Akosua Dardaine Edwards's Blog, page 135
September 8, 2017
The Principle of Surrender
In order to raise our vibrations and access the truth of our being we will need to “feel” our way through this process not “think” our way through it. Sabrina Reber
Surrender refers to a state of physical, mental, and emotional inaction which provides an energetic opening which facilitates Divine Presence and activity.
Surrender refers to the yielding or giving over of self, desires, intentions and outcomes which is not equivalent to disinterest. Rather, surrender is a state of detachment from the details and controlling the details related to how the outcome must or will unfold.
It is a state of neutrality which allows events to unfold without limitation, judgment or resistance.
Surrender is the active state of remembrance that there is a divine law and order to activities and events.
As a state of consciousness and being, surrender means being flexible, willing and open to the flow, influence, energy and power of Divine Presence.In the realm of common experience, surrender is thought of as giving up, as in defeat. In the spiritual realm, surrender is giving overto a powerful, higher presence which takes into account the interests and well being of all involved.
In a state of surrender without attachment to how or when things must occur, we become receptive and obedient to the inner voice which may offer opportunities and possi-bilities which were not considered.The greatest demonstration of surrender is in the choice not to indulge toxic emotions (e.g., anger, guilt, shame, etc.). To surrender a negative emotion requires acknow- ledgment that it exists and the choice not to allow it to control thought or behavior. (Inner Visions Institute)Peace
September 7, 2017
My Joy List
It is your moral duty to be happy
Neale Donald Walsh
Yesterday was one of those days, you know the type where you have to pull out all of the lessons out of the tool kit, where you want to cuss out someone then cry in the car but know that maybe that the cussing in public might not end up very well for anyone! Where you put on some music in the car after and sing like you're winning. Ever had one of those days?As I was preparing for bed, I looked back on the day and thought, heck, let's choose 2 things that bring me joy and make me smile and focus on that, and would you know, I came up with a list, by the end of it I was chuckling at some of the memories associated with them and at the randomness of it allLesson: look for the light, and.... know what brings you joySo here are some of the things that bring a smile to my face, a joy to my heart and a passion to my beingI call it my JoyList1. Watching Arsenal Football Club play - if it's live even better, if it is a North London Derby well pure orgasmic feels
2. Walking on a beach, barefoot and feeling the sand between my toes
3. World Cup Football - OMG!
4. Spending time liming with my cousins and aunts talking and laughing
5. Travelling, waking up in another country
6. Speaking in front of a crowd, sharing lessons on the Journey
7. Sitting at my grandma's kitchen table talking while he makes bake and pumpkin and bodi
8. Jouvert Morning on Mucurapo Road - seeing the sun come up, mud on my body and my friends around
9. Essence Festival Empowerment Stages - filing up on inspirational talks
10. Sitting in a book store, mostly Barnes and Noble, reading and drinking coffee
11. Seeing Mary J Blige and Jill Scott perform live
What are yours?Peace
Yesterday was one of those days, you know the type where you have to pull out all of the lessons out of the tool kit, where you want to cuss out someone then cry in the car but know that maybe that the cussing in public might not end up very well for anyone! Where you put on some music in the car after and sing like you're winning. Ever had one of those days?As I was preparing for bed, I looked back on the day and thought, heck, let's choose 2 things that bring me joy and make me smile and focus on that, and would you know, I came up with a list, by the end of it I was chuckling at some of the memories associated with them and at the randomness of it allLesson: look for the light, and.... know what brings you joySo here are some of the things that bring a smile to my face, a joy to my heart and a passion to my beingI call it my JoyList1. Watching Arsenal Football Club play - if it's live even better, if it is a North London Derby well pure orgasmic feels
2. Walking on a beach, barefoot and feeling the sand between my toes
3. World Cup Football - OMG!
4. Spending time liming with my cousins and aunts talking and laughing
5. Travelling, waking up in another country
6. Speaking in front of a crowd, sharing lessons on the Journey
7. Sitting at my grandma's kitchen table talking while he makes bake and pumpkin and bodi
8. Jouvert Morning on Mucurapo Road - seeing the sun come up, mud on my body and my friends around
9. Essence Festival Empowerment Stages - filing up on inspirational talks
10. Sitting in a book store, mostly Barnes and Noble, reading and drinking coffee
11. Seeing Mary J Blige and Jill Scott perform live
What are yours?Peace
September 6, 2017
Press On
if it's not the worst thing, then don't act like it is just because it wasn't your exact plan or timeline. Most times curveballs aren't the worst. They're simply a changeup you didn't see coming.
