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Take Responsibility

Not taking responsibility for your life means blaming, finding causes, excuses and reasons for what is going on in your life as if they had nothing to do with you. Not taking responsibility means crying or complaining about the good that is not happening, while making very few efforts to determine that IT WILL happen. Not taking responsibility means asking someone to do for you the things you must do for yourself and being angry when they don't do it. It cannot be said loud enough or enough times, your life is your responsibility! Think of it this way if you cannot be responsible for your life, how can you expect to be responsible for the good things you want to receive? Iyanla Vazant

Your life is your responsibility, that is one of my best lessons yet
We outsource our happiness and then when we are not happy we blame and project
You name it, food is supposed to make you happy, having a relationship will make you happy, the right type of job and car and house and handbag and shoes and you name it , if you look at it all - all external "things" which are fleeting!

You are responsible for your life- it's just that simple
You have the ability to respond to every single thing that is in your life.You may not like what is going on but you can sure choose your response. It's called free will baby!

So what's it going to be?
Peace

I am here in Service

Achievement doesn't come from what we do, but from who we are - Marianne Williamson


Yesterday I was filming a segment for a programme, I was being interviewed with the aim of using the clips of promoting a Conference to be held for the International Women's Day 2017.
The first question was tell us who you are. Who are you? I started calling my name and ended that I am love and I am here in service. There were all perplexed faces in the room.
"But what do you do?"
"I show up and serve with love wherever I am asked or required"
The confusion increased
They did not have the background of how I got there, of how much defining myself without things and titles are now not important to me because they are fleeting and focuses on me rather than how I can serve to make where I am better than how I met it.
So this mindset allows me to make decisions with less ego, when I am about to decide what to do, where to go, how to respond, I tap into who I am, because I know, I am sure. I don't have to prove anything to anyone knowing that I am being kind, loving and in service of something, something decent.

I always get a kick out of seeing the faces
Give thanks
Peace

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Line it up!

You must change your mind, not your behavior, and this is a matter of willingness. You do not need guidance except at the mind level. Correction belongs only at the level where change is possible. Change does not mean anything at the symptom level, where it cannot work ACIM
Mindset makes a hell of a  difference, it is the key that unlocks the doors through which you must go through to come out on the other side of the fear, lack and limitation. To achieve your dreams and vision, to live from a place of peace.
Yesterday, randomly (yes I know there are no random events, but I like the word a whole lot and haven't found a replacement yet) I ended up being at an A A (Alcoholic Anonymous)  meeting. I was at another workshop which ran late and the A A people were supposed to be in the same room that we were occupying. So we had to wrap up, but me being so fascinated at the fact that there was an A A  meeting in the most unlikely community I wanted to take in the moment.I also wanted to listenAnd this is what I learntChanging one's mind coupled with willingness is the start of all changeSome of the participants said "I just decided to stop, just like that, I made up my mind""Just like that?""yea, just like that"The effects of our actions can be changed easily.  How many times have we gone on a diet, start exercising, start saving money, start and do a class, get your degree. And how many times have you stopped it because it's either too hard, you have no time, too busy, too hungry, too thirsty yadda yadda yaddaWhat was the decision? Was there any? What is the intention behind these actions?Doing anything for other people contributes to the wishy washy choices to stop, it means nothing to you on a soul levelNot making a firm decision - which is also a decision   in actual fact is another contributor to the choices to stop- you did not put the Universe on alert to line things up for you
Line it up!Peace

Positive Vibes Alone

Where you are born is not up to you, but where you stay is totally up to you - Lisa Nicols
I'm done explaining the vibeI'm doneI'm done explaining to people who tell me that I am unrealistic and  just too positive and laid backI'm doneListen, I have chosen to be this way, it works for me, it feels good, it contributes to my health, to my sleep, to my joy, to my lifestyle. Similing feels better than frowning. Laughing feels better than complainingI don't know about you but worrying, stressing, wanting to control things that are out of my control, and sourness gets me back pain, sore throat, sniffles and belly pain. It gets me wrinkles and side eye twiches and things just take longer to happen.This  choice is how I show that patience, trust, faith and surrender are realThis choice is how I know that life happens for me not to meThinking positive does not mean failing to plan for things that can go wrong and take necessary action to mitigate it and accepting other people's BSIt also does not mean being blind to what is working in the present moment and fantasizing that everything is just finePositivity is an attitude you carryIt is a state of mind that is independent of external situationsPositivity implies that no matter what the situation you don’t lose trust in yourself and in life and God And know that you know that you know it's all gonna work out fine

 Peace

For the only significant work to be done is in our own minds.

