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Aliens! Predators!

We bought the Alien-Predator Total Destruction Collection today...I forgot about the nigh...no, totally unwatchable Predator 2. 

It really amuses me that Alien in French is called Alien Le 8e Passager (the 8th passenger. I wonder where the 'N' came from in English?)

My wife and I watch a lot of South Park, so we're constantly quoting, "They mostly come at night. Mostly." But as a South Park, not Aliens, reference. I don't think we've ever watched an Alien movie together. That ends now!

Hot Damn!

Seriously, this is so far up my alley that it comes out the other side.

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BDSMonday - Wax Play

It’s BDSMonday!
Today’s topic is wax play.

First, I have to put on my little safety hat (okay I’ve used that a couple of times now and I think it deserves a picture. Suggestions for how my safety hat should look?) There is a lot of information about wax play on the internet, so I’m not going into too much detail, but here are a few key points and tips I’ve found useful.The most important thing to remember when playing with wax is temperature. There are a couple of things that effect temperature: type of wax, height, and colour. The darker or more intense the colour, the hotter the wax is going to feel on someone’s skin. It’s probably best to avoid metallic wax entirely, because it’s going to have a really high melting point, aaaaaand it’s likely to contain some things you don’t really want to put on your skin.
The type of wax is also very important. There are lots of wax melting charts out there, but, for common around-the-house waxes, soy is on the low end, paraffin is in the middle, and beeswax is hot. It’s tempting to use beeswax because it smells nice and it’s natural, but it can do some serious damage. The distance the wax falls between its source and the person’s skin will also make a surprising difference when it comes to temperature. The farther wax falls, the cooler it’s going to be when it hits. No matter what type of wax you’re using, even if it has a really low melting temperature, keep some cool, damp towels close at hand, just in case you do end up creating a hot spot that needs relief. In my experience, be careful with the belly button. Wax can pool in there and cause a burn, even if the wax itself isn’t that hot. The heat just stays trapped.
Also, I have to note—wax is messy. It’s a good idea to put something plastic under the area you’ll be playing and then be very verycareful if you’re using open flame (which, y’know, you should be anyway…) I’ve just put a sheet down before, and the wax went right through it. Wax is cunning. It will get everywhere.
Okay, now that we’ve gotten that out of the way…
There are lots of different ways to play with wax. I’ve personally done or witnessed three, so that’s what I’ll talk about.
1.       Drip, drip drip. This is holding a lit candle over a person and letting the droplets of wax fall on them. One of the advantages of this type of play is that it’s really easy to adjust the height of the candle, making the sensation more or less intense by raising or lowering the candle. You also have pretty good control over where the wax is landing, if you want to make a pattern or avoid a certain area or something. Personally, I get very irritated by this method. It itches and stings and makes me grumpy, but I know people who swear by it. I think it could be quite sensual using wax with a really low melting point, but I haven’t tried that.

2.       Pour. Heat some blocks of wax (or candles, but you’ll want to fish the wicks out) in a pot or crockpot—the advantage of a crockpot is that it’ll keep your wax warm, and you can set it directly on the floor. Then, you pour it onto the person you’re playing with.  You can pour directly out of the (crock)pot, but I personally am a little leery of that. It seems like it would be way too easy to pour too much, and you don’t have great control of where the wax is landing. I actually bought a ladle specifically for wax-pouring. It has a little notch for pouring, and it only holds so much wax at a time.

3.       Torch and pitchfork. Definitely the most dramatic version of wax play. The way I’ve seen it done is with a chef’s torch. You just hold your block of wax (or candle) and let it drip onto the person you’re playing with. It’s less of a drip…drip…drip than just lighting a candle wick, and you still have good control over where the wax lands and the height it falls from. I’ve only seen this type of wax play demoed, so I can’t say too much about it.
Vanilla Corner:
This is a new feature I’m adding to BDSMonday, for those who like to read about BDSM, but maybe aren’t into “the lifestyle” (imagine a lot more quotes around that, because that’s how seriously I can take people who say, “I’m part of the lifestyle”). It might not be every week, but I’ll try to include it as often as possible. If anyone has thoughts about how vanilla ties in with the week’s topic, I’d love to hear it!As I mentioned earlier, soy has a very low melting point. In small, careful amounts, I think even a complete non-masochist could enjoy having some soy wax melted on them for a bit of spice in the bedroom. I really enjoy using soy, and it’s great for beginners.
If you’re not sure if you can handle soy, there are also massage candles. They melt just above body temperature, and can be poured straight onto skin after melting without worrying about burns. That way, you can have the sexy, “I’m pouring candle wax onto you” without, “Ow! You’re pouring candle wax on me!”Any of the three methods I listed should work with massage candles, though to melt them you’ll have to dig them out of their tins, and to use a torch you’ll have to dig them out of their tins, melt them, and then pour them into some sort of mould you can pop them out of as a block.
Combo bonus! Use wax after spanking, caning, or your favourite form of percussion play--it feels like acid. Wonderful acid. 
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Thanks

