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[Gingerlily - The Full Wild]

It will keep for a year, but would it ever last for a year??

[Jim]

I do rum butter
Which is even more simple. 1 part butter, 1.5 parts of the brownest, stickiest sugar you can buy
Rum to taste
(The 1.5 parts is a minimum, you might find it drifts nearer to 2)

[Gingerlily - The Full Wild]

I must try that. I have all the ingredients. It sounds divine!

[M.T.]

It does doesn't it. I might try it too.

[Jim]

it's one of the few things I can 'cook' reliably ;-)

[Desley (Cat fosterer)]

Sorry MT, today's was a bit technical, but curious about the last line, is there a typo?

Tune in next week, if you can bear to, to discover how I'm going to try and breathe some life back into my book sales for 2016.

[M.T.]

Here's this week's. https://mtmcguire.co.uk/2017/12/23/20...

Desley it was a typo discalculiua strikes again. :-)

[Desley (Cat fosterer)]

:)

[Jim]

I'm still in awe at how many books you sell!

[M.T.]

Jim wrote: "I'm still in awe at how many books you sell!"

Bless you. Thanks. It's not many at the moment. :-) about two in December so far.

[Jim]

for once I've beaten you!
I sold exactly five.
And given they were £99p ones I've pocketed a grand total of £1.68

[Patti (baconater)]

Oh good. You can buy a pint of milk for the group, Jim.

[M.T.]

Ah ha but one of mine was the box set taking my total to a princely £8 we might be able to run to biscuits at this rate.

[Jim]

Patti (baconater) wrote: "Oh good. You can buy a pint of milk for the group, Jim."

provided they all bring their own tea or coffee we've got it sorted!

[Jim]

I forgot to mention I did sell nine paperbacks at Sledgelit, which when I get my train ticket money back from Northern because of the way they screwed me about meant I just about covered my costs which is a result :-)

[Patti (baconater)]

M.T. wrote: "Ah ha but one of mine was the box set taking my total to a princely £8 we might be able to run to biscuits at this rate."

Speaking of biscuits, I do hope you can pick up The Seven Rules of Elvira Carr soon. Reading it helped my mood immeasurably. It's lovely to disappear into an engrossing book when things become just a bit too much.

[M.T.]

Patti (baconater) wrote: "M.T. wrote: "Ah ha but one of mine was the box set taking my total to a princely £8 we might be able to run to biscuits at this rate."

Speaking of biscuits, I do hope you can pick up [book:The Sev..."

I did but that yesterday. Looking forward to reading it. :-)

[M.T.]

Jim wrote: "I forgot to mention I did sell nine paperbacks at Sledgelit, which when I get my train ticket money back from Northern because of the way they screwed me about meant I just about covered my costs w..."

well done. I get about £2.50 a quarter for my paperbacks.

[M.T.]

This one doesn't go live until lunch time on December 28th (tomorrow as I type this) but when it does ... https://wp.me/pJIxY-Np

Enjoy.

Cheers

MTM

[Patti (baconater)]

But I've just poured my coffee and settled down. I want it nowwwwwwwwwwwww.

[Desley (Cat fosterer)]

Rather bittersweet again, sorry you saw less of your dad

[Jim]

I've shared it, because it ought to be seen more widely

[Patti (baconater)]

Opened it in a new tab. I'll read it with my coffee in the morning.

[Patti (baconater)]

Yes, I'm going to share it too.

It's quickly coming to the point where Dave's mother will require placement in a care home, as caring for her is draining his father.
We were hoping that her being in hospital would be a time of respite for him, but he's exhausting himself going back and fore to the hospital, sometimes twice a day.
I'm seeing the situation only peripherally but I think I'm seeing things more clearly because of that.

Yes, it's not been a jolly holiday but it's important to find the nuggets of happiness.

I love the balloon!

[M.T.]

Thank you everyone. Patti, this is the hardest part. Getting the one caring to admit that they need help. Each hurdle comes and goes ... You will get there but I expect he'll take some persuading. My Mum had to end up in hospital, herself, before she would admit defeat. It's tough but you will get there and when you do it is such a relief.

[Jim]

I'm trying to help a lady come to terms with this now, she just feels that it's the end of the world, her husband will have to go into a home
He's immobile, lost the use of one hand and is in constant pain
She's 85 and he is older, they have been married over 60 years

[M.T.]

Jim wrote: "I'm trying to help a lady come to terms with this now, she just feels that it's the end of the world, her husband will have to go into a home
He's immobile, lost the use of one hand and is in const..."

Oh dear. Is there no way they can have live-in care? Because we have to pay for it all, live in is way cheaper than a home although at the end when Dad has to be turned and stuff, we may need two on at once which will up the anti. The whole system is so inflexible, it's a pity she can't go with him so they can be together. I spent a long time trying to see if I could find a home that would take Mum and Dad together. Nothing doing.

I'm guessing the lady's husband is still with it mentally, even if he's physically disabled, yes?

So sad.

Cheers

MTM

[Jim]

Yes mentally OK
He's had to go into hospital. The hope is that they'll get him mobile enough to come home and have carers four times a day, but I don't think 'live in' is on the agenda yet

[M.T.]

It's definitely better to keep them at home if you can, unless they've ever been to boarding school and were happy there, in which case, I think a home will resonate.

A friend of my Dad's had carers who came in four times a day to turn his wife and help feed her, wash her etc. His son and daughter lived in, too, though. He's very ill himself now, so the son and daughter have carried on sharing the living in, they are retired and do six months on and six months off. They don't have kids though so it's a lot easier for them.

