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February 10, 2025
The ADHD-Friendly Summer Camp Checklist: Setting Our Kids Up for Success!
The first time we think about summer camp for our child with ADHD, it’s a mix of emotions. Excitement—because they’ll get to explore, play, and make new friends. Worry—new environments, transitions, and long days can be overwhelming. And, let’s be honest, a bit of “Will they be okay without us reminding them every five minutes?”
We’ve all been there. Summer camps promise fun, adventure, and learning. Still, they can also bring unexpected meltdowns, forgotten water bottles, and challenges with self-regulation. The good news? A little planning can make all the difference. When we pack beyond the standard checklist and think about what truly helps our kids thrive, summer camp becomes much smoother for them and us!
So, let’s talk about what needs to go in that backpack.
The ADHD-Friendly Summer Camp Checklist
Fidget Toolkit
Not all fidgets are created equal. We want something silent (sorry, pop-its) but still effective—like a small yo-yo ball, a smooth rock, or a chewable necklace. Something that fits in their pocket and doesn’t distract the whole camp!
Visual Schedule or “What’s Next” Card
New environments can be unpredictable, and that’s not our child’s best friend. If the camp doesn’t provide a visual schedule, a simple index card with key parts of the day can help them feel more in control. Bonus tip? Mark their favourite part of the day with a star so they have something to look forward to.
Comfort Item (That Doesn’t Scream ‘I Miss Home!’)
Some kids need that one little thing that keeps them grounded. It doesn’t have to be a stuffed animal! A favourite cap, a tiny keychain from home, or even a scented handkerchief can work wonders.
Snack Strategy: Protein + Predictability
We know that ADHD brains and hunger don’t mix well. Camps may provide meals, but let’s be real—our kids might not eat what’s offered. Pack protein-rich snacks like boiled eggs, cheese sticks, or homemade granola bars to avoid sugar crashes and crankiness. And let’s make sure they know when they get to eat because the waiting game is tough!
Code Word or Signal for Overwhelm
New social settings can be tricky. A simple, agreed-upon “code word” or signal to tell a counsellor they need a break can be a game-changer. Maybe it’s a thumbs-up/down system or a small laminated card they can flash discreetly.
Burn-the-Energy Plan
We know our kids need to move before they can focus. A quick morning stretch, a round of jumping jacks, or a dance party before camp drop-off can help regulate their energy levels. No time in the morning? A short “wiggle break” before structured activities at camp can help too!
Making Transitions SmootherEven with the best prep, transitions can still be rough. One trick? Use “First-Then” language when getting them ready:
“First, we pack your fidget kit, then you get to choose your snack!”
“First, we do three big stretches, then head to camp!”
A predictable rhythm helps reduce resistance, and when they know what comes next, it lowers anxiety.
A Simple Pre-Camp ActivityWant to help your child feel more confident before camp starts? Try this:
1⃣ Role-play camp situations—Practice introducing themselves, asking for a break, or handling a minor frustration (like losing a turn in a game).
2⃣ Create a “Camp Superpowers” List—Write down three things they’re great at and one small goal for camp. It could be, “I’m great at making friends!” or “I want to try the climbing wall.”
3⃣ Make a “Camp Countdown” Chart—Mark off days before camp starts, adding stickers or drawing something fun they’re looking forward to.
Final ThoughtsWith the proper preparation, our kids can have a fantastic time at summer camp. By thinking ahead, packing with intention, and helping them feel prepared, we make camp less stressful and fun for everyone.
Do you have a must-pack item for camp? Drop it in the comments! And if you need more support, book a 1:1 consultation with me here https://topmate.io/namita_das11
Let’s make this summer one to remember!
Recommended Products for a Smooth Summer Camp ExperiencePacking for summer camp can feel overwhelming, especially when considering the needs of a child with ADHD. To make it easier, here are some helpful products that can support focus, regulation, and independence:
Fidget and Sensory Toys – A small fidget toy can help self-regulate and reduce anxiety in new environments.
Visual Schedule Cards – A structured routine helps ADHD kids transition smoothly between activities. Laminated visual schedule cards with Velcro strips can be a great addition.
Chewable Necklaces – A silicone necklace provides a safe alternative if your child cheats on pencils, shirt collars, or fingers when overwhelmed.
Healthy Protein Snacks – Camps often have set meal times, so high-protein, low-sugar snacks like protein bars, nuts, or trail mix can help maintain energy levels throughout the day.
Having the right tools in your child’s backpack can make summer camp an enjoyable, confidence-building experience.
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February 9, 2025
The Storm No One Warned Us About: ADHD & Postpartum Mood Disorders
It was 2 a.m. The baby was finally asleep, but my mind wasn’t. My body ached for rest, but I couldn’t stop the whirlwind of thoughts. Did I nurse long enough? Did I remember to change the diaper? What if I’m doing this all wrong? I stared at the ceiling, exhausted yet wired, knowing the day would begin again in just a few hours.