It's amazing how often in my life, every time I'm feeling really down and crappy, someone will unexpectedly and unprompted say exactly what I need to hear. I might not have heard from that particular person in months.

I just want to thank those people for showing up right when I need them. 
It's not just one person, and I'm not going to point anyone out. My ex-farrier once told me that you shouldn't tell people they've saved your life, because it puts an uncomfortable burden on them, and I think this is a small example of the same principle. 
Thank you, for always appearing. 

The Art of J.C. Leyendecker

Lots of artists can fill their work with aching homosexual tension, but no one else can make the impending sodomy look quite as classy and exquisitely dressed as Leyendecker can.” - source

Before Rockwell, a Gay Artist Defined the Perfect American Male "Nobody had to tell J.C. Leyendecker that sex sells. Before the conservative backlash of the mid-20th century, the American public celebrated his images of sleek muscle-men, whose glistening homo-eroticism adorned endless magazine covers. Yet Leyendecker’s name is almost forgotten, whitewashed over by Norman Rockwell’s legacy of tame, small-town Americana.
"Rockwell was just an 11-year old kid when Leyendecker created the legendary “Arrow Collar Man” in 1905, used to advertise the clothing company’s miraculous detachable collars. One of America’s first recognizable sex symbols, this icon of masculinity was defined by his poise and perfection, whether on the sports field or at the dinner table. Like the Gibson Girl, the Arrow Collar Man developed a singular identity, equal parts jock and dandy, who supposedly received more fan letters than silent film heartthrob Rudolph Valentino. To top things off, Leyendecker’s men were often modeled after his lover and lifetime companion, Charles Beach, making their secret romance a front-page feature across the U.S."

- continue reading this article by Hunter Oatman-Stanford in Collectors Weekly.

(Reblogged from Tumblr)

Review: Locking Horns by Kay Berrisford

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4 1/2 stars. 
I won this book, and I was thrilled! It sounded really interesting and I wasn't disappointed. The mythology of the story is comfortable and familiar without seeming stale. 
I really enjoyed Herne and Tam's relationship (not just the naughty parts--but those are HOT!) Their worries and concerns about each other are very realistic and well-explored, with a satisfying resolution. 
A lovely blend of fantasy, romance and erotica, with just enough kink to make me perk up and have my mind spiralling off in interesting directions. 
I can't wait to read the others in this series (after which, I'll probably track down more of Kay's writing). 
I loved the use of antlers in the story...I might be a sucker for men with (eroticised) antlers...

BDSMonday - Kinky Music

Here's a list of kinky songs I've compiled over the years. Some of them are in-your-face, actually written about BDSM, while others remind me of BDSM in some way.

This isn't necessarily the best playlist to use for scenes or play parties, at least not for me. For one thing, the mood and intensity is all over the place. I like to use music without lyrics, usually classical, for private scenes.

I made a CD for play parties a few years ago, that starts off with gentle, quiet music, builds, and then softens again.

If anyone has other songs that are overtly kinky or inspire kinky thoughts, I'd love to hear them!



