Amanda

“if someone says, “Shut the fuck up or I’m going to beat your ass,” and it escalates into a fight you will have real trouble proving self-defense... because you didn’t simply shut the fuck up. Self-defense is about defending your body, not your pride. If this threat display devolves into a fight, you were engaged in the Monkey Dance. You were not defending yourself. •”
― Rory Miller, Facing Violence: Preparing for the Unexpected

“The Predator has already “othered” you to a sufficient extent that any communication that relies on a shared feeling of humanity will be ineffective. The Threat does not see you as the same species.”
― Rory Miller, Facing Violence: Preparing for the Unexpected

“it is difficult to solve a problem that you are almost entirely ignorant about. You cannot work for peace while ignoring violence any more than a doctor can create treatments while refusing to study disease.”
― Rory Miller, ConCom: Conflict Communication A New Paradigm in Conscious Communication

“If you deny reality, you cannot control reality.”
― Rory Miller