Ronald Hadrian's Blog, page 26

An Afternoon Rain

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Lying down with a book, pulling the pillow up

I lay down to read few lines.

My thoughts were agitated, the walls looked antiquated

I felt wearied in confines.

This temporary escape, takes an amorphous shape

dressed to the nines.

Then the walls turn to ghouls

Asking for signs.

Signs about the end, and how they ought to spend

Their time in decline.

I woke up, still the book  beside my head,

and it said, read between the line.

 

 

 

 

Clean your messes!

“Decide-> Plan-> Start-> Continue-> Finish-> Complete”

This is the cycle by which we can complete a job. Everything starts with deciding, planning, and starting, continuing, finishing and completing. To clean the mess’s one should certainly go through the entire plan.

1)  FAILING TO COMPLETE ROBS YOU OF VALUABLE ATTENTION UNITS

If we don’t complete some of the things we ought to complete then we find ourselves in a troubled situation. Just think about, when we start a job we are energetic but when we are confronted with other pressing matters we don’t complete our old job. This saps the energy and it certainly robs us of our valuable attention.

 

2)  GET INTO COMPLETION CONSCIOUSNESS

Just think if we can complete the job that we have started we will surely feel great. So finishing tasks again and again will surely create the completion consciousness. So make it a habit to complete your tasks.

 

3)  MAKING SPACE FOR SOMETHING NEW

If we don’t complete our old tasks then we cannot make space for something new. So always follow the steps and complete the job. Clean your desk, finish of all the old projects and start a fresh. This week make it a point to complete and start with the new job.

 

TWENTY-FIVE WAYS TO COMPLETE BEFORE

MOVING FORWARD( Success Principles, Jack Canfield)

1. Former business activities

2. Promises not kept, not acknowledged, or not renegotiated

3. Unpaid debts or financial commitments (money owed to others

or to you)

4. Closets overflowing with clothing never worn

5. A disorganized garage crowded with old discards

6. Haphazard or disorganized tax records

7. Checkbook not balanced or accounts that should be closed

8. “Junk drawers” full of unusable items

9. Missing or broken tools

10. An attic filled with unused items

11. A car trunk or backseat full of trash

12. Incomplete car maintenance

13. A disorganized basement filled with discarded items

14. Credenza packed with completed or unrealized projects

15. Filing left undone

16. Computer files not backed up or data needing to be converted

for storage

17. Desk surface cluttered or disorganized

18. Family pictures never put into an album

19. Mending, ironing, or other piles of items to repair or discard

20. Deferred household maintenance

21. Personal relationships with unstated resentments or appreciations

22. People you need to forgive

23. Time not spent with people you’ve been meaning to spend

time with

24. Incomplete projects or projects delivered without closure or

feedback

25. Acknowledgments that need to be given or asked for

Go the extra mile to be super successful

Does extra works tire you? Actually it is being proactive that makes successful men and women. Doing more than what one is paid for is very essential to success.

1) GO THE EXTRA MILE

In any job, go for the extra mile. Many people have become amazingly successful because they went the extra mile. They didn’t expect more salary and all the other things. But because of going the extra mile they got a reputation for hard work and this helped them land into great jobs.

2) GIVE MORE THAN PEOPLE EXPECT

When we give more than expected we earn other peoples respect and admiration. Once IBM staff was not feeling well and so the company took him in a private jet to his house. The company were not obligated to do such a thing, but they went the extra mile anyway. No wonder IBM is one of the great companies in the world.

3) WHY GO THE EXTRA MILE?

The answer is quite simple. Going the extra mile will establish the person as trustworthy and hard worker. Many hotel managements go the extra mile. When a person asks for a certain place, the staff doesn’t just tell the way, but he/she will walk them to the spot. This is truly a success principle. So decide today to go for the extra mile.

I ain’t a chicken, but an eagle!

Today is Sunday, so I didn’t want to sit and research and write an article. Instead I thought to write about some special people I have met in my life. Well this will follow every Sundays I suppose.

