Zari L. Ballard's Blog: The Narcissistic Personality, page 7

Will the Narcissist Come Back? Maybe…but then what?

The narcissist only returns again and again to ensure that you never move on from the pain he has caused you – and this is the ONLY reason. If you remember nothing else from what I tell you, you must remember that. The sociopath and narcissist will hoover for no other reason than to get […]

The Hoovering is a Timeless Tactic In a Narcissist’s World

To a narcissist, the hoover is a timeless manipulation tactic for controlling a target, validating that control, and periodically checking an ex’s queue-status. And when I say “timeless”, I mean TIMELESS as in time is of no consequence…time is NOT of the essence…time never runs out…and there’s no time like now to hoover “whomever I […]

Hoovering is a Timeless Tactic In a Narcissist’s World

To a narcissist, the hoover is a timeless manipulation tactic for controlling a target, validating that control, and periodically checking an ex’s queue-status. And when I say “timeless”, I mean TIMELESS as in time is of no consequence…time is NOT of the essence…time never runs out…and there’s no time like now to hoover “whomever I […]

Narcissists & Holidays: Dealing With the Xmas Grinch

The narcissist will always be the Grinch that steals our Christmas. With that said, I bet I could leave the rest of the page blank, letting you fill in the blanks! Yes, it’s that time of year again, friends! Readers who suffer the Holiday Discard will always understand what I’m talking about because narcissists and […]

The Narcissist Is the Grinch That Steals Our Christmas

The narcissist will always be the Grinch that steals our Christmas. With that said, I bet I could leave the rest of the page blank, letting you fill in the blanks! Yes, it’s that time of year again, friends! Readers who suffer the Holiday Discard will always understand what I’m talking about because narcissists and […]

The Narcissist’s Motivation to Deceive- Part 2/2

In Part I of this article, I explained how the narcissist has but one true cause that rules his life and that is to see what he can get away with. He truly knows nothing else. Everything he does/says throughout the course of the day – and throughout the duration of the relationship – is […]

The Narcissist’s Motivation to Deceive (Part 1/2)

Narcissistic lovers and partners are really as simple as they are complicated. We spend a whole lot of time trying to figure it all out…why they do what they do and say what they say. We agonize over their willingness to cheat and how they so easily can lie about it. We demand to know […]

How the Married Narcissist Plays His Victims

The narcissist who is married is probably the most prolific of all the other narcissists because of the game he has ultimately chosen to play. Indeed, the married narcissist can live in suburbia with the wife and kids and, at the same time, carry on one or more relationships outside of the marriage without appearing […]

Getting Over the Narcissist One Small Choice at a Time

The hardest part about leaving a narcissist is the thought that we’re never going to get over it. Even though we’ve been subjected to a zillion silent treatments and disappearances (and survived!), we figure that once it’s really over, we might as well curl up in the fetal position and get comfortable because that’s where […]

Triangulation: Death of a Heart By a 1000 Cuts

Triangulation is a passive-aggressive manipulation tactic used by narcissists and sociopaths to instill feelings of jealousy and insecurity in their partners. It’s a tactic by which narcissists can create thrilling illusions of popularity, making themselves out to be far busier and more socially-in-demand outside of the relationship than they really are. This narcissistic strategy, like […]