Tool - Stinkfist
Bill Withers - Use me Up
Warren Zevon - Hostage-o
VAST - Pretty When You Cry
Audioslave - #1 Zero
Tool - Prison Sex
Tom Lehrer - Masochism Tango
Tiger Lillies - Moon over Soho
Three Days Grace - Pain
Smash Mouth - Diggin' Your Scene
Skillet - Locked in a cage
Simply Weasels - Love Hurts
Seether - FMLYHM
Nofx - Vanilla Sex
Rammstein - Mein Teil
- Bestrafe Mich
- Stirb Nicht Vor Mir
The Pretenders - Bad Boys Get Spanked
Placebo - This Picture
A Perfect Circle - Pet
NOFX - Cool and Unusual Punishment
Nickelback - Next Go Round
The Magnetic Fields - Underwear
Madonna - Hanky Panky
LUDO - Love Me Dead
Lords of Acid - ABCs of Kinky Sex
- Spank my booty
- The Power is Mine
London after midnight - The Bondage Song
Lemon Demon - Pumpkin Pie
Justin Timberlake - Sexyback
John Cougar Mellancamp - Hurt So Good
Iron and Wine - Evening on the ground
- Free Until They Cut me down
- Naked As We Came
Inkubus Sukkubus - Vampyre Erotica
Hole - He Hit Me
Hidden Cameras - I Want Another Enema
Guns n roses - Live and Let die
Garbage - Use Me
The Fugs - Boobs a Lot
The Forgotten Rebels - Fuck me dead
Eurythmics - Sweet Dreams
Enrique Iglesias - Love to See You Cry
Depeche Mode - Master and Servant
- Corrupt
Cruxshadows - Chains
The Beatles - Chains
Audioslave - Like a Stone
Assemblage 23 - Dissapoint
- Naked
- Blindhammer
Apocalyptica - I Don't Care
- Hope
Aerosmith - Falling in Love

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Got Something To Tell Me, Mom? Or, Spanking Is A Gateway Drug

I never came out and told my mom, "I'm into BDSM." My mother is many things, but stupid isn't one of them, so she guessed most of it on her own. And there are only so many times you can come home with yeah-those-aren't-hickeys-those-are-bite-marks before a person puts two and two together.

I don't remember the context, but I remember her once telling me that all masochists had been really ill as children. I was tempted to ask, "Soooo... I don't remember this illness, or...?" But I didn't really want to get into it with her. Because, awkward.

She also told me that I shouldn't be kinky, because I would just keep needing more and more until I, I don't know, self-destructed or something.

To that I say (but again, not to her): Life is all about progression. Staying at Level One in any activity gets boring after a while. But just because you've canoed the same river multiple times doesn't mean you're going to suddenly attempt to canoe across an ocean. Sure, play might get more intense, or at least change, over the years, but that doesn't mean that it's going to become dangerous or unhealthy.

Stranger Than Science Fiction

I have a very strange reading habit: I can't get enough of books like Momzillas by Jill Kargman or Notes From the Underbelly (or the sequel, Tales From The Crib) by Risa Green.

It's a total guilty pleasure. My wife thinks it's a little odd (so do I, honestly), but I've reread all three of those books at least once.

Here's why. All of those books are about extremely wealthy women who live in places like New York or L.A., and their experiences of motherhood.

All of those things are so foreign to me that these books are almost like reading science fiction. I've never had a lot of money, nor am I likely to. I'm not going to be a parent. I have no desire to live in a city any bigger than my current one (and honestly, even it's getting a little crowded for me). The problems the characters in these books have are less real to me than a lot of fantasy.

I actually don't read a lot of sci fi or fantasy. I have a few standby favourites in each genre--The Stainless Steel Rat series by Harry Harrison and Spirit Fox by Mickey Zucker Reichert and Jennifer Wingert being a few examples. I do read quite a bit of urban fantasy, though.

(I tried Girls In Trucks, hoping it would be similar. The book wasn't bad, but it also wasn't quite what I was looking for. If anyone has suggestions for more of those kind of books, I'd love to hear them).

Simple Things

Here's a simple little D/s activity my Sir and I like to do: I'll have a bowl of small tidbits (we've used pistachios, grapes and mandarin orange segments so far), and I feed them to my Sr. It's especially fun if the food is something that needs to be shelled or peeled. I do the troublesome preparation, and my Sir can just have the tasty food without having to work for it. 

We both find it very enjoyable, on several levels. For us, it shows submission, love and caring. It's a very relaxing and low-key form of D/s, perfect for watching a movie or just hanging out on the couch. It reinforces our power dynamic without either of us having to expend much time or energy--perfect after a day of work!

What little D/s activities do you like to do?