the people who could have assisted me came like a flood, people were helping me, giving me contacts and here I am almost there I received a call today saying that I can get some of the financing, not all but it is better than zero
I also started getting more paid speaking gigs as well! Hey who knew surrender was such a magic potion!
So- onward, upward and forward
Peace
Check out "There is Power in your story" - My Teds Talk
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VH1K7...
My new journal also drops soon- sneak preview
http://www.lulu.com/shop/akosua-darda...
December 12, 2016
Who did I serve today?
Ask yourself: Who did I serve today?
Iyanla
This week I am scheduled to spend with some young women from what we like to call here "hot spots" - areas that are considered high in crime and social issues
I am always happy to be given the opportunity to share lessons on the journey as I myself learn from the young people.
What I learnt is that they want to be loved, to feel as if they are being heard and that they matter. I think we all want to feel this way. And more than anything I approach the time I spent with them with this in mind. I also extend it to everyone that I meet.
As Maya Angelou says people may forget what you said, maybe what you did however they will always remember how you made them feel.
Peace
This week I am scheduled to spend with some young women from what we like to call here "hot spots" - areas that are considered high in crime and social issues
I am always happy to be given the opportunity to share lessons on the journey as I myself learn from the young people.
What I learnt is that they want to be loved, to feel as if they are being heard and that they matter. I think we all want to feel this way. And more than anything I approach the time I spent with them with this in mind. I also extend it to everyone that I meet.
As Maya Angelou says people may forget what you said, maybe what you did however they will always remember how you made them feel.
Peace
December 10, 2016
Ask yourself: what would you do if you were not afraid?
Courage precedes clarity
- Mastin Kipp
What would you do if you were not afraid? This question has pushed me into many of the many amazing and adventurous sometimes scary events of my life. What would you do if you were not afraid Akosua? I ask myself when I am stuck, when I am indecisive, when I am procrastinating. You see, the fear factor stops me many of time! What about you? Do you stop yourself when you analyse the what if's? and most times it is the worst case scenario what if's?
So to move past that whole conversation and feeling I ask myself the question and answer honestly as I truly believe that there is nothing to fear.
I know for the next couple of weeks this question will be on loop, on repeat as I move into completely new areas and challenges. I invite you ask yourself as well and let's share and swap stories
Peace
My Tedx talk - There is Power in your story
have a look, link it.share it. like it
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VH1K7...
What would you do if you were not afraid? This question has pushed me into many of the many amazing and adventurous sometimes scary events of my life. What would you do if you were not afraid Akosua? I ask myself when I am stuck, when I am indecisive, when I am procrastinating. You see, the fear factor stops me many of time! What about you? Do you stop yourself when you analyse the what if's? and most times it is the worst case scenario what if's?
So to move past that whole conversation and feeling I ask myself the question and answer honestly as I truly believe that there is nothing to fear.
I know for the next couple of weeks this question will be on loop, on repeat as I move into completely new areas and challenges. I invite you ask yourself as well and let's share and swap stories
Peace
My Tedx talk - There is Power in your story
have a look, link it.share it. like it
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VH1K7...