For many of us, postpartum isn’t just about sleepless nights and endless diaper changes—it’s a mental and emotional rollercoaster that no one prepares us for. We expected the exhaustion, the mess, and the love that makes it all worth it. But what about the guilt? The irritability? The overwhelming pressure to “get it right” when our brains struggle with executive functioning, emotional regulation, and time management?
ADHD & Postpartum: The Perfect StormWe thrive on routine, external motivation, and dopamine—three things missing in those early postpartum days. Sleep deprivation makes focus even harder. Our already sensitive nervous system is now bombarded with hormonal shifts, leading to emotional swings we can’t predict or control. We may struggle with the following:
Restlessness & Racing Thoughts – Even when the baby sleeps, our brains don’t. We overanalyze every choice, worry about things that haven’t happened yet, and feel an intense need to “catch up” on tasks we’ve fallen behind on.
Emotional Overload – One minute, we’re in awe of our baby’s tiny fingers; the next, we’re crying over spilt milk—literally. Postpartum intensifies the emotional ups and downs that ADHD already brings.
Executive Dysfunction & Overwhelm – The simplest tasks—responding to a text, folding laundry, making a doctor’s appointment—suddenly feel insurmountable. And the more we fall behind, the more guilt we carry.
Postpartum Rage & Sensory Overload – Loud crying, constant touching, and never-ending demands can push us past our threshold. We don’t mean to snap, but when our nervous system is maxed out, even a small spill can trigger a storm of frustration.
We’re told that postpartum struggles are every day, but what about when they collide with ADHD? The traditional advice—“Sleep when the baby sleeps” or “Make a to-do list”—doesn’t always work for us. But there are ways we can soften the edges of this journey and make it more manageable:
Lower the Bar & Celebrate Small Wins – Instead of “clean the house,” let’s try “put one dish in the sink.” Instead of “be the perfect mom,” let’s aim for “be a mom who shows up with love.” Small wins build momentum, and momentum builds confidence.
Timers & External Cues – Setting gentle reminders for meals, hydration, and rest can help us stay present without relying on memory alone. A simple phone alarm can nudge us into self-care without the mental load of remembering everything.
Body Doubling for Parenting – Sometimes, having a partner, friend, or even an online support group “co-exist” with us as we tackle daily tasks can make a huge difference. The presence of someone else can help anchor our focus and reduce procrastination.
Sensory Resets – When overwhelming strikes, let’s use grounding techniques: splash cold water on our hands, rub a textured object, or step outside for fresh air. These tiny actions can help reset our nervous system before emotions spiral out of control.
Because we process emotions differently, structured activities can help regulate our minds and bodies. Here are some playful ways to reconnect with ourselves and our little ones:
Sing Silly Songs – Rhythmic and repetitive tunes activate the brain’s reward system, easing stress and promoting connection. Try a fun, exaggerated version of your baby’s favourite lullaby.
Five Senses Check-In – When anxiety rises, take a moment to ground yourself by identifying five visual details, four sounds around you, three textures you can feel, two scents in the air, and finally, take a deep breath. This helps bring us back to the present.
Messy Play (Without the Stress) – Instead of worrying about the mess, lean into it. Finger painting, water play, or even letting the baby “help” with food textures can be a therapeutic way to engage our senses and embrace imperfection.
If this feels familiar, know this: we are not broken. We are not bad moms. We are simply navigating motherhood with a brain that works differently. And that’s okay. By leaning into what works for us—small wins, external structure, sensory resets—we can create a postpartum experience that feels more manageable, joyful, and, most importantly, ours.
Have you felt this way? Let’s start a conversation in the comments below. And if you need personalized guidance, book a 1:1 consultation with me here. 
We’re in this together.
Managing postpartum recovery while supporting a child with ADHD can be overwhelming. Still, certain products can provide comfort and efficiency in daily routines. Here are some valuable items:
For Postpartum Recovery Frida Mom C-Section Recovery Kit includes a Peri bottle, disposable underwear, an abdominal support binder, shower wipes, and silicone scar patches. It’s designed for a smoother recovery from labour and delivery. Juno Mom Natural Birth Postpartum Kit – A hospital bag essential with seven postpartum care products, helping new mothers transition smoothly into recovery Pregawear Maternity Panties – Disposable period panties designed for postpartum use, offering rash-free, leak-proof protection during heavy flow days Frida Mom Upside Down Peri Bottle – A must-have for perineal recovery, making cleansing easier after childbirthFor Managing ADHD Symptoms Sensory Fidget Toys Kit – A collection of stress-relieving toys that help kids with ADHD stay focused and manage anxiety effectively Weighted Blanket for Kids – Provides deep pressure stimulation, which can help children with ADHD and sensory processing challenges feel calm and secure. Noise-Cancelling Headphones – Ideal for reducing sensory overload in loud environments, helping children concentrate betterThese products can ease daily challenges for moms recovering from childbirth and managing an ADHD child. Choosing appropriate tools can significantly impact both physical recovery and emotional well-being.
February 8, 2025
One Powerful Way to Manifest the Future You Desire!
It all started with a bedtime conversation.
