Susan L. Edelman's Blog

7 Tricks to Act More Confident (Even If You’re Not)

A 2011 survey about how confident managers feel in their profession found that half of the female respondents reported self-doubt about their job performance. On the other hand, fewer than a third of the male respondents said the same thing.

Despite the tremendous strides women have made, this lack of female confidence is increasingly well documented. Women generally underestimate their abilities, from taking tests to going for promotions. It often holds us back from getting what we want.

The re...

7 Awkward Questions You Should Never Ask a Man on Your First Date

When you’re on a first date, you might be a little nervous. Will he like me? Does this have a future? Is he going to break my heart? It’s natural to be uncertain about where things stand. But there are some questions you should not ask when you first meet a man if you want a second date.

You don’t want to grill the poor guy with personal questions on your first date. Many men complain that their dates feel more like an interrogation than a pleasant meeting with an interesting woman. The problem ...

Are You High Maintenance in Dating and Relationships? Here’s the Best Way

You’ve probably heard men talk about women as being high or low maintenance. A man might say you are high maintenance if you cause a lot of problems in your relationship or are very demanding. At other times, high maintenance might simply refer to you having high standards. So, it may be confusing whether “high maintenance” is a good or bad thing.

There is nothing wrong with having high standards, even if a man isn’t quite pleased with that and complains that you are high maintenance. In fact, i...

5 Brutally Honest Reasons Why You Don’t Attract the Right Men

Modern dating involves kissing a lot of frogs. However, unlike the fairytale, the frog usually doesn’t turn into a prince.

Here’s the truth.

Most women attract a lot of men, but most of them won’t be your Mr. Right. Your job is to figure out who to weed out and who to encourage so that you can find the right partner.

And, that can be a difficult job. That’s why you need to be kind to yourself.

When you tell yourself, “I’m not attracting the right men,” be careful not to bring a lot of negativity...

Do You Want a Successful Love Life? Avoid These Men Like the Plague

Want to find your happily ever after? Then, it’s all about finding the right partner!

The right partner is a real man who’s comfortable with who he is and knows what he brings into a relationship. He is confident and knows what it takes to make a relationship work. Sure, if you’re just looking for something less serious, you can skip these qualities. But, if you’re interested in a long-term relationship, just dating any guy will leave you ultimately unsatisfied.

After a few months or years of ju...

How to Get a Prize Mindset: 7 Secrets that Will Make Men See You as High Quality

When you are looking for a solid relationship, one of the most important things to pay attention to is if you are valued and treasured by your man. The way you approach every date with a prospective future partner sets the stage for that. If you see yourself as a prize that he must earn, he will look for ways to jump through hoops to make you happy. If you see yourself as a consolation prize, he may not work very hard because he doesn’t have to.

Which do you want to be?

Can I Be the Prize He Mus...

3 Powerful Compliments That Any Man Would Love to Hear

One of the most powerful skills in your toolbox of charms is your ability to compliment a man.

But, how and to whom you give those compliments matters a lot.

You don’t want to compliment every man you meet on how smart or attractive he is. There is a bit of a strategy behind giving compliments to men so that they feel genuine and are effective. If you want to create a feeling of attraction in him, then your compliment must be truly earned. An earned compliment is more likely to build intimacy wh...

Secrets of Self-Discipline in Love: 3 Powerful Ways to Build It

Whether you want to lose weight, stop procrastinating, or change your behaviors with men, you will need some self-discipline.

Is that a problem for you?

Don’t worry. You can develop the skill of self-discipline the way you can other skills. In this article, I will teach you how to build self-discipline in life and dating.

What Are the Secrets to Building Self Discipline?

First of all, you need to understand that self-discipline is built over time. It won’t miraculously appear one day when you l...

Is He Seeing Someone Else? 7 Subtle Warning Signs to Pay Attention to

So, you’ve met this guy and went on a few dates with him. Things were going well, but now you have this nagging feeling that something is off. “Is he seeing someone else?” you keep wondering to yourself.

Maybe you’ve been cheated on before and now you are extra cautious. Or maybe you want to make sure that he is serious about your relationship before you get more involved. All these are valid reasons to be wary.

The best approach is to listen to your intuition and pay attention to these signs. T...

3 Tips to Set Boundaries when Dating to Create Healthy Relationships

We live in a culture that encourages us to share most aspects of our lives. Just hop on Instagram for a few minutes, and you will probably find out where the people in your list are, what they had for lunch, what products they are using, and so on.

When most people are expecting us to share personal stories from the beginning, establishing healthy boundaries can be confusing.

Our culture thinks it’s perfectly normal to tell everyone all about you, at least up until the point where they tell you ...