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Act Like You Are Grown!

Maturity includes the recognition that no one is going to see anything in us that we don't see in ourselves. Stop waiting for a producer. Produce yourself. Marianne Williamson

I am a huge fan of Marianne Williamson, her book A Return to Love really shifted the way that I thought about life and also introduced me to one of my best guides called A Course in Miracles. Marianne has some wonderful periodic livestream talks which I make it a point to listen to as much as possible. At the end she says "Okay, let's talk about anything that you want to talk about" and the oportunity is given to the audience both livestream and live auduience to pose questions really about anything, it is in these sessions I learn a number of lessons. I see the practical application of A Course in Miracles, somehow, well not somehow, as nothing is random, I can relate to many of the conversations as it sounds so much like what I would ask her if I ever build up the courage.

And so on Tuesday she was answering a question and what struck me is when she said " Be a grown up about this, it really is that simple"
Sometimes the grown up's make decisions that are not popular but are essential, given the situation.
Be a grown up about it and keep it simple
I really needed to hear that
Make a decision, which may be unpopular, sometimes the loving response is NO and that is really okay!

Be a grown up about it- take responsibility for your actions and your life

Be a grown up about it - stop blaming other people and stop making excuses for people's poor behaviour esecially when they show you who they are

Be a grown up about it - uncertainty and change is not a reason to flip out and to act crazy, they are signs and guideposts

Be a grown up about it - stop outsourcing your happiness

What do you need to be a grown up about?

Peace

You both have everything and are everything

you both have everything and are everything - ACIM
I love this line from A Course in Miracles, it reminds me every time that I read it how I am enough. Just by virtue of being born I start at 100% so why fight up to prove anything to anyone, or to make myself stressed out to be "someone" I have everything and I am everything- breathe that in for a minute 
Peace

If the lesson is over.....

And I will encourage every sister to be unafraid of asking questions for fear that they may say the wrong thing too early. I will tell them to run from men who cannot show proof that they are actually doing the work to be well. I will challenge the men I know and love to just…do…better. To not exploit and exhaust the love of women and then discard them as if they are trash. And I will be proof to everyone -including you- that there is life after insufficient love and, though rare, peach tulips actually do bloom in summertime . Candice Benbow

Letting go for me, from an intimate relationship is a challenge, I must admit. Feelings of losing, however misguided they are, triggers of being abandoned and rejected, and ego musings of - hey it's me, I am a lovely person, don't you dare!
I think about all the time I invested in dreams and desires, and how someone else is now benefitting from the growth.
I think about dreams unfulfilled and what could have been, I think about was it all true or was it a game
I really would overthink the hell out of the thing 
I must admit that over time the challenge has been less and less over the last year because of the lessons that I picked up on the journey.
1. this too shall pass
2. everything and everyone you meet is for a reason  and season- know this
3. forgiveness is everything- forgive yourself first
4. winning - leave that alone!
5. when the lesson has been learnt the teacher will move on
6. vulnerability is essential in building soul connections
7. give it time, don't push the river
8. overthinking is not a very good idea
9. ask yourself, what would you do if you were not afraid- then do it
10. love yourself through it all

And so, I am slowly letting go and it is becoming easier and easier, I only have control over me and my responses- so sticking with that knowing that all things are lessons that God will have us learn
Peace

Don't Hold on, Don't Hold Back

Hello loviesHow y'all doing? I am sharing one of my favourite lessons on the journey. I went back to read this over the weekend, for a refill.  My health has been in fluctuating mode and I know that it is because I have holding things in, haven't figured out why totally yet, so I go back to this lesson as a reminder and I wanted to share it with you
As women, you take things in and digest it, and you have to eliminate as well. We have to draw nutrients that feed our life and our soul and then eliminate the rest. That’s where a lot of us have problems. We don’t eliminate. We will hold on to people, things, clothes, ideas, beliefs and behaviours longer than necessary. Then when we have these dramatic eruptions in our lives—be it a breakdown in a relationship, a loss of a job, a rift in the family—we don’t understand why. You have to look at how you digested your experiences. What are you holding on to and how are you processing things through your mind and your heart? Your whole life is a colon. You have to eliminate. 
The lesson is, don’t hold on and don’t hold back. We hold so much energy, thoughts and emotions and have ruptures in our relationships and finances and internally with diseases. We also have to renew and recharge our vision. Just because it’s a good idea in March, it may not still be a good idea in July if it’s not bearing fruit. In these 60 to 90 days, ask yourself, What am I doing? What is the progress I’m making? Do I need to make some additions or eliminate some things or people? Iyanla
Have a super sayPeace

You Are Enough

What’s it like to go through life thinking you’re not quite enough—defective, flawed? Most of us know EXACTLY how that feels. And what happens when we believe the lie? I’ll tell you what happens...We become chronic self-fixers, habitual strivers, always trying to get on the right side of Universal law.
Danielle La Porte

I'm here to tell you, simply - You Are Enough- start from there. There is no gap to fill, nothing to fix, nothing to alter to be "more like"
So you are called wierd, you like avocado and peanut butter sandwiches, maybe you want to be a singer after spending loads of cash on a law degree and your family thinks that you are a nutter! I don't know what it is that you want or have or believe that ought to change, all I can say is, simply - You Are Enough!

That is not to say that there is no room from improvement, however this comes from a place of love not fear, from inside not external stimulation,from achieving my dreams and purpose rather than people pleasing, it makes a heap load of difference.