It's high time to consider the infinite possibilities for any outcome. Please ditch that template someone else gave you—it only represents minute possibilities. Deborah L Johnson
I was telling a friend yesterday that my prayer is that I my prayer is for me to me non judgmental and to not ever act superior at all. It was totally bothering me, I could not understand why, no matter what, I felt no affinity to someone that I spend a lot of time with on a daily basis. I kept my self talk up to look at the positives, find the love, look for the lessons. 
 A Course in Miracles says "It is very easy to get ourselves all tied up in knots when we become concerned about our behavior, and what is right and what is wrong. The focus on behavior, or form, is one of the ego’s clever tricks for keeping us in conflict, pondering what seem to be reasonable questions. And so it is helpful to understand that the Course is never really concerned with modifying or directing our behavior, but only our thoughts 
And the only distinction the Course makes is whether a thought has its origins in the ego thought system, which would be something that reinforces the belief in separation, differences and guilt, or the Holy Spirit’s thought system, which would recognize the common purpose we all share of finding a way out of our confusion and pain, despite all of our differences on the level of form.So the question no longer becomes am I doing everything right or not, but am I looking with my right mind or my wrong mind at whatever I am thinking and doing? If I am feeling guilty and conflict-ridden and confused, I can recognize that’s my ego. But if I am clear that the only thing I really need to learn is to look on all choices, both my own and others, without judgment or fear or attack, then I am looking with my right mind. If I make that my focus, the question of what specific behaviors I should carry out will begin to recede in importance. Not that I won’t continue to get caught from time to time in focusing my attention on my behavior and its consequences rather than on my thoughts and their consequences. But I will begin to recognize the ego conflict that always underlies that focus on form, and I will begin to ask for help more frequently in looking at the situation differently.The lesson comes back to the thought process- what am I thinking, what you think is what you createPeace

Love makes you more attractive.

Love makes you more attractive. That means you attract, like a magnet. You don't attract just people: you attract various circumstances that reflect back t you the power of your devotion. Marianne Williamson

It is a conscious choice everyday to show up with love and in love. It a choice everyday to be kind, to be positive, to drop the self doubts and judgement. It is a daily choice, an like with all rituals and habits it gets strengthened and improved over time and effort.
How we show up in the room of life is really a choice
How do you want to show up today?
Ready?
Loving?
Non Judgmental?
Pissed off?
Complaining?
Kind?
Powerful?

Marianne Williamson also says " your power is a result of your decision to reveal it. You are powerful in whichever moment you choose to be"

Here we see again, choice and decision.
It realy is that simple
Choose

Peace

Shift from Fear to Love

Always searchin' for the real thing
Livin' like it's far away
Just leave all the madness in yesterday
You're holdin' the key When you believe it Michael McDonald

Searching and needing. Looking and pleading. Hoping and Running. Controlling and Doubting

All signs of fear and lack

Seek not outside of yourself or it will fail. 

Every thing I have learnt is mindset and today I declare a mindset shift from fear and lack to
love and belief

Watch how this shift manifests itself into something magical

How many times have you started something, you name it- a diet, a relationship, a project, a job all "hot and sweaty" and with the first obstacle or maybe temptation you find an excuse, a justification, a rationale, a reason for why it cannot be done, will not be done, ought not be done, shall not be done
All the "nots"

Deep down you know, it is fear in the form of lack of discipline or some other manifestation of it.

So my challenge for you today is - shift the mindset, change the self talk, probably the company you keep, whatever it takes to shift from fear to love
Self belief decides everything


Peace

Connection

The Universe is a big copy machine reproducing your thoughts in physical form that is your experience.       Neale Donald Walsh
At the beginning of every year I choose five words, these words represent how I want to feel for the year, I reckon that it is  from how I want to feel comes the things that I do and the actions that I takeMy words for 2017 are Love, Joy, Abundance, Service, Connection and Relevance
I leave it open as to how the things that show up in my life look but what I notice is  when making a decision I ask myself, will I feel any of those feelings? Anything else that I feel is welcomed and a bonus or sometimes a lesson Connection - it happened so beautifully - already 18 days into the yearI have been blessed with a group of women who have offered themselves to assist me in achieving  one of my dreams. I was in fear mainly about how it would unfold, if it would unfold and in a way that was authentic, and relevantThey came forward without me even asking, and put me on blast that I must walk my talkthat fear is not real, that my thoughts create my reality - even if it is subconscious plus..... they are all willing to assist me in making it happen
My point is- what are your intentions? do you have any? what are you creating through your thoughts? Because thoughts create reality.
What do you want to feel? And are you open to it happening in a way that you may not even have a bit of control over?
A Course in Miracles says there is no neutral thoughts, all of our thoughts create form in some way, which is why it is so important that we focus on what we think, this can happen through intentions, focused thought, meditation and paying attention
The body is the effect- the cause is the mindPeace

Decide

The strength to DO comes from your undivided decision  - ACIM

Thus is another impactful lesson to me, so impactful that it has changed my life and the way I live

Decision is power, to decide is to make up your mind without waver and then to DO

No in between, no compromise, it really is quite simple
Decision means you are willing
Decision means you are open to get there not really the how
Decision means committment, focus
Decision means you change the way you talk, the way you talk to yourself, the way you show up, the way you approach
Decide
Just decide
Peace

Show up True

“If you’re not being you, there is no you . . . there’s an imposter pretending to be you. That imposter is a painful existence, and it’s that painful existence that’s subsidized by all of this world’s frantic chase to purchase pleasure. This is what humanity is constantly slaving for. But when you let that inner master to be masterful, you’re a witness to the most outstanding performance ever" Gurusingh Yogi

Someone told me yesterday that I was being inauthentic in my approach. Well I must admit I was shocked,  truly shocked and horrified! 
Me? I have been called Miss authentic? You have got to be kidding me?
After I calmed down I thought about what she said for a bit
"You are being inauthentic in your approach" - I really was not showing up in the situation wholly, holy and true. She was right. I was afraid to say my truth. Why? I did not want to offend anyone and people pleasing peeped it's head out of the window and said, be nice, you are a nice person and hey now I know being a nice person involves being true. 
You are being inauthentic in your approach- not you are inauthentic. our approach to this particular situation is. What a huge difference
It was a reminder to remain grounded, that no matter what or who shows up, you show up as well, true. 
Lessons come from anyone and anywhere
Peace



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