Maxie McCoy
I did not see it coming. The expectations were high, this project will help in defining me in my own mind, in my growth and evolution, of shifting out of my comfort zone. I had a picture of how exactly I wanted it to look.
Well truth be told, it is not looking as I want it to look - not at all
Lesson Number One - control - you just don't know what is going to happen tomorrow - expect the unexpected and handle it. Surrender in this case means do the work and leave the rest, trust and believe.
The thing morphed into something else - something that I did not envision- so I had a choice. Resist or Flex.
Lesson Number Two - Resistance is an absolute waste of time and energy, save the energy for the flex.Its much more fun
The stress levels were different Lesson Three - stress is a choice, do the work, believe and let it go.
I had to sit still for a minute and reflect, what came to mind was:
1. Beware of the power of an unrecognised belief and thought
2. Take full responsibility, that is the only way it can be changed
3. Do not run away from it, these are lessons for personal growth
4. What comes out will always be a reflection of what you feel and your love for yourself
Press on....
Peace
I did not see it coming. The expectations were high, this project will help in defining me in my own mind, in my growth and evolution, of shifting out of my comfort zone. I had a picture of how exactly I wanted it to look.
Well truth be told, it is not looking as I want it to look - not at all
Lesson Number One - control - you just don't know what is going to happen tomorrow - expect the unexpected and handle it. Surrender in this case means do the work and leave the rest, trust and believe.
The thing morphed into something else - something that I did not envision- so I had a choice. Resist or Flex.
Lesson Number Two - Resistance is an absolute waste of time and energy, save the energy for the flex.Its much more fun
The stress levels were different Lesson Three - stress is a choice, do the work, believe and let it go.
I had to sit still for a minute and reflect, what came to mind was:
1. Beware of the power of an unrecognised belief and thought
2. Take full responsibility, that is the only way it can be changed
3. Do not run away from it, these are lessons for personal growth
4. What comes out will always be a reflection of what you feel and your love for yourself
Press on....
Peace
September 5, 2017
It's all about perspective
Look around and notice possibility is everywhere
- Maya Angelou
I love me some Maya Angelou, she represents to me a demonstration that everything that happens in our lives we can use positively. Her life was a testament that excuses are non! whatever has happened to us we can use it in some way for the elevation of yourself and those around youI listen to her voice and it comes in my head when I want to give up "be a blessing to somebody, be a rainbow in someone else's cloud and see how you move forward" and I did that. as small as it is, a kind word, a smile. sometimes even silence, just listening. Can you imagine if we all did that? In our own small way, every little bit adds up. when we get caught up in our own lives complaining about small things, be a blessing to somebody, when the ego takes over, be a rainbow in a cloudwhen we get trials, turn them into triumps, look them in the eye and see the possibilites because its all about perspectivePeace
I love me some Maya Angelou, she represents to me a demonstration that everything that happens in our lives we can use positively. Her life was a testament that excuses are non! whatever has happened to us we can use it in some way for the elevation of yourself and those around youI listen to her voice and it comes in my head when I want to give up "be a blessing to somebody, be a rainbow in someone else's cloud and see how you move forward" and I did that. as small as it is, a kind word, a smile. sometimes even silence, just listening. Can you imagine if we all did that? In our own small way, every little bit adds up. when we get caught up in our own lives complaining about small things, be a blessing to somebody, when the ego takes over, be a rainbow in a cloudwhen we get trials, turn them into triumps, look them in the eye and see the possibilites because its all about perspectivePeace
September 4, 2017
Start the Trusting Process with Trusting You
“When you do not trust yourself, what you feel, and what you know, you will expect people to be who they are not. You will hope against hope that they will do things you already know they cannot do. You will expect them to be who you want them to be rather than trusting what you know about who they are and what they are capable of doing. This is not trust. This is magical thinking, and engaging in it will set you up for a big letdown. Trusting yourself is important when dealing with others because it protects you from repeated violations and devastating heartbreaks.”
Iyanla
The first place you have to put trust in is you
trusting how resilient you are
trusting that you are more resilient than you think you are
resilient - the ability to withstand and bounceback with lessons in tow
We tend to think "we cannot survive it"
We tend to think "we cannot afford it"
We tend to think "we can wait until the right moment" (newsflash there is no right moment!)
