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ADHD Effect Kindle Version Now Available!

FINALLY I can announce that the e-book of The ADHD Effect on Marriage is up and ready for download at Amazon!!!  Soon (but not quite yet, I guess) it will be available for other e-book formats as well.  Yay!

ADHD Effect Audio Chapters for Free Download - I Want Your Feedback!

I want YOUR feedback!  SO many people have asked for an audio version of my book that I decided to do an experiment.  I've put together a version of me reading the first two chapters, which I'm offering for free download to anyone who is a registered user at this site.  I'm asking for your help - would you please give me honest feedback about it?  I'll complete the book if you give the effort a thumbs up.  I'm particularly interested in the feedback from those with ADHD who say they can't get through a book - does this format help?  Please let me know so I can decide whether or not to finish the entire book!  Get the download HERE.

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Gentle Reminder - ADHD Effect Couples Seminar Starts Sept 12

For those contemplating taking the next session of my couples seminar, don't forget it starts this coming Monday evening, September 12th at 8:30pm EST.  Classes are given by phone and recorded, so if you miss one you can listen to it on your own.  This course is a great way to jumpstart change in your marriage - for complete details, including what past participants say about the course (or to register), go to this link.

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Join the Conversation Around ADHD Marriage and Anger

Every once in a while there is a forum discussion happening that is so relevant for so many readers that I note it in my blog and direct people to it.  We have one going on right now about anger and grief that I think is worth your time to read.  And I’ll add a few of my thoughts here:

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The Neuroscience of Negative Thinking

I just came across this excellent article that addresses the neuroscience of negative thinking and what we can do about changing negative patterns of thinking.  Go to this link to read it.  I'll try to post the second segment when it is published.

Time Cover Story Misses ADHD Cohort

The August 8th cover story of Time Magazine was entitled "Chore Wars" with the subhead "Let it go.  Make peace.  Men and women, it turns out, work the same amount."  But like divorce statistics that are much more illuminating when parsed by cohort (ex: couples who married young are more likely to divorce than those with college degrees who married later) so, too, are chore war statistics.

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The Joys of Finding Yourselves Again

A woman who took one of my couples courses wrote to me to give me an update on how well she and her husband are doing.  Since I often have requests from readers at the site to hear about the positive changes couples can make, I thought I would share some of her words.  Of particular interest to you all, I think, will be what she writes about her children - if there were ever a reason to be inspired to take chances on change, this is it!

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ADHD Effect Wins Gold Medal

I'm delighted to announce that The ADHD Effect on Marriage won the Book of the Year gold medal for best new psychology book released in 2010 from Foreword reviews.  (It was also a finalist for the USA Booknews best non-fiction book of 2010.)  If you haven't read it yet, consider getting a copy - just click on "buy now" at the left to go to Amazon.com.

Five Quick Ideas about What "Doing Better" Really Means in a Relationship

Anna Quindlen, at this year's Grinnell College graduation ceremony, said "This is a moment to consider what 'doing better' really means."  She was referring to how we think about personal success, but I think the quote is just as relevant to relationship success.

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ADHD and Marriage: "I'm NOT Rejecting You, Really!"

I ask couples to clarify their personal boundaries so that they are more likely to work as partners.  When you first start this process, though, it can feel as if you are getting “rejected,” particularly if those boundaries have to do with intimacy issues.  Let me help you understand why setting boundaries is an affirmation of your relationship, not rejection.

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