Namita Das's Blog, page 16
February 25, 2025
The Therapy That Helps You Manage Intense Emotions
It starts with a small thing—a broken crayon, a skipped turn in a game, a shirt that just feels wrong. And then, suddenly… BOOM! The emotions explode. Tears, screams, a refusal to budge. We’ve all been there, watching a child struggle with overwhelming feelings, wondering how to help.
The truth is emotions are big, messy, and sometimes unpredictable. And for kids, especially those who think and process the world a little differently, managing these emotions can feel impossible. But here’s the good news: just like we teach them how to read or ride a bike, we can also teach them how to handle their feelings safely and empoweringly.
Why Do Big Emotions Feel So Overwhelming?Imagine being caught in a sudden storm—wind howling, rain pounding, thunder crashing. If we don’t know where to take cover, we panic. That’s precisely what happens when kids feel emotions they don’t understand. Their brains go into fight, flight or freeze mode, and their feelings take over their actions before they know it.
When we step in after a meltdown and say, “Calm down,” it’s like handing someone an umbrella after being drenched. Instead, we must help them build emotional resilience before the storm hits.
The STOP, NAME, CHOOSE StrategyOne of the best ways to manage intense emotions is through a simple STOP, NAME, CHOOSE strategy. It helps kids (and us!) pause before reacting, making emotions feel less overwhelming. Here’s how it works:
STOP – Pause and take a deep breath. This gives the brain time to slow down. If a child is too upset to stop, we can guide them with a calming gesture, like holding their hands or offering a sensory object.
NAME – Label the emotion: “I feel frustrated because my tower fell.” When we name emotions, they become easier to manage. This also helps kids build an emotional vocabulary so they don’t have to show us how they feel with a meltdown.
CHOOSE – Decide on the next step: “I can try again, or I can take a break.” Giving choices empowers kids to regain control instead of feeling frustrated.
We can turn emotional awareness into a game! Try this:
Grab a soft toy or ball. Each time we toss it to a child, we say an emotion (happy, sad, frustrated, excited, etc.), and they must act it out or share a time they felt that way. This simple activity helps kids express emotions before they build up into outbursts.
Teaching emotional regulation takes time. Some days will be easier than others. But every time we help a child pause, name, and choose, we teach them lifelong skills to confidently navigate their feelings.
So the next time a small moment turns into a big storm, let’s remember—we are not just stopping meltdowns but shaping emotional resilience, one moment at a time. 
What’s one emotion your child struggles with the most? Share in the comments below! If you need personalized guidance, book a session here: https://topmate.io/namita_das11.
Recommended Products for Emotional RegulationTo help children develop emotional regulation and coping skills, here are some engaging products that can be incorporated into their daily routines:
The Calm Ball – Coping Skills Tool A unique therapy toy designed by a licensed therapist, the Calm Ball encourages children to practice 20 different coping mechanisms, such as journaling, affirmations, and meditation. It can be a great addition to a calm-down corner at home or school.Don’t Go Bananas – A CBT Game for Kids This fun card game helps children identify, express, and manage their emotions through cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) techniques. This valuable guide supports therapists and educators in helping children develop emotional intelligence.Garybank Social Emotional Learning Therapy Game: A comprehensive set with 56 emotion cards and activities, this game helps children develop coping skills through engaging and interactive play. It is ideal for classrooms, counselling sessions, and home learning. Unwynnd Stress Balls for Anxiety Relief These hand exercise balls provide a tactile way for children to manage stress, anxiety, and frustration while strengthening their hand muscles.VGRASSP Electric Plush Stress Relief Punch Toy: A playful option for children who need an outlet for physical expression, this soft, stuffed toy makes a fun gift for kids who benefit from sensory play.These tools can support children’s emotional well-being by making self-regulation fun and engaging. They are valuable additions to a structured learning environment and can help kids build resilience over time.
February 24, 2025
ADHD & The Menstrual Cycle: When Our Brain Feels Like a Rollercoaster
Last week, a mom in one of our sessions sighed and said, “I swear my daughter’s ADHD gets worse before her period. One minute, she’s fine; the next, she’s overwhelmed, snapping, or staring at her homework like it’s written in another language.”
If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone. Many of us—whether managing our own ADHD or supporting a child with it—notice these sudden shifts. One week, focus and motivation seem manageable; the next, it feels like we’re wading through thick fog. It’s not just mood swings; it’s a real, science-backed connection between hormones and ADHD symptoms.
