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Text. Love. Power. The Ultimate Girls Relationship Guide for Texting and Dating in the New Millennium

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Text. Love. Power. rejects the idea that women should be open and easy-going with their dates, and orders them to put down the smartphone if they want to get their man.

In this riveting, controversial dating guide for the new millennium, Vanessa Taylor continues the work of Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider, authors of The Rules: Time-Tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right.



Endorsements:

Don't send another text until you read this book cover to cover. Vanessa Taylor will take you all the way to the altar! -Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider, The Rules: Time-Tested Secrets of Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right

Text. Love. Power. is an empowering guide for women in their challenge to find love, commitment and romantic connection with men. The advice is creative, helpful and informative. This book answers any question about texting with men you have ever pondered! -Rhonda Findling, M.A., C.R.C., Don't Call That Man! A Survival Guide to Letting Go

Text. Love. Power. is chock-full of dos and don'ts aimed at shifting the power in dating relationships to women. It's a must-read for every single woman who can't figure out why she's still single. -Dr. Beth Erickson, Marriage Isn't for Sissies, host of Relationships 101 on www.webtalkradio.net

It's critically important for a woman to know that if a man really wants to be with her, he'll find a way. There's no need to chase him; it works better if he makes all the moves. Text. Love. Power. provides the only framework you need to navigate todays complex, rapidly evolving dating scene. Contemporary single women: read this book, play by The Rules, and get what you want. -Donna Marie Thompson, PhD., Bouncing Back Now relationship coach

A must-read for every single gal. What The Rules was to the last century, Vanessa Taylor has updated for today's lady in finding Mr. Right! Sheryl Matthys

Contents:

The hard-to-get girl is born | Meeting Mr. Handsome | Getting Mr. Handsome to ask for your number and call! | Mr. Handsome and his business card | Answer the phone! | To text or not to text? | Does the hard-to-get girl reply to texts? | Texting gone bad | How to stop texting once you start | Online dating and texting for hard-to-get girls | Careful! Texting can lead to sexting | The single texting exception

Can I accept a date via text? | What's considered a date? | What if he's a chatty texter? | What if he leaves a voicemail? | Can I text to confirm our plans? | What if he stands me up? | What if he's late? | What if he cancels? | What if he postpones? | What if he texts after our date? | What if I forgot to thank him? | What if I want to text on a date? | Which texts should I ignore? | What if he stops texting?

Excerpt from Chapter 16:

Countless articles on the internet describe texting situations between men and women. They provide examples of texting etiquette for dating. One advises, It's not okay if a man texts to ask for a date. But, a text telling you that he's running late is fine.

There are two problems with this advice. First, it fails to establish consistency in a relationship. Second, it is piecemeal and promises no specific result. It can be difficult to discern which moves will get the guy, and until now, there has been no system.

Consistency in your relationship yields significant benefits. If you respond to one text and not the other, a man can't understand your standards, much less your motives. When you establish patterns that make a man ask you in a certain way for dates, he will approach other relationship milestones with the same respect: exclusivity, long-term commitment, the marriage proposal.

Transcending Post-infidelity Stress Disorder (PISD): The Six Stages of Healing

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Have you been traumatized by infidelity?

The phrase "broken heart" belies the real trauma behind the all-too-common occurrence of infidelity. Psychologist Dennis Ortman likens the psychological aftermath of sexual betrayal to post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) in its origin and symptoms, including anxiety, irritability, rage, emotional numbing, and flashbacks. Using PTSD treatment as a model, Dr. Ortman will show you, step by step, how to:



• work through conflicting emotions

• Understand yourself and your partner

• Make important life decisions

Dr. Ortman sees recovery as a spiritual journey and draws on the wisdom of diverse faiths, from Christianity to Buddhism. He also offers exercises to deepen recovery, such as guided meditations and journaling, and explores heart-wrenchingly familiar case studies of couples struggling with monogamy. By the end of this book, you will have completed the six stages of healing and emerged with a whole heart, a full spirit, and the freedom to love again.