The working it out bit is always big time trauma. Once it's sorted and things start to settle it gets a lot easier.

Cheers

MTM

[Jim]

we managed to keep both my parents at home but they both died aged 79. We did it with the help of a standard care package. They also were mentally fine but had physical problems

[M.T.]

Good going. I think if you are mentally with it still, the physical stuff is hard to cope with but at least you can still escape off into your head, or watch films, or listen to music, or read, or something. I'm sure it eases the burden on carers too. On the other hand, if a dementia patient has limited mobility, while it isn't great for them it makes it easier for their carers when they reach the wandering off stage . But any way you cut it, getting old is grim.

[Alicia]

M.T. wrote: "But any way you cut it, getting old is grim. ..."

I wonder how long I'll be able to keep up the writing. Without that, I can't see what I'll do all day - it gives me a sense of purpose. I guess most people just live.

Needing a purpose probably comes from being chronically ill 28+ years already. The kids don't need me any more, and it's MY time, which is a joke some days.

My car has a flat, I have nowhere I need to go, and we're surrounded by snow. Husband is taking care of himself (except for me putting in eyedrops four times a day - he's terrible at that), and I have to get back into the right mindframe for writing new stuff as soon as I get the current finished chapters off to the beta reader.

I wanted to be in the place with the pool and the chef by now, while I can still benefit. Sorry to sound down with a brand new year, but the last one wasn't very good, and I keep waiting for the next disaster.

Hope your 2018s are going better.

[M.T.]

Alicia wrote: "M.T. wrote: "But any way you cut it, getting old is grim. ..."

I wonder how long I'll be able to keep up the writing. Without that, I can't see what I'll do all day - it gives me a sense of purpos..."

I hear you. Nothing on that level but I am doing physio for my knee and hips. The hips are much better but the knee is not responding as I'd hoped. One exercise is still too painful to do. It's a real ... pain. I am ambivalent about 2018. Even years are often harder than odd ones. Dunno why, maybe my life goes in 2 year cycles.

Hope you are in the place with the pool and the chef soon.

Cheers

MTM

[M.T.]

PS I have done today's rant. Better late than never:

https://mtmcguire.co.uk/2018/01/06/to...

[Desley (Cat fosterer)]

I enjoyed it, and I think point 6 is really important, especially your comment about sadness becoming a habit if you let it. I think we are all too busy stressing about trying to be the best at everything that we forget what we actually have achieved, and I bet if you asked McMini, he would be happy with the mum you are

[Alicia]

M.T. wrote: "PS I have done today's rant. Better late than never:

https://mtmcguire.co.uk/2018/01/06/to..."

Such energy! May all your plans be doable.

[M.T.]

Desley (Cat fosterer) wrote: "I enjoyed it, and I think point 6 is really important, especially your comment about sadness becoming a habit if you let it. I think we are all too busy stressing about trying to be the best at eve..."

Absolutely. And thanks for the reassurance on the mum thing. I know I'm not as hands on as many other mums and I do worry that when I tell him 'we will play as soon as I've finished this,' he sometimes waits all day and we don't get to play. I'm trying to fix that this year. Made a good start yesterday, he came through while I was typing my blog post and I left it and went and took the decorations down with him instead. That's why it was later than usual.

Alicia wrote: "M.T. wrote: "PS I have done today's rant. Better late than never:

https://mtmcguire.co.uk/2018/01/06/to..."

Such energy! May all your plans be doable."

They probably aren't but I'm just going to keep chipping away at them, one tiny piece at a time.

[Desley (Cat fosterer)]

I'd be concerned if you didn't worry, it shows you are a good person

[Desley (Cat fosterer)]

Hope you don't mind me sharing this link for you MT

http://www.msn.com/en-gb/lifestyle/fa...

[M.T.]

Desley (Cat fosterer) wrote: "Hope you don't mind me sharing this link for you MT

http://www.msn.com/en-gb/lifestyle/fa..."

Woah there, I have my shit together a lot more than I thought. Thank you! Although I haven't sorted Date Night or indeed, any time, with McOther. I think we are OK though.

Cheers

MTM

[Desley (Cat fosterer)]

M.T. wrote: "Desley (Cat fosterer) wrote: "Hope you don't mind me sharing this link for you MT

http://www.msn.com/en-gb/lifestyle/fa......"

That's great!

[M.T.]

Today's nugget of chortly joy is up:

https://mtmcguire.co.uk/2018/01/13/he...

Enjoy!

[Jim]

loved it and shared it

[Gingerlily - The Full Wild]

That would be a McNugget then.

[M.T.]

Indeed, a big McNugget. I thought it was time it was funny again! Thanks for sharing.

[Alicia]

You have such an interesting life.

[Desley (Cat fosterer)]

Thanks for the laugh MT, much needed this Sat!

[M.T.]

Desley (Cat fosterer) wrote: "Thanks for the laugh MT, much needed this Sat!"

Glad to make you chuckle. I did miss out the 10 minutes I spent ringing the tile on my keys and trying to work out where they were before I realised they were in my pocket.

Alicia wrote: "You have such an interesting life."

A bit too interesting, as in 'interesting times'!

[Jim]

that's the way I read it as well :-)

[M.T.]

Yeh, I wish it was a bit less fucking interesting. Someone somewhere has cursed me in a small way, roundly and effectively.