Susan L. Edelman's Blog, page 17
August 17, 2018
Laughter is the best medicine for your love life.
How can you improve your odds of getting a second date? Or increase the health of your romantic relationships? Recent studies and surveys have found that couples who laugh together, stay together. The amount of time that couples spend laughing is positively correlated with the quality of their relationships. And is directly linked to how close, and supportive the couple is.
Laughing is a great way to diffuse an otherwise tense situation. Disagree about something? Joke about it. Joking can tak...
August 10, 2018
Are there no good men left out there?
When you’re the one currently wading in through the morass known as modern dating, it’s incredibly tempting to complain and think that there aren’t any good men left out there. Sometimes though, it’s not the men’s fault. In fact, it’s probably hard for you to tell when your dating skills are the issue. Your skills might be a little rusty, but with some practice and tweaking, you can instantly improve your dating life, and find and keep a good man.
They do exist. Promise.
We can all use a litt...
August 3, 2018
What’s One of the Most Destructive Relationship Myths?
One of the most dangerous myths in our culture today is that you must love yourself first before you can love someone else.
Do you believe this is true?
If you do, you’re probably worried that no one will want to be with you unless you’re confident. You might even be concerned that you’ll fall for someone narcissistic and toxic for you if you lack self-confidence when you start dating. If this myth is a part of your relationship belief system, you’re probably going to put off the dating proce...
July 27, 2018
Does Feeling Alone Drive You to the Wrong Relationships?
Even though our world is hyperconnected thanks to technology, loneliness is increasing. Before the rise of the internet and social media phenomena, only 11% to 20% of adults in the ‘70s and ‘80s claimed they were lonely. Recent surveys paint a different picture. Now, a full third of American adults feel lonely, and loneliness can contribute to serious illnesses like depression, and high blood pressure and heart attacks.
Loneliness doesn’t just affect people’s health in negative ways; it can a...
July 20, 2018
Do You Really Have to Understand Men When Dating?
Conventional wisdom, and the dating experts who embrace it think that women should try to understand men for dating success.
Empathy is important for any relationship, dating notwithstanding, but what if ‘women always trying to understand men’ has its perils? We think it does, and we have an example to back it up.
As a woman, haven’t you found that since you were old enough to talk, you were raised to be a ‘people pleaser?’ After all, conventional wisdom and childhood limericks say that women...
July 13, 2018
3 Ways to Be a Good Date and Rock Your Love Life
When you’ve been dating awhile, it can take a lot of time, energy, and determination to keep putting yourself out there when you’ve seemed to have little results to show for it. And if your heart has been bruised and battered, it can be even more challenging to date and risk getting hurt again and again.
You might even bring your baggage from a past relationship to the dating process and unknowingly weed out some guys who might be serious contenders for love. Unless you make a habit of being...
July 6, 2018
How to Stop Attracting the Wrong Men Now
Where have all the good men gone?
It’s one of the most common questions I am asked.
Women tell me that they don’t meet good guys that are interested in them, even though they have already tried online dating, blind dates, and more. The men they meet end up being narcissists and players, guys looking for sugar mommas or just no-strings-attached sex and fun. The few times they thought they might have met a good guy, he seemed to lose interest or take them for granted after a short period of ti...
June 29, 2018
You Can Attract a Good Man, No Matter How You Look!
Our culture puts enormous pressure on women to look good.
With Photoshop retouching our photos and plastic surgery altering our bodies, our every day beauty standards have become increasingly unrealistic and unattainable. And we feel it – we’ve all been immersed in this world for so long that it can seem impossible to separate ourselves from the influence of external beauty on our self-perceptions. Now, 91% of women aren’t happy with their appearance as a result.
If you take all this to heart...
June 22, 2018
What Do You Want? How to Reach Your Love Life Goals
Take a second and try to respond to this question as simply as possible: What are you working towards in your love life?
For many of us, there is no simple answer. Not because the answer is really complicated, but because we haven’t taken the time before now to consider what our dating or relationship goals may be.
So this week, we’re going to talk about how important it is for you to become certain about what you want and what you are working towards. Without being clear about what you truly...
June 15, 2018
The Top 3 Secrets to Successful Online Dating
In my series about online dating sites and their potential benefits so far, I have told you how important it is for your dating success to start getting some practice seeing men in addition to how you can get this dating practice right now. This week we’re going to take the discussion about online dating sites a step further by talking about how to get the most out of online dating. Keep reading to learn how you can use the top three secrets to online dating success to turn your love life aro...
