Akosua Dardaine Edwards's Blog, page 137

My G.U (Give Up) List

It’s always a good time to let go of whatever is holding you back. [Astrologically speaking, it’s PRIME TIME to give it all UP.] Danielle La Porte

I was reading a post from Danielle where she listed what she is ready and willing to give up, I decided to make my own list, which I want to share with you today

I give up judgement, doubt, ego and having no boundaries

I give up attachments, blocking loveships and all blocks to loving

I give up fakeness and hiding behind excuses

I give up bending to fit in 

I give up proving myself to anyone

I give up old and limiting beliefs

I give up settling for second best

I give up people pleasing

I give up talking to fellas who act as if they prefer not to talk to me

I give up relationships that suck me dry and past lovers that do the same

I give up not recognizing and knowing my worth

I give up charging less for my gift because I believe I will lose out on the opportunity

I give up taming my "scandalous" laugh when in "good company"

I give up eating poorly and saving calories for chocolate aka sometimes starving myself

After all that giving up, I am living my life and not giving up
Peace

Eliminate the Guesswork

Knowing who you are eliminates the GUESS WORK in life. Knowing short-circuits hoping, wishing and trying. When you know who you are, you are open to every experience. You know there is always room for self-improvement and that where you are is an opportunity. When you know who you are, you remain open to new insights, new information. 

You also know that what you learn at any given moment will assist and guide you on the path to where you desire to be. When you know yourself, you know your strengths. You embrace your weaknesses. You know that everything and everyone is pointing you in the right direction: The direction of learning more, embracing more information about exactly who you are. When you know who you are, you are always grateful. You are grateful for all that you have seen. All that you have done. All that you have lost and all that you have received. 

When you know who you are, you know in this very perfect moment that all that you are is more than enough to answer any question you might have about where to go and what to do . Iyanla

Have you ever sat a moment and asked yourself " Who Am I?"
Have you ever sat a moment and asked yourself " What brings me joy?"
Have you ever sat a moment and asked yourself " What are my strengths?"
Have you ever sat a moment and asked yourself "What triggers me?
Have you ever sat a moment and asked yourself " Am I growing and learning in this experience"

Do it
Take some time out of your life and sit a while and ponder this
You will be amazed at what comes up, what leaves, what happens when you do
Gone is the need to be defensive, prove things to people, you get clear, you mould your vision and put in the work
You atone, you forgive, you know your triggers
I highly recommend it
and when you do, drop me a line and share the lessons on the Journey

Peace

Best Week Ever - Day 6 NiNa Vacation Programme

Take your sweet time and be easy with yourself. There is no place you “should” be. The experience you’re in is exactly where you’re meant to be, because if it wasn’t, it wouldn’t be happening Yeradmi

Confessions on the Journey - I avoid uncomfortable situations, confrontation, arguments, anything I think that would lead to one. And just like that I was smack dab in the middle of one with tears and accusations and boundaries being crossed. 
One of the volunteers accused the other girls of stealing their school ring, it turned into a little bit of a drama and I was told to call the police. I decided against that, tempers flared, tears flowed and I had to say something.
I walked outside, took a deep breath and asked for guidance from the Universe, I cannot remember what I said now, I just remember I was crying! I said to myself - be honest, the truth corrects all mistakes in our minds. And that is the approach I took, we had a discussion about it, cleared the air, it proved to me that I can approach the discomfort, breathe and be honest and true and respectful and loving and compassionate with how I approach any situation
These young ladies made me so proud this week, it was one of the best weeks I have had in ages, the most rewarding, emotional, fun time- so happy to have had the support of my friends like Keisha, Avinash, Patricia, Kheson, Keron, Shivonne, Denis, Tonia, Mr Gibbs and whoever I forgot I apologise- all love!
Give thanks
Peace

Who is in Your Tribe?- NiNa Vacation Programme Day 4

You can do Epic Shit with Basic People - Unknown


I belong to a tribe, I call it a tribe because it goes beyond anything that I can control. The people who made this week possible are my tribe, they  took a chance on me, they didn't know who I was, there was something that resonated in them that pushed them towards doing this and I appreciate them
Paddy and Avinash stepped in and I am so appreciative that they took their time to spend this week doing this work, Katherine, jumped in and brought her gift to the tribe as well. Your background may be totally different, your experiences may also be totally different - in the "normal" world. I am convinced that there is more than the "normal" world that exist in this realm, and in this world your tribe is linked in someway
I am extremely grateful for this tribe of love, this tribe of lightworkers, this tribe of friends

Today we spoke about what we want to do before we die, and to remind ourselves when we want to give up or make a poor choice - there are many things we want to achieve before we die and making that choice at the times snuffs that out
Timely reminder

Peace

Love is ALL - Day 3 NiNa Vacation Camp

Impulse control is one of the greatest disciplines we can develop. We can avoid so much unnecessary drama in life if we just take a deep breath, and keep our mouths shut until we get the guidance to express ourselves in a kind and mature way. Eliose


We did yoga with the ladies, a few of them were resistant to it and was disruptive in the first few minutes, the yoga instructor treated them with such kindness and love, yet firm. Halfway through the disruptive ones just lay on the mat quiet or joined in. amazingLove is everythingIt is really the thing that breaks all barriers and boundariesSo many of us do things in the name of love and really, it is not love at allLove heals Love soothesLove unitesLove finds a wayWhat a wonderful lesson for today
Peace

