Akosua Dardaine Edwards's Blog, page 154

What moves you?

La la, la la, la la, It takes more than diamonds to move me La la la la
It takes more than money to groove me It takes more than material things
It takes more than cars to get me where I need to go
Don't stop the flow - Jill Scott

I was listening to a talk by Tony Robbins and he said something that really resonated with me. He mentioned that when it's all about you and not serving some bigger purpose the road is harder. We live in a connected world and when you serve something and make the world a better place than you found it. If it only about take take take then you are leaving a hole in the Universe. What moves you? What does it take to groove you?Find that thing and see how the magic shows up.
Peace
Ted X Talk https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VH1K7...
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Do you know the process for sure?

I’ve got a question for you? How can you evaluate the process when you don’t really know what the process is or how it works? Many of us believe that we are not doing life right, or that things are going wrong in our lives, when we have absolutely no idea what the process is or how it really works. Yes, we all have some basic idea of what to do and what not to do. Many of us know what we want. Some of us believe that we know how we can get what we want
What few of us know with an absolute certainty is whether or not what we believe about the process is the truth about the process Iyanla
Each of us have our own journey, we have our own path. The problem starts when we want to compare our path to others, yes there may be similarities, we may meet up along the way and walk together that is not to say we have the same journey. The challenge comes in when we, with our unique gifts and talents, try to fit in to a box. The status quo perhaps? Maybe we want to make our parents proud, our spouse, the people in the neighborhood and we do things that are either make us feel miserable or believe it is our lot for whatever reason. Change is a part of the process, that I know for sureEverything else I cannot say for certainThe courage to live our lives and our truth rewards us with such peace it really does passes all understandingThe challenge is digging out the courage amidst all the noiseI had my life mapped out, I had it planned and sanitized down to a science.It ticked all the boxes that I believed at the time made me successful, a good girl and acceptableParents - HappyGrandparents- HappyFamily - ProudBosses - Happy Me - ConfusedThat equation was a recipe for disaster, totally unsustainableThe truth is - I had my own journey and path, embracing it, though challenging at first and sometimes still is, makes me feel at peaceCourage - find itPeace

Clarity is essential

We all need to challenge things we've previously accepted. It's not always about jumping in, leaning in, doing more, hustling harder. But instead, retreating, stepping back, taking a break can give us the most clarity. Maxie
Clarity is essential, it is the start of miraclesClarity can seem like confusion - because clarity can come through as an intuitive voice which is not always logical. Have you ever felt so sure about something that felt so sure and everyone else around you believes that you are crazy? Or you just hear a voice telling you to do something  that you swear is just so out of character or the ordinary
Clarity is the road map
What is it that you want?What is it that you really really want?What is it that you really really want?Write it downCommit to itTake the time to make it something that you know off the top of your head, that you can say with certainty, be flexible on the how, yet rooted in the why
Peace

Build your Tribe

Creation is an extension of thought.  Iyanla Vanzant

Your tribe is important. The people who you surround yourself with. The use of your  free will comes in here. We get to choose who is in the tribe. We get to decide who are the ones that stay on the bus, the ones we ride with.
This is not by default, because you grew up with them or the history of them being around you or the family for decades. That may be part of the reason however if they are not FOR you,, your growth, your truth then hey, what are they doing in the tribe?

The tribe may not be huge - sometimes quality over quantity - the key thing is you believe that you can show up as you, live your truth and know that if you are going down a slippery slope the tribe will pull you back and let you know with compassion, love and non judgement to change the road.

Your tribe may change over time - because you are ever evolving and that is Okay. Sometimes we feel guilty when people are evolving in a different way on a different path to us. Everyone has their own journey and life to live, we meet along the way, some you have to leave- with love

Build your tribe
Build it with love
Build it with authenticity
Build it with compassion
Build it real
I truly believe we are not meant to do this thing called life alone
And I will admit it has been tough for me to build a tribe. there are many reasons I can use to justify it, some are BS and some - it is just what it is
I grew up as on only child, I heard around my house that independence is what strong people posesses, to stay in my corner and as time went by I belived asking for help and opening up was a weakness
Nothing stops you in your track then when you are brought to your knees! I was at that point, I was on my knees, pretending that I was standing tall

As Alex Elle says " surround yourself with people who love you, who are authentic, and who balance you out"

Don't feel guilty if everyone cannot be in the tribe- such is life
Love those hard who are in!
Peace

There is no healing without responsibility

switching stances. Changing one's mind based on lack of self belief. No knowing better but doing it anyway...because you have to...because you feel vulnerable...because you were told to...no more blame. There is no healing without responsibility. There is no power without responsibility. There is no growth without responsibility. There is no graduation without responsibility.   The Floacist
We have been given free will, to make the choices that we believe are best for us in the moment. Free will allows us to change our minds, to choose. I think it is a super power, the ability to make another choice especially when there is better information. I had to remind myself of that yesterday. I can choose something else at anytime, sometimes it may just be as simple enough as choosing another thought. Then from the thought the effect comes out in my world. One of the best lessons to me is "all things are mind". I interpreted that to mean that it starts with my thought, then come the words and the actionSo if I change my mind from lack to abundance then from that change of mind comes the effect in my world, I see things differently, a butterfly on a flower may now be considered something wonderful, a sign, beautiful or you may never even see it as any of that- based only on your thoughts and  your choice of thought.You make the choice to do things out of love or fear or egoYou make the choice to take the information you have and do nothing with itYou make the choice to worryYou make the choice to loveYou make the choice to take a risk
and each choice has consequencesthis is where responsibility comes inYou make the choice, then the consequence comes- your responsibility!What will you choosePeace

All or Nothing

There are only two alternatives, everything and nothing there is no compromise, no in between.  ACIM


A Course in Miracles talk about  compromise . Following on from yesterday's non negotiable theme. I thought it was fitting that I read about "no compromise" so soon after.
Compromise by the human definition is "the expedient acceptance of standards that are lower than is desirable".