My Husband’s Affair Became the Best Thing That Ever Happened to Me

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The groundbreaking book on recovering from infidelity and surviving marital affairs…and coming out stronger and more in love than ever. Courageous, bold, honest.

Brian (husband): After nearly two decades of marriage to a sexy, loving woman – with whom I made love almost every night – I came home from work one evening and told her I was moving out, leaving her for another woman. Lucky for me, my wife refused to give up on our marriage. We are now closer and more committed than ever. What you're probably wondering is, if I loved my wife so much, why did I do it? In this book, I have answered that question.



Danielle (teenage daughter): When my father told me he was leaving my mother for another woman, I felt it was me he was abandoning. I wondered "what has my whole life been so far, a joke?" In this book, I share the truth about my feelings

Anne (wife): My Husband's affair became the best thing that ever happened to me, yes eventually, but it was also the most devastating of my life. There was a time when I wondered if I could even live through it.

What people are saying…"Riveting…Mesmerizing…I couldn't put the book down."

"My Husband's Affair" deliberately removes itself from providing "the theoretical and psychological" explanations for the why of infidelity and instead purposes to take readers on a gut-honest, courageous, straight-from-the-heart journey into the lives of a couple/family who endured the aftermath of an affair. A must-read before couples, facing infidelity, make life decisions they may later regret. This book provides an alternative to the expected… hope that it's not over.

Don Huston, BTh, MC, RCC, Couples Therapist

This book makes a wonderful contribution to the growing willingness of couples to "break the code of silence" and share their experience with affairs in order to help others. It offers clear insight into the pain involved as well as great hope for the power to recover and rebuild the marriage.

Peggy Vaughan, author of "The Monogamy Myth" and Host of www.dearpeggy.com

For too long too many have suffered in silence because of the stigma associated with affairs. This book gives an honest look at the reality of betrayal and offers hope through the testimony of one brave couple.

Margie Thaler – A Reader

What a ride! Anne captures her marital journey in a way that leaves you feeling as if you've just completed a double loop on a roller coaster…only to realize there's another one coming! After reading their story, I see Anne and Brian as champions of honesty, commitment, perseverance….and true love.

Monica Columbus – A Reader

He Cheated, She Stayed: How Women Can Get Over Infidelity

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ABOUT THE BOOK

Infidelity is one of those things that you hear about happening, but never suspect will actually happen to you. After seeing portrayals of marital infidelity or cheating boyfriends all over movies, TV shows, books, tabloid magazines and gossip websites, it's hard not to be aware of the problem in a general sense. Chances are high that you know somebody was cheated on by somebody else, or you know somebody who cheated on his or her partner. Maybe the latest infidelity is a favorite focus of gossip between you and your friends or coworkers. But even as you hear stories or read statistics, everything changes when you are actually the person who has to come to terms with the difficult, heart-rending and complex experience of learning that someone you care about has been unfaithful.



The process of fully realizing that your partner has been cheating on you can be a difficult one, whether you have been dating for a few months or married for years. Perhaps you have suspected infidelity, but have tried to stay optimistic and give your partner the benefit of the doubt, or were unable to face the negative consequences of having the affair verified. Maybe you did not suspect any unfaithfulness, and the news comes as a world-shattering shock. There are several signs of infidelity that you can watch out for, to better gauge your spouse's infidelity…

EXCERPT FROM THE BOOK

Children. If you have children together, then the idea of breaking apart a marriage or relationship does not just affect the two of you, it also impacts the lives of your children. Many women will choose to stay with unfaithful partners because they would rather try to make the relationship work than risk hurting their children, whether emotionally or by cutting down on their resources. Divorce can mean having less financial resources, needing to change school systems or move to different cities and spending less time with one parent or the other, all of which can be hard on children. Therefore, some women decide to think of the entire family and work on healing the marriage or relationship.