To begin with, I had spent three years in a weird, God forsaken college. I despised the college, but I decided not to be miserable but to take initiative. I was from a convent, so studying English was not much of a problem for me. I assumed everyone taking the course will be like me, but sadly this is not the case. (Yes this is the college I have ironically portrayed in my novel.) My classmates came from poor families and villages. They just choose to study English to become teachers. But this is a sad fact. Those who choose Literature are considered dumb, and utterly hopeless. Even the college, after filling up all the others courses with the top scoring students send the miserable ones to English. It is really pathetic. They think studying English is a silly thing and those students who pursue English do not have analytical reasoning or aptitude. Another misconception of English or any other language for that matter is to label it just as the understanding of stories. This is so not true. We are all stories by the way. To study mankind, we need to study man, that’s why stories are so important.

Anyway, I am not going to defend the greatness of Literature. Perhaps some other time, for now I want to simply tell about this person. You see, my classmates had this big problem. They were not appreciated, they were constantly nagged and they were told that they will never amount to anything. I was shocked by the negative comments of the teachers. A teacher was supposed to build them up, not curse them and label them as useless. However, I decided to do something about the situation. I went up to the HOD and asked her permission to give a small pep talk every day. I knew she will never agree, but ironically accepted. That was the time I was beginning to read Self-help literature, so to learn more and apply the principles, I needn’t to teach somebody and this was a perfect opportunity for me.

So I was up for the challenge, I began to motivate them.  I said you guys are the best; you can do anything in Life. I slowly began to influence them. And you won’t believe what happened. These melancholy, inactive folks suddenly became proactive. They began to do well in class. I became a very good friend to them.

That was when I understood the power of appreciation. People are ever hungry for it. Sometimes I think we have lost our human touch. Sometimes we are too mechanical. We are afraid to say how we feel. Then they all openly came and told me their stories. Some will make you cry and some stories you won’t believe. But you are the judge.

These stories are the ones I am going to share with you. But you cannot expect a plotline or something; they are just pure feeling that you need to experience. So today I am going to tell about Anbujothi.

Anbujothi was a Pentecostal Christian. She did not wear jewelry of any kind, and certainly she was the most silent student in the class. However, her silence was often misunderstood as a sign of shyness. But that was a very big misunderstanding indeed.

Jeba, a fat boy loved to chat and irritate others. He had decided to irritate Jothi on a particular morning he had called her and said: “Hey how is your sister, can you give this rose to your sister.” Anbujothi face went red. She stared at him and began to bellow. “ You can talk to me as a friend. But giving my sister roses I cannot allow that…”

That was the day everyone knew Anbujothi though silent and petite was not to be taken for granted. Jothi had lost her dad when she was really young. She had two sisters and four brothers. The loss of her father had greatly disturbed her. Once her father had fought with her mother and gone out of the house. The young girl was devastated. “When her dad returned she asked, “Dad why did you leave me?” and he replied. ‘Oh, will I ever go away from you darling.” But he was gone. He was gone to a place he could never return from. Jothi still remembers her dad, and she is protective of her sisters, but most of all she is full of love and she believes that a loved one never really leaves the world.

If you can relate to her feelings or have any comments, please do comment. Really appreciate it if you share this blog. And you can get my novel to have a good laugh and that book is about these people. Until next week take care.

6 Ways to decide what you want.

When your purpose is clear then you must decide what you want in life. Without a definite purpose, it is impossible to do anything in life. Decide, go for it, and preserve till achieving is the simple formula for success.

1)    DON’T LIVE SOMEONE ELSE DREAM

 

From an early age we are conditioned to accept things as they are.  We become engineers because that’s what our parents want us to become. We are never allowed to do what we love. This is the reason why a person lives in mediocrity. There is no passion in the work they do.

 

2)    STOP SETTLING FOR LESS THAN YOU WANT

As mentioned above, we are not allowed to dream big. You might want to be an international tour guide, but you might settle for a local job. This is the reason deciding on what one wants is of prime importance.

 

 

3)    MAKE AN “I WANT” LIST

To decide on what one wants, one must make a “I want” list. This list can contain anything you want. You might want a Mercedes benz, a castle in Scotland, or your own private jet. Just make a list. It really helps.

 

4)    CLARIFY YOUR VISION OF YOUR IDEAL LIFE

This is just a continuation of the “I want’ list. But clarify your vision. Make it clear. You must know at present where you are so that you can get to where you want to go. Be inspired. What do you want, how much money, level of health, career. Clarify these visions.