We tend to think " I'm afraid because I won't be able to survive or handle it" that says I'm not trusting myself
It says I don't have the capacity and resilience to keep on keeping on
It says that if something happens that I don't like it will not be turned into a blessing for me
Now I'm not saying to go stand in front of a mac truck and wait to get hit trusting that nothing will happen, that's plain ole stoopid!
I'm talking about the type of trust in knowing that you are divinely guided when you are on your path, when you are scared to make a choice about leaving a job, a relationship, a situation that no longer serves you, in pursuing your clear vision, in moving ahead
You have to trust
to listen to your gut
you can only hear your gut when you are clear and willing
Trust is a decision you make.
You either trust or you don't
you gotta build your trust muscles
start trusting you, start building
you got this!
Peace
The first place you have to put trust in is you
trusting how resilient you are
trusting that you are more resilient than you think you are
resilient - the ability to withstand and bounceback with lessons in tow
We tend to think "we cannot survive it"
We tend to think "we cannot afford it"
We tend to think "we can wait until the right moment" (newsflash there is no right moment!)
We tend to think " I'm afraid because I won't be able to survive or handle it" that says I'm not trusting myself
It says I don't have the capacity and resilience to keep on keeping on
It says that if something happens that I don't like it will not be turned into a blessing for me
Now I'm not saying to go stand in front of a mac truck and wait to get hit trusting that nothing will happen, that's plain ole stoopid!
I'm talking about the type of trust in knowing that you are divinely guided when you are on your path, when you are scared to make a choice about leaving a job, a relationship, a situation that no longer serves you, in pursuing your clear vision, in moving ahead
You have to trust
to listen to your gut
you can only hear your gut when you are clear and willing
Trust is a decision you make.
You either trust or you don't
you gotta build your trust muscles
start trusting you, start building
you got this!
Peace
September 2, 2017
Sit in it for a Hot Minute
Massive action = massive results
Tony Robbins
As we sat in the restaurant with the young ladies celebrating nothing but being alive and the ability to break bread together my mind wandered on how I got here, I thought about whether I would be able to do this for some young ladies in the future- this meaning have the financial ability to take 12 young ladies to one of the best restaurants in the city and celebrate them. The ability to make my Foundation sustainable, the ability to contribute both financially and emotionally to the lives that I want to touch. Confessions on the Journey - I was a little depressed for about an hour. Really! Truly! Why? The fear of risk and losing outweighed the expectations I set for myself based on the pastWell, Well, Well - Awareness is a first stepThe wonderful thing is that the past is gone! poof! this is now and I get to chooseSo what will it be?Massive action to achieve some Massive goals- this is the beginning, as now is all we really have for sureI was all up in those feels, and it was important to be for a hot minute because our feelings are guides, they lead us to a point where we can make choices and decisionsWhen we ignore, stifle, lie to ourselves and run from our feelings we cannot healWe do this by busyness, shopping, focusing on other people, sex, drugs, avoidancethe small discomfort to sit in the feelings for a hot minute outweighs the joy on the other sidehot minute = please do not live there, get in and get outPeace
As we sat in the restaurant with the young ladies celebrating nothing but being alive and the ability to break bread together my mind wandered on how I got here, I thought about whether I would be able to do this for some young ladies in the future- this meaning have the financial ability to take 12 young ladies to one of the best restaurants in the city and celebrate them. The ability to make my Foundation sustainable, the ability to contribute both financially and emotionally to the lives that I want to touch. Confessions on the Journey - I was a little depressed for about an hour. Really! Truly! Why? The fear of risk and losing outweighed the expectations I set for myself based on the pastWell, Well, Well - Awareness is a first stepThe wonderful thing is that the past is gone! poof! this is now and I get to chooseSo what will it be?Massive action to achieve some Massive goals- this is the beginning, as now is all we really have for sureI was all up in those feels, and it was important to be for a hot minute because our feelings are guides, they lead us to a point where we can make choices and decisionsWhen we ignore, stifle, lie to ourselves and run from our feelings we cannot healWe do this by busyness, shopping, focusing on other people, sex, drugs, avoidancethe small discomfort to sit in the feelings for a hot minute outweighs the joy on the other sidehot minute = please do not live there, get in and get outPeace
September 1, 2017
Caution Tape
treat the situation like a plane crash: Leave everything behind and get out. This tactic may also be necessary in relationships with people who are too wounded, addicted, or emotionally inaccessible to reciprocate your feelings. You can save yourself enormous pain by acknowledging the plain hard truth that some people can’t really love you.
