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Is he the right one for you?

How do most women make their decisions about love? In many cases, they use a checklist or series of requirements a guy has to fulfill.  

Tall? Check.  

Handsome? Double check 

Funny, smart, successful? Check, check, check.  

While it’s reasonable and healthy to have standards, a lot of women make the mistake of writing off a good prospect because the guy isn’t “perfect” according to their predetermined checklist. Even worse, they might miss some serious red flags if a man meets the criteria o...

Is It Time to Break Things Off?

Breakups are miserable. Sometimes we’ll do anything to avoid the pain of losing our partner and the promise of a future with them. That can make it very hard to decide whether or not to move forward in a relationship. Should you hang in there and give your relationship a chance? Or should you end it rather than waste your precious time? 

It’s perfectly normal to have some doubts or questions about the long term potential of your relationship. But don’t ignore your feelings if your concerns ar...

How to enjoy your dating life after divorce.

Divorce is a difficult, emotional process. Even after the separation is complete, complicated, messy emotions can often linger for years. Dealing with conflicting or downright negative emotions can often hinder your ability to move on in your love life. What are the best ways to handle feelings of loss, and loneliness? How can you cope with feelings about your ex, whatever they may be? And for some the most gut-wrenching question of all is, are there any ways to protect your children from the...

Can the #MeToo Movement make your dating life better?

No matter what your politics are, the #MeToo movement is changing the world. It’s all over social media and the news. Powerful individuals and institutions are being outed for their disrespectful behavior towards women because of this movement that is taking the world by storm.  

The #MeToo movement is changing the way women are treated in politics and the workplace. But did you know that #MeToo may also improve your dating life in ways you might not have considered? Today’s post will explore...

Can dating with dignity improve your confidence?

Women often make the mistake of thinking that if they just improve their looks or their confidence, they’ll become successful with dating. Sometimes, they believe that those are the only criteria that matter when it comes to finding Mr. Right. Women who struggle with dating often believe all the hype around ‘they can’t love someone until they love themselves.’

When you think looks, confidence, and loving yourself are the only set of keys to success in love and dating, you’re making the proces...

Are your standards for love too high?

When you’re ready to find love, meeting a lot of Mr. Wrongs while looking for Mr. Right is a painful experience. It can seem like it’s taking forever to find that special someone. While time continues to fly by, do you ever worry that your situation is hopeless, or if something’s wrong with you? You may find yourself asking these types of questions:

Will he ever come along?

Am I not desirable, or attractive enough?

Am I too picky?

Looking for the right man can be discouraging. And the pool of...

Who should pay on a date? Problem solved.

Chivalry and entrenched societal expectations and gender norms insist that men pay for their dates. But, shouldn’t feminism change this traditional approach to modern dating?

No.

According to a recent study of more than 17,000 heterosexual men and women, the results indicated that:

76% of men reported feeling guilty when they didn’t pay for their date 64% think that women should contribute

Meanwhile, on the other side of the equation:

39% of women wished that men would reject their offers...

What two things do you need to find dating success?

Knowing the results of recent scientific studies on dating and relationships can help you in your pursuit of love. Studies without science to back them up don’t inspire much confidence otherwise. And in a lot of cases, the biases of the people conducting unscientific research will taint the results. That makes it hard to believe the conclusions.

So, what does the latest scientific research tell us about how to find love?

Don’t give up!

Dr. Elizabeth Bruch, the professor of sociology at the Un...

Do you know how to survive a break up?

Why do so many songs and movies revolve around breakups? Because they’re a miserable experience and we’ve all been through them.

Unfortunately, many women stay friends with their exes. Staying friends makes it incredibly difficult to grieve and move on appropriately.

Why is that?

Because human beings are made for attachment.

When you stay connected, you avoid the grieving period that you need to move on to a more fulfilling relationship. Staying friends becomes a distraction. While it’s painf...

Yes! You can Learn How to Enjoy Dating Practice

Having the right mindset and positive attitude is one of the best ways to guarantee your success in any endeavor. But did you know that the right mindset can also help you navigate the dating jungle? It’s true. Learning to appreciate the benefits of dating practice can help you adjust your attitude and mindset about dating and relationships. Assuming your mindset is a positive one, there are so many benefits to dating practice. If you practice, you’ll have excellent relationship and dating sk...