Tucking my son in, I asked, “What do you want to be when you grow up?”
He thought momentarily and said, “An astronaut… no, a race car driver!” Then, after a pause, “Actually, I just want to be someone who does fun things every day.”
That made me smile. Because isn’t that what we all want? To wake up each morning excited about the day ahead? But somewhere between childhood dreams and adulthood responsibilities, we start telling ourselves a different story—one filled with ‘I can’t,’ ‘I’m too late,’ or ‘It’s too hard.’
But here’s the truth: Our thoughts shape our future. How we speak to ourselves, our beliefs, and our actions (or don’t) determine where we end up. Manifestation isn’t magic; it’s about rewiring our mindset, creating routines that support our aspirations, and taking small, meaningful steps toward our desired future.
The Power of Thought and ActionEver noticed how children who believe they can do something keep trying while those who doubt themselves give up quickly? It’s not about ability—it’s about mindset.
When we tell ourselves, “I’m not good at this,” our brain listens. It starts looking for proof, reinforcing that belief. But if we say, “I’m learning how to do this,” suddenly, we open ourselves up to possibilities. We shift from seeing obstacles to noticing opportunities.
The same applies to our dreams. If we constantly think, “I’ll never be able to change my life,” we unconsciously act in ways that keep us stuck. But when we reframe our thoughts and take action, even small ones, we start moving in the direction we want.
Small Shifts, Big ChangesLet’s think of this like teaching a child to read. We don’t expect them to master phonics in a day. We introduce one letter sound at a time, celebrate small wins, and keep practising. Eventually, those tiny steps lead to confident reading.
Manifesting our future works the same way. We don’t need to make giant leaps overnight. Instead, we focus on small, consistent changes that build momentum.
How Can We Start Manifesting the Future We Want?Here are some simple but powerful strategies:
1⃣ Visualize It Clearly
We can’t work toward something we can’t see. Take a moment to imagine the future version of yourself. What are you doing? How do you feel? Get specific—details make it real.
2⃣ Reframe Negative Self-Talk
Instead of “I’m not good at this,” try “I’m getting better at this.” Instead of “I’ll never be able to do it,” say “What’s one small step I can take today?” The way we talk to ourselves matters more than we realize.
3⃣ Set an ‘If-Then’ Plan
Life gets busy, and motivation fades. Having a plan in place helps. Try this: “If I feel stuck, then I will take one small action instead of overthinking.” It keeps us moving forward.
4⃣ Use Micro Goals
Big dreams feel overwhelming, but small steps think doable. Want to start a new career? Read one article a day. Want to write a book? Write for five minutes daily. Tiny actions compound into significant results.
5⃣ Act ‘As If’
Children do this naturally. They don’t just say they want to be astronauts—they walk like astronauts, talk like astronauts, and become astronauts in their play. We can do the same. If we want to be confident, we practice speaking with confidence. If we want to be healthier, we make choices that a healthy person would make. Small shifts in behaviour create lasting change.
Your Action Step for TodayLet’s make this real. Take a moment to write down an “I am becoming…” statement. It could be as simple as:
“I am becoming more confident every day.” “I am becoming a person who takes action on my dreams.” “I am becoming someone who makes time for what matters.”Write it on a sticky note, put it where you’ll see it daily, and say it out loud. Because the future we desire starts with the story we tell ourselves today.
What’s your “I am becoming…” statement? Share it in the comments—I’d love to cheer you on!
And if you need guidance on taking the next step toward your goals, let’s chat! Book a 1:1 consultation with me here https://topmate.io/namita_das11, and let’s make your vision a reality!
If you’re looking to explore deeper into self-improvement, productivity, and personal growth, here are some highly-rated books that can help:
“Do It Today: Overcome Procrastination, Improve Productivity & Achieve More Meaningful Things” by Darius Foroux: A practical guide to overcoming procrastination and enhancing productivity.“Dopamine Detox: A Short Guide to Remove Distractions and Get Your Brain to Do Hard Things” by Thibaut Meurisse is Ideal for those looking to improve focus and reduce reliance on instant gratification.“Memory: How to Develop, Train and Use It” by William Walker Atkinson is A timeless classic on memory enhancement and cognitive skills.“The Psychology of Money” by Morgan Housel is A fascinating take on how people think about money and financial decisions.“Attitude is Everything: Change Your Attitude, Change Your Life!” by Jeff Keller A motivational book emphasizing the power of mindset in achieving success.These books are valuable tools to support your self-improvement journey.
February 7, 2025
Breaking the “I’ll Do It Later” Cycle: An Anti-Procrastination Plan for ADHD Brains
“I’ll do it later…”
Sounds familiar? We’ve all been there—staring at a task, knowing it needs to be done, yet somehow doing everything except that one thing. For kids (and even adults) with ADHD, this isn’t just a matter of willpower. It’s how the brain works.
But what if we could outsmart that “later” voice?
The ADHD Procrastination LoopLet’s paint a picture:
It’s time to pack away toys, but instead, our child is rolling on the floor, making up a superhero story. Or we have a deadline looming, yet we suddenly feel the urge to clean out a drawer we haven’t touched in years.
