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Stretch’s Treasure Hunt

Stretch’s Treasure Hunt

Book Review by Ilaxi Patel

Do Treasure matter most than Happy Friendship ?

Stretch’s Treasure Hunt is an amazing Story of Animal Friends who face the storm and help each other to hide in a cave – all after they left Noah’s Ark ! Later when they came out, it was Mess all over ! The Strech Giraffe saw a nose rock and mentioned of old Treasure buried nearby…all animals in their excitement made a mess of nature, uprooted trees and made all mess. They started fighting and threw coconuts and mud at each other.

This is when Stretch realised words of a dear friend, “God is watching over us. He loves us. We need to love each other too. No Treasure means more than that.”

Moral Value in stories are great influence to kids and as they wander into Wonderland, they learn to grow up gracefully …

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Wimpy Kids – Wrecking Ball

Wrecking Ball – Diary of a Whimpy Kid (14) to arrive on November 5, 2019.

At Swagat Children Library, we have these Whimpy Kids Book Series and await for the new release.

Jeff Kinney is an American game designer, cartoonist, producer, actor and Author of children’s Book Series Whimpy Kids who has a net worth of $70 million.To date, the online version of Diary of a Wimpy Kid has more than 80 million visits, and is typically read by more than 70,000 kids a day.

His first decent drawing was of a turtle at the age of 3. He plays the piano ‘very, very poorly’. Jeff’s brother Scott has written one of the songs in the movie, Diary of a Wimpy Kid. He created the kids’ website Poptropica.com.And, he didn’t want to be an Author !

His dream was to become a newspaper cartoonist, but he wasn’t able to get his comic strips syndicated. In 1998 Jeff came up with the idea for Diary of a Wimpy Kid, a story about a middle-school weakling named Greg Heffley. And that’s the Success leading to Times Magazine Top 100 Influential person 2009 and many other laurels.

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The Best of Grimm’s Fairy Tales

The Grimm brothers left an astounding legacy. From well-known stories like Snow White to lesser-known tales, here are our favorite Grimm stories ‘The Best of Grimm’s Fairy Tales’ Om Publishers.

The Best of Grimm’s Fairy Tales- stories to steal the heart. Stories of Magic, Talking Animals, Fabulous creatures, Kings and Queens- comedy, colors, chills and thrills.

The Brothers Grimm (or Die Gebrüder Grimm), Jacob (1785–1863) and Wilhelm Grimm (1786–1859), were German academics, linguists, cultural researchers, lexicographers and authors who together collected and published folklore. They are among the most well-known storytellers of folk tales, popularizing stories such as “Cinderella” “(Aschenputtel)”, “The Frog Prince” (“Der Froschkönig”), “Hansel and Gretel” (“Hänsel und Gretel”), “Rapunzel”, “Rumpelstiltskin” (“Rumpelstilzchen”), and “Snow White” (“Schneewittchen”). Their first collection of folk tales, Children’s and Household Tales (Kinder- und Hausmärchen), was published in 1812.

The brothers spent their formative years first in the German town of Hanau. Their father’s death in 1796, (when Jacob was eleven and Wilhelm ten), caused great poverty for the family and affected the brothers for many years. They both attended the University of Marburg and at the same time developed a curiosity for folklore, which grew into a lifelong dedication to collecting German folk tales.

Always a favorite of Children at Library, let’s all dive into world of imagination….

Some favorite stories are :

Cinderella

Hansel & Gretel

Rumpelstiltskin

Red Riding Hood

Tom Thumb

Frog Prince

Rupunzel

Many More….

The first volume of their Kinder- und Hausmärchen (‘Children’s and Household Tales’), published in 1812, included 86 stories. The second, which came out in 1814, added 70 more. There were numerous later editions, deleting some stories and adding others, of what became known in English as Grimm’s Fairy Tales.

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The Ocean at the end of the Lane – Niel Gaiman quotes

A very fine and imaginative writer, urbane and sophisticated – That’s Neil Gaiman. The Ocean at the end of the lane is the first Book by Niel Gaiman, a New York Times Bestseller, an imaginative fable about three magical women who live down the road from a young, shy boy. More importantly, the novel is a love letter to literature, and a reminder of the safety that we found in stories as children. As the young boy gets caught up with wandering spirits, The Ocean at the end of the lane becomes an homage to childhood curiosity and to reckless imagination.

