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How to set goals for your love life in the new year

Happy New Year! 2018 is now behind us. Although I hope you’ve seen progress in your dating relationships, today’s post is going to cover how to start the new year best and reach your love life goals in 2019. Let’s make this year the year for true love!

Last week, we talked about how to have the best mindset for the upcoming year, and how to look forward to reaching your goals rather than expecting the same old, same old.

So, where do you begin to make those changes? It all starts with settin...

Is it time to transform your love life in the new year?

Has 2018 been a disappointing year for your love life? Maybe you were hoping to meet someone wonderful, but that didn’t happen. Or you found someone you thought was promising, but the relationship fizzled out. It happens, and that’s okay because the New Year is all about starting over.

Believe it or not, last year’s disappointments don’t have any bearing on what can happen in 2019. In fact, this year’s disappointments have probably helped you to learn and grow in ways that will enable you to...

Should the man make the first move?

In today’s busy, complicated modern dating world, you’ll hear a lot of confusing and often conflicting advice. You’ve probably already heard that instead of passively waiting on a man to initiate contact, that women should make the first move when it comes to dating.

But is it always a good idea for women to make the first move? And is it ever a good idea or strategy for you to wait on a man?

The popular online dating website OKCupid says “yes” to women making the first move. But only in cert...

5 Surefire Ways to Know if He Really Likes You

When you first start dating a man, and you like him, you’ll get all excited and nervous, wondering if he feels the same about you. Knowing whether or not a guy is into you is one of the most nerve-wracking questions you can have in a brand new relationship. Does it have promise, or are your feelings one-sided? Not knowing how he feels about you can cause you to wonder and worry if the relationship is worth pursuing, or if you’re wasting precious time dating someone who doesn’t feel the same a...

Online Dating: Why the Holidays are the Best Time to Get Started

Are you worried that the holidays are the worst time to jump into online dating? Actually, the holiday season is one of the best times of the year to begin looking for love online. Match.com says that they see the biggest increase in new subscribers around the holiday season. From Christmas to Valentine’s day, online dating services like Match see the most new sign-ups.

Why is that? Is it because of New Year’s resolutions, or is there something romantic about Christmas lights and eggnog? Eit...

Can being a people-pleaser mess up your love life?

Have you ever heard the nursery rhyme, “little girls are made of sugar and spice, and everything nice”? From the time they are children all the way to adulthood, society conditions women to keep sweet and seek approval.

Women are supposed to be “good girls” and put other people’s needs ahead of their own. Generally, we’re less confident than men, which puts us under even more pressure to do what other people want. That can get us into a lot of trouble.

When we do what other people want and wh...

How can gratitude improve your love life?

During the Thanksgiving holiday season, people tend to be much more grateful and appreciative of what they have. Can you imagine what would happen if you had that grateful, Thanksgiving mindset every day? I’m not talking about eating a lot of food, either. What I’m saying is that cultivating an attitude of gratefulness is wonderful for both your personal life and your love life.

Have you been struggling with feelings of negativity lately? Gratitude is a known antidote for dispelling negative...

How to find love after a narcissist.

Have you ever gotten attached (or ensnared is more like it) to a narcissist? It’s no wonder if you have. Our crazy culture encourages, and even glamorizes narcissistic behavior by telling us that we aren’t confident enough, or that we need more beauty, more wealth, and more power. A narcissist embodies these qualities and is continually striving for more, more, and more.

Unfortunately for the unwary, narcissists are intriguing. We miss or outright ignore the warning signs that we’re headed fo...

3 old-fashioned dating secrets that help you find a good man.

Modern dating isn’t working for millions of women today. When the old rules about dating and romantic relationships were thrown out, we didn’t get any consistent, new guidelines to replace them. Confusion reigns. When the women’s movement and the sexual revolution started, old-fashioned dating habits became at best, passe, and at worst, outright ridiculed.  

Women didn’t want to wait around for men to call them. Women wanted more options and more power and say over the dating relationship. To...

Protect your love life from this bad dating advice.

If you’ve been looking for love, chances are you’ve heard some real zingers about dating from the self-help gurus. And if you’re like most women, you’ve probably asked your friends for advice too. In many cases, the information is contradictory. Even when someone wants to help you, they won’t always know what’s best for you when it comes to dating and finding love.  

Everyone is different. When it comes to relationships, two peoples’ values, experiences, and emotions are the biggest factors s...