Why Does ADHD Feel Worse Before Our Period?ADHD affects how we regulate emotions, manage impulses, and maintain focus. Now, add the menstrual cycle into the mix. Throughout the month, estrogen and progesterone—the key hormones influencing our brain chemistry—fluctuate.
Estrogen: This hormone helps with dopamine regulation, essential for motivation, attention, and emotional balance. We may notice better focus and mood stability when estrogen is high (like in the first half of the cycle).Progesterone: In the second half of the cycle, progesterone levels rise while estrogen drops. Progesterone can make us feel sluggish, foggy, or extra sensitive to stress. And because estrogen isn’t there to support dopamine levels, ADHD symptoms often feel amplified.For some, this shift means suddenly struggling with tasks that felt easy just days ago. It might show up as heightened irritability, forgetfulness, difficulty following through on plans, or a stronger emotional reaction to small things. If we’re supporting kids or teens with ADHD, we might notice more meltdowns, impulsivity, or difficulty transitioning between activities.
So, What Can We Do?The good news? We don’t have to fight our brains—we can work with them. Understanding the cycle’s impact can help us plan and adjust. Here are some simple ways to make this time easier:
Track the Cycle: For ourselves or our child, maintaining written records or utilizing digital tools can help us notice patterns in mood, focus, and energy levels. Once we recognize these shifts, we can plan around them.
Adjust Expectations: During the premenstrual phase, we can schedule lighter tasks, allow ourselves to slow down, and avoid overwhelming deadlines. Kids might need extra support with schoolwork or more patience with emotional regulation.
Use External Supports: This is a great time to rely on visual schedules, alarms, checklists, and body-doubling (working alongside someone) to keep focus and motivation up. These strategies take the pressure off our working memory when brain fog kicks in.
Move the Body: Exercise—even a simple walk or stretching—can boost dopamine levels, helping with focus and mood regulation. If we support a child, engaging in movement-based play can help them regulate emotions more easily.
Fuel the Brain: Balanced meals with protein and fibre support stable energy levels, which benefits mood and focus. Hydration also plays a role—dehydration can make ADHD symptoms feel worse!
Practice Self-Compassion: This isn’t about willpower or “pushing through.” If a task feels more complicated than usual, that’s okay. Giving ourselves or our children grace during this cycle can reduce frustration and guilt.
Here’s a simple way to make cycle tracking easy and actionable:
1⃣ Each evening, take a minute to rate focus, mood, and energy on a scale of 1-5.
2⃣ Notice patterns after a month or two. Do certain days feel harder?
3⃣ Adjust routines—plan important tasks for high-energy days and allow flexibility for low-energy ones.
When we understand how our brain and body work together, we can support ourselves and our kids more patiently and confidently. ADHD and hormones may create a rollercoaster, but with the right tools, we can make the ride smoother. 
Let’s talk—have you noticed ADHD symptoms fluctuating with the menstrual cycle? Share your experience in the comments!
Managing ADHD and the menstrual cycle can feel overwhelming, but minor adjustments can make a big difference. Here are some helpful products that can provide sensory relief and support during this time:
Sensory Fidget Toys – Products like the Aukfa Stress Relief Stretchy Sensory Toys and COOLCOLD Slug Fidget Toys help with anxiety and fidgeting, offering sensory stimulation that can be grounding during hormonal fluctuations.
Menstrual Pain Relief Devices – A portable electric heating massager like the VazzLox Menstrual Pain Relief Massager can help soothe cramps and discomfort without needing medication.
Multi-Color Stretchable Pop Tube Sensory Fidget Toy – These bendable finger toys are great for stress relief and maintaining focus during mood swings or restlessness.
Activity Chain Links for Fine Motor Skills – If you’re looking for a calming, repetitive activity, these colourful educational chain links help with hand-eye coordination while offering an engaging distraction.
These small tools can help ease some of the challenges associated with ADHD and menstrual cycles. If you’d like personalized guidance, book a 1:1 consultation with us here: Click to book.
February 22, 2025
Nonsense Decluttering Advice We Need to Stop Following
When Kuku was four, he had a little box filled with what most people would call junk—broken crayons, a single puzzle piece, a car missing its wheels, and a shiny rock he once found at a park. One day, in an attempt to ‘declutter’ and ‘help him focus,’ I cleaned up his space while he was at preschool. Everything he hadn’t used in weeks? Gone.
That evening, we had a full-blown meltdown. Not over a toy, a missing game, but over his rock—the shiny rock he was keeping for a reason only he knew. That’s when I realized decluttering isn’t just about cleaning up; it’s about understanding what feels important to our kids.
