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[dely]

Pam wrote: "Dely - Yes, we will have to return to Europe! We ate at an Italian restaurant in Dachau and the owner also told us we must go to Italia- Roma, Roma, Roma, he says!

We spent our last day visiting ..."

That book seems really interesting! Have a safe flight back home and thanks for sharing your vacation with us.

[dely]

Still here thinking about the meeting of yesterday evening about the moisture in one of my rooms. They totally destroyed me and I'm still exhausted. The administrator talked so well, as if I'm a person that wants things made and paid by others; as if I'm an idiot that doesn't know what she is talking about. I tried as good as I could to defend myself, but the other residents (that of course don't want to pay if not necessary) were totally on her side.
So at the end it seems that maybe the infiltration is caused by a part that belongs only to me and the neighbouring terrace: I wanted a third and external expert to come and decide where the problem is (and he doesn't come for free and is also pretty expensive), the bricklayer of the building (a person I don't trust) wants to do the job for free. Of course everyone decided that they want it for free seen also that the problem is only mine and from the other terrace and has nothing to do with the building.
I have to accept this decision and it also wouldn't be a problem. What I really didn't like has been the administrator that made me look like an idiot and a stingy person that wants others to pay. You should have seen how they gazed at me and what they told me. One also said: You should be already happy to have a terrace and now you want us to pay for having also a nicer one?! Some sentences were so stupid, they buffled me so much that I even didn't know what to answer back. And usually it isn't easy to shut me up or that I don't find words to defend myself.

[Chrissie]

del,y this sounds like you are going through hell! This is so typical that every part figures out what is financially best for them. We had similar problem when we lived in Belgium. The wall of our house touched our neighbor's and there was pipe leakage.

When people throw stupid statements at you, one gets so surprised that it is normal to be shocked into silence. People! Calm down and try to think how to explain to them that sharing house problems will be advantageous to all, in the long run. I am very sorry to hear of how this problem is escalating day by day.

[Joan]

Dely
Good luck with this - it sounds very frustrating. I know what you mean about getting so dumbfounded that you completely lose your words. It’s maddening.

[Chrissie]

Joan and dely, only later can one think of what you should have replied, but then it is too late!

[Nancy from NJ]

Sitting in the library on my cell phone. When I finish with my groups, I will continue reading the book I began this morning, Secret Shores by Ella Carey.

[dely]

Thanks Chrissie and Joan. It's unusual for me to stay without words and I have often also a sharp tongue if I'm obliged.
But I always try to take the best also from a bad situation so I'm still here thinking about what lesson I received, that I should be less stubborn and also less proud and wanting things to be done immediately. Monday I will call the administrator asking when her bricklayer will come. And I will call her every day till she won't send him because of a nervous breakdown. Ok, I'm still very very stubborn and proud. I think it won't be that easy to change.

Btw, this morning, going out for errands, walking through a public garden that is hidden from the street, there was a woman laying on the ground. I went to ask if she needed help and going closer I have seen her face full of blood. She didn't want me to call the ambulance! At the end, seeing that she felt dizzy also laying on the ground, I called the ambulance. Talking with the emergency center they asked me a lot of questions about this woman so I came to know that she was 78, has had a hard attack, three operations at the heart and was also diabetic. I hope she feels better now. I gave her also my phone number and told her to let me know how she feels when going home. Phew, a lot of emotions since yesterday! I'm not used to encounter needy people!

[[deleted user]]

Aww, Dely. That sounds awful. I'm the same, I really hate any sort of confrontation and I often spend hours if not days ruminating on what I should or should not have said.

Well done for looking after that lady, I'm sure she will have really appreciated your help. So many people would have ignored and walked by so you did a good thing in helping her.

[Chrissie]

You are a good Samaritan, dely.

[dely]

Thanks, though I think I've done something everyone would have done. I hope she calls back, also in a few days it doesn't matter. I asked her if she shouldn't also call a relative or if she wanted me to call someone, and she said that she had no relatives, she was alone. But then she called a good neighbour that came to take at least her shopping bags to bring them home.

[Nancy from NJ]

What a wonderful thing you did z. We call that a Mitzvah - a good deed.

[Nancy from NJ]

What do you think I'm doing. Just came in from walking 10,000 steps, showered and washed my hair. Now I'm looking at e mails and messages. When I finish I will lay down for a bit and read.

[Diane S ☔]

Dely, I hope things turn out well for you. So frustrating. I sure hope that woman is okay? So sad she has no family. Was a good thing you did.