This isn’t laziness—it’s task initiation paralysis. ADHD brains thrive on interest and urgency, but starting feels impossible when a task doesn’t feel exciting or urgent.
Instead of pushing harder, what if we made starting easier?
The Anti-Procrastination Plan That WorksHere’s how we can help ADHD brains move from “I’ll do it later” to “I’ve already started!”
1⃣ The 3-2-1 Method: Just Get StartedWhat is the hardest part of any task? Beginning.
Instead of thinking about finishing a task, let’s just commit to starting for three minutes.
How to use it:
This works because action creates motivation, not the other way around.
2⃣ Make It a GameThe ADHD brain loves challenges and dopamine rewards—so why not turn tedious tasks into something fun?
How to use it:
When we make tasks playful, they stop feeling like work and start feeling like an adventure.
3⃣ Body Before Brain: Move First, Focus LaterWhen ADHD brains feel stuck, movement can jumpstart focus.
How to use it:
Physical movement activates the brain, making it easier to transition into work mode.
Actionable Activity: The “Done” JarSometimes, seeing progress visually can be a huge motivator!
How to make one:
Grab a clear jar and some small objects (marbles, beads, pom-poms).Every time a task is started (yes, just started!), drop one in.Watch the jar fill up as tiny wins add up!This shifts the focus from getting everything done to making progress, which builds confidence and motivation over time.
Final ThoughtsProcrastination isn’t about being lazy—it’s about how the brain is wired. Everything changes when we remove the pressure of finishing and focus on making the start easier.
So, let’s stop waiting for motivation and start with movement, fun, and tiny steps. Because once we get going, we just might surprise ourselves!
Which strategy are you trying first? Let’s talk in the comments!
Need personalized strategies for your child (or yourself)? Book a 1:1 consultation with me here: https://topmate.io/namita_das11
Choosing practical tools can greatly support ADHD brains that have difficulty with focus and task initiation. These products are highly recommended for improving productivity and engagement.
Liquid Motion Bubblers – These visually soothing timers can be a great way to ease into tasks by using them as a transition activity. Watching the bubbles flow down can provide a calming effect before starting a task. Fidget Cube for Focus – A great tool to keep hands busy and attention-engaged, especially for kids who struggle with impulsivity. A fidget cube while listening or brainstorming can help with engagement and processing. Task Timers & Visual Timers – A visual countdown timer effectively develops time consciousness and reduces procrastination. It helps break tasks into smaller, manageable chunks and reduces overwhelm. Look for models that provide both digital and analogue displays. Desk Organizers & Sticky Notes – ADHD brains thrive on visual reminders. Using colour-coded sticky notes or a whiteboard planner can help organize thoughts and prioritize tasks effectively. Sensory Stress Balls or Yo-Yos – When focus dips, a quick sensory break with a stress ball or a yo-yo can help reset attention before diving back into work.Try experimenting with these tools and find what works best! Do you have a go-to tool or strategy for staying on track? Comment below or book a 1:1 consultation with me here for personalized guidance.
February 6, 2025
The Most Critical Money Skill Your Child Can Learn
“Mom, can I get this toy?” Arihaan asks, gripping a shiny car in the store aisle.
“Not today, sweetheart,” I say.
His shoulders drop. “But why not? I have some coins at home!”
I smile. “We’re saving for something bigger, remember? If we wait, we can get that amazing LEGO set instead.”
His fingers twitch around the car. I can see the wheels turning in his mind—do I want this now or something better later?
This moment isn’t just about a toy. It’s about one of the most critical money skills a child can learn: delayed gratification.
Why Waiting is the Real SuperpowerKids live in the now—instant rewards light up their little brains like fireworks. But learning to wait for something better? That’s a game-changer.
Research shows that children who can delay gratification (like in the famous Marshmallow Test 
) are better at managing finances, solving problems, and even handling emotions.
It’s not about depriving our kids—it’s about teaching them the power of patience, planning, and self-control. And the best way to teach this? Through play! 
Most kids don’t get excited about “saving money.” But what if we made it feel like a game instead of a rule?
Here’s how we can do it:
The “Save, Spend, Share” Jars Set up three clear jars (or envelopes) labelled:
Save – For something special (a big toy, an outing)
Spend – For small treats (stickers, a lollipop)
Share – To give to someone in need
Every time they get money (from allowances, gifts, or even pretend play), encourage them to choose where it goes. Seeing the “Save” jar fill up makes waiting exciting rather than frustrating!
Play “Wait for It” Games Set a timer challenge at snack time: “If we wait 5 minutes, we get two cookies instead of one!”Make a wishlist instead of impulse buying—have them look forward to something bigger. 
Tell Stories About Saving Kids connect with stories. Reading books where characters save up for something special can help them understand why waiting is worth it!
From Tiny Coins to Big Life LessonsSaving isn’t just about money—it’s about mindset. When our kids learn to pause, think, and plan, they become savvy savers and develop life-long self-control and decision-making skills.
