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The Single Woman’s Sassy Survival Guide: Letting Go and Moving On

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As we weather the choppy waters we call Life, it’s a decision we will face time and time and time again: Do we cling to a situation that’s taking us under out of fear of letting go of the familiar…or do we open our hand and let go of that friendship, that relationship, that job, that opportunity, or that grievance that we’ve been clinging to, realizing that to flail around uncertainly for a season is all a part of discovering our destiny?

“How do you know so much about letting go and moving on?” You might ask. “What makes you the expert?”



Well, I’m not an expert. Let’s get that straight. I’m not a guru. I’m not a psychologist or a psychiatrist or a counselor or a fortune teller or the Great and Powerful Oz.

I am a single woman. Just like you.

Maybe you’re not a single woman – or even a woman. Maybe you’re just someone who needs to release someone or something that’s holding you back from being your best self and living your best life. And that’s okay, too. As I say on my Twitter page and on my website on a regular basis, anyone looking for inspiration and motivation is welcome here. Anyone looking to leave the past behind and shine is welcome here. And anyone who holds out for the best and refuses to settle for less is welcome here. Married, single, female, male, old, young, gay, straight. Come one, come all!

Just like you – I am a friend. A sister. A daughter. An aunt.

I have loved and lost. I have grieved and clung. I have let go and moved on.

Sneakers or stilettos, I’ve been in your shoes…and I know every step of the journey. Perhaps even better than any guru or expert or counselor or fortune teller.

I am the best friend who will tell you what you NEED to hear and not what you WANT to hear. I am the big sister with the shoulder to cry on when it seems like the rest of the world has turned away. I hope to be the Cruise Director who guides you full steam ahead through the often choppy and turbulent waters of letting go and moving on directly to the white sandy beach of life AFTER letting go and moving on. Do you see me? I’m waiting for you there, fruity drink with the little umbrella in hand.

So what does this actually look like, this “letting go and moving on” thing? What are the steps? What does it mean? And how do you know when it’s time to throw in the towel…call it a day…and walk away? In “The Single Woman’s Sassy Survival Guide to Letting Go & Moving On,” we’ll cover the five major areas of life that we often find ourselves needing to let go of: Relationships, Friendships, Jobs, Opportunities, and Grievances. How are we going to do it? By examining the five benchmarks for letting go and moving on: the Who, the What, the Why, the When, and the How. At the end of each chapter, we’ll review the Five Fabulous Finds from that section for you to take away as daily affirmations, pick-me-ups, or sassy reminders to get you off of “What Might Have Been” Highway and back on the road to letting go and moving on.

So sit down with your computer, your iPhone, your iPad, or whatever other technological device you happen to be reading from and let’s have some good old-fashioned girl talk. Kick off your shoes, grab a glass of wine…and let’s turn the page and leave the past behind.

Shall we?

About The Author, Mandy Hale

Mandy Hale is affectionately known around the world as "The Single Woman™.” In less than two years, Mandy has garnered a massive Twitter following of nearly 500,000 people from across the globe.

Recently named a “Twitter Powerhouse” by the Huffington Post and a 2011 "Woman of Influence" by the Nashville Business Journal, Mandy is making a name for herself as the voice of empowerment and sassiness for single women across the globe. Mandy was recently on Oprah's LifeClass Tour as a member of the VIP Press Corps, covering events in St. Louis and New York.

THE SINGLE WOMAN'S SASSY SURVIVAL GUIDE: LETTING GO & MOVING ON has been a consistent best-seller here since it was released earlier this year.

The Long-Distance Relationship Survival Guide

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Skyrocketing phone bills. Layovers and missed flights. Countless hours spent pining, worrying, and wondering, Why do we do this to ourselves? Long-distance love can be one challenge afteranother, but as most committed couples will tell you, the rewards well outweigh the stresses. In this sensitive yet sensible guide, long-distance veterans Chris and Kate provide strategies for making the distance seem shorter and outline eight essential skills for relationship success:Communicating effectivelyEstablishing mutual goals and expectationsDealing with issues of trust, fidelity, and independenceHaving fun in spite of the distanceManaging time, schedules, and stressKeeping the relationship realBalancing sex and emotional intimacyMaking the transition to same-city livingBased on interviews with more than 100 couples and packed with knowledgeable tips and honest advice, THE LONG-DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP SURVIVAL GUIDE proves that, with patience and dedication, a loving relationship can not only survive but also thrive across the miles.

Cheating Spouse – 75 Signs to Watch For

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A cheating spouse or significant-other rarely announces his or her infidelity. You have to figure it out for yourself if you have a cheating husband, cheating wife or unfaithful partner. Sadly, this means indulging your suspicions, even if they might turn out to be unfounded. The potential effects of this are made clear in the introduction to "Cheating Spouse – 75 Signs to Watch For," with this warning:

"This suspiciousness alone can do damage to a relationship as surely as an affair. Be careful using this material. Have a good reason to use it. It is important to know if your significant other is cheating on you. But it is also important not to destroy the trust that a good relationship is built on."