[B the BookAddict]

dely, what an awful meeting that sounds like. Do you think it would have been easier if you were part of a couple? I say that because sometimes I find I am treated differently (in similar situations) than how I would have been if James were still here.

Lovely gesture of yours with the elderly woman, you are a sweetie.

[Joan]

Dely, that was kind of you.
It’s reassuring to know that people like you are willing to help strangers when needed.

[Ruth]

I am glad you were there for that lady Dely. It is sad that she is alone but it is more common than people think. Many of the elderly in my facility get no visitors or they get them very infrequently (holidays). It is sad and it breaks my heart.
Today my sister, one of my brothers and I went to look at an Assisted Living for my Mom. It was very nice and it is about 11 miles from me in Middletown, RI.
On the way there I got stuck in traffic on the Mt Hope bridge. They were working on the bridge. I have been stuck in traffic before on this bridge and it hasn't bothered me but today I almost had a full blown panic attack. The problem was while stopped and with the traffic moving in the opposite direction I could actually feel the bridge moving, freaked me right out. I was never so happy to get off a bridge in my life. My consolation prize though was after the tour of the facility we went to get chowder and clamcakes. On the way home it was fine because they were done with whatever they were doing on the bridge. I thought about not going home that way and going a different way but it would have taken me miles out of my way so I gave myself a pep talk and told myself "you can do this". if my mother moves to this place I will have to cross that bridge all the time.

[Chrissie]

Ruth, as I was reading your story, I was thinking exactly that IF you take this home for your Mom you would have to travel over this very same bridge frequently. So my question is if the condition of the bridge is a real hazard and will any necessary repair be completed before your Mom moves there, if she does? Do you have several housing alternatives?

[Chrissie]

Summer has come very quickly. It is gorgeous out. A week ago we had no leaves on the maple tree outside the window I sit at. Now they are in full bloom. Summer in Sweden ALWAYS is here right before the 13th, my daughter's b-day. She is 41 and she has a 15 year old daughter.Shet is her oldest kid. You don't think about aging but then you look at your kids and get a total shock. Yep, no doubt about it I am getting old.. It is spooky, how time speeds up as you get older.

[Ruth]

Chrissie I would have to take this bridge anyway whether my Mom goes to live there or not. There is no other way to Newport unless I go miles out of my way and I still would have to cross A bridge.

[Chrissie]

OK, then it is just to accept the situation. I hope this does not become a problem for you, Ruth.

[Chrissie]

dely, was the woman you helped a type one or typ two diabetic? Of course I am curious about that, WHY did this happen to her? Did she have to stay in the hospital or could she go home....maybe you do not know?! Time passes quickly, soon I will be at that age too. We left Belgium more than four years ago. Oscar is nine years old. For me it was yesterday that he was a little puppy.

[dely]

B the BookAddict wrote: "dely, what an awful meeting that sounds like. Do you think it would have been easier if you were part of a couple? I say that because sometimes I find I am treated differently (in similar situation..."

Yes, absolutely, and this isn't the first time I notice it. This drives me nuts and makes me angry . It is as if a woman without a man is an idiot or helpless, as if she isn't able to do the same things or doesn't understand anything. This makes me even more stubborn and determined to show that a woman that is alone manages to do the same things as a man, even more and even better.

[dely]

Chrissie wrote: "dely, was the woman you helped a type one or typ two diabetic? Of course I am curious about that, WHY did this happen to her? Did she have to stay in the hospital or could she go home....maybe you ..."

I don't know. I heard her only saying that she needs to do the shots so she doesn't take pills. I don't know if this helps to understand.
She said that she had breakfast and also the shot of the day, but suddenly she has seen everything black and fell down.
I don't know if she is still in the hospital, I didn't hear back from her. I know that she told her friend to bring my phone number home with the shopping bags, but who knows if she still remembers about it or if she now can find that sheet of paper.

[dely]

Ruth wrote: "I am glad you were there for that lady Dely. It is sad that she is alone but it is more common than people think. Many of the elderly in my facility get no visitors or they get them very infrequent..."

That's great that you decided to take the bridge also going back home! In April, when I had to take the flight, I was worried but then I told to myself that everyone takes a plane so why not me?! I have nothing less respect to others. My son was buffled too and I told him that fears exist to be overcome. I don't want to be slave of my fears. And the flight went well, I had no kind of anxiety. Lol, when we landed in France I told my friend to take a pic with me doing the V sign next to the plane to send to my son! He was so happy! He told me that now I must go to him to the Netherlands.

[Ruth]

I wasn't going to let my fear get the best of me Dely. Like I said it is the only way to get to Newport and if I want to go to the beach this summer I'd have to get over it or travel further to the beach.

