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Is the Narcissist Happy Now? (The “Who Cares?” Reality Check)

After leaving a narcissist or after a narcissist’s discard or even while getting the silent treatment, many victims can’t help but wonder if the N has really moved on and if he’s now a totally different person. Even though he’s an asshole, we can’t help but imagine that he’s truly in love and as happy […]

Is the Narcissist Happy Now? (The Reality Check!)

When we leave a narcissist or the narcissist discards us or gives us the silent treatment, there’s always the worry that he/she will move on to someone else and be a completely different person. We imagine that he’s truly in love and as happy as can be and we’re crushed that he couldn’t have felt […]

Be (Narcissist) Free from Unhealthy Relationships

Breaking free from a narcissist is exceedingly difficult – more so than breaking away from any other type of toxic relationship. I can give you tips all day on how to do it but sometimes it takes an objective source to hit the nail on the head. Below is a copy of an article that […]

Getting Over the Narcissist: A Game of Postpone & Pretend

Getting over a relationship with a narcissist is never easy and the pain can linger with us for many weeks, months, and even years after if we allow it. The key is to NOT allow it and a recovery game I created called Postpone & Pretend is one surefire tool for doing this…for helping us […]

Narcissists & The Art of Future-Faking

Calling out a narcissist as a pathological liar is not as important as pin pointing the type of lying that the narcissist does that really cuts us to the core: future-faking. By this, I mean that the narcissist talks about or hints at a future together to get what he wants from us right now. […]

How to Read a Narcissist (& Turn His Ploy to Your Advantage)

Even though a narcissist is a pathological liar, there are those moments where he/she offers riddles of truth amongst the lies. We, as victims, can actually get to that truth – if we would only listen. Yup, that’s right, if we really pay attention to the narcissist’s word garbage, 95% of all of our suspicions […]

How to Read a Narcissist (Turning His Ploy Into Your Advantage)

Even though a narcissist is a pathological liar, there are those moments where he/she offers riddles of truth and if we pay attention, 95% of our questions will be answered without ever having to do a bit of research. That’s right, if we pay attention, we’ll have all we need to know about exactly what […]

Is Loving a Narcissist Our Fault? (Reconciling Blame)

When is loving a narcissist our fault and how do we reconcile the blame…clearly, two of the toughest questions that narcissist abuse victims struggle with. Part of the healing and recovery from narcissist abuse is our willingness to forgive ourselves for our own participation and I’m a firm believer that we have to do this. […]

The Narcissist’s Hoover & Our Conditioned Participation

In relationships, the hoover maneuver is a narcissist’s claim to fame and there’s a simple reason for this: it rarely fails. This is fairly amazing given the fact that a hoover, by its narcissistic definition, is never a good thing and anybody who knows anything about narcissism knows this – including the recipient. Why knowing […]

Narcissists, Holidays, & the Seasonal Discard

With the holiday season upon us, those in relationships with narcissistic partners will be doing some extra special suffering. Narcissists are legendary holiday buzz killers and, if the narcissist is your partner, you could end up in any one of a number of situations depending upon your place in the queue. Yes, as the holidays […]