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February 25, 2025
Breaking Free from Aggression – Is It Possible?
It is never too late to change. At any age, we can make rapid change. Here’s what’s blocking us from doing so, and here’s what we can do to become the person we wish to be.
Luckily, aggression, anger, stubbornness, negativity, pessimism, impatience and tempers are not ingrained in our DNA. But they do become habits. Fortunately for us, habits can be broken in an instant.
I know smokers who smoked five packs a day for 40 years who suddenly quit and no longer had any cravings. The key: becoming aware of the truth about their smoking habit. They realized why they smoked, that smoking did not actually give them what they wanted (less stress and more pleasure, usually), that nothing was preventing them from quitting, and that quitting would actually give them all the benefits they wanted (a long, healthy, happy life of freedom).
Mental habits are no different. To change them, we only need to raise our awareness about them. Addictions are tricky things. They delude us into believing we need them and that they serve us.
Often, anger and aggression were how we learned to express ourselves as young children in order to be heard and seen. Subconsciously, we feel we need to express our suffering as anger in order to communicate just how hurt we are. But in reality, we only end up looking foolish (trust me, former yeller over here 
) and repelling the people we love and care about.
Anger and aggression are symptoms of the conditioned ego. The ego feels too important. It believes people should always consider our ego, and yet our own ego does not always consider the feelings of others.
All this stems from the one habit that has created the near universal problem of fragmentary consciousness and the illusion of separateness. This one mental habit has divided us, it makes us impatient, and it compels us to harm ourselves, others, and the planet. More on that here.
The fact is, the ego suffers from insecurity. It is always the child in us who gets triggered and lashes out. It goes into a storm of rage and words begin to fail us so we just start screaming nonsense without a care for how we affect the people we love. Sometimes this rage may be kept inside, but it usually comes out in one way or another. And if it doesn’t come out, it can be expressed as chronic pain or disease.
The moment we realize our anger and aggression do not serve us, that they hurt us, and that we can be free from it right now, that is the moment it stops. But we must first see the mind without judgment. We must see it in its totality, without turning our anger on ourself. This is how we invite kindness and compassion into the mix. How we speak to ourselves is how we speak to others. And often focusing our anger on others is just a way to mask this self-aggression.
We must also notice how we are holding onto our anger and aggression. We must notice how attached we are to the mental stories of how we’ve been wronged. We only hold onto anger because subconsciously we refuse to let go. And the way we let go is to turn our focus to our breath whenever we get caught in an anger storm. Just one moment of breath-awareness silences the mental story and lessens the grip of our aggression. Keep doing this every time aggression starts to arise until it no longer does. If you slip and anger comes out, love and forgive yourself, make amends to the other person if you can, explore why it happened (an outburst is a sign that something still remains hidden from your awareness), and get right back on that horse.
Once you become aware of something, you cannot become unaware of it. You know it in your bones. It doesn’t take years or decades either. You can do it right now. Become aware of what triggers you, get to the root of it, and stay aware and committed to kindness. The moment you truly, fully decide that aggression and anger never serve you, that it always hurts you, and that nothing is actually stopping you from being the kind and loving person you truly are, that is the moment you will be free.
I have a video that goes into more depth on anger and temper here. I also have a video on quitting smoking as well. For more free resources on addiction, such as smoking and drinking, go here.
Much love,
Todd
P.S. In my latest podcast episode, I talk about the 4 biggest mistakes we make in our lives & what to do instead.
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All relationships end in tragedy. Are they worth it?
Whether it’s a family member, pet, or cherished friend, at some point in our life we will lose the ones we love. Or they will lose us. Heartbreak lies ahead for every single one of us. We lose our parents, and occasionally God forbid, we lose a child. The pain we will all endure is enough to make anyone consider the life of a hermit.
Is this suffering inevitable? Is life pointless? Should kids and marriage be avoided? Here are my thoughts.
If we focus only on our inevitable loss, we will fail to appreciate the time we have with our loved ones. And if we look closely, we’ll notice that we only appreciate the things that are temporary. A flower is more beautiful because of its fleeting nature. Like all life, the beauty lies in the delicateness. This is why loss hurts so much — because it was so profoundly meaningful and special.
If we know even one moment of deep peace, appreciation, awe-inspiring beauty, to laugh so hard we spit out our food, to love so deeply and to be loved in return, to have just one moment of insight and awakening presence, to be fully present with even one sunrise or sunset, to be moved to tears of joy, to connect deeply with another person’s or animal’s soul, then it was worth it to be here on this earth.