Having been warned, you are then shown how to hunt for the clues, and how to play sneaky tricks to catch a cheater. For example, does she hide her credit cards, or does he hide the phone bills? You'll learn what to look for when you find these clues, and how to lay a trap when necessary.

Have you ever thought to check your spouse's paycheck stubs to see if he is actually working all of the times he claims to be working, particularly the evening and overtime hours? has it occurred to you that if she dresses differently all of a sudden there might be a reason other than a change of seasons? Does he close the screen quickly on the computer when you approach, and do you know how to check up on where he's been online? When she says she's only been to work and back, have you checked the car's odometer to see if the miles driven match that story or tell a different one? What can gas receipts tell you about the possibilities of an illicit encounter?

You are going to become much more aware of what subtle behavioral changes might mean, for better or worse. You are going to learn how to carefully investigate what really going on without alerting your cheating spouse to your suspicions. This short guide does not go into depth on how to become an in-house private investigator. For example, this is the entirety of item number 53, ("She Uses an Implied Defense"):

"Suppose you ask your wife or girlfriend if she went anywhere after work, and rather than answer directly, she says, "You know I like to come straight home." This implies a "no" while subtly announcing that she'll take further inquiry as an attack. Sometimes, when people don't feel comfortable lying outright, they use this kind of "implied defense."

See if you can get a more direct answer, and note how much she squirms as you try. Ask for specific details–ones that you can later independently verify or prove to be invented."

Despite this concise treatment, this informative little report does share more than enough techniques, traps and tricks to get the job done. Watch for some of these the seventy-five signs and apply a few of the associated tips, and you'll be able to confirm or alleviate your suspicions.

Cheating Spouse – 75 Signs to Watch For (10,100 words) is approximately 30 pages.

Is She Cheating? : Crack The Cheat Code And Find Out RIGHT NOW If She Is Cheating Or Not, Why She Cheats, And What You Need To Do Next — Surviving Infidelity (Affairs and Infidelity)

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Surviving Infidelity: Find out right now if your wife or girlfriend is having an affair.

Or thinking about it.

Are you afraid she’s sleeping with another man?

Suspicious she's cheating with someone she met online?

Has something changed in your relationship?

Are you stressed and worried, feeling like you're going crazy, wondering what's really going on?

Here’s How to Find Out if She’s Cheating Right Now:

* Find out if she’s high-risk for an affair, and how to tell if she’s genetically-programmed to cheat

* The real reason she’s not having sex with you

* Why she cheats, how to affair proof your relationships, and how to tell if they’re not just friends.

* Unmistakable signs of cheating, the latest spy gadgets to track infidelity in marriage

* The single best place to look for evidence if you suspect an affair

* How to become a human lie detector: know instantly if she's telling the truth about infidelity or catch her in a lie on the spot

* What you need to do right this minute if you think she's cheating

* The biggest mistake you'll make when confronting her about her infidelity and affairs that can keep you from ever learning the truth

*How emotional affairs can be foreplay for infidelity

* How to move on once you learn the truth about her affairs and infidelity — whether you stay with her or not



50% of men who think their partner is cheating are rightThere's a reason those alarm bells are going off in your head, you can't seem to shake the feeling that something bad is happening.

We know how you feel: You feel sick every time you think about it. You feel betrayed, humiliated and disrespected. What went wrong?

Why is she acting so weird lately?Odd little things leave you feeling unsettled: Sex is different or nonexistent. She keeps mentioning the same guy from work. Her phone is off when you need to reach her. She's distant, disconnected, or picking a lot of fights lately. Maybe you can't quite put your finger on it, but something's off. You can feel it in your gut.

You try to trust her, but you can't help picturing her with another man, maybe someone you know — a friend or the guy at work, maybe even in your own bed.

You're not aloneWhat you need are answers and support —proven advice to find out right now, for sure, if she's cheating on you or not. And more importantly, what you should do next. That’s why Lisa Daily, the sex, emotional affairs & infidelity expert on NBC's DAYTIME show and best selling author of numerous relationship advice books, wrote "Is She Cheating? :Crack the cheat code and find out right now if she is cheating or not, why she cheats, and what you need to do next. It's a detailed, step-by-step plan to finding out the truth about whether or not she's sleeping around, cheating online, or having an emotional affair. Lisa holds your hand every step of the way –from validating your suspicions to gathering evidence to teaching you exactly what to say to get the truth you need.

Not knowing the truth is killing youWorry and fear keep you up at night, making you doubt what’s real and what’s not, making you feel disrespected, humiliated and alone. Your relationship is in trouble. And no matter what you learn when you discover the truth, you can’t continue like this. If it hasn’t already, eventually the stress of the situation will spread like a cancer into every other area of your life – your work, your confidence, your sex life. You can’t go on this way.