Some years ago while I managed my Kids Newspaper, I came across Niel Gaiman Quotes from his Book and shared across blogging on this. Here’s to begin with Quote series with Neil Gaiman Book Quote on Page 13 : “I Lived in Books more than I lived anywhere else” which, appropriately resembles to most of us – the avid Readers.

Some more quote of Niel Gaiman that I came acros:

“Books were safer than other people anyway.”

pg. 9

“I lived in books more than I lived anywhere else.”

pg. 13

“I do not miss childhood, but I miss the way I took pleasure in small things, even as greater things crumbled.”

pg. 149

I’m sure many savvy readers can relate to this:

“Growing up, I took so many cues from books… They were my teachers and my advisors.”

pg. 77

“I liked myths. They weren’t adult stories and they weren’t children’s stories. They were better than that. They just were.”

pg. 53

“Adults follow paths. Children explore.”

pg. 56

“I went away in my head, into a book. That was where I went whenever real life was too hard or too inflexible.”

pg. 58

This quote is a favourite of mine, as it draws parallels to Neil Gaiman’s Make Good Art speech:

“I make art, sometimes I make true art, and sometimes it fills the empty places in my life. Some of them. Not all.”

pg. 4

“A story only matters, I suspect, to the extent that which people in the story change.”

pg. 170

And, my favourite line of all, as told by Old Mrs. Hempstock to our confused and misguided narrator…

“You don’t pass or fail at being a human, dear.”

pg. 175

“Fairy tales are more than true: not because they tell us that dragons exist, but because they tell us that dragons can be beaten.”

― Neil Gaiman, Coraline

“Have you ever been in love? Horrible isn’t it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens up your heart and it means that someone can get inside you and mess you up.”

― Neil Gaiman, The Kindly Ones

Sometimes you wake up. Sometimes the fall kills you. And sometimes, when you fall, you fly.”

― Neil Gaiman, Fables & Reflections

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Back to School:15 rules to make best of School days

It’s Back to School time again for many Free Souls. It is said “Don’t change with the change but Change before the change” and so, begin well to end well to trail behind the grudges against the educational system. The right way is a regular routine schedule avoiding Homework hassles by saying “I Can” and “I will” instead of relying on shoulders of others for help. Try it your way and you succeed. All a Free soul student needs is to decide and make up his mind to face the challenges ahead. Have fun, enjoy life and follow the simple 15 rules of success to make best of your school days.

– Editor, Kidsfreesouls

15 rules of success to make best of your school days

1.Set aside regular Homework time. A predictable routine habits to follow lessons taught in school

2.Build confidence. Don’t let your spirits run dry. Be positive with a belief that you can achieve your goal. Think, analyze and say to you “I can do it on my own”

3.Stuff your tools box with pencils, erasers, sharpeners, etc and stock it up so as not to waste your time and energy. Set your mood right with the right stuff.

4.Feel the Excitement. Just don’t sit there and get let down. Engage in creativity, set your own group of friends and try out something new to impress all.

5.Keep friends. Grow with friends – share, care and enjoy. Keep the old, welcome the new. Add more and more friends to your list.

6.Make use of your School Library if you have one. Over and above, imbibe reading habits for an hour during the day, any time.

7.Dream. Let your imagination soar you to heights. Think and write down what you can vision.

8.Organize your day. Your time will be stretched between classes, friends and extra curricular activities. So play cool. Get your self Organized.

9.Join in the fun at clubs, sports, projects, events etc. Be enthusiastic. Participate and learn.

10.Write your right way out. Express joys, experience, dreams, frustrations, emotions, poems, stories or just anything. Just write away using the words you know and you will learn some new too!

11.Set your goals. Big or small, short or tall. Goals fulfil your dreams. Try to reach the moon and in the process you can catch some stars too.

12.Learn something new. Engage in extra activities like Music, dance, drawing computers etc. Relax your mind and nurture your talents.

13.Understand your duties. Don’t disagree but obey to what elders say. See to their point of view and find solutions for your problems.