Day 2 - NiNa Vacation Programme

You made a mistake, that does not mean that you are a mistake - Marianne Willamson


As I walked into the room I saw Fashah, she seemed a little subdued chatting with the other young ladies. I was surprised to see her as she was supposed to be in Court today. Her Court date was set for this morning but yet she was here. We started off the morning with a yoga practice. She said loudly, I do not want to do Yoga, I will just sit on the mat.Sure no problem
And it started, the noise, the talking while yga was happening
I asked her after, what happened to court, she said it was postponed, that was scary and uncertain, and so this was her way of showing the uncertainty,
She nor anyone would discuss what the Court date was about, there was discussion on how she gets to court, in a van with a cell
There was talk about being in jail
There was talk about - it is what it is
But nothing about the why
She is bubbly, naturally friendly and loving, at 15 years old, why would court, and jail and police be a part of her vocabulary? I have no idea
But it got to me
She asked me to go for a drive, the answer was no, her face looked like no was a normal response.
There was no permission granted for her to leave to go with me
I was just as disappointed as she was.
But I get to go home after
I get to go home everyday after I make a mistake
What happens to you after you make a mistake?
Peace

Day 1 NiNa Vacation Programme

changing the world isn't a solo feat - heavy hearts, dirty hands, bruised knees, stained egos. the work is in giving, the work is the love . Joel Leon

Today was I can say without a doubt one of the best days of my life. No, there was no fan fare or ringing of bells, it was simply a combination of a dream being realised which involved a lot of love and service and support
The NiNa Programme kicked off its Vacation Sessions with 12 "at risk" women. It was the most fun and fulfilling thing that I have done is a very long time. The support was tremendous, the vibrations were high and the lessons kept coming
For the next six days we will be spending time together working on business ideas, listening to motivational speakers, building a team and having fun!
Two years in the making and well worth the wait
Peace

Start with Yes

So many times I ask people what they want... and a few things usually happen. 1. They lead with what they DON'T want. 2. They don't know what they DO want. 3. If they do know what they want... they are SUPER vague about it. So... the shift is... Focus on what you DO want... and be specific about it. Mastin Kipp 
Confessions on the Journey - I'm tired of people talking about what they cannot do, of the  excuses they make for not living their dreams, of the defeatist self talk, of copping out. I am tired of it because its such a lie, it is not really true, it is a big fat piece of lie. 
I'm tired of people forgetting of the magnificence of who they are, of people looking at others doing their thing and saying it was easy because they have money or support or yada yada yada. I'm tired of itEveryday we see examples of people doing their thing, despite their circumstances.Everyday we meet people who, aren't on the news, but doing their thing.Everyday music is made, books are written, plays are launched, students graduate, mothers make babies, new surgeries and   solutions for diseases are found, great things happen by normal people just showing up, doing the work, believing in themselves and coming out of their comfort zoneEvery.Single.Day!So, spare me please! Spare me the excuses, the BS, the moaning, the complainingSpare me with the forgeting Spare me with itBecause you canYou really canPeace
                                        

Do you know your Love Language?

“ Our most basic emotional need is not to fall in love but to be genuinely loved by another, to know a love that grows out of reason and choice, not instinct. I need to be loved by someone who chooses to love me, who sees in me something worth loving. That kind of love requires effort and discipline. It is the choice to expend energy in an effort to benefit the other person, knowing that if his or her life is enriched by your effort, you too will find a sense of satisfaction—the satisfaction of having genuinely” 
― Gary Chapman, The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate

The book "The Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman fascinates me, confessions on the journey - I did not know that people express their love , show and receive their "love" differently. Who knew?
This revelation opened my eyes so much not just on how I express my love but how I interpret how my signficant other and even some of my friends love.

I am not what one would call "the mushy type" where I am all over you like white on rice or the public displays of affection type but I will show you by the things I commit to and be there for you ride or die style and for me I want a ride or die asw well, if you say you will do something and when, please do it! and loyalty, oh yea, I love loyalty. And so seeing that we are all different in the ways we express and receive love was truly n eye opener. I am now able to accept a lot more the differences that are shown to me and pay attention to something other than what I want. Knowledge is truly a super power when it is embraced and used.

So what is your love language?
Peace

Move....

Use this truth to catch your breath: This pain WILL end.

Declare. Breathe. Move. Forward. Toward the truth.

(PS…For real. The pain will end. You’re going to get through it.) Danielle La Porte


Whatever is happening right now, as crazy as it may seem, is happening FOR you, not TO you!
I know, I know, it doesn't seem that way when the bills are piling up, the roof is leaking, the relationship has lost its va va voom, the job feels like a whole hell or maybe there is no love prospects in sight
But it is true, it is happening for you and when the mindshift sets in it becomes clear that it is an opportunity for some type of growth but it is also to move you forward
You get to choose- all the time.

I have learnt to raise the vibration - in a healthy way of course. To feel the feelings, they are guides, feel it and not live in it
Spend a day in bed
Spend a day in nature
Listen to some dope music
Call a friend who makes you laugh
Exercise
Meditate
Pray
Laugh
Look at children playing
Walk in the grass
Cry or bawl your eyes out
but know
This too shall pass
Peace