Are you being kind?
Are you loving yourself?
Are you doing your best?
Are you being real?, Authentic?, Showing up for life?
Well let me say it again, simply - You Are Enough - start from there
Peace

No Approval Required

Drop the “what will people think?” and let your desire to have a passionate life outweigh banal approva l. Carole Ann Rice
A Course in Miracles says that the worst people act shows that their call for love is even stronger. Along with all the evidence that hurt people hurt people and boundaries are important to ensure healthy relationships, I can sometimes get confused and caught up in my response and reactions when in a situation with either hurt people or those making a strong call for love.Then there is the other school of thought that says all experiences are not random, they are lessons and pay attention to who is in your life as the reasons are there and will only be made knows by being present and conscious. Confessions on the journey- for a recovering people pleaser, this is challenging, setting boundaries is tough although necessary, loving others who have demonstrated that they dislike you is tough as hell, and being present and aware in response rather than flying off the handle is really miracle making, every day is a challengeBut here is what I have learned:everything I do is about me, and I get to decide who do I want to be in this moment, in every momentthat it gets easier over timeeveryone doesn't have to like you - I mean if you got no haters  you just ain't poppin'release the judgement and egolove yourself through itsometimes the most loving response is nolearning to be compassionate and forgiving is an essential tool to have on this journey
Peace

Everything in your life is designed for you

Everything in everyone's life is a gift that is designed specifically for them - Gary Zukav

As I walked off the WE Day Stage at the National Academy for Performing Arts (NAPA) stage I couldn't help but think that every event that happens in our lives can be used for something good
I had no idea that my story and my experiences would or could be used and shared and allowed others to share their's as well. This, for me, is a lesson in taking responsibility. How do you respond when events in life come in a way that throw you off, that test all your mettle?
How do you use the resources and the information available to you to move forward, to live a life of peace?

That is the question I ask myself after I feel the feels, because there are feelings involved. That is an important step in moving forward, feeling the feelings, acceptance and action

WE Day was one of the most inspiring days I have had in a very long time
I was so happy and proud to witness it and be a part of the entire thing!

There is really power in your story!
A Course in Miracles says your have a specifically designed life curriculum - show up ready!

Peace
Akosua
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Its WE Day

The best way to experience power (or anything) is to give it away. Make someone else powerful and you become twice as powerful as you were before.
Make someone else loved and you become twice as loved. Make someone else feel good and you feel twice as good. It doesn't get any better than this. And it's all so...simple. Neale Donald Walsh




I stepped out on the stage, the auditorium was impressive, a little intimidating, but not overly scary, I smiled. This year I visualized this, that I would give a talk on this stage. Now here I am a few hours away from doing so and I am so grateful! I have seen that dreams do come through, detachment is also a tool that is required in any dream tool kit. I did not know how, and I did not care and I now know for sure this will be the first of many because my dream was that it was my show, this is not my show, it is someone else's but I am seeing this event  as a practice to start me off and get me acquainted to speaking in front thousands of people!

It's WE Day in Trinidad and Tobago and I am grateful to be sharing the stage with some of the country's most inspiring change makers, sharing our stories to thousands of teens and young adults!
I am also happy to be on the lineup for the first ever in this part of the world

I am very excited!
Check you on the flip side!

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Ignorance of the Universal Laws Will Not Exempt the Effects

The ego's need for a false sense of control can block the flow of positive energy that will actually bring you the ideal circumstances you are searching for. It is fear-based thinking and can undermine your progress in all the other areas if you don't recognize it. Christin Sander


I was chatting with my good sister friend yesterday, catching up. She asked me about a project that I mentioned I was working on in April. I told her it's not moved yet, we are still waiting. Waiting on what? I could not respond, so we did a little moan about how unprofessional it is not to have a date set and having the time and date is essential in helping the cause- helping my life move forwardAfter we did our little session, we both started laughing hysterically!What is up with us? Who are we trying to fool? Control freaks!
The seeds have been planted, the work has been done, now is the time to detach and have faith that they Universe will show me the path and guide me accordinglyI wanted this so bad that my fear was getting in the way, the easiest thing was to moan about it, when would it happen, and why is it taking so long! I have learnt that our desire for instant gratification is typically steeped in fear – fear we won't get what we want, fear of being powerless, fear of whatever else you can come up with. 
The principles that guide the Universal Laws talk about acceptance, allowing and adjusting, these are all part of the manifestation process. In my particular case here all appliedAcceptance of where I am at this moment, allowing the process to take lace without unnecessary interference particularly as all the work had been done and adjusting, being flexible if anything changed from the original proposal.
And newsflash- ignorance of the law is really no excuse
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Listen......

we are taught we must be authorized,qualified and sanctioned by someone else.We search for support and acceptance of others. We question what we know unless we can identify someone who taught us.We forget we have a built-in mechanism of information, protection and guidance - Iyanla Vanzant


I knew it, my gut feeling told me, this was it, it made no logical sense and so I ignored my gut, then shit hit the fan
How many of you can identify? Looking for the validation to do something that your inner guidance said, well, shouted, "go ahead, I got ya!" you wait, you ask others, you procrastinate - procrastination I have learnt is the denial of self, a type of self sabotage, it is not allowing yourself to give birth to something new

There are somethings that you just know and the action is simply to obey! It usually is illogical, people call you crazy., some even laugh at you, talk you out of it. They have not heard your intuition speaking to you did they? They are not you, are they?
Many of us look for evidence, we want evidence because it makes us feel safe in the knowledge that it was done before so there is a path to follow. We want to know that we are not alone out there doing something crazy, we have bills and responsibilities, we want validation, how will it look if it doesn't happen? yada yada yada

There are somethings that you know, that you are guided to do- listen!
and act like you know
Peace

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