We can learn to love our grief. We can find peace in our pain. When we fear loss, we really fear our ability to handle it. But we are human beings. We were built for this. If we give up on the things that make life worth living, only then will we forget what all the pain was for.
So I can’t help but recognize the brilliance and insight from William Shakespeare, “It’s better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.”
This is a man who knew great tragedy and terrible pain, and he still saw that life would have been nothing without love. He was not afraid to feel. Through his work he explored the very depth of his being. He saw the beauty in his suffering and he shared it with the world. We each have this same opportunity to turn our tragedy into beauty. In my latest video, I talk about those times on our journey where we stumble and fall down a hole that seemingly has no way out — the more we try to get out, the deeper we dig ourselves. I hope it helps light a path out for you.
Love is brave. But I say love heroically. Love fearlessly. Not just certain people and animals, but nature and the whole of the universe. Love big. Love with passion. Love when it hurts and love when it’s easy. Love heartache and loss too, because that is how we heal. Love the healing process and trust these magical bodies and minds to know what we need and know what they’re doing.
The mental story of our loss, unfairness, fear and hardship are just stories that mask the feelings of love that continue long after someone’s gone. The gifts these relationships give us last a lifetime. Embrace them. Cherish every moment with the wisdom of impermanence. This is why we’re here and this is the journey for each of us.
In honor of ADHD Awareness Month, I am giving away a free copy of my audiobook on ADHD and ADD. If you find it helpful, please show your support in any little way you can, like leaving a book review on Amazon for any of my books so that this healing message can reach more people, or by participating in the Peaceful Prisoners Program.
Much love,
Todd
P.S. In my new podcast episode, I share how we can navigate this increasingly complex media landscape, how to notice bias and manipulation, and most importantly how to stay grounded to the things that really matter in life.
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Break Free from the Game of Telephone (Part 2)
In my last newsletter I talked about 3 ways to win at life’s game of telephone, and how to stop letting other people plant thoughts in our head. Today I want to talk about how to trust ourself and follow our heart.
Whether it’s our own thoughts or the words from other people, it’s just noise. That which goes beyond words is what’s true. People have been developing opinions for thousands of years and it can go on for eternity. But those opinions formed out of words separate us from deep understanding.
Other people’s opinions (and often our own opinions about ourselves) are nothing more than the jumbled, muddled, bungled message in a never ending game of telephone. There is no need to decipher it, adopt it, reject it or obsess over it. (Here’s how I responded to trollers and mean commenters.)
Whatever anyone has said about you or anyone else is not objectively true. The only thing it tells you is what kind of person the commenter is.
Adam Driver has a big nose yet his confidence is magnetic. Ram Dass was bald and happy. Gandhi was poor, Hellen Keller was deaf and blind, Oprah was told she was unfit for TV, Thomas Edison was called “too stupid to learn anything,” and the head of Columbia Pictures told Harrison Ford he had no future in show business.
Now, I am not just calling out people and their negative traits. In fact, I am pointing out what made these people so beautiful. All of the most successful people on Earth were told that some perceived flaw would lead to their failure. Instead of changing, they changed their industry. Their novelty and courage to follow their inner compass finally proved the naysayers wrong.
Do not fall for the destructive words of people who lack your vision. Do not believe the hurtful words of hurt people. Whatever your insecurity, make it your source of pride. You are unique! You are special. What a shame it would be to hide your gifts.
The words of others can only limit us if we choose to adopt their limiting mindset. So we must learn to break free from the mental prison we have built in order to reach our true potential. Here’s how to do that.
Be grateful for your flaws. Love your insecurities. And remember, the universe doesn’t make mistakes, only miracles.
In my latest podcast, I explore what “true spirituality” is and how we can connect to our true selves — and to this universe — beyond the superficial surface where we spend most of our time worrying and stressing about.
Much love,
Todd
P.S. If you were wondering what happened to last week’s newsletter, I am excited to share that I was locked in the recording booth and finally finished the audiobook version of Aloneness to Oneness: 22 Life Lessons to Change the Way You See the World, full of new content and commentary. It is now with the publishing company and it should be available in a few weeks. I’lll share the details here. In the meantime, you can download a free chapter of the book here.
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Life Is a Game of Telephone. Here’s How to Win
Have you ever wondered how much you know, how much you think you know, and how much you think you know because someone else thinks so?