14.Volunteer and see how you can help others. God helps those who help themselves and others too.

15.Be a Friend to your Teacher and Parent if you want to achieve the best. Be an apple of their eye.

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Back to School:Tips for Parents – Stay connected

TIPS FOR PARENTS: 

STAY CONNECTED WITH YOUR KIDS ROUTINE

Back to School and time for Parents to stay connected. Apart from routine Education, host of activities are conducted in schools.When classrooms and playing fields are based on cooperation rather than competition, children feel better about themselves. It is said, Competition is to self-esteem as sugar is to teeth. It is important to remember that Children succeed in spite of competition, not because of it!

Competition often makes kids anxious and that interferes with concentration. Second, competition doesn’t permit them to share their talents and resources as cooperation does, so they can’t learn from one another. Finally, trying to be Number One distracts them from what they’re supposed to be learning. It may seem paradoxical, but when a student concentrates on the reward (an A or a gold star or a trophy), she becomes less interested in what she’s doing. The result: Performance declines.

Whatever be the reason, parents need to raise a noncompetitive child in a competitive world. How? This remains to individual psychology. Be aware of your own power as a model. Avoid comparing the child’s performance and Stay connected – Connected to the Teacher, Connected to the child. Keep a track of routine Education and Activities and raise happy, healthy, productive children.

Interaction with the Teacher: At the beginning of the school, make sure to meet the Teacher and find out the homework assignments she intends to chart out for the class.

Her regularity in assignments, expectation and time frame to complete the assignment. If the child grips with the homework phobia, find the reason and straighten up things.

Set aside regular homework time: Find the predicted time and form regular habit of settling down to their studies. Check out the time required to finish the work as hurried or delay tactics in homework will not get desired results.

Material: Offer the required material to the child and teach to be neat and tidy. Sharpened pencils, erasers, books should be handy. Assign the work when the child is in good mood, energetic and eager.

Appreciation: Praise and motivate your kids. Give rewards to encourage conscientious work. Offer to take the kid out for a weekend if he gets the work done every night. Cheer up the child and build confidence instead of showing grudge for the work due to lack of time, understanding or interest.

Interact: Keep your contacts live with other parents. If your child cannot meet the assignments, find what the other parent has to say about it. If the child finds homework difficult, find out the reason and sort for a solution with the teacher.

Reading time: Use a regular Reading session, write stories, practice maths or spellings. Research indicates that students who consistently read and are read to become better readers. Children who make a regular habit of writing and spelling in ‘real writing’ are more likely to retain words.

Analyze Results: Sometimes children adopt the stereotype system of performing the task of homework. Teachers too take the corrections easy after a few days. Hence, cross check the child whether the assignment done by him is understood and also make sure what the teacher has assigned the work for the day and whether it is checked and corrected the next day. Insist on the Teachers’ signature so as to ensure that the child do not lag behind.

Pic : Mansi Patel and Ilaxi Patel with a student of Swagat Children Library

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Back to School:Handwriting and You

Hand writing & You!

Who said Gandhiji wrote better? No, he didn’t!

He himself quoted, “Bad Handwriting is the sign of incomplete Education”

Watch out! Examination phobia grips frenzy in panic to answer all the quizzled questions that are asked from the extreme corners of the text book with faintest ideas that the question might be even asked! This is Examination, examining your wits, examining your memory power, examining your knowledge or one might say examing one’s Luck. Moreover, the most boring part for some is writing. Who said Gandhiji wrote better? No, he didn’t! He himself quoted “Bad Handwriting is the sign of incomplete Education” It is not a part to be neglected if you want to impress the examiner or the teacher who is going to correct your paper. Imagine the workload, the bunches the examiner has to correct and than, if your messed handwriting are fainting, scratchy and bad as ever, even though the answers are right, it might land you in trouble to score less marks. Examiners are not computerized brains but have to correct your answers manually, isnt this true? Well, whatever maybe the case, Your Handwriting is the reflection of your thoughts. It reveals your character. As said “Thoughts are formed with words, Words with letters, The melody of thoughts and words, combines to form handwriting with sentences.” Good handwriting is easy to read, quick to write and good to look at. As studies show, Bad handwriting is the visible evidence of imperfect thinking. Difficulty in handwriting can hamper thoughts and limit fluency. Careless writing is a sign of discourtesy and disinterest making it an illegible scrawl, difficult to read. Hence, it is necessary to possess the quality of legibility, fluency and beauty. However advanced technology surges ahead, a quick handwritten note is always easier to pen down. Writing unhurriedly enforce discipline in one’s thoughts.

