Zari L. Ballard's Blog: The Narcissistic Personality, page 10

Narcissistic Chaos – Creating Turmoil on Purpose

The narcissistic lover with a narcissistic personality will create chaos and turmoil on a regular basis (and on purpose) to keep you in a heightened state of anxiety. He/she will do this even when things are good – and especially when things are good – so that you least expect the kick to the curb. […]

Narcissistic Tactics (It’s All Smoke & Mirrors)

Everything a narcissist or sociopath says or does is a magic trick of smoke and mirrors – a narcissistic ploy to distract you from the the reality and truth of what he’s really up to. If you pay careful attention instead of reacting to his/her behaviors, you can turn these ploys into your advantage. Many(...)

Narcissist Abuse & Giving Up Our Need for Closure

For a victim to recover from narcissist abuse, she or he must be ready and willing to give up the need for closure because it is never going to happen. When we receive the inevitable Discard (after an eternity of being Devalued), it is often our longing for closure that keeps us hanging in the(...)

Narcissists, Facebook, & Cell Phones – Oh My!!

How on earth did narcissists and sociopaths ever pander their diabolical wares before the invention of cell phones, Facebook, and other forms of social media? For those of us who’s relationship with a narcissist dates back, say, 13+ years, I think it’s safe to say that narcissists back then, sans the gadgets, were much tamer,(...)

The Cheating Narcissist & Why Great Sex with You Changes Nothing

The narcissist will cheat no matter how great your sex life is together and no matter how willing you are to fulfill his every fantasy – and that’s a fact. Furthermore, if you, as the victim partner, behave like I did and refuse to wrap your head around this fact even after you discover that(...)

Narcissist Abuse & the Deafening Sound of Silence

Narcissists and the silent treatment go together like…well, like maybe bees and honey or peas and carrots or (better yet!) thunder and lightening or like any two things that can’t be one without the other. Seriously, a silent treatment can’t occur without a narcissist (or sociopath) to implement it and a narcissist couldn’t be a(...)

Historical Rejection: Why the Narcissist Gives Us Up

I think that when a narcissist discards us, one of the reasons we wait for him to return (aside from the fact that he’s conditioned us to do so) is because we just can’t fathom the fact that he could actually give us up. And that’s what he does – he gives us up. We(...)

The Narcissistic Partner is a Pretender Extraordinaire

Since the narcissist is unable to feel true human emotion (except for, perhaps, rage), he has, throughout life, learned to mimic the emotions he needs to get exactly what he wants. He is a Pretender Extraordinaire…an Emotional Impersonator…..and it’s no wonder we fall for the Lie because he’s really very, very good at what he(...)

Another Poem to a Narcissistic Lover

Breaking up with a narcissist is never easy but it’s entirely possible. You must look deep into your hearts, my friends, and I promise you that you will find the answers. And sometimes it sure helps to write about it so think about doing that the next time you feel sad inside. So, while I(...)

“The Narcissist’s Lie” (Another Poem to a Narcissistic Lover)

Breaking up with a narcissist is never easy but it’s entirely possible. You must look deep into your hearts, my friends, and I promise you that you will find the answers. And sometimes it sure helps to write about it. So, while I was writing another article, a few words came to mind about –(...)