The information we have bouncing around in our brains is divided into three categories: what we experience first hand, what we hear from others, and what we believe about the things we hear.
99% of our information (totally made up statistic) comes from other people — the media, our friends, our families, and our communities — and from what we choose to believe/think about the things other people tell us.
But here’s the kicker. We get most of our information from other people who ALSO get most of their information from other people.
So whether we realize it or not, we are all playing a global game of telephone, where the truth often gets lost in the mix.
Most of the time, this is no big deal. We are born into this world knowing nothing and so we have to rely on those around us to mold us into functioning people. And hopefully, happy and healthy ones.
But the most insidious way this manifests in our lives is when people say unkind, mean, hurtful things that stay with us for the rest of our lives. We can all probably remember someone saying something about us from our childhood that created an insecurity and damaged our self confidence. In this video, I talk about why there will always be bad-mouthers, how to ignore the haters, and how to create a positive reputation despite them.
Similarly a person may say something to us about another person that may be entirely untrue, but this can negatively affect our impression of that person. We may even end relationships over the opinions of others. So how can we overcome anger and hate? How can we love a violent and troubled world? More on this here.
How can we navigate this game of telephone? How can we stop letting other people plant thoughts in our brain? And how can we unlearn things we’ve believed for decades?
First, we have to recognize the power words have. Words are like spells. In a very real and tangible way, they can possess us to become totally different people and they can change our whole life.
Second, we have to stop believing and start understanding. We must embrace not knowing in order to develop true understanding. The fact is, anything we hear we either choose to believe or not believe. We do not know it for sure. This may sound scary, but it is actually liberating because we are free to hold our own opinion as high as anyone else’s.
The things we see and experience with our own senses are far more real and important than any gossip or opinionating. The endless word salad from our mind and from others’ minds only covers up reality and disconnects us from the oneness of this universe.
The third thing we can all do is attune ourselves to our own heart’s calling. Learn to hear your intuition and instincts, which go beyond the conditioned thinking mind. Explore everything you hear, give greater weight to that which you can test or observe for yourself. This is how we find our truth and get closer to reality. To do this, we have to practice listening. Get away from the influences of others for a little bit of time everyday, get centered and calm, and feel the life that calls you.
Meditation and being present are vital tools for quieting the noise and connecting with ourselves beyond all mental concepts. Here are my 3 tips for having a powerful meditation experience.
Some people have asked me, “Can meditation lead to enlightenment? Is enlightenment even possible? Can a person really be in a zen state all the time? Even at work?!?!” Here are my answers.
Much love,
Todd
P.S. I have read every review you have shared on Amazon for the book Aloneness to Oneness and I am very humbled and deeply touched by your support. Since many people have requested it, I am happy to share that I am currently working on the audiobook version for people who like to listen. Hoping it will be out next month. In the meanwhile, you can download a free chapter of the book here.
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How to Find What Makes You Happy
The moment you can sit in stillness and silence, and actually allow your body and mind to become fully at rest, and be able to completely relax the same as if it’s been 1 minute or 1 hour; that is the moment that everything in life will come alive to you because you are at peace with nothing.
If we search for happiness in something outside of ourselves, whether by drugs or luxuries or praise or achievement, then our happiness becomes indentured into the servitude of our external source of happiness. We will only be happy when our craving is satisfied, and the rest of our lives will be miserable, spent in search of more happiness.
Kids or no kids, this job or that job, a beach vacation or Disney World… It’s all the play of life. There is no right or wrong. There is just exploration and learning, trying and enjoying. None of it will bring lasting happiness though. It will only reflect back to us our current state of consciousness. So this is where we must put our focus.
Happy people find everything delightful. They want for nothing. Everything is a blessing. If they get their way, wonderful. If they don’t, wonderful too because there is no dwelling on negative stories, as has become so normal today.
Happiness is something we all deserve. It is the birthright of every living being on this planet. In this video, I share how we can all rewire our brain, unlearn our mental habits that make us suffer, and start loving this wild and magical ride we find ourselves on.
To become happy is actually rather simple: keep your wants in check. Still enjoy the things you love, but do so with a take-it-or-leave-it attitude. Just notice those cravings and how they affect you.
We crave happiness. This leads us to craving pleasure. From there, it is easy to see how we can become enslaved to pleasures.
This is why it’s essential to spend a little time (between 5 to 30 plus minutes) sitting in stillness and silence. Focus on your breath if you like. Notice the quick impulses to get up or check your phone. Notice how your mind starts to scream and make your body contort. Now realize that you created that inner storm. And sit there until that storm subsides. It will come and go, come and go. But sit there until that storm recedes at least once.