And the best part? They don’t even realize they’re learning—because we’ve made it fun.
Does your child struggle with waiting, or are they a natural saver? Share in the comments!
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Consider incorporating tools and resources designed specifically for children to make learning about money more engaging and interactive. Here are some recommended products that can help your child develop healthy financial habits:
Save Spend Share Piggy Bank for Kids : This transparent plastic coin bank by Maxwill encourages children to develop smart money habits, including saving and sharing. It provides a hands-on approach to introducing kids to budgeting concepts. Educational Board Games on Money Management : Board games that simulate real-life financial decisions, such as “Business Board Game” or “Monopoly Junior,” can make learning about money fun and practical for kids. Storybooks on Financial Literacy : Books like Bunny Money by Rosemary Wells or The Berenstain Bears’ Trouble with Money provides valuable lessons about saving and spending through relatable storytelling.Incorporating these tools into your child’s routine can help them develop responsible financial habits early on.
February 5, 2025
Audiobooks Your Teen Will Devour: Turning Storytime into an Adventure
Every parent has encountered the “I’m bored” moment, especially when getting teens to engage with books. For some, reading just doesn’t feel like fun. But what if there’s a way to transform storytime into something they’ll look forward to?
A few years ago, a family I worked with shared a story that felt all too familiar. Their teenager, Maya, had always been a reluctant reader. Nothing seemed to capture her interest, no matter how many books they tried. She was more inclined to scroll through her phone or binge-watch her favourite shows.
Then, one day, they tried something new. They swapped out traditional reading for an audiobook of a mystery novel Maya loved. And that’s when something magical happened. As the story unfolded, Maya’s eyes lit up. She started asking questions, predicting what would happen next, and pacing around the house, creating her own version of the plot. It was the kind of engagement they hadn’t seen before.
The experience sparked something. She began listening to audiobooks more regularly and started enjoying them more than she had ever anticipated. It took a good story and an experience that matched her world. And that’s the key to unlocking audiobooks for teens—they need to be engaged, not just entertained.
Why Audiobooks Can Work Wonders for TeensAudiobooks are more than a convenient way to “read” on the go. They offer a rich, immersive experience where teens can dive into stories while still being able to multitask. They can absorb content while drawing, cleaning their room, or even on long car rides.
It’s also about allowing them to escape into a different world. When we think about why teens gravitate toward certain types of media, it often comes down to connection and engagement. Audiobooks help teens connect with the story, especially when they can experience it more effectively.
But there’s another secret here. Audiobooks also allow teens to explore emotions, learn empathy, and develop problem-solving skills while listening to something that excites them.
Tips to Help Your Teen Devour AudiobooksNow, let’s break it down. How can we make audiobooks a go-to for our teens? The truth is, it’s not about simply choosing any book and hoping for the best. It’s about making the experience exciting and engaging. Here are some tips to get started:
1. Start with What They LoveLike finding the right book to read, the key to audiobooks is starting with something they’re interested in. Maybe they love thrillers, science fiction, or fantasy. Or perhaps they’re into true stories or history. Choose audiobooks that align with their passions. The goal is to make the story come alive in a way that feels personal to them.
2. Make It InteractiveTeens sometimes struggle to stay focused, and audiobooks can feel like another passive activity. So, let’s turn it into a more active experience! As they listen, ask questions: “What do you think will happen next?” or “How do you feel about that character’s decision?” Let them take breaks to talk about the story or draw what they imagine as the events unfold. This keeps them engaged and thinking critically about what they’re listening to.
3. Mix It Up with Sound EffectsMake it fun! Audiobooks are much more engaging when they’re not just heard but experienced. Try creating sound effects together as your teen listens to a thrilling chase scene. Shake a jar filled with beads for a thunderstorm or mimic the sound of footsteps running. Getting creative with sound effects can make the story feel more real and encourage a deeper connection with the plot.
4. Take It in Small ChunksSitting still for long audiobook sessions can be challenging for a teen. Instead, break the story into manageable chunks. Maybe they listen for 15 minutes, then talk about what’s happened so far. Taking it slowly allows them to process the story without feeling overwhelmed.
5. Create a ‘Story Time’ RitualTeens thrive on routine, especially when it comes to winding down. Create a daily or weekly audiobook ritual. Audiobooks can become part of the routine, Whether during dinner, before bed, or while doing their chores. The key is consistency and making it something they look forward to.
6. Allow Them to ChooseOne of the most important things is giving teens control over what they’re listening to. Empower them to choose the audiobooks that excite them the most. Giving them this choice fosters independence and a sense of ownership over their learning and entertainment.
Fun Activity: Create Your Own Ending!Here’s a fun activity to help your teen fully own the story. Pick a point in the audiobook with a cliffhanger or an open-ended question. Pause the story and ask them to develop their version of what happens next. What would their characters do? How would they change the story’s direction? Afterwards, play the next part to see how it compares to their prediction.
Audiobooks offer a powerful way for teens to engage with stories in a whole new way. The key is making it fun, interactive, and something they feel connected to. With some creativity, your teen will listen and be eager to dive into the next adventure.