So why do we keep hearing nonsense advice like…
“Just throw out what they don’t use!”
Why it’s flawed: Many kids, especially neurodivergent ones, form deep attachments to objects. A seemingly useless item might hold emotional significance, provide comfort, or be a transition tool for them.
A better approach: Instead of secretly tossing things, we can create a ‘Transition Box’ where we place items our child hasn’t used but might want later. We can let them choose when (or if) they’re ready to let go.
“A clutter-free space means a clutter-free mind!” Why it’s flawed: For many of us, an empty space might feel peaceful, but for some kids, it feels unsettling. A completely ‘minimalist’ room can make them feel lost rather than calm.
A better approach: Let’s involve our kids in deciding how their space should look. We can ask, “What helps you feel comfortable here?” Maybe they need a cosy corner with their favourite items visible instead of tucked away.
“One in, one out!” Why it’s flawed: This rule assumes that kids can part with things easily. But for many, letting go isn’t about logic but emotional readiness.
A better approach: Instead of “out,” we can say, “Let’s make space for something new by keeping only the most special things!” This shifts the focus to choosing favourites rather than feeling forced to give something up.
So, how can we declutter without distress?
Give choices: “Do you want to keep this in a special box or pass it on?”
Use stories: “This toy is going on a new adventure. Want to help?”
Create a ‘decision-free’ zone: A small shelf or box where they can keep their absolute non-negotiables.
Set a ‘Maybe Later’ bin: If they’re unsure about something, we can revisit it in a month instead of making a rushed decision.
Decluttering doesn’t have to mean distress—it can be a process of trust and collaboration. Let’s create spaces that feel safe rather than stripped down.
Recommended Products to Make Decluttering EasierLooking for child-friendly storage solutions? Here are some helpful products to help keep things organized without overwhelming your little one:
Toy Storage Organizers – Stackable bins and toy shelves to keep everything visible and easy to access.
Multi-Compartment Kids’ Wardrobes – Lightweight storage solutions for keeping clothes and accessories in order.
Hanging Organizers – Over-the-door or wall-mounted organizers for books, small toys, and stationery.
Labeling Stickers & Chalkboard Labels – Fun and easy ways to categorize bins and shelves to encourage independent organization.
Decluttering Books for Kids – Interactive guides to help children understand and participate in organizing their space.
What’s the strangest thing your child refuses to part with? Drop it in the comments!
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February 20, 2025
ADHD & Discipline: The Right Approach vs. Harmful Myths
The other day at the park, we watched a little boy—maybe six or seven—zipping from one play structure to another, arms flailing, giggling with pure joy. His mother called his name repeatedly, but he didn’t respond. Instead, he was immersed in his world, climbing, jumping, and exploring. After a while, she sighed, turned to another parent, and said, “He just doesn’t listen. Maybe if I was stricter, he would behave.”
It wasn’t the first time we had heard something like this. And unfortunately, it won’t be the last. There’s a deep-rooted belief in many communities that children with ADHD need more discipline—the kind that equates to strictness, harsh consequences, or even physical punishment. Recently, a public figure even suggested that ADHD could be treated with the belt.
Let’s pause for a moment. The belt? Really?
This outdated mindset doesn’t just stem from misinformation—it fuels harm. It tells parents that their child’s struggles are a matter of willpower rather than brain-wiring. It convinces teachers that children who fidget, blurt out answers, or struggle with transitions are choosing to be complicated. Worst of all, it makes children with ADHD feel like they are broken instead of understood.
The Truth About ADHD & BehaviorADHD isn’t about bad parenting or a lack of discipline. It’s a neurodevelopmental condition that affects executive functioning—the part of the brain responsible for impulse control, emotional regulation, and focus. Kids with ADHD don’t refuse to listen; their brains often struggle to process multiple instructions, filter distractions, or transition between tasks smoothly.
So, what actually works? Instead of punishment, we focus on skill-building, connection, and structured support. The more we understand how ADHD brains work, the better we can guide our kids in ways that genuinely help them succeed.
What Helps ADHD Kids Thrive? Clear and Positive Expectations – Instead of “Stop running,” try “Use walking feet inside the house.” Giving clear, positive directions helps children understand what to do instead of what not to do.
Co-Regulation Over Harsh Reactions – If emotions run high, our response matters more than their reaction. Instead of meeting big feelings with punishment, let’s model calm and give them tools to navigate frustration.
Engagement Over Consequences – Rather than punishing a child for struggling to sit still, let’s provide movement breaks, fidget tools, or short bursts of activity to help them positively regulate their energy.
