Child Development Quotes

Quotes tagged as "child-development" (showing 1-25 of 25)
John Bradshaw
“Since the earliest period of our life was preverbal, everything depended on emotional interaction. Without someone to reflect our emotions, we had no way of knowing who we were.”
John Bradshaw, Healing the Shame that Binds You

Eileen Kennedy-Moore
“The path of development is a journey of discovery that is clear only in retrospect, and it’s rarely a straight line.”
Eileen Kennedy-Moore, Smart Parenting for Smart Kids: Nurturing Your Child's True Potential

David  Brooks
“If there is one thing developmental psychologists have learned over the years, it is that parents don’t have to be brilliant psychologists to succeed. They don’t have to be supremely gifted teachers. Most of the stuff parents do with flashcards and special drills and tutorials to hone their kids into perfect achievement machines don’t have any effect at all. Instead, parents just have to be good enough. They have to provide their kids with stable and predictable rhythms. They need to be able to fall in tune with their kids’ needs, combining warmth and discipline. They need to establish the secure emotional bonds that kids can fall back upon in the face of stress. They need to be there to provide living examples of how to cope with the problems of the world so that their children can develop unconscious models in their heads.”
David Brooks, The Social Animal: The Hidden Sources of Love, Character, and Achievement

Anthon St. Maarten
“There was no need for a term like ‘magical thinking’ in the Golden Age of Man...there was only genuine everyday magic and mysticism. Children were not mocked or scolded in those days for singing to the rain or talking to the wind.”
Anthon St. Maarten, Divine Living: The Essential Guide To Your True Destiny

Henry Cloud
“Boundary construction is most evident in three-year-olds. Boundary construction is most evident in three-year-olds. By this time, they should have mastered the following tasks:

1. The ability to be emotionally attached to others, yet without giving up a sense of self and one‘s freedom to be apart,

2. The ability to say appropriate no's to others without fear of loss of love,

3. The ability to take appropriate no's from others without withdrawing emotionally.

Noting these tasks, a friend said half-joking, "They need to learn this by age three? How about by fourty-three?" Yes, these are tall orders but boundary development is essential in the early years of life.”
Henry Cloud, Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life

Rasheed Ogunlaru
“Our life stories are largely constructed and without mindfulness can prove destructive.”
Rasheed Ogunlaru

Charles L. Whitfield
“The observer self, a part of who we really are, is that part of us that is watching both our false self and our True Self. We might say that it even watches us when we watch. It is our Consciousness, it is the core experience of our Child Within. It thus cannot be watched—at least by anything or any being that we know of on this earth. It transcends our five senses, our co-dependent self and all other lower, though necessary parts, of us.
Adult children may confuse their observer self with a kind of defense they may have used to avoid their Real Self and all of its feelings. One might call this defense “false observer self” since its awareness is clouded. It is unfocused as it “spaces” or “numbs out.” It denies and distorts our Child Within, and is often judgmental.”
Charles L. Whitfield, Healing the Child Within: Discovery and Recovery for Adult Children of Dysfunctional Families

Alice  Miller
“All children are born to grow, to develop, to live, to love, and to articulate their needs and feelings for their self-protection.”
Alice Miller

Martha Char Love
“The combination of the Main brain with its central nervous system, and the ancient Animal Brain with its somatic, enteric nervous system in the inner body—in the gut—and the constant dialog between them provides a self-correcting feedback system, which regulates the behavioral qualities of the organism when consciously cultivated—preferably in early youth.”
Martha Char Love, What's Behind Your Belly Button? A Psychological Perspective of the Intelligence of Human Nature and Gut Instinct

Gabor Maté
“As children become increasingly less connected to adults, they rely more and more on each other; the whole natural order of things change. In the natural order of all mammalian cultures, animals or humans, the young stay under the wings of adults until they themselves reach adulthood. Immature creatures were never meant to bring one another to maturity. They were never meant to look to one another for primary nurturing, modelling, cue giving or mentoring. They are not equipped to give one another a sense of direction or values. As a result of today`s shift to this peer orientation, we are seeing the increasing immaturity, alienation, violence and precocious sexualization of North American Youth. The disruption of family life, rapid economic and social changes to human culture and relationships, and the erosion of stable communities are at the core of this shift.”
Gabor Maté, In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction

“The problem is that much of what we have learned is harmful to our system because it was learned in childhood, when immediate dependence on others distorted our real needs. Long-standing habitual action feels right. Training a body to be perfect in all the possible forms and configurations of its members changes not only the strength and flexibility of the skeleton and muscles, but makes a profound and beneficial change in the self-image and quality of the direction of the self.”
Moshé Feldenkrais