So, what will you choose for your teen’s next audiobook experience?
Let me know how it goes or if you need any extra tips! Feel free to reach out if you want personalized strategies to make audiobooks work for your teen.
Here are some recommended products that could be perfect for you:
Audible Membership : This subscription service offers a vast range of audiobooks tailored to teens, allowing them to explore books across genres and cultivate a love for reading. It provides access to exclusive audiobooks and originals every month, helping teens build a regular listening habit. “Harry Potter” Audiobook Collection : A timeless choice for young readers, the complete collection of Harry Potter audiobooks is an excellent way for teens to immerse themselves in J.K. Rowling’s magical world. It’s remarkably engaging for teens who may enjoy fantasy and adventure. “The Hunger Games” Audiobook : For fans of dystopian fiction, the Hunger Games series provides an exciting, action-packed listening experience that can captivate even reluctant listenersFebruary 4, 2025
ASK THIS INSTEAD: “HOW WAS YOUR DAY?”
When Arihaan returned from school, I was eager to hear about his day. So, like most parents, I asked, “How was your day?”
He barely looked at me, muttered, “Fine,” and that was it.
A whole day’s worth of experiences, lessons, and emotions—all summed up in one word.
I felt a pang of disappointment. I wanted to connect, to know what excited him, what frustrated him, and what made him laugh. But clearly, “How was your day?” wasn’t the magic question.
Why Kids Struggle With This QuestionFor some kids, especially neurodiverse ones, open-ended questions like this can feel overwhelming. Here’s why:
Too broad – They don’t know where to begin. Their day was full of transitions, activities, and emotions; choosing just one thing can be challenging.
Memory recall challenges – Some kids struggle with recalling events in sequence, making it difficult to summarize their day.
Emotional processing – If they had a challenging moment, they may still be working through their emotions and not ready to share.
Social exhaustion – After a long day of following rules and managing interactions, they may not have the energy for another structured conversation.
I realized I needed to change how I asked.
The Day I Tried Something DifferentInstead of my usual question, I tried, “What made you feel really proud today?”
Arihaan’s face lit up.
“I was the fastest in the math drill today!” he said excitedly.
There it was—the entry point into his world. From there, we talked about the math drill, his favourite subject, and how he felt when he finished first.
That one change in my question opened the door to connection.
Better Ways to Ask About Their DayHere are some alternatives that can spark honest conversations:
“What made you smile today?”
“Did anything surprise you today?”
“What’s something tricky you figured out?”
“If you could go back and do one thing differently, what would it be?”
“Tell me one thing you learned today that you didn’t know before.”
Each question gives kids a specific direction, making it easier to answer.
Make It Fun! (Actionable Activity)If your child still finds it hard to talk about their day, turn it into a game!
Emotion Dice – Draw different emotions on a die (happy, excited, confused, frustrated, etc.). Roll and share a moment from the day that matches.
Two Truths and a Fun – Ask them to share two real things about their day and one silly thing—you have to guess which one is made up!
Draw Your Day – Let them sketch or doodle a part of their day instead of discussing it.
Building conversations with kids is about meeting them where they are—at their pace, in their comfort zone, and with some creativity.
Which question are you going to try today? Let me know in the comments!
Need personalized strategies to support your child’s communication and emotional growth? Let’s chat! Book a 1:1 consultation here: https://topmate.io/namita_das11.
Recommended ProductsTo support conversations with kids and encourage engagement, here are some valuable products:
Conversation Starter Flashcards – These help parents and children start meaningful discussions with prompts on emotions, daily experiences, and personal preferences. Feelings and Emotions Books for Kids – Picture books explaining different emotions can help children understand and express their feelings better. Talkable Plush Toys – Interactive plush toys encourage kids to talk and share their thoughts. Story Dice or Conversation Cubes – Fun dice or cubes with images or words that spark storytelling and discussions. Board Games for Communication – Games that require conversation, role-playing, or teamwork can significantly improve social interaction skills.February 3, 2025
Easy Meal Ideas: Turning Mealtime Battles into Wins!
I still remember the day my son looked at his plate, sighed dramatically, and declared, “Mama, I’m not eating this.” It was a plate of his usual favourites—scrambled eggs, toast, and fruit. Nothing new, nothing strange. But that day, it was a hard no.
If you’re a parent, you’ve probably been there. You make something nutritious, balanced, and kid-friendly, only to be met with a frown or total refusal. It’s frustrating, right?
But here’s what I’ve learned—when we approach meals like a test our kids must pass, they push back. When we make food feel like an experience, they engage.
Instead of focusing on what my son eats, I focus on how he eats. And that tiny shift has made a world of difference.
Why Kids Resist Meals (And What Actually Helps!)Kids—especially those with sensory sensitivities, strong preferences, or ADHD—often struggle with meals for reasons beyond just taste.
Predictability Matters – If a meal looks unfamiliar, smells different, or feels unexpected, it can trigger resistance. Telling them what’s on their plate before serving it reduces anxiety.