Connection First, Correction Later – Before correcting behaviour, let’s take a moment to connect. A simple “I see you’re having a tough time; let’s figure this out together” can do wonders.
One simple yet effective way to help ADHD kids regulate is using a Red Light, Green Light Check-In:
Red Light – Feeling overwhelmed, frustrated, or stuck? Time for a sensory break, deep breathing, or quiet space.
Yellow Light – Getting distracted or restless? Time to reset with a quick movement break, stretching, or a fidget tool.
Green Light – Feeling focused and ready? Let’s keep going with the task at hand!
By practising this regularly, kids recognise their emotions and need before behaviors escalate. And instead of resorting to punishment, we empower them to develop self-awareness and self-regulation skills.
Let’s Change the NarrativeNo child should grow up feeling that their struggles make them bad or that they need to be fixed through punishment. ADHD kids don’t need “tough love.” They need understanding, patience, and the proper support.
If you’ve ever been told your child needs “stricter discipline,” let’s start rewriting that story—together. 
Need personalised guidance on parenting a child with ADHD? Book a 1:1 consultation with us here: https://topmate.io/namita_das11
If you’re looking for tools to support focus, sensory regulation, and emotional regulation for children with ADHD, here are some highly rated products:
Aukfa Stress Relief Stretchy Sensory Toys (Pack of 6) – These stretchy fidget toys provide an excellent way for kids to manage sensory overload, reduce anxiety, and improve concentration. COOLCOLD Kids Slug Fidget Toy – A fun, flexible sensory toy that makes a satisfying clicking sound, helping kids regulate emotions and stay engaged. It’s excellent for playfully providing sensory input. Little’s Colourful Activity Chain Links – These activity links enhance dexterity and visual-motor integration while functioning as a sensory-friendly toy.They can assist in establishing an organised and nurturing environment at home or in the classroom. Let’s continue advocating for positive, research-backed strategies to help neurodiverse kids thrive!
February 18, 2025
End the Nightly Bedtime Resistance: Turning Chaos into Calm
It’s 8:30 PM, and the bedtime routine begins. “Time to brush your teeth!” we say, hoping for a smooth transition. Instead, we get: “Five more minutes!” “I’m not tired!” “But I need water… AGAIN!”
Sound familiar? We’ve all been there—standing in the doorway, exhausted, watching our little ones summon energy like they’ve just had an espresso shot. The bedtime battles can feel endless, but here’s the thing: Kids resist bedtime not because they want to drive us up the wall but because bedtime signals the end of fun, the end of control, and sometimes even separation anxiety.
Why Does Bedtime Feel Like a Battle?For many kids, transitions are challenging—especially when they mean shifting from a stimulating, engaging day to a quiet, less exciting night. Some children thrive on routines, while others crave independence and control. Some struggle with sensory sensitivities or nighttime worries that make sleep difficult.
The key to ending bedtime resistance? A mix of predictability, engagement, and a touch of creativity.
How We Can Make Bedtime SmootherInstead of turning bedtime into a power struggle, let’s try making it an experience they feel good about. Here’s how:
PRE-BEDTIME WIND-DOWN – The more active and engaged kids are before bed, the harder it is for them to settle down. We can create a 30-minute wind-down routine that gently signals the body to rest. Dim the lights, play calming music, or introduce a quiet time activity like colouring, puzzles, or flipping through a favourite picture book.
TURN ROUTINES INTO PLAY – Many children respond better to routines when they’re fun. Instead of “Go to bed now,” we can offer playful choices: “Do you want to hop like a bunny to bed or tiptoe like a fox?” or “Should we tuck in your teddy first or you first?” Giving choices helps kids feel a sense of control within set boundaries.
THE POWER OF CONNECTION – Sometimes, resistance isn’t about bedtime at all. It’s about feeling disconnected after a long day. A 5-minute “whisper chat” in bed—where we share a funny moment from the day or talk about something we’re excited about—can work wonders in helping kids feel secure and ready to sleep.
A BEDTIME STORY… WITH A TWIST! – If nighttime worries make sleep challenging, we can turn our child into the hero of a bedtime adventure story! “Tonight, you’re on a magical sleep journey to dreamland. What do you see? Who do you meet?” Letting them imagine a calm and exciting dream can replace bedtime resistance with anticipation.
The Sleepy Star Chart
This simple reinforcement strategy helps bedtime feel like an achievable goal rather than a nightly struggle.