[Chrissie]

dely wrote: "Chrissie wrote: "dely, was the woman you helped a type one or typ two diabetic? Of course I am curious about that, WHY did this happen to her? Did she have to stay in the hospital or could she go h..."

No one cannot tell from that which typ of diabetes she has. I was just thinking. I hope she is OK. You must be wondering too:

[B the BookAddict]

Ruth, you did the right thing and tackled that bridge again. I have found that the moment you give into your panic, you let it control you. You, Ruth, are boss of you, not nasty old panic!

[Ruth]

Thanks Bette.

[Nancy from NJ]

I'm sitting in the car while my husband drives home from Manhattan where we had dinner with friends.

[Pam]

Getting ready to go see Les Mis! I’m really excited! Have never seen it.

[Angela M]

Pam, enjoy ! It’s one of my favorite musicals. Powerful and beautiful music .

[Nancy from NJ]

Me too - loved Les MIs.

On my way to cousins in Westchester County in pouring rain for a Mother's Day celebration with family. Not around the corner but we so enjoy the company.

Happy Mother's Day to all moms, grandmas aunts and great aunts and always friends who are like mothers.

[Angela M]

I echo Nancy’s good wishes !

[dely]

Pam wrote: "Getting ready to go see Les Mis! I’m really excited! Have never seen it."

I envy you! Enjoy it.

[dely]

The old lady finally called me. She told me that they kept her 3 days in the hospital for every kind of check ups. She is again at home and fine, but doctors found a couple of things that aren't ok, so she has to do some other check ups.

[Chrissie]

dely, thanks for telling us. I hope she can remain at home. GOSH, you maybe saved her life! ((((dely)))))

[[deleted user]]

dely wrote: "The old lady finally called me. She told me that they kept her 3 days in the hospital for every kind of check ups. She is again at home and fine, but doctors found a couple of things that aren't ok..."

Glad to hear this Dely. It is nice to know she called, it must have meant a lot to her

[Diane S ☔]

Yes, nice to know she is okay for now. You must feel relieved she called, Dely.

[B the BookAddict]

That is good to hear, dely.

[dely]

Yes, I'm glad she called back.

There is always more workload. They don't want me to come on GR. And often they stop me during a job to give me another one that must be done in a hurry because urgent, and then I have to go on with the other one. From one side I'm happy, but I have always less time for anything else.

[Chrissie]

dely, I hope your load lightens!

[Chrissie]

I have been picking dandelion weeds ;summer is here. Have also washed Oscar, which he loves. This is so much nicer to do outside than on slippery bathroom floors.

[Nancy from NJ]

At the same time as I am checking messages here, I'm watching the last episode of the season of Billions.

[Marina]

Checking messages and then off to the hairdresser's! It's a luxury I allow myself about four times a year or so. It's not overly expensive, but still I don't like "wasting" my money on this. Although it's good when it finally comes to going.

[Chrissie]

Getting a nice haircut is great for one's mood. Enjoy.

Assuming it doesn't end up a total mess, which has happened to me, and I assume to all of us.

My hair-cutter has stopped and now I have to try someone new. ..... I am totally freaked out when I think about it. I have a great one in France but here in Sweden they do NOT cut as well and they cost four times as much. My hair is very thin. A good haircut will make it look a bit thicker.

[dely]

I changed my hairdresser in February, after 14 years. I wasn't anymore satisfied with how he cut my hair and there was since one year a new girl as assistant that I really didn't like. She was too false, gossipy and aggressive. I really disliked her behavior so I changed and thankfully the new hairdresser is good. With curly hair it isn't easy to find a hairdresser able to cut them.

[Chrissie]

I will switch my hair with yours.....

[dely]

Chrissie wrote: "I will switch my hair with yours....."

Hehe, no, despite they aren't easy to handle, I like them :D

Marina, satisfied by the hairdresser?

[[deleted user]]

I also have curls that are difficult to manage! My hair grows out like a triangle rather than down. I used to always keep my hair cut short but I’ve grown it quite long over the past year and when it behaves I like it!

[dely]

Heather wrote: "I also have curls that are difficult to manage! My hair grows out like a triangle rather than down. I used to always keep my hair cut short but I’ve grown it quite long over the past year and when ..."

Same problem: I would like to have them even longer, but the more they grow, the more they curl up or are full of tangles and so they "break". I solved several problems using only hair care products sold by the hairdresser. They are a little bit more expensive, but it's really worth. They are totally different from those you buy in a supermarket, though you pick up the best "professional" brand.