Control is Key – No one likes to be forced, and kids are no exception! Giving them choices (without overwhelming them) helps them feel in charge.
Food is More Than Taste – Texture, temperature, and even how food is arranged on the plate can make or break a meal for a child.
With these in mind, here are some easy meal ideas that have worked wonders in our home.
Easy Meal Ideas That Work Like Magic 1. The “Pick & Choose” PlateInstead of mixing everything, offer tiny portions of different foods separately. Let them choose what they want to eat first. Example:
Scrambled eggs, cucumber slices, and toast
Rice, plain yoghurt, and lentils in separate bowls
Grilled chicken, roasted potatoes, and carrot sticks
When kids feel in control, they’re more likely to engage with their food!
2. The “Same But Different” TrickIf your child likes a particular food, serve it in different (but familiar) ways. This keeps meals from becoming too repetitive while still feeling safe.
Loves eggs? Try scrambled, boiled, or an omelette—but always tell them in advance how it will be served.Enjoys rice? Offer plain rice one day, lightly spiced another day, or shaped into small rice balls. 3. The “Name It Before They See It” ApproachMany kids need to process what’s on their plate before they’re comfortable eating. Instead of placing an unfamiliar dish in front of them, describe it first:
“Today’s rice is soft and warm.”
“This chicken is crispy outside and soft inside.”
“We have bananas—they’re sweet and easy to chew!”
This small step reduces resistance because it gives their brains time to adjust!
4. The “Help Me, Chef!” StrategyKids love to feel involved! When they help make a meal, they’re much more likely to eat it. Even small tasks like:
Stirring pancake batter
Picking which fruit goes in their snack box
Arranging food on a plate
…can turn “I don’t want this” into “Look what I made!”
An Actionable Activity: “What’s on My Plate?”Want to make mealtimes fun? Try this:
1⃣ Before serving a meal, tell your child three clues about what’s on the plate. Example:
“It’s yellow.”“It’s round.”“It’s soft inside.”2⃣ Let them guess before they see the plate.
3⃣ Once they see the food, encourage them to describe it in their own words.
Why does this work? It turns eating into a game, builds curiosity, and mentally prepares them for what’s coming. No pressure, just fun!
Final ThoughtsMealtimes don’t have to feel like battles. When we focus on making food predictable, engaging, and choice-driven, kids feel more comfortable—and that’s when real progress happens.
If you try any of these ideas, I’d love to hear how it went! Comment below and let me know: What’s one food your child eats without a fuss? And if you need personalized guidance, click here to book a 1:1 consultation with me. Let’s make mealtimes easier together! 
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February 1, 2025
How to Restart a Routine Without Battles
I knew the question was coming.
“Mumma, why do I have to wake up early again? I liked holiday time better.”
I glanced at my son, still snuggled under the blanket, his face scrunched in protest. To be honest, I felt the same way. We had just gotten used to slow mornings, unstructured play, and skipping the rush of the school routine. And now? The transition felt like climbing a steep hill neither of us wanted to tackle.
Suppose you’ve ever tried restarting a routine with a child (especially one who thrives on predictability). In that case, you know the struggle is real. The grogginess, the whining, the endless delays—it’s enough to make any parent want to give up and let chaos reign. But over time, I’ve realized that how we restart routine matters as much as the routine itself.
Here’s how I gently ease my little one (and myself) back into the structure—without the battles.
1. Prepare, Don’t SurpriseImagine sleeping peacefully and suddenly hearing, “Wake up and get dressed! We’re getting late!” Your body jolts. Your brain scrambles to keep up. That’s precisely how kids feel when transitions happen without warning.
Instead of flipping the switch overnight, I prepare my son ahead of time:
Countdowns help: “Three more days till school starts again!”
Visual cues work wonders: A simple checklist on the fridge makes expectations clear.
Conversations make it real: We talk about what’s coming up, not just when but also why.
Jumping straight into a whole routine after weeks of flexibility? That’s overwhelming. Instead, I introduce small changes first:
Moving bedtime earlier by 10-15 minutes each night.
Waking up at the new time but keeping mornings slow at first.
Encouraging independence with simple choices: “Do you want to wear the blue or red T-shirt?”
Transitions don’t have to be rigid. The goal is to gradually shift gears, not slam the brakes on their comfort zone.
3. Connect Before You CorrectOne morning, my son refused to brush his teeth. I was tempted to insist, “Just do it; we’re getting late!” But I paused.
Instead of pushing compliance, I leaned in. “You seem upset. Is it hard getting back into school mode?” He nodded. I hugged him and said, “I get it. Let’s do it together.”
That moment of connection turned resistance into cooperation. When kids feel heard, they are more willing to follow through.
4. Predictability = ComfortFor children (especially neurodiverse ones), knowing what comes next makes a world of difference.
Here’s what helps in my home:
First-Then Statements: “First brush teeth, then we can read a story.”
Timers for transitions: “Let’s see if we can finish breakfast before the timer beeps!”
Breaking tasks into steps: Instead of saying, “Get ready,” I say: “First socks, then shoes.”