Over time, patience, focus, calmness and contentment will increase dramatically. This is lasting happiness. To be in a state of inner calm, where you aren’t trying to escape your own thoughts anymore, then the entire world becomes yours because there is no situation you can’t overcome or hardship you can’t endure.
If you feel like life has started to lose meaning and the happiness has disappeared, listen to this.
From a state of being, everything becomes a source of happiness. From this state, go forth and explore everything your heart calls out for. From this state of being that is beyond the need for praise, fearlessly try and fail and try again, but always learn and grow and you’ll keep on moving up.
Much love,
Todd
P.S. Thank you so much to everybody who’s reached out to share how the book Aloneness to Oneness has impacted their life or the life of a loved one. I have heard from many people asking if there will be an audiobook soon, and I am happy to say that I have been squirreled away in the studio making it happen. If you haven’t yet checked it out and want to feel that “one with everything” feeling all the time, you can get it here.
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How to Undo Societal Conditioning
Human beings are the most remarkably adaptable species on Earth. We are blessed with the ability to adapt to any environment, location, and situation. A baby growing up in Spain will adapt to her culture and learn Spanish. A baby growing up in the Arctic will learn to icefish and speak Inuit.
This adaptability gives us the variety of rich cultures and ways of life for our species. Whatever situation we are born into, that will be what is normal to us. As young developing children, we adopt our society’s customs.
Similarly, we are animals with genetic memory. We are conditioned to find food and survive. Our genetic memory will protect us from bears and heights, and our survival instincts will be honed for the rest of our lives.
But along with this ability to learn, remember and evolve, we also have the ability to unlearn and decondition ourselves when threats are no longer present.
Sometimes, we are taught things that turn out to be untrue. Some people are brought up in unstable households. For a lot of people, school was not a safe place, and children should always feel safe. There are fights, bullies, and now cyberbullies. It’s all too much for a developing psyche to process.
As we grow up and begin to have more autonomy over our lives, it becomes essential that we explore and undo some of the defense mechanisms that are no longer serving us, such as always being on high alert, and the chronic stress that comes with it.
When we were helpless children, everything felt like life or death: our reputation, our popularity, our grades, our looks, everything. But as adults, we can handle anything. It just takes a little bit of conscious awareness to change the way our subconscious mind sees the world.
There is a battle going on within every one of us. We have our fearful, needy, desirous ego on the one hand. And on the other hand we have the wisdom, calm, patience and compassion of our consciousness. Which side wins out will determine the quality of our lives. More on creating a conscious life here.
If your body and mind react automatically to certain triggers, if it senses danger despite there being none, this is an area that deserves some exploration. Like an astronomer observing the stars, we need to observe our psyche in order to understand it. In my latest podcast, I share a 4-step process for quieting the mental chatter so we can learn to live in alignment with the deepest parts of who we truly are.
If you find yourself reacting unconsciously, either internally (tensing up) or externally (screaming or addiction), turn inward and stay with that emotion. Really explore it until holding onto that senseless reaction seems ridiculous to you.
By making self-awareness a habit, unconscious reactions dissolve under the light of consciousness. To remain aware is to remain present, free from the conditioning of the past. The wisdom in our DNA will still be there to serve us, but it will no longer control us.
Much love,
Todd
P.S. Coffee With Todd will be kicking off in NYC in a few short weeks. Be sure to fill out the form here so you don’t miss it.
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The Pleasure Pain Paradox
A lot of people think spirituality means that monks who renounce everything are the most spiritual, and the rest of us are doomed to suffering. I myself have found great peace in letting go of possessions and bad habits. I have discovered the freedom that comes from practicing minimalism and asceticism.
But don’t get me wrong, I love all the pleasures and comforts of life. I used to love them too much. I used to spend literally all my time indulging in pleasures, thinking about pleasures, and working to acquire pleasures. I worked hard to make sure I always had a steady stable of pleasures at my disposal: alcohol, smoking, TV, gaming, internet, food, travel and caffeine. I even fell for the alluring pride of workaholism. (What is the best way to achieve in life, through competition or cooperation? Alone or together? I answer these questions and more here.)
Today, I no longer use any of these things to excess, and some things like drinking and smoking I have let go of completely. Here is what I learned during my journey to health and balance: there is nothing wrong with pleasures. Pleasures only become problems when they unconsciously become a means to escape the discomfort of our own thoughts.
