MeerderWörter’s Comments (group member since Jan 08, 2016)

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It was definitely touching, but still, so far, having not finished the book so far, for me, the one monologue that moved me the most was the one referencing rape.

For me, I like penis jokes more than vagina jokes. But then, I want both to vanish, because they're so reducing. As if males and females only consist of their sexual parts and you're luring if you're a female, or nasty, or mischiveous, and males aren't male if they're not good in bed and all this bullshit, never mind that what is good in bed is a very personal thing, in my opinion.

Hm, vaginas and identity, interesting idea.

I, for myself, don't have a real connection to my private parts, for me, they just exist. But I can also understand how women who have vaginas have this strong connection to this specific sexual part. Some intersex individuals reclaim the word "hermaphrodite" or, this other German word "Zwitter", to rob the words of its hurting components. But only they are allowed to do so, and it is hurting if a unisex person uses these words. So, I understand how women with vaginas using these words to reclaim their autonomy and agency:)

To be honest, for me, woman and man are social constructs, and for me, gender is a spectrum instead of two opposing ideals. I don't have a solution for the vagina celebrating part, without being exclusionary to all the humans who identify as women and don't possess a vagina much. It's not just about trans* folks, but also intersex folks.

I think although we need to address the wrongdoings done to our anatomy, if we focus only on this, we actually forget that there is more that makes a woman than her anatomy.
I feel a bit at unease with the "pussy grabs back" signs, because it was, in my opinion, exclusionary to human beings without pussies, and there are many who are really worried because Trump is a real threat to them.
But then, if we make feminism only about women, I think we miss a chance to really be inclusive and also to really change issues.

Natalie wrote: "I think something that really struck me, being a definite feminist, was that I wasn't ashamed to be reading a book that had the word 'Vagina' on the front cover. It didn't strike me until my mom ca..."

I didn't feel ashamed, more from a male's perspective, it being similar to: And finally I get to know women better:)

Hm, I don't know, in high school pupils probably would have laughed and bullied me, had I read such a book. But just because they were jealous, or too much pushed into this shame and oppression corner.

Robert wrote: "I know that when writing something you care deeply about you need to feel in your heart that you are completely ready and willing to do it. You cannot force it out of you. If you force it, it somet..."

If anybody has questioned it, these are exactly my thoughts Robert. It's upon her and if she doesn't feel ready, then it's upon her to decide when she's ready.
I'll read it either way!

James wrote: "I think everyone would support her if she chose to do a book. However it will still be up to her when she is ready and comfortable with doing one. Right now it just doesnt seem like she is ready."

I have to agree with you again, James. I think she still has to learn about the LGBTQIA+ community, and more about poc and the mental health issue from my point of view. I don't say that's bad, because so have I.

It's up to her, and if she doesn't feel ready for it now, it's a good decision to still wait some time.

James wrote: "I think she will eventually, but judging by her actual comments i think she wants to continue to learn more before taking on that task. Here is her actual comments regarding the book,

''I need to ..."

I can only agree with you James, 30 diaries is amazing! And she uses different diaries for different topics, it's just awesome.

I also really appreciate that she herself says that she has still a long way to go, hey, she's not a Gloria Steinem... yet:)

Kay wrote: "Alessia wrote: "I was loving the book until I got to the 'The woman who loved to make vaginas happy' part. I don't see why I should be reading about lesbian sex, as I wouldn't want to read about he..."

It is, in fact the clitoris' only purpose is sexual pleasure. It's also called the women's penis, because they both develop from the same anlage. It's just that the penis grows larger, but that's more or less it.
Uh, the vagina plays a vital role in giving birth, but it is definitely related to sexual pleasure, I'd say:)

Jo wrote: "I still haven't managed to watch your previous video yet MeerderWörter because my internet here at work is awful for watching videos - when home I don't get much time.

Ashwin's TED video worked a ..."

Don't worry, we're not here to work:)

I'll watch Ashwin's TED video now too!

Whenever our Boss Lady decides that she'll write a book about feminism, I'll buy it. But she still has to learn about issues, so it's better if she writes it in the future, not now.

She's still so young!

It's me again, sharing a documentary in German. Both of the people featured are intersex and, well, what should I say? They are definitely not shy and I think it is so important, it was kind of a premiere to have this kind of documentary aired on Austrian Prime Time TV.