There are many more factors for consideration for better Handwriting. The right selection of pen, pencil and paper, holding the pen, placement of paper, sitting posture, source of light, movement of pen, relaxed state of mind, right adoptive system of flow, etc are the few very important factors to be considered for handwriting. To sum up about Write Better in brief, a simple Kids Free Soul tip “Open up and widen your doors of imagination” Think Fast, Be aware, Read and be literate, than you can write, Write better, Write fast!

The simple rules for Better handwriting

Be Legible : Write to be read

The prime purpose of writing is to read. It crystallize one’s thought as a means of communication. The letters should be easily and accurately recognized. The message too should be very clear. Unreadable material cause strain to the reader, cause misunderstanding, delay and above all, leaves a negative impression on the mind.

Be Fluent : Get the speed, don’t be rough

It is necessary to write reasonably fast rather than snail writing. Writing skills need to be mastered as the written material in today’s time has considerably doubled requiring more time and speed. Hence, write fairly quick but keep a watch that your handwriting is legible so as to be eligible. Writing should be with interest, pleasurable, without strain and written in a relaxed mood.

Beauty : Be an Impressive writer

Beautiful handwriting impresses the reader. Be a beautiful writer as it is an object of admiration. It is a visual treat and feasting to the eye of the reader. It reveals personal taste and preference. Calligraphy or artistic handwriting is not required in day to day writing but simple, graceful hand written work is more attractive. It exposes clarity and is catchy to the eye.

HANDWRITING MYTHS

Handwriting : Large Letters indicate an outgoing, positive person, friendly, sympathetic and helpful. Large writing reveals an extrovert personality. Indicative of a restless nature and a lack of depth in thinking sometimes.

Small letters are produced by negative persons. They tend to be slow in responding to other people’s needs and feelings. Cold and logical, these people are likely to have a scientific bent of mind. Writing which is very small, almost difficult to read, reveals a highly introverted person. Inward looking and reserved, this person seems to be non communicative. Not likely to have close friends.

Medium size letters are produced by people of average tastes, accomplishments and abilities. Though they may not unduly exert themselves to help you, we find them easy to get along with. Practical, concerned with materialistic things rather than spiritual or aesthetic.

Letters of variable sizes represents an immature personality. Incapable of indecisive thinking and action, ready to believe others, tends to be self centered to the point of being childish.

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Back to School:Making Connections

John Watson, the American psychologists and father of Behaviorism sets down in his theory saying ‘Learning is conditioning.’ The kid is to be motivated to be a Genius and this is where the ‘Temperament style’ of every kid needs a keen observation from the very start. Create a Genius in your child and you find all the answers to ‘How’ in this article. (In Guardian of Angels)

Kids have their own dreams and aspirations. Know the child, support them and let them think creatively. Build a bridge of communication with the teacher as most of the hours, the teacher helps the child to learn and grow.

The child needs not only the love and affection from parents and teachers but also need to set their goals and fulfill them.

One thing really important for a child is Making connections. Children do make friends on their own but yet, a parental guiding help can add to his positive friendship :

1. Help the child to be friendly. Simply listening or talking, sharing and appreciating the other and even sharing alikeness – for a video game or a even an activity in class.

2. Help the child to compete – In the sense, master the skills the others have and admire. Be it playing a keyboard or guitar, playing sports or arts.

3. Avoid being negative and impulsive. Listen to the child on what he has to say of his friends rather than stop him and showing your distaste of his friend. He may strong feel of his friend that you don’t, maybe.

4. Help the child to solve conflicts. Social skills are necessary as they can learn to settle themselves at times of disputes with others.

5. Don’t involve in small arguments of children. If they go physical, take your stand. Let the kids work out on their own.

