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#1

“One's dignity may be assaulted, vandalized and cruelly mocked, but it can never be taken away unless it is surrendered.”
― Michael J. Fox

tags: abuse, bullying, courage, dignity, saving-milly, self-esteem, strength

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#2

“You know all that sympathy that you feel for an abused child who suffers without a good mom or dad to love and care for them? Well, they don't stay children forever. No one magically becomes an adult the day they turn eighteen. Some people grow up sooner, many grow up later. Some never really do. But just remember that some people in this world are older versions of those same kids we cry for.”
― Ashly Lorenzana

tags: abuse, children, depression, kids, love, parents, sadness

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#3

“... you don't have to wait for someone to treat you bad repeatedly. All it takes is once, and if they get away with it that once, if they know they can treat you like that, then it sets the pattern for the future.”
― Jane Green, Bookends

tags: abuse, life

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#4

“Childhood should be carefree, playing in the sun; not living a nightmare in the darkness of the soul.”
― Dave Pelzer, A Child Called "It"

tags: a-child-called-it, abuse, carefree, child-abuse, childhood, nightmares, soul

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#5

“Of pain you could wish only one thing: that it should stop. Nothing in the world was so bad as physical pain. In the face of pain there are no heroes.”
― George Orwell, 1984

tags: abuse, abuse-survivors, agony, agony-of-torture, chronic-pain, pain, torture

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#6

“There are far too many silent sufferers. Not because they don't yearn to reach out, but because they've tried and found no one who cares.”
― Richelle E. Goodrich, Smile Anyway: Quotes, Verse, and Grumblings for Every Day of the Year

tags: abuse, despair, hopelessness, richelle, richelle-goodrich, suffering

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#7

“There are many who don't wish to sleep for fear of nightmares. Sadly, there are many who don't wish to wake for the same fear.”
― Richelle Goodrich, Dandelions: The Disappearance of Annabelle Fancher

tags: abuse, fear, hardship, nightmares, richelle, richelle-goodrich, suffering, trials

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#8

“Forgiveness is giving up the hope that the past could have been any different.”
― Oprah Winfrey

tags: abuse, forgiveness, recovery, trauma

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#9

“Abuse manipulates and twists a child’s natural sense of trust and love. Her innocent feelings are belittled or mocked and she learns to ignore her feelings. She can’t afford to feel the full range of feelings in her body while she’s being abused—pain, outrage, hate, vengeance, confusion, arousal. So she short-circuits them and goes numb. For many children, any expression of feelings, even a single tear, is cause for more severe abuse. Again, the only recourse is to shut down. Feelings go underground.”
― Laura Davis, Allies in Healing: When the Person You Love Was Sexually Abused as a Child

tags: abuse, child-abuse, guilt, healing, innocence, love, manipulation, repressed-feelings, shame, trust

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#10

“Don't judge yourself by what others did to you.”
― C. Kennedy, Ómorphi

tags: abuse, abuse-recovery, abuse-sexual-abuse, abuse-survivors, gay-romance, gay-ya, glbtq, glbtq-romance, lgbtq

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#11

“Remember that you own what happened to you. If your childhood was less than ideal, you may have been raised thinking that if you told the truth about what really went on in your family, a long bony white finger would emerge from a cloud and point to you, while a chilling voice thundered, "We *told* you not to tell." But that was then. Just put down on paper everything you can remember now about your parents and siblings and relatives and neighbors, and we will deal with libel later on.”
― Anne Lamott, Bird by Bird

tags: abuse, advice, childhood, getting-started, incest, memoir, memories, memory, remembering, writing

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#12

“The only person that deserves a special place in your life is someone that never made you feel like you were an option in theirs.”
― Shannon L. Alder

tags: abuse, blaming, bullied, cheated-on, choices, daughter-of-god, dumped, embarrassed, emotional-abuse, games, hated, humiliated, hurt, hurting-you, ignored, lack-of-respect, lied-to, lies, not-good-enough, not-nice, not-pretty, options, overlooked, physical-abuse, self-centeredness, self-esteem, self-respect, sexual-abuse, sons-of-god, taken-for-granted, tortured, verbal-abuse, women-empowerment