Martha Beck
There are some people I am putting the caution tape around.....right now!
It's really okay to love some people from afar, our responsibility is to show up with no judgement adn compassion and in love. It is very easy to get caught up in the ego and wanting them to do better but what is the intention behind it, helping can easily turn into co-dependency and enabling and ego stroking
What is your intention behind what you are doing?
If it is guilt- get the caution tape out- for both parties - you and them
If it is "they should know better" - caution tape time
If it is shame - start unrolling the tape
If it's ego stroking - buy extra tape - for you
It's hard, yea I know, but who said it would be? Take the temporary discomfort because on the other side of it there lies openings for growth, peace, and love
Peace
There are some people I am putting the caution tape around.....right now!
It's really okay to love some people from afar, our responsibility is to show up with no judgement adn compassion and in love. It is very easy to get caught up in the ego and wanting them to do better but what is the intention behind it, helping can easily turn into co-dependency and enabling and ego stroking
What is your intention behind what you are doing?
If it is guilt- get the caution tape out- for both parties - you and them
If it is "they should know better" - caution tape time
If it is shame - start unrolling the tape
If it's ego stroking - buy extra tape - for you
It's hard, yea I know, but who said it would be? Take the temporary discomfort because on the other side of it there lies openings for growth, peace, and love
Peace
August 31, 2017
Do You Ever Question It?
Trade your limiting beliefs for curiosity...Turn major projects into micro steps...Turn unclear behaviours into clear action items...Turn vague visions into clear outcomes...Turn dabbling into a dedication to mastery Mastin Kipp
I ask questions, I ask them for two reasons, to avoid assumptions and to ensure that both parties communicating are clear. What I have learnt in the process is that in asking these questions I also learn. I learn more particularly when I drop all judgements and do not assume that I have the right or perfect answer.What I have also learnt is that there are people who are offended by the questions or those who get defensive - those are the ones who are either triggered, not ready to handle or deal with a particular issue, hiding something, or feel the need to be right. I have learned to recognise it and deal accordinglybecause until we are ready to acknowledge, accept, be open and willing we will remain stuckI see it also when people ask me questions and I want to avoid the answer because I simply refuse to face a matter or that the question triggered something that I am ashamed about- all leading back to healing - something requires healing
Questions also promote my curiosity - I am curious about life, this curiosity gives me an easier way to venture into new things, to opening of my mind and to less anxiety and worryThere are some beliefs that we hold that we simply need to get rid of as it no linger serves healing, growth, development or love!
Asking questions show you carePeace
I ask questions, I ask them for two reasons, to avoid assumptions and to ensure that both parties communicating are clear. What I have learnt in the process is that in asking these questions I also learn. I learn more particularly when I drop all judgements and do not assume that I have the right or perfect answer.What I have also learnt is that there are people who are offended by the questions or those who get defensive - those are the ones who are either triggered, not ready to handle or deal with a particular issue, hiding something, or feel the need to be right. I have learned to recognise it and deal accordinglybecause until we are ready to acknowledge, accept, be open and willing we will remain stuckI see it also when people ask me questions and I want to avoid the answer because I simply refuse to face a matter or that the question triggered something that I am ashamed about- all leading back to healing - something requires healing
Questions also promote my curiosity - I am curious about life, this curiosity gives me an easier way to venture into new things, to opening of my mind and to less anxiety and worryThere are some beliefs that we hold that we simply need to get rid of as it no linger serves healing, growth, development or love!