6. Let the kids practice co-operation and understand feelings of others.

7. Help the kids to share, care and be kind and gentle with friends.

8. Know your child’s friends. Invite them for play, birthday celebrations, etc.

This way, a parent can know of how well your child’s friends are and also learn from their positive ways to help your child set example. If your child has a bad friendship, it makes you alert to guide.

As for the teachers, it’s the first few days to be like the acronym, “KISS” – Keep it Simple Stupid! Teachers can adopt innovative ideas at the start of the school and make learning fun. Encourage reading habits on daily basis in the classroom and even at home. Even follow up with a para handwriting practice everyday. This will help weaker children to learn faster. Above all, routinely writing book reviews per week and making journals. Encourage them to write simple jot downs and you can make Kids Blogs with Google sites – a sure fire-way to lift up the spirit of the children.

Teachers can write ‘welcome letters to children’ and invite parents to describe their child by simply letting them jot down on ‘Child Development Review’ – some points to fill as below note:

1. Describe your child

2. What are your child’s strengths

3. What are his hobbies – What he has been doing lately?

4. Does your child have any special problem or disability? Mention.

5. What concerns you have about your child?

6. What other activities does he attend apart from school?

7. Mention what improvement you require in your child.

This will give an insight to know the child, about their learning abilities and methods to adopt while dealing with children. Some kids are fast learners whereas some are branded as slow snail learners. What is required is to identify their weaker areas and diagnose their learning disabilities to apply strategies to combat difficulties.

More, it’s to be friendly with kids. Keep the communication live and keep the perfect ‘Discipline’ in own self as well as the Class.

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Honing skills – Sports spirit

   

Sky rocket your child’s Sports Spirit with the Lessons that teach the basics of Winning and losing Edge. Sports build characters and helps to develop important skills. Sports spirit hone the kids Mental and physical attitude to stand and face up challenges in life. Kids learn confidence, discipline, concentration and moral values as they get to learn the various Sports activities involved to nourish their talents.

So, what should be the parental role in a situation when a child lose a game ? How will you encourage the child and make him sporty ?

Read Guardian of Angels – an Article in Lifelong Learners, Chapter 5 which gives insight and guidelines to Parenting role to hone skills, build sports Spirit.

Representational pic – Hridaan, SCL student who is a Sports child – a #Swimmer #Tennisplayer and loves #Reading, #playing, #traveling and #Music.

The Article is not available on #kidsfreesouls, so you need to grab a copy of my #book Guardian of Angels. However, you can find similar guidelines in my Counseling column at kidsfreesouls to Sarah whose child failed in School Field Day Sports and got mentally upset.

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Dad ‘A role model’ – new Parental Concern

Promote physical, spiritual, intellectual & emotional well being to children. Children progress in a ‘free’ atmosphere with a supportive influence of parents motivating and encouraging them to pursue their goals. A Dad is the ‘Role model’ who deligently offers love, understanding and wisdom in a child’s development stage.Today’s preparation determines tomorrow’s achievements.

It’s time to set rules and adhere to Time management skills and follow the four P’s – Plan Purposefully, Prepare Prayerfully, Proceed Positively, Pursue Persistently.  The proof lies in the pudding. Offer the child an Alternative Education, a commitment, hard work, responsibility, learning the basic skills of reading and writing at own pace with creativity and open minds in open surroundings in tune to environment, blooming naturally!

Keep the Faith! – ilaxi patel

DAD – THE KING OF THE PALACE



New Parental concern – Dad ‘A Role Model’

Being a Dad is boundless love and enthusiasm. From the development stages to education, the role of father is equally important as to a mother. The commitment stands joint efforts to give the best to the children for their better future. As a father spends more time with his children, he becomes more competent; as he gains more experience and he feels more confident; as he begins to sincerely enjoy his time with his children. It’s more likely that he’ll want to continue spending time with them. As parents work towards equilibrium in their households, they experience parenting as teamwork. A father’s involvement changes through all the seasons of parenting. Issues of teenage freedom, boredom or career selections stand for a great choice where a parental guidance is most required. A father is a bread earner and so does a working mom strive to get involved as to the needs of the kids. It’s prime importance for Dads to get involved in the day to day affair of making the kids grow up gracefully. Sometimes, the father is with a tug of war and the mother gets exhausted and frustrated for not getting the proper involvement of the father in family problems related to kids. It is during these times how to raise the youngster and share the values that are more a need of the hour. Parents typically pass on their values not so much by talking about them as by applying them to real situations in family life. Children learn quickly what kinds of behavior their parents approve or disapprove. In being strict about some things and permissive about others, parents are making implicit statements about their own values and the ones they want their children to adopt.