Surviving Infidelity: Get Answers Today With The Best Book On The Subject Of Affairs in Marriage

A Woman’s Guide to Forgiving Infidelity – How to Save Your Self-esteem and Restore Trust

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Are you in pain because of infidelity? Whatever your pain, hurt, anger or fear, this book will help you to see what is really going on in your relationship and move forward with peace and love. You will learn how men and women are different and the reasons why some people stray down the path of infidelity. Christina Young's personal story of overcoming infidelity will inspire you. When you follow the techniques and exercises she shares you'll soon be able to let go of whatever has been holding you back and move on with your life. The teachings in this book are based on Christina's qualifications as a relationship counsellor combined with her own real life experience of confronting and overcoming infidelity in her own marriage.

Moving On: Dump Your Relationship Baggage and Make Room for the Love of Your Life

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In this groundbreaking book, authors Russell Friedman and John W. James show readers how to move on from their unsuccessful past relationships and finally find the love of their lives. Demonstrating revolutionary ideas that have worked for thousands of their clients at the Grief Recovery Institute, Friedman and James give readers the strategies they need to effectively mourn the loss of the relationship, while opening themselves up to love in the future. With compassionate guidance, Friedman and James help readers to close a chapter of their romantic past so that they can be ready to begin again.

Letting Him Go…When He Cheats

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This book will provide you with enough information to determine if your man is cheating. You won't waste years of your life with a man to whom fidelity is a foreign word. You will be informed on the best equipment available to quickly discover the truth about your lover. Don't spend another day in the dark wondering what he is doing when you are not around. You know something's just not right; find out now what that something is! Is he really cheating or am I being paranoid? Is he a one-time cheater or a serial cheater? Why is he cheating on me? Should I spy on him? What equipment should I use? Should I hire a private investigator? Should I forgive him? Is divorce a viable option?

If there is any question as to your lover’s fidelity it is definitely worthwhile to find out now if he is cheating on you and save yourself years of agony and heartbreak.

Don’t spend another day in the dark wondering what he is doing when you are not around.

You know something’s just not right; Find out now what that something is!

Find out now if he’s cheating on you with another woman!



Christina James speaks from experience to help you get past the betrayal and start a new life.

Life After the Affair – Survival Guide

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Life After the Affair – Survival Guide. This simple, no non-sense guide gets right to the key steps you must take now to face and successfully survive what may be the most painful experience you'll ever go through – being cheated on. When you find out your partner has committed adultery, your world feels like it has just been turned upside down. The pain and confusion make it very difficult to know what to do next. Without any fluff or psychobabble, this guide brings you the few things you need to know in very easy to understand language so that you can start taking care of yourself, and start to move forward. How do you know if your partner is (still) cheating? You will learn exactly what to watch for, and it's very easy once you know what to look for. These essential tips and suggestions come from real examples and from real people who've gone through what you're going through. What works and doesn't work is clearly spelled out so that you can begin your process of recovery from infidelity while saving time, money, and your sanity in the process. After this process, you may end up with a stronger and happier relationship, or you may end up happier after a divorce – in either case there are important things you must know in order to increase your chances of success in the future.

“…Life After The Affair is a must read for anyone who has been in, will be in, or is presently in a relationship – marriage or not.



George opens our eyes to reality and helps us to cope with infidelity by guiding us into an even better underlying mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual health.

The book provides all the ingredients and areas we all must invest in ourselves to live happy, fulfilling lives. Life is too short not to pay attention! I recommend this book to my patients.”

Susan Kunkel, LCSW

Director, Clinician at the Highland Park Counseling Center, Highland Park, NJ

Therapist (Marital, Family and Individual)

Expert in Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, Depression, and Anxiety Disorders

Former Faculty Member and Director (PTSD) at the UMDNJ Medical School – New Jersey

How to Make a Man Fall in Love with You: The Fail-Proof, Fool-Proof Method

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Forget about learning how to make love to a man. First you have to learn how to make a man fall in love with you.

Book of Us: A Journal of Your Love Story in 150 Questions

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For the diehard romantic, there may be nothing so thrilling as chronicling that one true love. The Book of Us presents 150 topics on the subject–ranging from "Before I met you, my love life was…" to "One of the reasons I think we lasted so long as a couple is that…" Like David Marshall's earlier book, The Book of Myself, which is also a keepsake, this book makes us wish it were prettier. But it is the thought that counts, and a lot of thought will go into turning these empty pages into something a spouse, one's children, and then their children will cherish. And not to fear: While this is a very sweet book, there is also plenty of room here to ruminate on the less saccharine aspects of life partnership: financial crises, humorous escapades, parenting woes, and home-improvement projects. A word to gay readers: One of the book's five sections focuses on "Tying the Knot"; some of the questions specifically address elements such as the bachelor party and the wedding dress, but most of the questions are generic enough to apply to any type of commitment ceremony. –Jane Steinberg