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#13

“An over-indulgence of anything, even something as pure as water, can intoxicate.”
― Criss Jami, Venus in Arms

tags: abuse, addiction, alcohol, alcoholic, aqua, aquaholic, drinking, habits, health, indulgence, intoxicate, obsession, over-indulgence, substance-abuse, water

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#14

“So often survivors have had their experiences denied, trivialized, or distorted. Writing is an important avenue for healing because it gives you the opportunity to define your own reality. You can say: This did happen to me. It was that bad. It was the fault & responsibility of the adult. I was—and am—innocent.” The Courage to Heal by Ellen Bass & Laura Davis”
― Ellen Bass, The Courage to Heal: A Guide for Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse

tags: abuse, abusive, blame, child-abuse, childhood-abuse, courage, emotional-abuse, guilt, healing, innocence, lies, reality, recovery, relationships, responsibility, sexual-abuse, shame, survivor, victim

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#15

“Over time as most people fail the survivor's exacting test of trustworthiness, she tends to withdraw from relationships. The isolation of the survivor thus persists even after she is free.”
― Judith Lewis Herman, Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence - From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror

tags: abuse, isolation, relationships, survivor, trauma, traumatization, traumatized, trust

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#16

“I would give anything, anything, to be the man to whom this has not happened. I can not accommodate myself to it. In a lifetime of trying, I can not accommodate myself to it.

And now I will have to be that person forever.”
― Robert Goolrick, The End of the World as We Know It: Scenes from a Life

tags: abuse, loss, sad, sadness

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#17

“The things people say of a man do not alter a man. He is what he is. Public opinion is of no value whatsoever. Even if people employ actual violence, they are not to be violent in turn. That would be to fall to the same low level. After all, even in prison, a man can be quite free. His soul can be free. His personality can be untroubled. He can be at peace. And, above all things, they are not to interfere with other people or judge them in any way. Personality is a very mysterious thing. A man cannot always be estimated by what he does. He may keep the law, and yet be worthless. He may break the law, and yet be fine. He may be bad, without ever doing anything bad. He may commit a sin against society, and yet realize through that sin his true perfection.”
― Oscar Wilde, The Soul of Man Under Socialism

tags: abuse, freedom, oscar, personality, prison, soul, soul-of-a-man, violence, wilde

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#18

“The danger is that in reaction to abuses and distortions of an idea, we'll reject it completely. And in the process miss out on the good of it, the worth of it, the truth of it.”
― Rob Bell, Sex God: Exploring the Endless Connections Between Sexuality and Spirituality

tags: abuse, atheism, ideas, organized-religion, religion

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#19

“Killing animals to make a fashion statement = a sickening + cold-blooded vanity.”
― Jess C. Scott, Skins, Animal Stories

tags: abuse, animal, animals, cruelties, cruelty, fashion, fashion-statement, love, lovers, murder, rights, stories, vanity

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#20

“Silence, too, can be torture.”
― Justina Chen Headley, North of Beautiful

tags: abuse, silence, torture

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#21

“Politics: the art of using euphemisms, lies, emotionalism and fear-mongering to dupe average people into accepting--or even demanding--their own enslavement.”
― Larken Rose

tags: abuse, anarcho-capitalism, anarchy, ancap, coercion, democracy, elections, freedom, government, libertarian, liberty, religion, slavery, sophism, statism, stockholm-syndrome, superstition, taxation, violence, voluntaryism, voting

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#22

“The greater a child’s terror, and the earlier it is experienced, the harder it becomes to develop a strong and healthy sense of self.”
― Nathaniel Branden, Six Pillars of Self-Esteem

tags: abuse, child-abuse, childhood-trauma, psychology, self-esteem, self-knowledge, trauma

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