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“Few people have the imagination for reality.”

Quote from Johann Wolfgang von Goethe a German poet, playwright and novelist, considered the greatest German literary figure of the modern era. He died in 1832. The courage to see reality has been around a very long time. Memory screams for interpretation, so it seems. Or does it? And, who should give that interpretation? TheContinue reading "“Few people have the imagination for reality.”"

Mirror Mirror

Introspection — what better way to start a week. Question: Do you envy people who had protective parents? I do. Then, I remind myself I don’t and will not ever know differently. Or will I? Father God tells me time and time again in his love letter written to us all that his love neverContinue reading "Mirror Mirror"

Jewels, Gems & Gunpowder

I would love to hear from you! Sharing Saturday with you. A Jewel: Struggle. Struggle is a gift. Without struggle we would stay the same, wouldn’t we? A Gem: Do you know how to walk away from a destructive childhood? Follow someone that came through it and is on the other side. Metaphorical Gunpowder: IContinue reading "Jewels, Gems & Gunpowder"

F N’ F (Fear Not Friday)

On the discussion of fear — Do you fear success? I was a good daughter. To be a good daughter in the house I grew up in meant I had to allow myself to be brutalized – a lot. I had to accept that I was not loved and smile anyway. I had to hideContinue reading "F N’ F (Fear Not Friday)"

Repentance ~ wHO, Me?

By definition repentance means sincere regret or remorse. Through healing I found myself looking more at my own actions more than looking at the actions of my abusers. It is the only way to heal. If it is the fault of everyone else, how do I have control over anything. Yes, my family did miserableContinue reading "Repentance ~ wHO, Me?"

Book Giveaway | 20 Print Books

##GIVEAWAY | I am giving away 20 paperback books of my newly released book A Prisoner by No Crime of My Own! Noir Memoir True Crime | Buy A Copy Today on Amazon ##GIVEAWAY | My goal is that we be encouraged in heart and united in love.  How to win: Giveaway ends 2/1/2023. Winners will beContinue reading "Book Giveaway | 20 Print Books"

F N’ F (Fear Not Friday)

On the discussion of fear — Do you fear you are like your abuser?

No! Most of us would say. But, let’s look closer.

Do you hate them?

Do you have them on a high pedestal of esteem through your active denial?

I used to smoke. Not that much – about a pack a week. But, there came this time when I was smoking constantly. I hired a hypnotherapist to come to my home to help me rid the disease of cigarettes *(insert smile face here). She began with all of her methodologies to bring under her spell. It didn’t work, so she sat down next to me.

She said, “Jodie, nothing I do will work for you. I am not able to bring you under my suggestion.

Then, she held up a cigarette and asked me, “What does this represent to you.”

My immediate response was, “My father. And, I miss him.”

She wisely spoke, “And I assume it’s not okay to miss him.”

Moral of the story — I don’t smoke any more but I did a lot of habits of my abusers to keep them close to me. After all they were my rule makers, they held the power (then), and they were family.

Be very careful that you are not emulating your abuser.

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An Open Letter: To Those That Harm Children

Your secret is known. I will teach the children you hurt to talk. You will be found out. God is watching. He is the witness to each crime you have committed against a child.

I am going to spend my life telling my story and teaching others that were hurt by you to tell their story.

There is a shift in power coming against you. We will stand. We will talk.

Your secrets will be known.

#tellyourstory #tellsecrets #booklovers #incestsurvivors #csa #pstd healing #cptsd healing #exposeabusers #stophiding #standup #storytelling

God is coming against you and we stand with Him!

The Discernment of Discouragement

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On this journey I’ve had to cast the courage to care so many times. I’ve wanted to quit, give up, stay with inappropriate people and just stop caring.

The more I cared, the more I had to work at discovering the hidden evils around me.

I remember telling Redmond, my counselor of many years, “Can I just stop now?” His response was always the same, “It’s too late for you now, Jodie. You’ve done too much work. You can’t go back.”

I couldn’t go back? Wait, what?

I kind of wanted to from time to time. Denial would quench my thirst to hide.

I remembered the rules of see no evil, hear no evil, and speak no evil and I was breaking them all.

My father came to me in a metaphorical dream last night. In my dream, I wanted him sexually (which was never the case but he wanted me to believe that). I was in his house still and cleaning something up. He was dead in my dream, but came back to life – or so it seemed. He came around the corner and was angry. He was holding me accountable for telling his story. I felt his rush of anger attack me.

I boldly said, “In the name of Jesus, stop.”

In my dream, he vanished.

Discouragement echoes along side the path of healing. Don’t be alarmed when it shows up and tells you that you aren’t really winning.

Silence it’s voice. Speak to it and remind discouragement how far you’ve really come. Remind yourself and the voice that would entangle your growth, how much you’ve already come through.

Speak to discouragement strongly when it comes and shout to it, “I won’t be staying long!”

Teaser Tuesday ~ It’s Here! Order your copy today . . .

The book A Prisoner by No Crime of My Own is now available as an eBook and paperback. The Audible Book will be released shortly. I am so happy to share that it has already been purchased around the world.

My book dedication page:

Ode to the Unknown Woman
We met only once but I never forgot you.
You stayed with me in my dreams.
You prodded me on when I wanted to stop.
You were so beautiful and kind.
You saw me. Thank you for that.
Your story lives on with me.
This labor of love, my last gift I give to thee.
 
 
To my Girls ~ I wouldn’t have made it without you.
To my Grandchildren ~ Generational curses are behind you.
To all survivors of childhood crimes and the families of missing persons ~
I stand with you.

You wouldn’t want to be a pedophile and read this book! It doesn’t end well for abusers – now or ever. If you want to know what the road to healing feels like, looks like, and the steps through the journey, you’ll find it in these pages. Never give up! Never give in!

Here’s the link to Amazon and a Look Inside preview:

Here’s the trailer . . .

All proceeds go directly into the IOI, Inc. (Island of Immunity, Inc.). A non-profit for the advocacy of broken people.