Stability. Finding out about infidelity is usually enough to shake your sense of stability and confidence, but separating can be even more challenging in this respect. One of the benefits of being in a marriage or long-term relationship is the sense of overall security and having a general sense of how your future looks. Infidelity shakes this vision and may cause you to question certain aspects of your relationship, but for some women, the idea of also ending the relationship is an even bigger loss of stability and peace of mind. In this case, women want to rebuild the stable future they envisioned for themselves instead of starting from scratch with shaky plans. Overcoming the wounds of infidelity is an important first step…

Buy a copy to keep reading!

CHAPTER OUTLINE

Modern Lifestyles: He Cheated, She Stayed: How Women Can Get Over Infidelity

+ Introduction

+ Women Who Stay with Unfaithful Men

+ Rebuilding Your Relationship

+ Common Mistakes and Ways to Avoid Them

+ …and much more

The Soulmate Experience: A Practical Guide to Creating Extraordinary Relationships

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2012 International Book Awards Gold Medal Winner in the "Relationships" category

2012 Living Now Awards Silver Medal Winner in the "Relationships/Marriage" category

Create the Love of Your Life–Keep the Life in Your Love



Single, in a relationship, or married: people of all walks of life and all ages are finding this new book on enlightened relationships inspiring, accessible, and truly transformational. This revolutionary guide will help you create and sustain a relationship that is intimately connected on all levels–emotional, intellectual, sexual, and spiritual–and a continual source of love, inspiration, and joy.

In Part 1, chapters like "Loving Your Body," "Reducing Your Baggage," and "Raising Your Soulmate Potential" will help you release anything that might be preventing you from experiencing a deeply connected relationship. As you read, you will quickly begin to feel more loving and compassionate toward yourself, more connected to those around you, and more confident about and creating your own soulmate experience.

In Part 2, chapters such as "Creating a Context," "Turning Expectations into Invitations," "Transforming the Energy of Jealousy," "Exploring the Edges," and "Connecting on a Soul Level" will give you everything you need to approach even the most challenging aspects of relationships in ways that will actually deepen your experience of love and intimacy. You will discover the secrets to keeping the love, passion, and connection in your relationship fully alive–every single day. And you will learn how to lovingly guide each other to release limiting beliefs, heal the past, rise above perceived limitations, and unlock the potential in every area of your lives.

Whether you're on a quest for your soulmate, looking for deeper connection in the relationship you have right now, or just want to experience much more love in your life, the ground-breaking ideas in this book–and the many stories of real people putting them into practice–will fill you with love, inspiration, and possibility. Because The Soulmate Experience isn't just a book. It's a great way of living life!

About the Authors

Mali Apple and Joe Dunn are the hosts of the popular community "The Soulmate Experience" on Facebook. They have dedicated their relationship to discovering how to keep the magic in any relationship alive. Their greatest joy is inspiring others to bring more of the soulmate experience into all their relationships.

Not “Just Friends”: Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity

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The controversial book that caused a media storm on three continents with its straight-talking “perceptive, blunt, and accessibly written” (Booksense.com) revelations about the new crisis of infidelity.

According to Dr. Shirley Glass, “the godmother of infidelity” ( The New York Times ), people today are cheating on their spouses more than ever before—especially in the workplace. Dispelling common myths with compelling new research and case studies, NOT “Just Friends” is a groundbreaking chronicle of what occurs before, during, and after an affair: the danger signs, the vulnerabilities of even good marriages, and the step-by-step road to healing and protecting monogamy in the aftermath.

Chatting or Cheating: How to Detect Infidelity, Rebuild Love, and Affair-Proof Your Relationship

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Whether you're the one who suspects your partner of cheating, or you're the one who's been engaging in a secret affair, Chatting or Cheating, is designed to take you step-by-step through the process of discovery, confrontation, confession, and healing.

In CHATTING OR CHEATING you'll learn how to…

· Become "affair aware," and stop denying what's really going on.

· Identify the most common INFIDELITY warning signs, breeding grounds, and relationship vulnerabilities.