All addictions stem from a need to distract ourselves from our true thoughts and feelings. When we’d rather not feel something, we often turn to something that will numb us, intoxicate us, or entrance us. Very quickly, these pleasures can become crutches that weaken our inner strength and ability to deal with discomfort. Soon, our ability to cope with life diminishes, our tolerance to these pleasures goes up, and we need more and more pleasures to avoid ourselves.
So notice how these pleasures take over our thoughts with insatiable cravings. Notice the constant need for more. And associate the withdrawal/come down with the pleasure itself, as opposed to being a reason for more pleasure. (Why do some people feel depressed after practicing introspection, and how can we avoid that depression trap? Answers in my latest podcast episode.)
As long as we are conscious of these pleasures, as long as we are aware of the real reasons we are using them, and as long as they don’t become a replacement for unlocking the true source of peace and happiness within, then we can enjoy them freely. As soon as pleasures become an unconscious attempt to achieve lasting happiness, then we are no longer free. (In order to find out how to be truly happy, we must first find out what makes us unhappy. Here I explore the causes of our unhappiness and how to eliminate them from our life.)
First realize the deep peace and bliss of presence, then you can enjoy everything in this miraculous universe that aligns with your deepest intentions and highest self. If you want to turn to pleasures to feel better, turn within first.
Much love,
Todd
P.S. If you have read Grief and Spiritual Healing, don’t forget to go to Amazon and leave a review. Your feedback will help others find these uplifting teachings. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
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What Are We Seeking?
Life is very simple. Human beings have made it very complicated.
As consciousness peering through bodies and minds, we observe the hardware of the body and the software of our genetic code. The bodies have certain requirements and the code makes sure we seek it out.
If we didn’t have desires, we would not seek out food, shelter, mates, safety for our children, and connection to the divine mystery of the universe.
Desire is the motor that drives us and is essential to our survival and wellbeing.
In modern society, desires can take countless forms: candy, gambling, drugs, untold riches that we will never be able to spend in a lifetime, fame, and the latest and greatest luxuries.
While there is nothing wrong with conscious and selfless desires, most of our desires are unconscious. We have let endless desires create endless suffering in our lives.
We hear that desire is the root of all suffering. But sometimes desire can lead us toward finding our future spouse. It can lead to success, fun times, and good health. Desire is even often what sets us down the spiritual path. So is desire always bad? More on that here.
Today, most of us are no longer happy with food, shelter, a mate, and safety for our children, precisely because we have lost our connection to the divine mystery of the universe. We no longer trust this miracle of a universe.
Typically, we blame one of the countless things in our lives for making us unhappy. But no matter what form our suffering takes, that is not the true cause of our uneasiness. This video explores the real cause of our suffering and how to overcome it.
To get back to our true nature, we must become conscious of our desires. We must recognize that they are merely a natural reaction to the urges that are programmed into us. We must recognize that happiness is not in the fulfillment of our desires, but rather in the process of fulfilling them.
Today we live in a world of too many options and we have choice paralysis. We spend all day entertained or lost in thought, and so we are disconnected from this sacred universe which is always here and now.
We spend most of our lives desiring instead of acting. All other animals act instead of think. If something bad happens, they get over it almost immediately. There is no real safety in the wild and so they do not expect safety.
We want happiness, but the wanting makes us unhappy.
Change desires to intentions. Then set them aside and get to work. Trust the universe that what needs to happen will happen. It is big enough to hold your fears for you.
Only when we realize the bigger self — the oneness with everything — do our little fears and desires not seem so big.
Much love,
Todd
P.S. Some of you have expressed a desire to meet up in person. Well, I would love to meet you as well. I’ll be doing a little traveling and so I created Coffee With Todd – meetups around the world to talk about life.
You can sign up here. The first Coffee With Todd will be in NYC. If you’re in the area and filled out the form, you will hear from me/my team with details on when and where it will be. Can’t wait.
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What Is Life? Why Are We Alive?
What is the purpose and meaning of life? If it were just to survive, consume and expend energy, then we wouldn’t have the ability to even ask these questions. We would just be food-finding mindless robots. So there is something much deeper to our lives than survival.
If it were to be comfortable and safe, we’d be lazy and weak. If it were to be happy all the time, then we’d be fools because sadness and pain teach us empathy and how to treat others.
Life is meant to be lived.
