Ronald Hadrian's Blog, page 28

You Were There

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When I cried, you were there beside me to wipe my tears.

When I laugh, you were there beside me admiring me.

When I wanted to hug you, you have been my pillow.

When I wanted to lean, you have been my shoulder.

When I was sad, you were there to give me happiness.

You spoke to me through the wind and you have been guiding me.

When I walked alone you were there beside me as a shadow.

But when I wanted your love, you were lost in the darkness,

And I still believe that your love is with me, and I will fulfill your desire.

-Hazil Teena.

Importance of Feedback

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Feedback for many of us is something negative. But feedback can be really useful for effective living.   

1)  THERE ARE TWO KINDS OF FEEDBACK

Of course there is negative feedback and positive feedback. Positive feedback is really what everyone wants to hear. “You are doing well, just keep doing it and you will reach for the stars.” Such kind of feedback really helps a person and so they are able to do more with their life. But negative feedback can make a person miserable, if you are emotional then you certainly will be unhappy with the feedback, but don’t be. Negative feedback can help a person do something about his life. Hard reality will be shown to him by feedback.

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2)  ON COURSE, OFF COURSE,

Feedback can tell two things. One, it can tell whether you are on course or off course. This can be really helpful. If you receive a feedback and it says that you are on course then you can continue with the same plan, but if you receive an off course feedback then it is time to think about you current plan and change it accordingly.

 

 

3)  WAYS OF RESPONDING TO FEEDBACK

THAT DON’T WORK

First of all there are many ways of responding.

A)   Caving in and quitting

This is very simple. If you don’t like the feedback and you are emotionally challenged , then you are certainly going to cave in and quit.

B)   Getting mad at the source of the feedback

Another way to respond is to get really mad at feedback. Sometimes, we don’t want a particular person to say anything to us, and so we ,get really mad at them even if they give us a positive feedback.

c) Ignoring the feedback

Another way is to simply ignore the feedback and do nothing about it. This is very common practice.

4)  ASK FOR FEEDBACK

Always ask for feedback. “Say in a scale of 1 to 10 how is our relationship?” You can ask that to your wife. And she will give you a number and you can work on it. This method can be used in every situation. Whether it is relationship or your health you can ask this question.

PHILOSOPHY OF LIFE

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It is cold in the soul

When passed through the church hole

Haunted one, century old

Where myths frequently told

That spirits roam about

 

The place were once lava was forged

It still exits underground

It is not clear why

Because ghosts do cry

 

And graves do open at night

Were vampires are afraid of light

And owls hoot with a sight

Which makes the mice fright

Were wolfs eyes are bright.

 

Were ravens fly about

Singing a dirge

Rest in peace

To sleeping souls

And bones broken from its joints.

 

It has a clock, which shows

Nine. Everyday morning

When I pass through the church

Were the old haunted mansion

Stands with a will

 

Singing a song which

Makes me sad

By the trees might and tall

Worries me about

The past, present and future of us all.

(Wrote this in 10th standard, basically the inspiration came from Stephen Church, but poem is close to my heart)

BLOOD THIRSTY WORLD

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My heart is filled with elation

When I ride on a pony, it is an illusion

I feel the air fill my ears it is a sensation

The music in air, which is played for redemption.

 

The mountains mimic what I say

I am esteemed by what I do today

For life is a mirror I see everyday

We are rewarded by I and thy deeds of yesterday.

 

Vanity is skin why become beautiful

For pride and glory people duel

Rainbow will turn bloody red colourful

Verily if this world stays so awful

 

To be good there is only one thing to spare

Prompt peace and brotherhood every where

Every mortal in this world must swear

That love and kindness must be the watchword.

 (My old poems, wrote them back in school. Maybe in 10th, feeling nostalgic) 

The falls

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It act along with mother

where it, dwelled in for long

dives without her

like baby come along.

It dives without mother

with the song of life,for long

of brave and courage,as the mother

not to step-off but to run along.

Brave and courage the song,

that make beauty and life an art

it wants the knight with song

to knew the beauty of art.

Though you fall,make your heart,

surely you will be thought.

Right Attitude + Specific skills+ Golden rule Philosophy+ character= Complete Success

“Each of us will one day be judged by our standard of life, not by our standard of living; by our measure of giving, not by our measure of wealth; by our simple goodness, not by seeming greatness.”

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1)      Right Attitude

It entirely depends on the place you are looking at. When a person has a great Attitude, he can look at every failure and find something good in it. For example, when Edison was trying to invent the bulb, he had so many failures, but he did not count the failures, but he looked at it alternatively. Right Attitude is the key to success. To develop right attitude look at the circumstance, and find out the good thing about the situation and embrace it. And no matter what happens it will all come to the right attitude.

