Susan L. Edelman's Blog, page 18

Is Your Love Life Happy? How Online Dating Might Help

If you are like most modern single women, many of your friends and even your favorite advice columns have tried to give you online dating advice – most often not to get hung up on how your profile picture looks or writing the “about me” section and to just start.

Getting over the initial hurdle of “just starting” to use online dating sites, though, does not come naturally for everyone. Especially for those of us who are more accustomed to face-to-face communication, e-dating can take some tim...

Do You Want to Know How to Meet Men Now?

When I talk to women about their dating lives, one of the most common questions I am asked is how they can meet a nice man. Whether it’s because they aren’t meeting any men at work  or their friends don’t know anyone to fix them up with, the final question is always the same:

Where are all the good guys?

Even though we should know better, many women seem to think that they might magically meet a man while doing their typical daily routine that usually ends by watching TV at home alone. Unfort...

Is Your Dating Life Sabotaging Your Confidence?

How empowered do you feel when you aren’t treated well by a man?

To be confident in yourself and have a happy dating life, it doesn’t matter if you are successful in your career or have a full social calendar. When you spend time with men who don’t treat you well, odds are you will not feel very empowered or successful no matter what your situation is. These negative feelings can even start to change how you see yourself.

But it doesn’t have to be like this.

You can change your approach to yo...

How to Make Modern Dating Work for Your Love Life

Dating and relationships in today’s age of so-called modern dating are anything but simple.

Have you dated more than one man who can’t make a commitment? Has your heart been broken by any crash and burn relationships? Are you blaming your looks for the problem, like so many women do?

Although it may be uncomfortable to hear, noticing trends like this in your love life can really help you think about why you aren’t seeing the romantic results you are hoping for. Even more, realizing that your...

How to Have a Good Relationship – Your Way

Readers and patients often ask me how they can begin to expect respect in a relationship and finally have a relationship on their own terms – the Be Your Own Brand of Sexy way. We’ve talked before about why respect is essential in every relationship and how to know whether you’re asking too much from dating, but how can you actually implement these ideas? Is there a secret to how to have a good relationship? Maybe the most important question is:

How can you make sure you are getting the respe...

Are You Asking Too Much from Dating? How to Know

Am I asking too much from men? Are my standards too high?

Am I single because my dating expectations are unrealistic?

These are some of the most common questions I hear every day. Last week’s blog about how to get top treatment from men may have brought up these concerns for many of you as well. These are important questions – when women are confused about what are realistic expectations in dating, they are unable to expect top treatment or even judge how a man is treating them.

Even worse,...

How Do You Get Top Treatment from Men?

It’s unfortunate, but it’s true: many women today allow men to get away with almost whatever they want.

In fact, many men have gotten so used to women chasing them that they see no point in putting in much effort during the dating process… after all, why should they?

Think about it. Women call men and ask them out. They pay on dates, text the guy constantly, and make themselves available at the drop of a dime. They have casual sex without asking for commitment first. Women do what seems like...

How to Fix the Big 3 Reasons You Don’t Get a Second Date

Do you find yourself constantly checking your phone for an invite to a follow-up date that never seems to come?

A lot of women wonder why a man doesn’t ask them out for a second date. Often the woman blames something about her appearance for the problem. This is unsurprising, given that 90% of women aren’t satisfied with their appearance thanks to the cultural pressure on women to look impossibly ‘beautiful’. But the way you look is NOT the issue. After all, he knew what you looked like befor...

Is a Better Love Life Worth a Challenge?

“Yeah… but that’s easier said than done.”

How many times have you heard someone say this, right before they give up on their goals? How often do you hear yourself saying something like this before you give up on your goals? Maybe it’s time to ask yourself whether your goal of having a better love life is worth some struggle.

When people see a challenge as a negative, they forget the benefits to struggling toward a goal. Believe it or not, you can gain a lot by challenging yourself. When you’...

How to Stop Your Fear of Rejection from Hurting Your Love Life

Do you ever feel like you’re falling short of expectations? Like you can’t find love because you aren’t attractive, confident, or successful enough?

If your answer is “Yes”, you aren’t alone. Our culture makes it easy to confuse outer appearance, confidence, and success with inner happiness. If you think how you look is your issue, you’ve probably spent a lot of time dieting, working out, or a lot of money on beauty products or procedures. The problem is, those aren’t likely to be effective s...