Final ThoughtsWe don’t need to win bedtime battles—we need to transform bedtime into a comforting, predictable, and even enjoyable experience. When kids feel safe, connected, and in control, the resistance fades, and sleep becomes much more manageable.
Which bedtime tip are you excited to try tonight? Let’s share ideas in the comments below! And if you need personalized guidance, click here to book a 1:1 consultation with us. Let’s make bedtime peaceful for everyone!
To support your child’s phonics learning journey and make the process engaging, consider these valuable products:
Phonics Flashcards Set – Flashcards with CVC words, blends, and digraphs can help children practice reading and improve word recognition. Interactive Phonics Learning Tablet – A digital phonics tablet with engaging activities can reinforce letter sounds and word-building skills through fun games. Wooden Alphabet Puzzle – A hands-on way for kids to learn letter recognition, sounds, and spelling through tactile play. Magnetic Letters & Words Set – Helps children form words on magnetic boards or fridges, making spelling and phonics practice interactive. Phonics-Based Storybooks – Short, decodable books designed for early readers can boost confidence and fluency in reading. Star Projector Night Light – If your child enjoys bedtime reading, a soft night light like the Kixre Kids Night Light can create a soothing atmosphere for evening storytelling.These tools can make learning phonics more enjoyable and effective for young readers. You can explore similar options based on your child’s interests and learning style.
February 17, 2025
Book Review: Britt-Marie Was Here by Fredrik Backman
Fredrik Backman has a remarkable talent for breathing life into characters that seem ordinary on the surface but hold a depth of emotions that resonate deeply with readers. Britt-Marie Was Here is no exception. It is a novel about self-discovery, resilience, and the power of human connection—told through the eyes of a woman who has long been overlooked and underestimated.
Britt-Marie, a rigidly structured and socially awkward woman, starts over in the small town of Borg after a life spent adhering to the rules of others. As someone who works with neurodiverse children, I found Britt-Marie’s character strikingly familiar. Her need for order, her discomfort in unpredictable situations, and her struggle to connect with others remind me of children I’ve worked with—those who see the world through a different lens and sometimes get misunderstood because of it. She isn’t tricky; she just thrives in structure, a concept that many neurodiverse individuals relate to sincerely.
What makes Britt-Marie Was Here truly special is how it gently unfolds the theme of transformation. At first, Britt-Marie’s rigid personality makes her an unlikely protagonist. Still, as she is forced out of her comfort zone, we see her warmth, humour, and deep longing for purpose emerge. Through an unexpected role as a soccer coach for the local children—who are as rough around the edges as the town itself—she begins to forge connections that challenge and redefine her understanding of herself.
I was especially drawn to the relationships Britt-Marie forms with the children of Borg. Backman beautifully captures the reciprocal nature of mentorship: Britt-Marie teaches the children about responsibility and order while they teach her about resilience, joy, and the importance of embracing life’s uncertainties. This profoundly therapeutic exchange mirrors how structure benefits children with learning or behavioural challenges. Yet, it also teaches the adults around them patience, adaptability, and the ability to celebrate small victories.
From a literary standpoint, Backman’s storytelling is as engaging as ever. His signature humour, poignant observations, and ability to depict loneliness and hope in the same breath make this novel an emotional yet uplifting read. Rather than presenting characters through exhaustive descriptions, he lets their actions and dialogues reveal their personalities—a technique I love.
For fellow parents, especially those raising neurodiverse children, Britt-Marie Was Here offers a comforting message: change is possible at any stage of life, and sometimes, stepping into the unknown can lead to the most meaningful experiences. Britt-Marie’s journey of self-discovery is one that many caregivers can relate to—whether they’re re-evaluating their roles in their child’s development, navigating life’s unexpected turns, or simply learning to find joy in the chaos.
This book is not just about a woman finding herself; it is about the beauty of human connection, how small acts of kindness can change lives and the reminder that we all—no matter how set in our ways—are capable of growth.
Highly recommended for anyone who enjoys stories of transformation, humour, and the profound impact of community.
Would love to hear your thoughts if you’ve read this one!
February 16, 2025
When IEPs Fall Apart: The Hidden Gaps & Smart Fixes
“We have an IEP. So why isn’t it working?”
Riya sighed as she watched her son, Aarav, struggle through his homework—again. His school had finally implemented an Individualized Education Plan (IEP), but things weren’t improving. The accommodations seemed nice on paper but in reality? No real change.
She had sat through the meetings, nodded at the goals, and trusted the process. But now, she felt lost.
