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OMG... This book is too long, boring and predictable with characters as exciting as a flat line. Seriously... Normally books this long are entertaining, at least a bit. This one?? Haha, NO. For fun, you'd have a better chance watching paint dry. It would be faster too

“I’m okay. But why the hell did you come here? Ashton, I can’t see this, I can’t! This is the only thing I can’t cope with. I sent you away so this wouldn’t happen! Why did you do this to me?” I” Yes, bitch the guy out for risking his life to save you. What a wonderful idea. Not selfish at all.

Do yourself a favor and skip all pages until Carter gets back into the action. This is so freakin boring.

Fuckin A... Self sacrifice now? Are you FUCKING KIDDING ME? I didn't think the book could get any worse, but unfortunately I was mistaken.

Seriously, how much can the pseudo romance drag on? It's getting very repetitive and fell on its face quite a while back. At this point, I'm just flipping pages with the occasional skim. Why am I even reading this???????????????

*skipping pages*. Where did the story go?

Seriously... Is it possible AT ALL for Ana or Ashton to not look like god and goddess models for ONE PAGE? I'm starting to get fucking tired with their damn physical perfection.

*sigh*. Ashton looked a lot more 3D in the beginning of the book. Half way through, he looks about as exciting as a rock with the personality of varying paint. Urgh, can Carter please have some action? He's a grade A asshole, but at least it would make the book worthwhile. If he doesn't, I'm dropping this book.

Babies "outsource" much of their psychological and emotional governance to their caregivers.

Children who don't feel that they "own" their lives, children for whom feelings, thoughts, and actions come from outside as much as they come from inside, are at risk for being easily manipulated by others.

Self-efficacy is concerned with judgements of personal capability. The ability to act appropriately in one's best interest is termed agency.

A sense of livability is the core of all healthy self-development.

It is at this intersection of internal motivation, parental support, and develop interests that the child's sense of self is taking shape.

What children really need is to be educated about the values of perseverance and perspective, and to understand that learning and performance are by always the same thing.

Internal motivation is the generator that propels Holstein to figure out their particular interests, abilities and passions. External motivation strips leaning of excitement, since what is most valuable is not the learning experience per se but whatever perks accompany it.

Buying children off is a parenting strategy that only leads to a lessening of parental power and a fortifying of childish greed.

Using money as a motivator models materialism to the child and it schools them in a strategy if relying on others rather than on themselves to make changes in their lives. The more desperate we feel about needing to use rewards to reinforce compliance, the less likely it is to be successful.

Children need work experiences to develop a sense that success is a function of their own efforts.

Researchers find that college students who rate high on materialism are far more likely to choose "getting ahead" over cooperating with their friends.

Because advertising is designed to first make us feel insecure and then solve our insecurity by offering products, it is particularly problematic for adolescents, who already feel terribly insecure.

Heavily dependent on their "public" success for a sense of self, many of these youngsters have little in the way of authentic purpose in their lives, leaving a void where conscience, generosity and connection should be.

Eating together reinforces the idea that family members are interested, available, and concerned about each other.

Eating together reinforces the idea that family members are interested, available, and concerned about each other.

And it is emotional closeness, maternal warmth in particular, that is as close as we get to a silver bullet against psychological impairment.

It is when a parent's love is experienced as CONDITIONAL on the achievement that children are at risk for serious emotional problems. Their inevitable missteps activate intense feelings of shame and hopelessness.

So first the kids try to be perfect, and then they become anxious, and finally phobic.

Research shows that parents' emphasis on achievement is linked to the children's maladaptive perfectionist strivings (perfectionism that impairs functioning - the child who throws up because he's anxious about a test) is highly correlated with depression and suicide. WHEN PARENTS PLACE AN EXCESSIVELY HIGH VALUE ON OUTSTANDING PERFORMANCE, CHILDREN COME TO SEE ANYTHING LESS THAN PERFECTION AS FAILURE.