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How Do Mental Health Problems Sabotage Your Love Life?

Dating can be an emotional roller coaster for many of us. Even when both partners are in good physical, mental, and emotional health, dating can still be a challenge. But adding mental illness to the equation can make the highs and lows in romance much more extreme. In extreme cases, untreated mental health conditions that place a strain on a relationship can be dangerous to both partner’s emotional and physical health.

Studies have found that being in a stable relationship has a positive im...

How to Know if Your Mental Health is Hurting Your Life

May is mental health awareness month. In honor of Mental Health Awareness Month, it’s a good idea to stop and consider your mental health, and how it may or may not be harming the quality of your life. With how busy everyone is, it’s easy to feel surrounded and lost in modern-day “noise” and not have a good grasp of our emotional and mental health.

Unfortunately, in our culture, it can be very easy to overlook your mental health. Our society prioritizes beauty and financial success over emot...

How to Know if a Man Can Commit

Women believe that men aren’t looking for committed relationships these days, but that simply isn’t true. Yes, it is true that many men don’t want commitment or are players, but there are plenty of good men out there looking for committed, long-term relationships. You just have to know how to figure out if he’s one of those keepers and how to get him to commit to you. You can’t possibly get a man to commit to you if he doesn’t want one or isn’t capable of making one. So, how can you avoid tim...

10 Ways to Show Interest in a Man Without Being Too Forward

When you’d like to find a good man to date, it’s important to know the best ways to show interest when an opportunity arises. A man is more likely to put some effort into your relationship when he feels he has a chance with you.  Yet, it is possible that you can come on too strong, making you seem too forward. He might feel like you’re too into him, and back off. Or he could pursue you for casual sex, thinking you’re willing. How can you look interested but not too interested? Here are some g...

Are These 7 Unrealistic Expectations Hurting Your Love Life?

Expectations are a powerful thing. If they’re too high, then you’ll be constantly disappointed. If they’re too low, then you’ll never get what you want and deserve, from yourself or others. But did you know that your expectations determine your reality? If you don’t think you can succeed in reaching your goals, you won’t.

That’s the worst thing that can happen when your expectations are too low. But what happens when they are too high, or otherwise unrealistic? Unrealistic expectations aren’...

Do you know how to spot and avoid a deadbeat?

Women frequently end up in relationships with men who don’t pay for anything and can’t hold down a job for very long. Once you fall for a man like that, it’s easy to hang in there hoping that you can change him. That kind of thinking usually keeps you tied to a man who can’t make you happy, prolonging your unhappiness. 

Worse yet, he will drag you down in ways that aren’t emotional, such as stunting your financial and career growth. It’s hard to get ahead in life when you are stuck supporting...

10 ways to avoid wasting time with online dating

Some women get super lucky. They manage to meet their soulmate online and live happily ever after. The rest of us mortals endlessly correspond with men they never meet. Or we end up going out with men who aren’t interested in relationships. Worse still, we end up agreeing to dates with guys we know aren’t good for us. Does this all seem like a giant waste of time to you? It can be. But the thing is, online dating is just a tool. It’s all in the way you use it. 

How you approach the online dat...

Do you know how to spot a cheater?

Earlier this week, television hostess Wendy Williams was spotted out and about, sans wedding ring. Naturally, the rumor mill went into overdrive. Gossip started flying that her husband’s mistress recently had his baby. But that’s not all. Wendy is staying in a sober living facility, after having issues with cocaine in the past. 

If those rumors are true, this must be an incredibly painful and stressful situation for wife Wendy Williams. It’s hard enough on a marriage if a spouse is unfaithful...

Toxic or true love? How to tell the difference

On the popular television show “The Bachelor,” the star of one of the seasons, Colton Underwood, jumped a fence to run after contestant Cassie Randolph. But he pursued her after she had already eliminated herself from the competition. 

The gesture was undoubtedly good for the show’s marketing department. It got tongues wagging. Since the season with Cassie and Colton ended, people are still talking about it. Critics, viewers, and fans of the show are still trying to decide if Underwood’s acti...

How to avoid the dreaded friend zone

It’s not just guys who get stuck in the dreaded friend zone. The friend zone is an equal-opportunity antagonist, dream-dasher, and hope-stealer to all people who want more than just friendship from a special someone. If you want more from a man than just his friendship, you never want to get stuck in the friend zone – that awful place where he wants to be “just friends.” 

When you want more from the relationship than he does, it’s sad, frustrating, and a huge confidence-shaker. But the friend...