The Course mentions that love, peace, joy, there is no in between, no compromise. I love that, Love is all in, peace is all in and so is joy. It just is! No acceptance of standards which are lower than is desirable.
There is no half love or bargaining of it, then that is not love is it? Half peace, half joy. Its all or nothing. This is the state I want to move to, even in things such as discipline, health, exercise, eating habits. Its all in, everything, no compromise, part of the non negotiables


No pre-requisites, all in and now. There is no passive acceptance of a lower standard.

How many times have we been in the middle of a situation, on the fence, sending mixed signals to Universe. Telling everyone that you don't know, you are not sure, you are giving it some more thought! Many times it is stuck in the middle- sometimes it is simple - All or nothing

All or nothing with your self worth
All or nothing with your dreams
All or nothing with your vision

What's it going to be?
Peace

   

Some things are not brought to the table

Hold out, love. Be alone. Keep doing the work. Go without. Let the space you want to be filled stay open and clear. It requires more strength but as it turns out, holding out is seriously efficient. You won’t have to untangle as much, or backtrack, or extricate yourself from all the things that you could have compromised on. Danielle La Porte
I may have asked this question before - what are your non negotiable's? Do you even have any?
I first heard this term from motivational speaker Lisa Nichols, she talked about what her non negotiable list included. Areas where  some matters are  just not up for discussion or the ability for another option to be put on the table is zero. She mentioned about giving yourself notice about it and once you do the world is then put on alert.
Are there things you know you must become non negotiable about?Your dreams?Your vision?Your goals?Your best life?
According to Lisa Nichols “when things are not up for negotiation it means that there is no maybe!” So I’ve become non negotiable about a few things. No matter what, there’s no maybe, there’s no passive acceptance .What are you willing to become non negotiable about? It’s non negotiable I’m loving myself no matter what! Peace

Newness. Freshness. Continuation

Newness. Freshness. Continuation. Clarity. The shift of perspective that activates the wisdom download and triggers the hindsight upload. For wisdom is the weapon that assists many warriors to return home. And hindsight is the compass that guides so many lost souls home. Floacist
I sat down this morning to write what my vision for 2017 is, how do I want my life to look.I looked at the blank page and thought about how writing this down would give it life, I thought about if and how willing I was to do what it takes to live the life that I want in 2017. And it hit me, why not think and dream big? Why keep it small. Why not envision what you really really want to do. That comes with clarity. You must know what it is you really really want to do, that clarity takes courage. Most of us are afraid to think big just in case it never happens and we disappoint ourselves. Especially if we write it down and tell it to someone else, that makes us even more accountable.Sharing it says to someone that we are doing something, then the what if's start overtaking us!
I have learnt that clarity brings courage, from courage comes conviction from conviction faith and discipline followsI wrote down some pretty big stuff for my 2017 and I am ready. It may not turn out how I envision it, it may just be even betterI am open and willing to go on the journeyWhat will my 2017 Look LikeHow will I achieve itMy meditation for todayPeace
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Ted Talk https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VH1K7...

Be Kind

It’s never fun accepting that someone doesn’t like you, but a lot of times that discomfort comes from trying to figure out what you did wrong or how you can fix it. Authentic people don’t have that anxiety because they would never try to change themselves to influence someone else’s opinion. They accept that other people have a right to be authentic about their own feelings, even if those feelings are negative toward them. Dr Travis Bradberry

Over the past few weeks I have been struggling with a situation where someone shows me openly that they are not one of my biggest fans. I was confused, I wanted to know why didn't this person like me? Why was this person's behavior so antagonizing towards me when I am just being myself, I started shrinking, I found myself doing things that was out of character, and then I got a wake up call. Wait, wait just a hot minute, just be! Just be you, just be kind, you have nothing to prove to anyone! It took me a while!

People act from the consciousness of where they are at the moment, people do what they know until the choose to change and until they know better, it is not our responsibility to make anyone like us. It is our responsibility to be our best selves, to be kind, to be authentic, to be a demonstration of what is a person made in God's image and likeness. This was my lesson from the situation so I am thankful for it, I give thanks for the mirror but this I know for sure I have nothing to prove, gain or show but just to be who I really am
Show up... as me... every.single.time
Peace

Do It. Now....

Discipline comes from doing Iyanla

Talking alone will not bring it about
Wanting alone will not bring it about
Thinking alone will not bring it about
Do it
Do it now
Learn as you go
Learn as you grow
There is nothing left to discuss
Peace