Melissa Orlov's Blog, page 82

Time Warp - Time Differences between ADHD and Non-ADHD Spouses

I just read a terrific article about how to better understand your ADHD or non-ADHD partner's sense of time - since it is most likely different from yours!  Yours, Mine and Hours can be read at this link and is well worth the few minutes it takes to read it.

This Year's Virtual Conference Looks Great!

This is the fourth year of Jennifer Koretsky's Virtual ADHD Conference and I have to say that I think the agenda looks great.  Experts will be talking about ADHD across all stages of life with, most important for readers of this site, good information about adult ADHD.  Examples:

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How Do We Tell 'Normal' Anger from 'ADHD Anger'?

In a recent class I was asked this interesting question by a non-ADHD husband (who also happens to be a therapist) - "All couples experience anger - so how do you tell anger that is related to ADHD apart from normal anger?"  Great question!

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What Does Having ADHD Feel Like?

Dr. Ned Hallowell has just written a terrific piece on what it's like to have ADHD for the Huffington Post.  You can just feel that ADHD energy in his writing!  To read it, go to this link.

ADHD Effect on Marriage Couples' Self Study Course Finally Available!

Couples who are struggling with the impact of ADHD in their relationship will be delighted to hear that I have just completed an in-depth self-study course that can help them turn their marriage around.  Based on the live ADHD Effect seminar that I have been giving for several years, the self-study course is designed to help you finally move away from the destructive patterns you've developed in your relationship - even if you feel you're really in a rut.  It's an intensive course - including seven lectures, notes pages, worksheets, homework and specific readings all designed to move you from where you are now to a better, more caring and less ADHD-impacted relationship.

This is a course that changes lives, and now you can do it at your own pace.  (Read more below)

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Parenting Kids with ADHD

I know this is a blog about marriage...but many of you have kids with ADHD and are looking for good sources of information about parenting and ADHD, too.  Dr. Ned Hallowell recently gave a radio interview on this topic.  The parenting introduction (by the interviewer) is good, too - and quick to read.  You can find both at this link.  Enjoy!

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Tonight - Webinar on Finding the Positives in ADHD/Non-ADHD Relationships

Zoe Kessler and I are doing one more webinar tonight (Thursday, May 24 at 8:00pm eastern time).  This time it's on finding the good stuff in your relationship and how we can bring out the best in you and your loved one!

During our webinar, we'll:

- re-discover what each partner brings  to the relationship

- discover some new ways to bring out the best in you and your loved one!

- iinvite you to share your positive stories

- remind each other of opportunities and possibilities

It's free, but pre-registration is necessary so we can send you the calling information.  To register, go to this link.

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Finances - Getting the Conversation Going

The New York Times recently published an article about the importance of having conversations about how money is being spent before you're in an emotional situation.  This only makes sense to me - it's just another version of "coordinate, don't dictate" that comes with partnership rather than the parent/child version of dictating or delegating.  Conversations around money, if done right, can also be a time to dream a little bit, especially if you're talking about travel, vacation or retirement.  Even if you are fighting, can you find common ground in shared dreams of a possible future together?  Stephanie Sarkis is also a good resource if you are thinking about money...she is the author of ADD and Your Money (her site is here).

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Podcast Available for Anger and Marriage Talk

Zoe Kessler and I tackled the topic of ADHD, marriage and anger from two different perspectives - that of an ADHD adult (her) and that of a non-ADHD adult and marriage expert.  We had an interesting conversation around the biological side of ADHD anger - what that feels like, for example - and the environmental side of marital anger (as in "I can't believe my non-ADHD partner is on my case AGAIN!!" and "I can't believe my ADHD partner dropped the ball again!!")  It's useful to realize that anger in your relationship comes from different places.  You can get the link to the podcast from Zoe's blog, here.  We're on again on Thursday, May 24 at 8pm talking about finding the positives in ADHD relationships.  I'll post registration information as soon as it's available.

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Free Webinar on ADHD and Anger THIS THURSDAY NIGHT

Psych Central is hosting a free webinar with Zoe Kessler and I this Thursday, May 10 at 8pm eastern time.  The topic?  ADHD and anger in adult relationships.  You can find out much more at this link, including how to register so they can send you the connection information.  Zoe's got some terrific insights into anger and ADHD from the ADDer's point of view, and of course I had personal experience with lots of anger as a non-ADHD spouse.  So it should be an interesting and lively conversation.  Hope you can make it!

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