The Honey-Don't List Quotes

“I want to make her life better by being the best thing in it.”
― Christina Lauren, The Honey-Don't List

“Relationships are a lot like houses: without a good foundation, they’ll crumble. When a light bulb goes out, you don’t buy a new house, you change the bulb. When the faucet drips, you don’t start mopping the floor before you fix the leak. In other words, no matter how much digging it takes, it’s important to get to the root of a problem.”
― Christina Lauren, The Honey-Don't List

“Probably that women are always being told to behave in a way that makes everything more harmonious, productive, accessible. They’re told how to do everything from how to dress to how to smile. Men are never told to make things easier for people, but maybe they should be.”
― Christina Lauren, The Honey-Don't List

“Of course happy couples fight! Two strong minds coming together are never going to agree on everything, and it’s healthy to express those feelings. But what we had to learn was that it was the way we were expressing our feelings that wasn’t healthy. Shouting doesn’t make anyone feel better. Storming off doesn’t fix any problems.”
― Christina Lauren, The Honey-Don't List

“Relationships are a lot like houses: without a good foundation, they'll crumble.”
― Christina Lauren, The Honey-Don't List

“I am very clearly the Pigpen to his Schroeder.”
― Christina Lauren, The Honey-Don't List

“Contentment comes in a trickle, though. It's like a faucet dripping; slowly, my bucket is filling.”
― Christina Lauren, The Honey-Don't List

“That trust takes time. But when you love each other, it shouldn't be scary to be vulnerable and it shouldn't be hard to compromise.

I'd like to share with you what we like to call SACRED HEALING. We use it every day of our marriage, and it hasn't failed us yet!

When you have something you need to communicate, those words are SACRED:

1. STOP when you register something's wrong.
2. ADMIT that you have an issue to discuss.
3. CALMLY express your feelings.
4. REFLECT on why you're feeling this way.
5. ENGAGE with your partner to actively fix the issue.
6. DEVOTE time after conflict to returning to a loving state.

And when your partner is saying something SACRED, it's your job to get the leader of the HEALING:

1. HEAR your partner's words.
2. ENGAGE with your questions for clarification and understanding.
3. ACKNOWLEDGE that what they're saying is important.
4. LOOK BACK on your own role in the conflict.
5. INITIATE discussion without anger or defense.
6. NEGOTIATE a solution with pure intentions.
7. GROW as partners and individuals by fixing the problem as a team.”
― Christina Lauren, The Honey-Don't List

“I'll build anything you need,' he whispers, kissing my jaw. 'I'd do anything for you.”
― Christina Lauren, The Honey-Don't List

“I feel a little like the way I used to when I’d dump out a bin full of Lincoln Logs, both overwhelmed and excited—except this is my life, with all these pieces to choose from, and I’m not sure what shape I even want to build.”
― Christina Lauren, The Honey-Don't List

“I didn't want to interrupt your Funyunning.”
― Christina Lauren, The Honey-Don't List

“They taught me that you work until the job is done, and you give it your all. Every time. They also taught me to be humble about it,”
― Christina Lauren, The Honey-Don't List

“Just because someone goes to college doesn’t mean they’re inherently smarter than someone who doesn’t. Plenty of idiots get degrees. Plenty of geniuses never bother.”
― Christina Lauren, The Honey-Don't List

“I was going to lie on this couch for days and drink boxed wine and catch up on like seven hundred different shows.”
― Christina Lauren, The Honey-Don't List

“I was going to lie on this couch for days and
drink boxed wine and catch up on like seven hundred different shows.”
― Christina Lauren, The Honey-Don't List

“You'd think with all that time on my hands, I'd spend some of it thinking about Melly and Rusty. You'd assume I'd take some time to process everything that happened with James But it was like a brick wall went up, and every time I tried to bring forward the chaos of the previous week, some protective instinct would kick in and I'd literally fall asleep.”
― Christina Lauren, The Honey-Don't List

“I swear to God he fell in love with me when he saw me take my bra off without taking off my shirt. He looked at me like I was some kind of sexy witch.”
― Christina Lauren, The Honey-Don't List

“What’s the difference between an introverted engineer and an extroverted engineer?” he asks. I look up, and his excitement at getting to tell me this joke makes my heart feel like a wild animal inside me. “What?” “When the introverted engineer speaks to you,” James says, “he looks down at his shoes. When the extroverted engineer speaks to you, he looks down at your shoes.”
― Christina Lauren, The Honey-Don't List

“Another important piece of taking care of a sexual relationship in marriage is to keep it private.”
― Christina Lauren, The Honey-Don't List

“Relationships are a lot like houses: without a good foundation, they’ll crumble.”
― Christina Lauren, The Honey-Don't List