Raising Children Quotes

“Mom always said people worried too much about their children. Suffering when you're young is good for you, she said. It immunized your body and your soul, and that was why she ignored us kids when we cried. Fussing over children who cry only encouraged them, she told us. That's positive reinforcement for negative behavior.”
― Jeannette Walls, The Glass Castle

“If I had received good instruction as a child I would be with my family today and at peace with my neighbors. I hope and pray that all you parents in the sound of my voice will train up your children in the way they should go.”
― Charles Portis, True Grit

“Thus if we know a child has had sufficient opportunity to observe and acquire a behavioral sequence, and we know he is physically capable of performing the act but does not do so, then it is reasonable to assume that it is motivation which is lacking. The appropriate countermeasure then involves increasing the subjective value of the desired act relative to any competing response tendencies he might have, rather than having the model senselessly repeat an already redundant sequence of behavior.”
― Urie Bronfenbrenner, Two Worlds of Childhood: U. S. & U. S. S. R.

“You want to know the secret to raising good kids?”
“What’s that? asked Thomas.
“High expectations.”
Thomas laughed. “Alright, well what’s the secret to a happy marriage?”
Clyde smiled back, but his face started to fall, and he chose his words carefully. “… Low expectations.”
― Chris Nicolaisen, The Life and Death of the Ericsons

“It always gave me a peculiar feeling to catch a glimpse of my parents' lives before I was born.”
― Robert Drewe, The Shark Net

“She was deemed an unfit mother, in spite of the fact that she goes to the gym every day,' Hal once told me.
. . .Beautiful people are often forgiven for many things--and maybe she's gotten through life that way, but I don't forgive her for anything--and I don't even know what awful things she's done other than showing a lack of parental fitness.”
― Neal Shusterman, Challenger Deep

“It was then, for the first time, that Will saw the kind of help Marcus needed. Fiona had given him the idea that Marcus was after a father figure, someone to guide him gently towards male adulthood, but that wasn't it at all: Marcus needed help to be a kid, not an adult.”
― Nick Hornby

“The rules for raising children had gone out with her parents generation of daughters who had lived as Lucy had, in patient silence, acting by standards which had lasted generations, waiting to grow up to make their decisions, following the patterns of their own lives.”
― Susan Richards Shreve, You Are the Love of My Life

“It's wrong and unhealthy to deny a child the world of make-believe.”
― Abhijit Naskar

“You may have had a parent that judged you or was highly critical. If so, you may be so familiar with judgment directed at you during your formative years that you automatically judge yourself.”
― Tara Bianca, The Flower of Heaven: Opening the Divine Heart Through Conscious Friendship & Love Activism

“Even if a child knows better, a child should be spoken to with loving respect to assist them to learn.”
― Tara Bianca, The Flower of Heaven: Opening the Divine Heart Through Conscious Friendship & Love Activism

“When a child believes there is something wrong with them due to criticism, expectations, or judgements, they turn against themselves and experience the ultimate separation.”
― Tara Bianca, The Flower of Heaven: Opening the Divine Heart Through Conscious Friendship & Love Activism

“Most parents thought they were being good parents. They learned from their parents or their grandparents, many of whom were severely traumatized and emotionally disconnected coming out of the devastation of a 1918 influenza pandemic and two world wars.”
― Tara Bianca, The Flower of Heaven: Opening the Divine Heart Through Conscious Friendship & Love Activism

“You raise boys to reject everything feminine then get mad when they become men who hate women.”
― Darnell Lamont Walker

“Of course, the way our parents are with us is due to the poor mentorship they received from their parents.”
― Tara Bianca, The Flower of Heaven: Opening the Divine Heart Through Conscious Friendship & Love Activism

“When we learn to seek validation from our parents and the outside world, it is easy to fall for the idea that if we just fit in, look good enough for others, or achieve great success, all will be right in the world.”
― Tara Bianca, The Flower of Heaven: Opening the Divine Heart Through Conscious Friendship & Love Activism

“Most expectations of children are unrealistic and ridiculous. Children are just learning how to ‘be’ in this world. To expect them to know what to do, or to expect them do things in a specific way, is a type of insane cruelty inflicted upon the child. Permit children to make mistakes and to explore life without criticism.”
― Tara Bianca, The Flower of Heaven: Opening the Divine Heart Through Conscious Friendship & Love Activism

“Most people who yell at children, or shame them for making a mistake, would never yell at or shame someone at work for making a mistake.”
― Tara Bianca, The Flower of Heaven: Opening the Divine Heart Through Conscious Friendship & Love Activism

“Children deserve respect more, not less than adults, because they innocently make mistakes.”
― Tara Bianca, The Flower of Heaven: Opening the Divine Heart Through Conscious Friendship & Love Activism

“When parents, family, friends, or teachers behave in hurtful ways it is because they have experienced deep hurt and negative conditioning within them.”
― Tara Bianca, The Flower of Heaven: Opening the Divine Heart Through Conscious Friendship & Love Activism

“If you think it should have been so easy for your parents to have met your needs, then meet your own needs and create the life of your dreams. Do what they could not. Be the change you desired throughout your life.”
― Tara Bianca, The Flower of Heaven: Opening the Divine Heart Through Conscious Friendship & Love Activism

“Any time you reject your parent, you are allowing the illusion to come between you and your parent.”
― Tara Bianca, The Flower of Heaven: Opening the Divine Heart Through Conscious Friendship & Love Activism

“Any time you yell at your child, you are allowing the illusion to come between you and your child.”
― Tara Bianca, The Flower of Heaven: Opening the Divine Heart Through Conscious Friendship & Love Activism

“You, my dear, are a child of God. Let you honor the creation that you are, equally to the beauty of a sunset or a newborn baby or a beautiful vista. You are glorious.”
― Tara Bianca, The Flower of Heaven: Opening the Divine Heart Through Conscious Friendship & Love Activism

“It takes less than a minute to make a baby, but more than a decade to make a being.”
― Abhijit Naskar, Honor He Wrote: 100 Sonnets For Humans Not Vegetables

“The best kind of parenting is that of exemplarity.”
― Abhijit Naskar, Honor He Wrote: 100 Sonnets For Humans Not Vegetables

“Nothing should be a higher priority than raising your children. Nothing!”
― Frank Sonnenberg, The Path to a Meaningful Life

“Copiii cresc și ne cară și pe noi cu ei.”
― Adriana C. Grigore, Se îndoaie după vânt

“When raising children, it is not 'making memories' that matters. It is the making of a home. That home is us—the state of our mind and heart. We are what makes the memory of a child. Who we are, who we become as a parent and a person, and how we respond to them and their needs is the most critical element in setting them up for their venture into life. When raising a child, it is time to make ourselves into something as memorable as possible.
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― Donna Goddard, Touched by Love

“What distinguishes the way a caring family or state institution treats a child from the way an investor would, if they’re both primarily concerned with the child’s future success? An investor may want an asset to achieve its full potential, but the investor doesn’t particularly care whether that kid is happy while they do it. A caring parent, on the other hand, balances an interest in a child’s future achievement with the child’s present wellbeing.”
― Malcolm Harris, Kids These Days: The Making of Millennials