· Gather the proper evidence and recognize the often subtle clues that your partner is cheating, so you can confront them in the right way and get to the truth as quickly as possible.

· Confess the truth without breaking your partner's heart.

· End the Affair, break the addiction, and stop the obsessing–specific, proven tips and strategies for eliminating unwanted thoughts, moving on, forgiving yourself and embarking on reconciliation with your primary partner.

· Survive the betrayal, heal your heart, and restore the trust, no matter how betrayed and angry you feel, or how impossible it may seem right now.

Repair your relationship, revitalize your romance, create genuine intimacy, and safely love again.

YOU CAN SAVE YOUR RELATIONSHIP AND MAKE IT EVEN BETTER THAN BEFORE!

The good news is that it doesn't have to be the disaster you imagine. Emotional Sex or physical infidelity doesn't need to lead to a break-up or divorce. When handled the right way, the aftermath of cheating can actually strengthen your primary relationship and bring you closer than ever before. Chatting or Cheating, takes you by the hand and guides you through each step required to save your relationship and make it even better than before. You can turn it around and fall in love again. Dr. Sheri Meyers shows you how.

What To Do When Your Spouse Cheats:Take Practical Steps To Survive

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Leigh Richwood wrote this book after navigating through her husband’s affair with bits and pieces of instruction she was able to gather through the process. The author says she wasn’t able to find all the help she needed in one place, which is why she felt inspired to write this book.

Along her journey, Leigh shares many of her own personal experiences to allow readers a a look inside her experience with transitioning through her difficult time and remaining in her words, “complete and whole.”

BOOK DESCRIPTION:

If you even suspect that your spouse is having an affair, get “What To Do When Your Spouse Cheats” right now to help you make the right decisions at the right times.

After the Affair– Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful

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I get letters from readers all the time about this infidelity book — some people think it’s one of the best infidelity books on the market, other readers tell me they felt that After the Affair goes way too easy on the cheater and doesn’t offer enough support to the betrayed.  That said, there is some valuable advice included in the book, and it’s definitely worth a look if you are struggling with putting your marriage back together after your spouse has been unfaithful.

Here’s how the publisher describes the book:

After the Affair teaches partners how to heal themselves and grow from the shattering crisis of an infidelity. Drawing on thirty-five years as a clinical psychologist, Dr. Spring offers a series of original and proven strategies that address such questions as: * Why did it happen? * Once love and trust are gone, can we ever get them back? * Can I—should I—recommit when I feel so ambivalent? * How do we become sexually intimate again? * Is forgiveness possible? * What constitutes an affair in cyberspace?

How to Date Men: Dating Secrets from America’s Top Matchmaker

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I met Janis Spindel a few years back when she organized a slimy speed dating event in NYC for rich guys and young beautiful women. (As screened by Janis herself.)  I was there covering the event with a lot of other love and relationships reporters and media types, most of whom were smart, professional women in their late twenties and early thirties.

The atmosphere of the event was palpably icky; as slimy as legalized prostitution — young, beautiful girls and creepy rich guys, and I felt I very strong desire to pull these twenty year old women outside for a second and say, “You can do better.  Much better.  You’re beautiful, yes, but you’re also talented, smart, and funny.  There’s no reason you should let someone treat you like a commodity.

Beware of this one dear readers.  You too, can do better.

 

The book description says this:

The hardest part about dating is understanding the mysterious inner workings of a man’s brain. How can women know what men are really looking for if men don’t tell them?

They can ask Janis.



With over fourteen years of experience as a professional matchmaker, Janis Spindel has a unique insider’s perspective on contemporary dating culture. All her clients are men, and they tell her exactly what they want in a relationship. Janis offers women a step-by-step plan for winning a man’s heart, such as:

It’s okay to ask a guy for his number, as long as you do it with confidence

Don’t wear your work clothes on a date, ever! Freshen up before meeting a guy

Pay him a compliment? He’s human. He’ll love it.

Entertaining and empowering, What Men Really Want is the next best thing to a private appointment with the nation’s premier matchmaker.