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Addiction … struggling to BECOME

“Under every addiction is a truly gifted person struggling to BECOME.” – Sandy Walker

I got this insight one night as I was working with a person struggling with addiction. We (as a society) tend to judge those who are “addicts”. I’ve sat with grieving family members as they ask, “Why can’t he/she just STOP?! This addiction is tearing up our family.” Yes, it is. Addiction is a very painful thing to deal with – whether you are the person struggling with addiction or whether you are the loved one.

Many of us, facing holiday gatherings, will encounter friends or family members who use a substance or a compulsive behavior to help them cope. Before you turn a critical eye on them, I’d like to reframe the picture for you.

Here is an individual who is truly gifted. They’ve been sent here to earth to accomplish a mission. They carry answers inside of them that someone needs. But somehow, they didn’t get what they needed when they needed it. They WANT to contribute to society, to their family, to the world – to BE who they were made to be. But they hurt a lot inside … though they may never show it. They are scared. They have been rejected one too many times by people who should have been there for them. And often they’ve just given up on themselves. They’ve never been convinced that they are LOVED, that they are WORTHY, that they MATTER.

Something deep inside is missing or broken and it’s so deep that they can’t tell you what it is most of the time. They don’t understand it either. So not only are THEY struggling, they also have to deal with the shame they feel of letting down those they love. They see the looks, they know what you’re thinking, they hear it in your tone of voice or the way you ignore them. They are very, very sensitive to the way others treat them.

The holidays can be very hard for people who are struggling with addiction. Give them a break. Look at them differently this year. Give them space to grow and become. Be part of the solution by believing in them. They could use a friend. ♥

Your ♥ will thank you

BE the change! Your heart will thank you

It is very, very satisfying to BE the change you wish to see in the world. Those who are BEING the change are usually too busy to sit back and criticize what is wrong in the world. They see a need and they act.

It is very fulfilling – your heart will thank you if you focus your time and energy on making the world a better place.

♥ Go DO it! Love somebody today! ♥

Bitterness sours life; love sweetens it ♥

Bitterness sours life; love sweetens it. – Harry Fosdick

Open Up! ♥

What the mind can conceive, the heart can receive … Open Up! – Sandy Walker

It has been my experience that it’s nearly impossible for you to receive something into your life if you cannot conceive doing so. I hear people say, when speaking of something positive, “Oh, that would never happen to me!” When they hear of someone else’s good fortune or door of opportunity, they ask, “How come that never happens to me?”

Can you imagine something good coming your way or do you often see only the negative view of life? Do you anticipate good things happening for you? When you begin to expect good, guess what? You start noticing all the good things that DO happen in your life. This increases your positive expectation (it gives you more faith) that more good things will come your way and it tends to become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

There seems to be a principle of life that your heart can receive only what your mind is willing to conceive – to accept, to believe and to expect.

Change your expectations, shift your thinking and you’ll be amazed what happens next! Try it and let me know what happens! ♥

There is no set path. Just follow your heart!

There is no set path. Just follow your heart!

People wonder if there is a specific plan for life. I guess it depends on who you ask. What I’ve discovered is that the “path” is not some external thing you have to find. The path is in your heart!

The more in tune you get with who you are and what you want, the more peace you will have and the greater sense of purpose and destiny you will experience in life. By the way, one of the keys to knowing what’s in your heart is to discover what you can do to make the world a better place. This is not about being selfish (i.e. I want to be rich and famous), but about fulfilling the purpose of your life – to make the world a better place.

Try it and let me know what you discover!

Wanna be happy? Love others!

Wanna be happy? Love others! and you’ll be full of Joy!

Be Authentic – this video will inspire you to be real ♥

Brene Brown is a researcher into what makes people live authentically. She discovered some very important truths. In 2010 she presented the information at a TED Talk called The Power of Vulnerability.

That literally changed her life. She came back 2 years later and spoke again at TED about the impact it had on her life. She is easy to listen to – she’s REAL. If you haven’t watched this video of hers, I highly recommend that you watch it now. If it’s been awhile since you’ve seen it, you owe it to yourself to watch it again. It will remind you how important it is to live authentically – to let your REAL SELF be seen and heard.

I love Brene Brown – she’s a leader in her field. She’s changing the world.

BE the change

DID YOU KNOW? The more loved you feel, the less selfish you will act. So Love yourself & others! BE the change.

LET GO OR BE DRAGGED

LET GO OR BE DRAGGED

Need I say more? It’s all about control ….

Just let go. Your heart will thank you! ♥

Just BE and Be at peace

DON’T DO: Just BE and be at peace …