Predictability reduces anxiety and helps kids feel in control.
5. Keep It Simple and ClearSome days, my son wakes up and follows the routine seamlessly. On other days, he’s a human starfish refusing to budge. That’s when I remind myself:
Keep instructions short and precise.
Use gentle reminders instead of nagging.
Allow processing time instead of expecting immediate action.
Some resistance is expected. What matters is how we guide them through it.
6. The Secret Ingredient? YOU.Routines aren’t just about schedules—they’re about connection, too.
Instead of rushing, I slow down. Instead of just giving instructions, I join him in the transition.
Because when we make routines feel safe, kids don’t just follow them… they trust them.
Actionable Activity: The 5-Day Gentle Routine ResetWant to make transitions smoother? Try this challenge!
Day 1: Talk about the new routine and start a countdown.
Day 2: Adjust one small element (like bedtime).
Day 3: Use a fun timer challenge to keep things light.
Day 4: Try a ‘First-Then’ strategy for smoother transitions.
Day 5: Celebrate small wins! 
Remember: It’s not about perfection. It’s about progress.
What part of restarting a routine is hardest for your child? Let’s chat in the comments! 
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Fidget and Sensory Toys SetA collection of stress-relief toys, including pop-its, squishy balls, and fidget spinners, that help children stay focused and engaged. These are especially useful for children who need sensory stimulation during learning or transitions.
Weighted Lap PadA soft, weighted lap pad that provides deep pressure stimulation, helping children stay calm and focused while sitting for extended periods, such as during schoolwork or mealtimes.
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These products can significantly add to your child’s routine, promoting independence, focus, and emotional regulation. Always consider your child’s individual needs before purchasing.
January 31, 2025
How ADHD Warps Your Perception of Time: Why “5 Minutes” Feels Like a Blink or an Eternity
The other day, my son was sitting at the table, deep in concentration, practising his multiplication. I had given him a five-minute heads-up before bedtime. “Five more minutes!” I chirped. He nodded, barely glancing up, his pencil moving furiously across the page.
Ten minutes later, I reminded him again.
His head snapped up. “But you just said five minutes!”
I sighed, smiling. It was one of those moments—I knew his brain had completely lost track of time. If he were waiting for something he wasn’t excited about, like brushing his teeth, five minutes would have felt like an endless stretch. But because he was engaged, time had disappeared.
This is time blindness—a common experience for kids (and adults!) with ADHD. Their brains process time differently, making it hard to sense its passage like most people do.
The ADHD Time Warp: Now vs. Not NowFor kids with ADHD, time isn’t measured in minutes—it’s divided into two categories:
NOW (what’s happening at this moment)
NOT NOW (everything else, no matter how soon or far away)
This is why:
They get lost in activities they enjoy and don’t realise how much time has passed.
They struggle to estimate how long things will take (getting dressed might take forever).
They often overestimate how much time they have before a deadline and underestimate how long a task will take.
And this leads to… frustration. Frustration for them when they feel constantly rushed, and frustration for us when they aren’t moving fast enough.
But the solution isn’t yelling, “Hurry up!” (which rarely works) or expecting them to suddenly develop an internal clock. It’s about helping them see time differently.
Making Time Feel RealInstead of just saying, “Ten more minutes,” try these simple strategies:
Make time visible – Use timers, countdown clocks, or hourglasses. Watching sand fall or a digital countdown helps them grasp time realistically.
Tie time to something they feel – Instead of “We leave in 10 minutes,” say “After two songs” or “When you finish colouring this section.” This anchors time to an experience.
Use movement-based transitions – Kids with ADHD respond well to movement. Instead of saying, “Get ready,” try, “Let’s race to see who can get their shoes on first!” or “Can you hop to the bathroom before the timer beeps?”
Break tasks into smaller chunks – “Do your homework” feels overwhelming, but “Finish two math problems before the timer rings” feels achievable.
Time blindness isn’t laziness. It’s not intentional defiance. It’s just the way their brain processes time. The goal isn’t to force them into rigid schedules—it’s to help them navigate time in a way that works for them.
Next time your child seems lost in the ADHD time warp, remember: It’s not about teaching them to “feel” time—it’s about giving them tools to see it.
Have you noticed this with your child? What’s your best trick for helping them manage time? Share below! Book a 1:1 consultation with me here: https://topmate.io/namita_das11 if you need personalised strategies. Let’s make time work for your child, not against them!
Recommended Products for Time Perception & Management
Haiphisi Visual Timer for Kids – A 60-minute visual countdown timer with a stop button, great for helping children stay on track with tasks like writing, math, or painting. NGTeco Visual Timer – Designed for kids with ADHD, this 60-minute countdown timer provides a visual cue for better time management, making transitions between activities easier. UniKart Digital Magnetic Timer – A compact and magnetic digital timer that sets structured time blocks for activities like homework or creative projects.These timers can help children understand and manage time better, reducing frustration and improving focus during tasks. I would love to hear if you use time management tools with your child. Comment below!
