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Are You Pushing Him Away? 7 Biggest Turn Offs for Men

Although women and men are equal in many regards, we cannot ignore some of the things that set us apart. For example, the way we communicate.

Just think about the way you behave around your girlfriends. You probably aren’t flirty and alluring around them since your goal isn’t to be attractive. You are more likely to let your hair down and just be yourself.

But, when you’re getting to know a man, you want him to be curious to get to know you better. You don’t want to reveal everything about yours...

How to Look for Love in Uncertain Times: the Delta Variant

Looking for Love: How to Handle the Latest Confusing Risks

Just when you thought there could be light at the end of the tunnel, the Covid-19 pandemic has taken yet another turn that makes matters a lot more complicated. Your dating life included.

The new delta variant has hit the country hard, what with it being far more contagious and easier to spread. From what we know, it seems this variant is even more contagious than the common cold.

If people infected with the original form of Covid-19 vir...

How Some Women Get the Relationship They Want (And You Can Too!)

Do you ever wonder how some women get the relationship they want? What are they doing that makes such a difference when others stay single or deal with frequent breakups?

It’s simple: they make good dating decisions.

A lot of women tend to blame their looks or confidence for their single status, but that’s the wrong approach. I’ve written about this issue frequently, and explained that when you blame your looks or level of confidence, what you are really doing is not seeing the forest for the tr...

Why You Should You Play Hard to Get When Dating: 5 Ways to Do It Right

“Playing hard to get” is a very old dating strategy women have relied on for centuries, but in the modern world of dating, many believe it to be a bit passe. Women now distance themselves from this approach because they don’t want to play games with the men they are dating, as it seems a bit manipulative.

So a lot of them go the complete opposite with the “date like men” approach where they simply go after what they want, just like a man would. And now, women are bombarded with the messages of t...

Declare Your Independence: 7 Tips to Get Freedom from People-Pleasing

Tell me if this sounds familiar:

You are swamped with work when a colleague comes and asks for your help. You say yes. Or, you go out with a friend and decide to see a movie. You would like to see a thriller but she loves romantic comedies. You say yes even though you think they are very cheesy and don’t really like them. Your cousin is moving and asked for your help. You had plans already so you tell him you can’t do it. But, then you felt so guilty about refusing that you called him back and t...

Are You a Worrier? These 3 Reliable Steps Will Calm Your Mind

Tell me if this sounds familiar:

You are at work, and your boss seems a bit annoyed. You immediately start thinking:

“He’s probably upset because I didn’t do a very good job. What if he fires me? How fast can I find another job? How will I pay rent? What if I can’t find another job for a long time?”

Next thing you know, your mind is spiraling with all sorts of ideas and concerns.

If this scenario sounds too familiar, then you are a worrier.

Don’t get the wrong idea: some amount of worry may be g...

How to Handle the Sting of Criticism with Grace: 7 Helpful Tips

I don’t think there’s anyone out there who enjoys criticism. It is in our nature to want to be right and be drawn to like-minded people. But, the truth is that, more often than not, those who disagree with us are the ones who help us grow.

If you don’t care about building a relationship with anyone, then it doesn’t really matter if you handle criticism poorly. But if you want your partner, boss, colleagues, friends, or family to feel like you care about their feelings, then being able to truly h...

How to Get Answers from Your Date without Interrogating Him: 3 Effective Ways

Picture this:

You are on a date, are sitting at a table waiting for your dinner and you are eager to learn more about the person in front of you.

So, you start asking him questions:

“Where are you from?”

“Do you have any siblings?”

“What did you study?”

“What do you do for a living?”

“How tall are you?”

Men don’t like it when you grill them on dates. They can feel like they are in a job interview rather than a pleasant encounter with an interesting woman. If you have ever had a similar experienc...

When the Student Is Ready: 3 Signs You Are Ready for Your Love Teacher

Have you ever heard the old saying, “When the student is ready, the teacher will arrive?” People debate the origins of this wise saying, but it’s a helpful lesson on your path to finding love.

How do you know when you are ready?

The dating world is full of opportunities, but the truth is that a lot of people are not quite ready to take them. They sign up for dating sites and never meet anyone. Or they delay signing up because they are waiting until they lose 10 pounds or gain more confidence. Th...

3 Basic Flirting Tips and Why They’re Important to Your Love Life

Have you ever heard the saying, “Exploring the unknown requires tolerating uncertainty.”? The world of dating is no different. In an era filled with numerous ways to meet, interact, and formulate relationships, the road to a love life is not so straightforward.

From Tinder and Instagram all the way to meeting through friends, dating has transformed into a complex yet opportunity-filled process for men and women alike.

What initiates those moments, though? The answer is simple: flirting! You’ve p...