A Dad who is very strict about a child being tidy or dressing in some socially approved while showing little concern about how the child spends free time or when the child goes to bed, may be advertently declaring that superficial appearances and social conformity are of primary importance to the family. Parents who stay relax about the neatness of a child’s room, but firm on the seriousness of getting homework done, are likely to be expressing the high value they place on education and matters of the mind. In today’s time, tuition teachers play in a role which sometimes go adverse as a parent relax and follow the routine homework pattern, missing out the real education in the process as the kids turn out to be only mugging champions to score those A plus. It is a fact that almost a child will adapt to parental values, but the child will not necessarily internalize them, take them for his or her own, for life. There has to be a bond of trust between the parent and child, especially the father. As a child grows up, they become quite adapt at recognizing uncertainly and confusion in their parents’ value system and can become disenchanted with following the rules when deeds do not match words.

A sense of self affirmation, self respect and self esteem is the most valuable gift a parent can ever give to his child. From the good self feelings springs all his qualities of lovingness, of humanity, of the enjoyment of harmonious relationships. A child tends to follow the patterns of ‘self fulfilling prophecy’ which means, kids usually behave as we expect or rather fear, they will have. If we teach the kid what to do and what not, we always fear the worst and cloak our attitudes in disapproval, telling him often enough how rotten he is, our attitudes are likely to be reflected in the child’s own behavior and self image. Remarks cuts deep wounds which fills the kid with shame and guilt, quite often. Unburdened by the weight of disapproval and expected failure, they learn to face each new experience in life with the good feelings and positive outlook generated by their previous experiences. The nagging, negative parental influence can be stifling and stunting. It is hard for a kid to shake off anxiety about his own competence and ability to function well. This is when a father plays a major role and help the kid out from his groove as attitude block off his capacity to grow intellectually and emotionally and to realize his full potential. It is utmost necessity for a Dad to build a better bridge of communication with the child as most of the time, the king of the palace is away from home. Likewise a working mom. Children often talk like you. They are lifelong learners and need a secure environment with love and acceptance. A child’s desire to learn can be motivated and provide spoonfeed of assistance all along his path of growing up gracefully.

Kidsfreesouls 9 ways may help Dads to stand by moms in bringing up kids gracefully and help the kids to manage their workplace with a positive rewarding experiences.

A dad is the King of the Palace and home is a place where heart is. It is equally important role a Mom plays in nurturing relationships and keeping the family bonds alive when a Dad is busy out earning bread and butter. With more and more couples out at workplace too, it has become very prime importance for the parents to share their love and offer support to the kids in their more vital stages of education and development and make their life flower to bloom in a free atmosphere, learning at their own pace with open minds in open surroundings in tune to present times, quite naturally!

Instill an appreciation of learning : Don’t let education be a mugging experience. Help kids to be aware and informed about themselves and others, the world and its galaxies. Your examples teaches joy, curiosity and love of learning.

Set a good example : Your child will follow the footsteps. So take care, beware! Your kids are not only listening but watching too. Set a good example. When they see you are an ongoing learner reading newspapers, books or mags, the are most likely to read too. If you adopt to vices, the kids too are watching and may follow you. If you are not organized, probably the child will not be organized too. Right at time of exams, the notes will be lost.

Set parameters on study time : Tution teachers are almost not required if a parent can spare an hour or two and help kids with homework hassles and lessons. It’s the time to be set up – time for lessons, reading, homework, television viewing, phone calls, playing a game and so on. If there is unrestricted television viewing or phone privileges, discourage this during study time. Teach the power of uninterrupted concentration. Make regular time for studying.