The Physical Transference of Care and Saying Good-bye

"A toddler cannot participate in a discussion of the transition process or be expected o understand a verbal explanation. [They benefit] tremendously by experiencing the physical transference of care, and by witnessing the former caregiver's permission and support for [their new guardians] to assume their role. The toddler pays careful attention to the former caregiver's face and voice, listening and watching as [they talk] to [their new guardians] and invites the [guardians'] assumption of the caregiver's role. The attached toddler is very perceptive of [their] caregiver's emotions and will pick up on nonverbal cues from that person as to how [they] should respond to [their] new family. Children who do not have he chance to exchange good-byes or to receive permission to move on are more likely to have an extended period of grieving and to sustain additional damage to their basic sense of trust and security, to their self-esteem, and to their ability to initiate and sustain strong relationships as they grow up. The younger the child, the more important it is that there be direct contact between parents and past caregiveres. A toddler is going to feel conflicting loyalties if [they] are made to feel on some level that [they] must choose between [their] former caregiver and [their] new guardians ...”
Mary Hopkins-Best, Toddler Adoption: The Weaver's Craft

William Kamkwamba
“After a few days of rain, the seedlings will push through the soil and unfold their tiny leaves. Two weeks later, if the rain is still good, we then carefully apply the first round of fertilizer, because each seedling requires love and attention like any living thing if it's going to grow up strong.”
William Kamkwamba, The Boy Who Harnessed the Wind: Creating Currents of Electricity and Hope

“Imagine that your child is born with wings.”
Carolyn Parkhurst, Harmony

Sally Fryer Dietz
“There are many things we don’t understand, and many ways to unlock the brain and maximize function. Don’t ever let anybody tell you it can’t be done.”
Sally Fryer Dietz, When Kids Fly: Solutions for Children with Sensory Integration Challenges

Lailah Gifty Akita
“Engage your mind in the bliss of wonder.”
Lailah Gifty Akita, Pearls of Wisdom: Great mind

Billy Collins
“though they know in their adult hearts,
even as they threaten to banish Timmy to bed
for his appalling behavior,
that their bosses are Big Fatty Stupids,
their wives are Dopey Dopeheads
and that they themselves are Mr. Sillypants.”
Billy Collins, The Apple that Astonished Paris

Pramoedya Ananta Toer
“At the beginning of all growth, everything imitates. All of us, when we were children, also only imitated. But children grow up and begin their own development.”
Pramoedya Ananta Toer, Bumi Manusia

Sally Fryer Dietz
“I believe the only real limits in life, are the ones we put on ourselves and/or others….so I say forget the limits and “go for it.” You may be surprised at what is really possible!”
Sally Fryer Dietz, When Kids Fly: Solutions for Children with Sensory Integration Challenges

Maria Montessori
“What is generally known as discipline in traditional schools is not activity, but immobility and silence. It is not discipline, but something that festers inside a child, arousing his rebellious feelings.”
Maria Montessori, Creative Development in the Child: The Montessori Approach, Volume One

“children are under our care; we need to take good care of them!”
Ernest Agyemang Yeboah

Henrik Ibsen
“Det bringer nemesis over avkommet at gifte sig av udenforliggende grunde.”
Henrik Ibsen

“My child reflect the treatment I give.”
Efrat Cybulkiewicz

Paul Tough
“Ellington would be growing up in a culture saturated with an idea you might call the cognitive hypothesis: the belief... that success today primarily depends on cognitive skills - the kind of intelligence that gets measured on IQ tests... and that the best way to develop these skills is to practice them as much as possible, beginning as early as possible.

...But in the past decade, a disparate group of scientists have begun to produce evidence that calls into question the cognitive hypothesis. What matters most in a child's development... is whether we are able to help her develop a very different set of qualities: self-control, curiosity, conscientiousness, grit, and self-confidence. Economists refer to these as noncognitive skills, psychologists call them personality traits, and the rest of us sometimes think of them as character.”
Paul Tough, How Children Succeed: Grit, Curiosity, and the Hidden Power of Character

“A growing body of evidence suggests that teaching babies ASL may improve their ability to speak. Again, this indicates a link between manual signing and vocal speech. Babies express cognitive abilities through certain hand gestures (e.g., by pointing with the index finger) earlier than they do through articulated words (the latter require more refined oral motor skills, which very young babies do not yet possess).”
David B. Givens, The NONVERBAL DICTIONARY of gestures, signs and body language cues