You’re not alone if you’ve ever been in Riya’s shoes. Many IEPs don’t fail because people don’t care—they fall apart because of small but critical gaps that go unnoticed. The good news? Once we spot these gaps, we can fix them!
Why Do IEPs Fall Apart?Let’s look at the most common reasons IEPs don’t work—and how we can turn things around.
1. The Goals Are Too VagueIEP Goal: “Aarav will improve his reading skills.”
Why It Fails: This goal is too broad. How do we measure “improvement”? Does it mean fluency, comprehension, or decoding? Without clear targets, progress gets lost.
Smart Fix: We need specific, measurable, and time-bound goals.
For example:
“Aarav will correctly decode CVC words with 80% accuracy in three out of five trials using phonics-based instruction.”
Tip: When reading an IEP goal, ask:
IEP Plan: “Neha will get extra time for reading.”
Why It Fails: More time won’t help if reading is already a struggle. If Neha struggles with focus, decoding, or working memory, adding minutes won’t solve the problem.
Smart Fix: Identify why she struggles and build strategies around that.
For example:
“Neha will use a multi-sensory approach (tracing, tapping, and verbalizing) for sight words before reading a new text.”
Tip: Accommodations should be based on how a child learns, not just extra time or support.
IEP Meeting: “We’ll work on it at school.”
Why It Fails: If the learning stops when school ends, progress slows down. Kids need consistency across settings—classroom, home, and even playtime.
Smart Fix: Collaboration is key! Schools and families should work together with simple strategies.
For example:
Teachers: Use structured, predictable methods. Parents: Reinforce learning through 5-minute daily activities (phonics games, storytelling, movement breaks). Tip: Ask teachers for simple ways to practice skills at home. Even a few minutes of targeted practice can make a big difference!
IEP Plan: “Tanvi will use a visual schedule for class transitions.”
Why It Fails: What if Tanvi no longer needs it? IEPs must grow with the child.
Smart Fix: Regular check-ins (every few months) to adjust strategies. If Tanvi becomes independent with transitions, we will shift to self-monitoring techniques.
Tip: Progress doesn’t mean removing support—it means adapting it to fit the next stage.
An IEP isn’t just a document—it’s a roadmap to success. When it doesn’t work, it’s not a dead end. We just need to adjust the route!
Actionable Activity: Let’s Review an IEP Goal! This week, let’s take a goal from an IEP (for our child or a student we support). Ask:
Is it specific and measurable?
Does it match the child’s actual challenges?
Does it include collaboration between home and school?
Is there a plan for growth and change?
Let’s make IEPs work, not just exist! Have you ever faced an IEP that wasn’t helping? What changes made a difference? Let’s talk in the comments!
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Implementing an effective IEP requires the right tools to help children stay engaged, self-regulate, and improve learning outcomes. Here are some helpful resources:
Fidget Bands for Classroom Chairs & Desks – These stretchy bands allow kids to move their legs while seated, helping with focus and reducing restlessness in classrooms and at home. Bouncy Bands for Desks – Ideal for kids who need movement to concentrate, these bands let them bounce their feet while working. They’re great for improving attention in structured learning environments. Flexible Seating Options – Products like wobble cushions or fidget stools support postural control and provide sensory input, benefiting children who struggle with traditional seating. Visual Schedules & Timers – A must-have for children who thrive on routine, visual schedules and digital timers help them manage transitions smoothly and increase independence in following their IEP goals. Sensory-Friendly Writing Aids – Pencil grips and weighted pens improve handwriting skills and provide proprioceptive feedback for kids struggling with fine motor control.These tools can make a big difference in ensuring your child’s IEP succeeds in school and home environments.
February 14, 2025
Why Do Kids Hyperfixate on Crushes?
Ever noticed a child talking endlessly about one particular person? Maybe they doodle the same name repeatedly, reenact conversations, or bring up that person at the most random moments. It can seem like they’re obsessed! But what’s really happening inside their minds?
Aanya, a bright and curious 8-year-old, sat at the dining table, absentmindedly stirring her juice. “Do you think people can think someone into liking them?” she suddenly asked. Her mom raised an eyebrow, amused, “Why do you ask?”
“Well… I just keep thinking about him. And if I always think about him, maybe he’ll feel it?” Aanya’s mom chuckled but noticed how her daughter was completely immersed in this thought. She had mentioned this boy at least ten times that week!
For many kids, especially neurodivergent ones, crushes aren’t just simple infatuations—they can turn into hyperfixations. It’s not just about feelings; it’s about how their brain processes emotions, novelty, and connection.