5)    HIGH ACHIEVERS HAVE BIGGER VISIONS

We can dream small or we can dream big. And it is all our choice. High achievers have bigger visions. Edison was chucked out of school for being miserable in studies, but he became one of the greatest scientists in the world. So if you dare to dream, go for a bigger dream by all means.

 

6)    DON’T LET ANYONE TALK YOU OUT OF

YOUR VISION

In the book, Success Principles, Jack Canfield, the renowned author recalls about his friend Monte. His friend Monte was asked to write his dream for his school assignment. And Monte wrote he wanted to own 200 acre of land and have his own ranch. His teachers failed him and explained that his dream was plausible. And the teachers insisted Monte to rewrite his assignment if he is to pass. For which Monte replied, “You can have your F, I will have my dream.” Oh! What an attitude. So folks, don’t let nobody talk you out of your vision.

 

4 reasons why you shouldn’t be paranoid about success.

Every negative event contains within it the seed

of an equal or greater benefit.

NAPOLEON HILL

We are all prone to this. We all think that someone is against our success. We think others are out there to sabotage our dreams. This is simply a false impression. It is called fear. That is the reason we are afraid to dream more and do more. We simply think the universe is plotting against us. But there are some ways to break it.

1)  HOW DO I USE THIS EXPERIENCE TO MY ADVANTAGE?

This is the most powerful question that you can ask to get rid of paranoia. W. C Clement the author of Success thorough a Positive Mental attitude was considered as an inverse paranoid. He thought everyone in the world was plotting to do him good. What an attitude! If we think that we can really become successful, all the negativity in the world cannot stop us.

2)  LOOK FOR THE OPPORTUNITY IN EVERYTHING

This might look like a common thing, but how many of them do this. Even in the worst situations one must look for the good in life. This is not easy. But sometimes blessings come in disguise. We might be vexed about losing our job, but in fact we can use the opportunity to improve ourselves and get our dream job.

3)  HE SAW THE OPPORTUNITY

Some people see opportunity that others don’t. The author of the chick

en soup series, Jack Canfield was met by his friend Mark Victor. As soon Jack told about the project, Mark wanted to join. He told Jack that he could be a great asset, and he could sell many books for him and he sold many books as well. ( Millions of course.) So look for opportunity every day and every time.

4)  GOD MUST HAVE SOMETHING BETTER IN STORE

Sometimes all the things don’t go according to plan. Sometimes we won’t get the job we desire, or the relationship won’t work out. But always remember that we didn’t get that because there was something better in life. And even the bible says, all things work together for them to love God. Sometimes bad things happen for good reasons. So be up and doing and strive until you win.

3 Ways to Believe It’s Possible to win

Hey folks, how you are all doing? I hope everything is fine, even if it isn’t read on, you will feel a little better I promise.

You have a dream and you have set a goal and you have gone to work on it, but sadly nothing seems to be working. Well that happens to every one of us. The universe is a mystery, no matter how hard you work, but you don’t believe in yourself then nothing is going to work. Doubt is actually nothing but fear. Subconsciously you fear losing. This is common, but this can be overcome.

Sometimes you must just go on with your dream. Sometimes you got to feel the fear and do it.

 

1)    YOU GET WHAT YOU EXPECT

This is a universal truth. In the book of Job( Bible) Job fears disaster will come upon him, and guess what, it came true. The strongest expressions in your mind are going to come true. You fear something then the thing you fear most will come true, but on the other hand you expect to win, guess again, that is also going to come true. In the Power of Positive Thinking, Norman Vincent Peale, says that no matter how bad or hopeless the situation looks, just expect the best, and not the worst. So today expect for good things to happen, and that is what is going to happen.

2)    YOU GOTTA BELIEVE

People are so critical these days that they are always talk about disaster. Every day we are feed by negative news and it seems people are living in constant fear. Personally, we are all prone to doubt, but we have a choice to believe or doubt. Never give into doubt; you gotta believe that it is possible. Just repeat to yourself, “I believe I am going to _____________” Fill it with whatever you want.