2)      Specific Skills

Attitude is great, but without skill we can only go a little distance. Skills must be developed if one is to be really successful. If one is a salesman, he must practice salesmanship and he must constantly read books on sales and marketing. And with a right attitude he will truly be a winner.

 

3)      Golden Rule Philosophy:

The golden rule philosophy is simply helping other people get what they want and you have everything you want in life. Because in the end it is not about spending selfish ambition, but really giving something for the society which will make all the difference in the world.

 

4)      Character

Without character there is no hope for a man. A man might have great riches but if he doesn’t have character there is no point in it. Integrity and Honesty are the most important virtues in the business world. And when a person has the right attitude+ specific Skills+ Golden Rule Philosophy, and character, he is truly a winner.   

 

Change is the first step for change!

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1)      Decision

Decision can be life changing. But many of us are afraid of change. Basically we are afraid of the pain change can bring. The fear of disappointment crawls and consumes the person. So be strong, and do whatever you can to live the life of your dream. Create your own philosophy and live it out for the best.

 

2)      Beginning is difficult, end is a breeze

Rockets consume a lot of energy when they take off, but when they leave the atmosphere they consume very less fuel. This is the same way change is, at first it will be difficult, and then it will be easy.

 

3)      Commitment to change:

Commitment is a promise one makes to oneself that no matter what happens, do or die –they will not rest until they achieve.

The Old Clock

One day when a boy

reached his house

after a small

morning chill-out.

he heard a small

tick,tick

tick,tick

near his room.

that seemed like

a tick,tick

tick,tick

of a wearied-out clock.

It said him,I

alarmed the person`s

with my run  earlier

but,I  got wearied-out now.

when I was young

they kept me at center

used to see me

often by seconds,to run.

now,they had thrown

me off,from center

from hand and from memory.

be careful and watchful.

By Amalan

Go the extra mile to be super successful!

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Does extra works tire you? Actually it is being proactive that makes successful men and women. Doing more than what one’s paid for is very essential to success.

1)  GO THE EXTRA MILE

In any job, go for the extra mile. Many people have become amazingly successful because they went the extra mile. They didn’t expect more salary and all the other things. But because of going the extra mile they got a reputation for hard work and this helped them land into great jobs.

2)  GIVE MORE THAN PEOPLE EXPECT

When we give more than expected we earn other people’s respect and admiration. Once IBM staff was not feeling well and so the company took him in a private jet to his house. The company was not obligated to do such a thing, but they went the extra mile anyway. No wonder IBM is one of the great companies in the world.

3)  WHY GO THE EXTRA MILE?

The answer is quite simple. Going the extra mile will establish the person as trustworthy and hard worker. Many hotel managements go the extra mile. When a person asks for a certain place, the staff doesn’t just tell the way, but he/she will walk them to the spot. This is truly a success principle. So decide today to go for the extra mile.

 

Channel 000 – Short Story by Ron Hadrian

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       He was my brother. He was completely an antithetical to me. I didn’t smoke, didn’t steal nor did I speak vulgar language. He on the other hand did everything. He didn’t work often. He was not lucky with any job. Every job he took lasted for only three weeks. Then he got a job and he came home late every night.

         I didn’t care about him or about his job. But I was irked at his new behaviour. He switched on the television at exactly 1 ‘o clock at night and put it in mute. Then he put an unknown channel. The channel name was 000. There was only one scene in that channel that repeated. It was always about a boy who watched television and another boy who peeked through the other door. I couldn’t see their faces. This struck me odd, but I didn’t bother about it. Then on a certain Sunday I woke up at 1’o clock. I heard someone speaking, and I peeked to see who it was. And it was the same scene but I could hear the words. “He is peeking through the door right now- kill him now.”

             My brother’s bloody eyes looked directly at me. He got up and came towards my room. I jumped up and said, “Don’t do it Sam! Don’t do it! ”

          “Hey Bruce wake up man, you are having a nightmare!” my brother was seated next to me and he switched on the lights.

         I sat quite. What a terrible dream I had, gosh. Then Sam said, “You dreamt about me.”

        “Yes,” I said slowly. And from the other room I heard someone say, “Yes.” I pushed the door and say myself on the TV and my brother was seated near me. He placed the gun on my head and said, “See yourself die, brother.” And I saw myself die.    

      © D. Ronald Hadrian 2013