Converse : While a mom stays busy, a dad can keep the conversation live with the kid and be friendly. Talk ‘what you did in school’ or ‘who are your friends’ or ‘what is your favorite subject and why’ ‘Was the remark or less marks because you didn’t understand or because you were scared’ and such many questions will ease up the child’s fears and open up, speak up to find way with a touch schooling to get those As. A fatherly attitude is important. Never argue with the child. If you are excited about new books, friends, progress, the kids will engage in the conversation and be frank and honest. Allow the kid to express his own ideas.

Influence : Influence plays a big role. Teach the child, time management skills. Coping up with school assignments, friends, extra curricular activities, family and personal time left over is to be pre-determined for an easy flow of the day. Help the kid to list out ‘To do’ things daily or weekly that he wish to accomplish. Set priorities. Highlight the tasks in ‘To do’ list as per most urgent and set schedules and estimate the length of time necessary to perform each task. Long term projects can be broken into fragments in manageable parts so the child can begin on them, not wait until the last minute to do something that can’t be completed in a short period of time.A dad can help out with time management in a systematic manner as he himself has to adhere to perfect schedules of ‘Time Management’ to cope up in his business field.

Homework hassles & help: Parents too become students along with their kids. This can be a frustrating and tension filled experience for both parent and child. Sometimes, moms cannot cope up to help the kids or lack a maths ability, a dad can always spare some time to tackle the tough homework hassles of the child. For whatever reason, if this is not possible, a tution teacher help is a blessing but it is always best to follow up what is taught to the child and be sure that it is not a ‘mugging’ experience. Children do enjoy sorting for a shoulder for help even for the easiest spellings or math problem. Encourage them to learn on own with right methods and tricks of phonic drills or math calculations. Keep in mind you’re your patience is the key to child’s success. Encourage but do not demand for A levels. Let the child feel that you are proud of him and appreciate him with praise for positive efforts for achievements. Do not criticize if the child fails somewhere but be tactful and sure not to name-call a child having a rough time grasping a concept. Avoid saying ‘Do it now’ It is important not to get discouraged or over-excited with child’s progress and these are the trial times for the Dad and Mom as well in nurturing relationship with kids and themselves.

Teacher & tutor ‘business’ meeting : In some cases, Parent-teacher interaction occur for one of two reasons : their child is behaving badly or their child is having serious problems keeping up with the schoolwork. This notion is wrong. A dad should take keen interest in the progress of the child apart from Mom’s active participation. Don’t wait for the teacher’s approach but schedule appointment and take intiative to call on the teacher/tution teacher and know the progress. Speak the teacher’s language and she will report exactly how the child is doing. Do not feel let down or embarrassed if the report is negative but understand the problem and help the parent-teacher method towards betterment of the child. A child’s behavior may be different than that at home, so be ready to face up his educational as well as moral and value learning progress in a supportive manner. Some parents feel ‘My child is the best’ out of love, let this not hinder the child’s development. Sort to ways for positive value based educational feedback.

Goal setting : A dad can be a role model to set the goals for the child. This is a critical key to success. Short term as well as long term goals. Make them choose realistic and attainable but still, challenging goals. Put them in writing and set up a calendar or timetable by which progress can be measured. A child may be able to do part of Piano solo by end of month, further practice for next month can make him play the piece perfect on stage. Check out that the written piece of paper where the child has set his goals is not dumped in a corner of a drawer or thrown in dustbin because this will do no good and you and the child will forget to think further.

Encourage dreams & give rewards : Teaching assertive skills and making the child feel their capabilities is probing their skills individually.Each success stimulates the child’s efforts who soon has a store-house of positive reminders of being capable, a ‘can-do’ person. Moms often get irritant and feel down with failures of the child but failures are not bad sometimes. Failures make kids realize their mistakes and a Dad’s supportive role makes him realize ‘I didn’t study hard enough; I’ll have to watch less tv or talk less on phones now’ or ‘I’ve had headache’ sort of excuse is no good. Children love to dream and dive into fantasy. Let them dream for great chances and inspire them to spring out fruitful results next time. Give rewards but do not make him feel that he has done the best if he has scored lower than A plus. Do not blame the system but encourage him to work harder for those desired A plus.

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