3)    GO FOR IT

Believing without action is like a foot without a joint. Faith and deed go hand in hand. If you say you believe in your dream but you sit before the TV for the whole day chanting I believe, I believe… my friend you are going to be disappointed. If you believe in your dream so strongly, make a plan, and go for it, don’t sit and wait for the right time. Just go for it. Your actions will show how much you have believed in yourself and in your dream. Don’t listen to others. JUST DO IT.

5 REASONS TO TAKE 100% RESPONSIBILTY

[image error] The  world is full of pointing fingers. Complaining, excusing, reasoning are the key words at present. Responsibility has become something of a negative word. Nobody takes responsibility, the people blame the government, parents blame the children, and children blame the parents. But in the long run, we are all blaming and complaining each other.

Stephen Covey, in his 7 habits says that we are responsible for the emotions, feelings that torment us. We have a choice, we can stop the blame game or complaining and step out to achieve.

1)      You’ll feel empowered

When a person takes 100% person responsibility for their actions, and emotions they feel free and empowered. Complaining and blaming weakens a person. But taking responsibility will set the person free.

 

2)      You will feel strong

Taking responsibility will improve the emotional muscles –for instance when a person tries to lie to his teacher, he feels ashamed. But having the courage to say that he hasn’t done the work will surely make him feel strong.

3)      Nobody can hurt the person

 

If you have been in a relationship for quite some time you will understand that getting hurt is part of the relationship. But one should not be governed by their emotions. By taking responsibility, all the old hurt, ego vanishes.

4)       Successful life:

 

By taking 100% responsibly the most wonderful benefit is success. Of course success involves many other factors. But taking 100% responsibility will throw away all the lame excuse of abused childhood, colour, race, and all the other factors people often point to when asked for the reasons of their failure.

 

5)      Legacy

What if, Lincoln complained about his poverty and lack of education and what if Edison accepted his teachers remark that he was dumb? No, they didn’t. Despite their problems, they took responsibility and they had achieved. So take responsibility this very day.

 

JUST SAY NO!

[image error]There is a time in everyone’s life that they feel used up. They are doing things that they don’t like to do. They say yes to all the things that they don’t have time to do something’s that they really like. They tend to spend time on things that is absolutely not in their interest –they do this mostly because someone expects them to do this job.

1)  DON’T JUST DELEGATE, ELIMINATE!

So here it is, sometimes we try to delegate the work to other people. By doing this we can complete the job, without involving ourselves in the project. And we will happy that we have completed the work. But we certainly have a choice, instead of delegating, just eliminate, it will be a lot easier.

2)  CONSIDER GIVING UP YOUR CELL PHONE AND

YOUR E-MAIL

      Social Media without doubt is a very good thing. But it certainly takes a lot of time. People waste plenty of hours checking their mails and notification. They seem to be overwhelmed by the load of information they receive. So consider giving up your cell phone or email. You will be surprised how relaxed you will be.

3) IF SAYING NO IS SO IMPORTANT, THEN

WHY IS IT SO HARD TO SAY?

      It is not an easy job. Because saying no might mean hurting people. We sometimes know saying no to a work which we are not interested is wildly important, yet we will take on the project. The reason is simple, we are afraid of hurting others. And we feel guilty of hurting them.

4) IT’S NOT AGAINST YOU; IT’S FOR ME”

      Sometimes the best way to say no is :It’s not against you; It’s for me. We can openly say that the project is worthwhile, but still we are already having some priorities. This is one of the ways to have a happy life.  

Men on the Wall -Preface

Preface

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   James smiled reluctantly when he was asked about his life. His life was one of those rags to riches story. But the road between the rags to riches seemed  mysterious to people who have known  James for a long time. This sudden change of his life was the talk of the town. Then James decided to write a small book. Which was called Men on the Wall. The assumptions he makes in the book are fantastical. They are magical, but a deeper understanding of the text will reveal the soundness of the principles. 

His principles are simple and practical. Actually he openly admits that the principles are nothing new, but few people have practically applied them, he says. However, he didn’t learn all the principles from Self Help books, but rather from mysterious people who are stuck on his wall. James had bought a new house and he had many paintings of many outstanding achievers. (You won’t believe me.) The Paintings comes to life every night after 12 and then they become stationery as morning draws. But during that time, these great man have taught many valuable things to James. And that is how James has become so super successful. So dear reader believe James for once, and read his tale and the lessons he has learnt from the outstanding man. And apply them for your own success.