Why Do Some Kids Hyperfixate on Crushes? The Brain Loves Joy!
When kids find something that excites them—dinosaurs, a video game, or a special someone—their brain releases dopamine, the “feel-good” chemical. This rush is so intense for some children that they want to hold onto it for as long as possible.
Predictability Feels Safe
Crushes can create a comfortable pattern. Thinking about the same person, replaying conversations, or imagining different scenarios feels predictable. For children who thrive on routine, this emotional pattern can feel grounding.
Big Feelings Can Be Overwhelming
Children don’t always have the words to describe their emotions. When they experience something new and exciting, their brain holds onto it—sometimes too tightly! Hyperfixating on a crush might be their way of processing these unfamiliar feelings.
It’s a Learning Process
Having a crush is one of the first experiences of deep emotional attachment outside family. It teaches kids about admiration, connection, and even disappointment. The brain practises handling relationships in the future.
How Can We Help Without Dismissing Their Feelings?As adults, our first instinct might be to say, “Oh, it’s just a phase,” or “You’ll forget about them soon.” But for kids, their feelings are real and intense. Instead of brushing them off, we can healthily guide them through this experience.
Acknowledge Their Feelings
Saying, “That sounds exciting! What do you like about them?” opens the door for conversation. It also helps children explore their feelings rather than feeling dismissed.
Broaden Their World
Gently introduce other engaging topics, activities, or social interactions. If their focus is expanding, it helps create balance.
Introduce Thought-Tracking
A great way to teach self-awareness is to ask:
“How does thinking about them make you feel?”“Do you still enjoy other things?”“What else made you happy this week?”This helps kids recognize that while crushes feel exciting, they aren’t the only source of happiness.
Fun Activity: The “Joy Jar”
What You Need: A jar, paper, and a pen.
How It Works:
Crushes can feel all-consuming, but they are also an opportunity to teach emotional regulation, self-awareness, and balance. Instead of worrying, let’s walk alongside our children and help them confidently navigate their emotions.
What’s the funniest or sweetest thing your child has ever said about a crush? Drop it in the comments!
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These tools can support emotional learning and self-regulation, making it easier for children to navigate their intense emotions healthily and constructively. Let me know if you’d like any more recommendations! 
February 13, 2025
Screens Are Stealing Your Attention—Take It Back!
It started as a quick scroll. Just five minutes. But before we knew it, dinner was getting cold, and little hands were tugging at our sleeves. “Mom… Dad… Look at this!” We nodded absentmindedly, eyes still glued to the screen. And then came the sigh, the tiny shoulders slumping, the unspoken understanding—“They’re not really here.”
Sound familiar?
We tell our kids to focus, to listen, to pay attention. But what are we modelling? Our children notice when we disappear into our screens, even for a moment. And not only do they see, but they also learn. If we struggle to hold our attention, how can we expect them to master it?
But before the guilt creeps in, let’s take a deep breath. This isn’t about shame—it’s about awareness. Screens are designed to hijack our focus. Algorithms are built to keep us scrolling, notifications are meant to be irresistible, and every ‘ding’ gives our brains a little dopamine hit. The good news? We can take back control.
Why Does It Feel So Hard to Put the Screen Down?Our brains are wired for quick rewards. Every like, message or new video triggers a cycle that makes us want more. And just like us, our kids get caught in it too. The more they engage with fast-paced, high-stimulation screens, the harder it becomes for them to sit still, play creatively, or focus on tasks that don’t provide instant gratification.
But focus is a muscle—it can be strengthened with practice. We don’t need to ban screens entirely (let’s be honest, that’s not happening), but we can create habits that put us back in charge.
Taking Back Our Attention—Together!Instead of just telling our kids to pay attention, let’s show them how. Let’s make focus fun, connection effortless, and mindfulness a part of everyday life.
Set Up a “Focus Zone”
Create a space where screens don’t follow. It could be the dinner table, bedtime routines, or even the first hour after school. When we set this expectation, we sign that real-life connection comes first.
Try the “Two-Minute Pause” Rule
Before picking up the phone, take a moment. Ask: Do I really need to check this right now? More often than not, the answer is no.
Turn Attention into a Game
Challenge your child (and yourself!) to a ‘Stare-Off’—who can hold eye contact the longest? Or play the ‘Listening Detective’—sit quietly and name five sounds around you. The more we practice, the sharper our focus becomes.
Swap Screens for Sensory Breaks
Instead of defaulting to a device, try a movement break—jumping jacks, a quick dance-off, or a puzzle race. Shifting energy through physical play helps reset attention naturally.