Asking questions show you carePeace
August 30, 2017
Love More
I would love to share this with you
Lessons on the Journey
I am faith-filled and fear-free because...I am a celebration of love.Beneath the pain, the disappointment, the resentment and fear that your life will never be as you want it to be, there is love. There is a memory of the touch, the feel, the excitement of love. There is a yearning to know and experience that expression of love. Go there! Be there! Rest there! Celebrate the love that you buried in your heart.When you celebrate love, the unconditional love that lies the beneath all the experiences you have witnessed and participated in, you find a degree of understanding that diminishes mental and emotional anguish. The love beneath the hurt and pain of your life will not allow you to blame anyone. It will stop you from judging yourself and others. The love beneath your pain and the fear of pain will help you to become aware of all the things that you told yourself about love that were just fantasies. Love will remind you not to be upset when the fantasy is revealed. It will remind you of the truth you knew in the first place. The love that lies beneath what happened, however it happened, will remind you that you haven't been rejected, abandoned, abused or defeated. You were simply being given an opportunity to remember that there is a place within you in which you can find everything you need or thought you lost or wished that you had more of. Go there now! Be there now! Rest there now! The only thing that you need to do to find the love in you is to remember, God's love has brought you this far.Until today, you may have forgotten that beneath everything that you have experienced, there is God's love. Just for today, look for the love within and beneath every experience. Remember all of the love that you have given and received. Fill your heart and mind with thoughts of love. Then celebrate yourself for recognizing love.Today I am devoted to remembering and celebrating love no matter what else is going on! ~~Iyanla Vanzant, "Until Today"#Lovemore
Lessons on the Journey
I am faith-filled and fear-free because...I am a celebration of love.Beneath the pain, the disappointment, the resentment and fear that your life will never be as you want it to be, there is love. There is a memory of the touch, the feel, the excitement of love. There is a yearning to know and experience that expression of love. Go there! Be there! Rest there! Celebrate the love that you buried in your heart.When you celebrate love, the unconditional love that lies the beneath all the experiences you have witnessed and participated in, you find a degree of understanding that diminishes mental and emotional anguish. The love beneath the hurt and pain of your life will not allow you to blame anyone. It will stop you from judging yourself and others. The love beneath your pain and the fear of pain will help you to become aware of all the things that you told yourself about love that were just fantasies. Love will remind you not to be upset when the fantasy is revealed. It will remind you of the truth you knew in the first place. The love that lies beneath what happened, however it happened, will remind you that you haven't been rejected, abandoned, abused or defeated. You were simply being given an opportunity to remember that there is a place within you in which you can find everything you need or thought you lost or wished that you had more of. Go there now! Be there now! Rest there now! The only thing that you need to do to find the love in you is to remember, God's love has brought you this far.Until today, you may have forgotten that beneath everything that you have experienced, there is God's love. Just for today, look for the love within and beneath every experience. Remember all of the love that you have given and received. Fill your heart and mind with thoughts of love. Then celebrate yourself for recognizing love.Today I am devoted to remembering and celebrating love no matter what else is going on! ~~Iyanla Vanzant, "Until Today"#Lovemore
August 29, 2017
Can we just start?
Can we just start where we are .....and trust?
Deborah L Johnson
Wanting to have it all lined up and figured out and orderly according to your definition is a receipe for stress. I guarantee it
I'm over it, I am over the obsessiveness of wanting to control and know everything
What if we dare to trust?
What if we dare to believe?
Somethings we just have to leap out on faith, the mystery and magic is part of life, life will not be denied, life just keeps bing life
We keep wanting it to line up based on the past, on society, on fear,on having our own way
What if we trust and believe?
What if we go on what we know NOW?
Im triggered today by this because right now I am planning an event- for the second time
I have no idea about what's going to happen and yes it's pretty darn scary but I have to trust, believe, allow it, align with the belief and own it
What if I trust and do the work to ensure that I am doing my ultimate best?
What if I go with the flow?
What if I believe?
Isn't that easier than wanting to know everything before hand? How boring is that?
It's depressing me looking to think about what if and what could and why not and if if if I fail
So I'm done with that
Dare to believe because all things are lessons that God will have us learn
Peace
Wanting to have it all lined up and figured out and orderly according to your definition is a receipe for stress. I guarantee it
I'm over it, I am over the obsessiveness of wanting to control and know everything
What if we dare to trust?
What if we dare to believe?
Somethings we just have to leap out on faith, the mystery and magic is part of life, life will not be denied, life just keeps bing life
We keep wanting it to line up based on the past, on society, on fear,on having our own way
What if we trust and believe?
What if we go on what we know NOW?
Im triggered today by this because right now I am planning an event- for the second time
I have no idea about what's going to happen and yes it's pretty darn scary but I have to trust, believe, allow it, align with the belief and own it
What if I trust and do the work to ensure that I am doing my ultimate best?
What if I go with the flow?
What if I believe?
Isn't that easier than wanting to know everything before hand? How boring is that?
It's depressing me looking to think about what if and what could and why not and if if if I fail
So I'm done with that
Dare to believe because all things are lessons that God will have us learn
Peace