We are not meant to be pacified 24/7 by entertainment and mental hyperactivity. We are meant to experience the whole of life — the good and the bad, the mundane and the extraordinary.
If we live in a trance, whether we’re lost in mental thought or we’re lost in our screens, we are asleep to life. Everything in this universe is designed to help us awaken.
The unpleasantness of anger and stress are there to tell us that we really don’t want to live in conflict and that we’d rather live in harmony with all beings.
Some people wonder, is anger always bad? Is it ever justified? Can it be good if we use it to fuel positive change in society? And isn’t it worse if we try to stuff our anger down? I answer these questions and more in my latest podcast episode.
The deep and lasting feelings of peace and joy are there to tell us when we’re on the right path. When we fully live, when we can stay present for ourselves through the ups and downs, peace and joy naturally emerge. So we are all being guided to our own awakening.
This universe is here to be experienced. We are here to experience it. We’re made of it, by it, and for it. What a gift it is.
When we understand that we are the universe, everything makes sense. There is no longer confusion about who we are, what we should do, and why things are the way they are. There is just what is, exactly as it should be. More on how to step out of separateness, become free from loneliness and separation, and see the oneness all around us in this video.
Children, success, power, fame, riches, fancy cars, big homes… that is all just the window dressing. How present we are for those things and how deeply we can experience them, that is what truly matters.
Of course, part of the contract for this miraculous gift of life is that we will all experience grief and loss at some point in our lives. That is why I wrote, Grief and Spiritual Healing: Surviving Life After Loss. If you read it and it brought you some comfort and support, please consider leaving a review on Amazon. Your honest opinion can help many others find solace as well.
Much love,
Todd
P.S. Being conscious and present with your children is so important. In an age of universal screen addiction and mental multi-tasking, present parenting is harder but more needed than ever. Here’s how to do it.
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Navigating Egos & Different Perspectives in Relationships
Relationships are not always easy. Two egos can really get in the way of two people trying to connect. We may have a certain way of seeing and being in the world, while other people may have a totally different viewpoint. (I talk about our attachment to thinking, our fear of not thinking, and how we can take back the reins of our mind in my latest video.)
As long as we seek happiness and security in relationships, we will have fear and insecurity. If we expect others to be good and reliable, we will often be disappointed and let down.
We may wish to become hermits living in the cave of our own homes because this is easier than messy relationships. But, the moment we accept people as they are — including ourselves — relationships become easy.
We need society. We need farmers and truck drivers. We need healthcare workers and construction workers. We need engineers and miners. We even need friendship and love. But more than all of these needs, we need to exist in wise relation to others.
The only way to be in wise relationships is to see people as they are. Lofty ideals, while essential for evolving the consciousness of our species, can also blind us from the reality of the moment.
People will be cruel. People will act out. People will be irrational and unthoughtful. Why should we expect them to be any different?
The only wise thing to do is to make sure our expectations line up with reality. When we do this, unkindness will no longer cause suffering. This is how we become free from needing people to be different than they are. (Here Are 11 Inspirational Quotes for Tough Times)
The truth is, humans will disappoint us sometimes and at other times they will surprise us with their kindness and generosity. Knowing this, we can engage in the world with joy and peace. We become free to be ourselves, just as we give others the freedom to be themselves.
Just by this subtle shift in how we see others, the world comes into clearer focus. Wisdom and understanding arise. And with that, so does compassion. This clarity doesn’t make us foolish and naive. On the contrary, we don’t fall for scams because we have a deeper knowledge of how humans can be.
Let go of expectations. Let go of desires that don’t align with reality. Let go of demands on others. Let go of the need for others to satisfy you. When you do this, you can float above conflict as you engage with the world. You will be a beacon of love to everyone, while also having the strength to leave relationships that are untenable. And most importantly, you will notice how others become more loving to you when you become unconditional love for them.
To raise the consciousness of this planet, we’re going to have to reach down low to pick others up.
Before you go, if you happened to get a copy of Digital Ego, or any other book/audiobook, please go to Amazon (right now) and leave your honest review. Reviews are how people find books to read and your review could help someone who is suffering from addiction to social media, internet, gaming, gambling, online shopping and more. I also made available some free resources for screen addiction on EastWesticism.org.
Much love,
Todd
PS – Spirituality is a word that has about 8 billion definitions. So what the heck is it? How does it relate to religion? Can you have one without the other? Are they mutually exclusive or do we need both to reach our ultimate potential? Explore the history of religion and spirituality with me here.
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