A Fun Challenge for the WeekHere’s a little experiment: Pick one daily moment where screens usually take over and replace it with an interactive activity. Maybe it’s storytelling at bedtime instead of a show. Perhaps it’s a family walk instead of scrolling after dinner. Notice what changes.
Let’s reclaim our attention, one slight shift at a time. Because when we’re present, so are our kids. And that’s where the real magic happens.
Have you tried any of these? Let’s talk in the comments! And if screen time struggles are a battle in your home, let’s work on it together. Book a 1:1 consultation with me here → https://topmate.io/namita_das11.
If you’re looking for ways to balance screen time while keeping your child engaged in meaningful activities, these products can help:
Mindful Screen Time – A Reassuring Guide
A book that provides strategies for managing screen time, preventing digital addiction, and using technology for positive development.The SAS* Book for Managing Screen Time – For Parents! 
A practical guide that helps parents set boundaries and manage digital habits effectively.
Visual Timer for Kids
A visual timer helps kids understand time limits in a fun way, making screen-time transitions easier.Blue Light Blocking Glasses for Kids 
If screens are unavoidable, these glasses reduce strain and protect young eyes from excessive exposure.Activity Kits and Screen-Free Games 
Encourage creative and hands-on play with activity kits, puzzles, or educational board games to shift focus away from screens.Take Action! Which of these ideas will help you reduce screen time struggles at home? Comment below! Need personalized guidance? Schedule a personal consultation with me here: https://topmate.io/namita_das11.
February 11, 2025
Your Child is Sending You Signals – Learn to Read Them Here!
The other day, Arihaan walked into the room, rubbing his fingers together. He wasn’t looking at me, wasn’t saying a word. But I knew—something was making him nervous. Maybe a thought stuck in his head, perhaps something he was trying to avoid.
We’ve all been there, watching our child do something repeatedly—tugging at their sleeves, suddenly asking for water, fidgeting with their toes—and wondering Why they do that?
The truth is our children are constantly communicating with us. Not just with words but with their bodies, behaviours, and even silence. And if we learn to read these signals, we can support them before the big meltdowns, frustration builds up, and they shut down completely.
The Language of BehaviorThink of it like this—when a baby cries, we don’t say, “Use your words!” We instinctively check if they’re hungry, tired, or uncomfortable. Their signals become more subtle as kids grow, but they never stop sending them.
A child who suddenly “needs” a snack before homework may not be hungry. They might be anxious about getting something wrong. Another child who refuses to put on their shoes might not be “acting out” but avoiding an overwhelming environment.
When we start seeing the behaviour as communication rather than misbehaviour, we shift from reacting to understanding.
3 Simple Steps to Decode Your Child’s SignalsLet’s keep it simple: Watch 
– Pause 
– Respond
1⃣ WATCH – Step back and observe. Does your child start pacing before speaking? Do they ask irrelevant questions when nervous? Noticing patterns is the first step in understanding.
2⃣ PAUSE – Instead of jumping in with “What’s wrong?”, wait a few seconds. Sometimes, silence is all they need to process their feelings.
3⃣ RESPOND – Meet them where they are. If they’re fidgeting, hand them something small to hold. If they’re avoiding a task, break it into tiny steps. If they’re overwhelmed, offer a choice to help them feel more in control.
Try This: The 5-Minute Observation Challenge.Today, take 5 minutes to silently watch your child. No interruptions, no instructions—just notice. What are their go-to gestures? Do they have a “thinking face”? A “worried hands” moment?
Drop a comment below and tell us what you observed! If you need help decoding your child’s signals, let’s chat. Book a 1:1 session with me here https://topmate.io/namita_das11.
Our kids are always talking. Let’s make sure we’re listening. 
Understanding your child’s signals is the first step, but providing the right tools can make a big difference in helping them regulate their emotions and focus better. Here are some helpful sensory and fidget toys that can support your child’s development:
Assorted Fidget Sensory Toy Box – A variety of sensory tools designed to help children with stress and anxiety relief. Appash Fidget Cube – A compact, stress-relieving cube perfect for children who need tactile stimulation to stay focused. LIVYU LIFE Fidget Pad – An interactive fidget toy with eight functions to help children with focus and anxiety. Morf Fidget Worm Toy – A quiet and engaging sensory toy that helps with self-regulation. Fidget Dodecagon Cube – A 12-sided fidget toy designed for children with ADHD, anxiety, or sensory processing needs.These products can help your child stay calm, focused, and engaged while supporting their ability to communicate their needs more effectively.