I found a Youtube link, so I share this one with you:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bQ_Zu...

Ady wrote: "I recently got a lot of flack for knitting and wearing a "pussy hat" and carrying a sign that said "Pussy grabs back!" in a protest. The complaints that I was getting were not political and not tha..."

Now, what's wrong with your environment? You have the freedom of speech, and you are entitled to share your opinion. I don't think it's offensive if you say that this "this pussy grabs back", especially because it was a man who talked about all of you in such a derogatory way. As long as you remember that not all women bleed once a month, and not all women have the typical inner sexual parts, what's wrong with it?

Jo wrote: "Thanks MeerderWörter will give that a watch in a bit, sounds interesting :)"

I just loved watching it, I couldn't agree more with them, even the doctor, although I hate doctors.

Tell me what you think about it! Write me a PM or here, but I'd just like to know from somebody else:)

Sherrie wrote: "I love this thread so much...the conversation keeps going in new directions and giving me SO MUCH to think about. :D Y'all are great.

Going back to Eternal's comment about the percentages of mino..."

Opportunities are goals! And for young ones to decide to go a certain way, we need representatives. *Grr* It's so difficult!

I definitely second you here that we act in the way we have seen it when we were little, I see that with myself too.

Ross wrote: "Perhaps it is time to shift focus to people women and men turned on when they hear Feminism. The recent protests, continued rise of HeforShe show they are the majority.

Band together open new thre..."

Wise words, Ross! I actually talked with my mum about OSS for the last hour or so. She seems to not quite grasp it, but at least she knows that we're diverse in members and book choices, and that we want to change the world for better. One step at a time!

Fera wrote: "MeerderWörter wrote: "Fera wrote: "I never associate myself as a feminist before despite I am proud with my independence and empowerment as a woman because I felt like the word feminism has negativ..."

I'll be looking forward to discuss issues with you, just send me a PM:) Don't feel bad, there are many who just think about the typical female body, excluding Inter* and Trans* persons. The important thing is that one doesn't refuse to believe in the struggles of them, when they have learned about them.

Mia wrote: "people are turned off by the word feminist beacuse they think that feminists hate men and that they want to be superior to men,which makes them ignorant,and what feminism is making men and women eq..."

You're right, it's so sad, if she educated herself she'd know that we're still second-class citizens so to say, and what is bad about changing that. And you can't make yourself equal if you suppress others, feminism can't be against men, in it's very nature!

Me again, this time posting a Facebook Live discussion about the movie Gender Revolution:

The people discussing are:
a gender-non-conforming student at Yale
a trans* person
a doctor (who is actually progressive - kudos to him)
a psychotherapist
two parents of a trans* person featured in the movie
Georgiann Davis (shame on me she's the only one I know by name, but then, intersexuality is sort of the thing I'm interested in the most, when it comes to the MOBAI community, Georgiann is an assistant professor in sociology and intersex activist)
and there's also a representative of ACLU, the organisation who right now helps Gavon Grimm, whose case is to be heard in front of the supreme court in mid-march, as far as I know)

It's really worth watching and listening to it, especially for those who are quite unfamiliar with the topic:

https://www.facebook.com/natgeo/video...

Fera wrote: "I never associate myself as a feminist before despite I am proud with my independence and empowerment as a woman because I felt like the word feminism has negative connotation. I only saw feminist ..."

Fera, don't worry about the 'doing' part. When you educate yourself about feminism, it comes along. Now, I'm glad that you enjoyed this book and learned from it. I also recommend you to read the book we read last January, My Life on the Road, because it will give you a whole new understanding of what feminism is about.
I only have one plea towards you: Please note that not all women have a vagina, and that not all people who have a vagina identify as women. But if you want to talk about gender or sex-ed, just PM me, I'm glad when I can help:)

Laure wrote: "Winston wrote: "France also has that Right wing extremist running for president and she's got an outside chance at it."

Off-topic (but, now that Baptiste has deleted his profile, I guess this is k..."

I totally agree with you Laure. Just because there are women candidates does not mean that we have achieved our goals.
P.S.: I'm sad that Baptiste deleted their profile, they could have learned so much.

And I' here to talk with anyone, I LOVE discussing feminist issues, don't feel afraid to send me a PM, since I only get notifications in the topics that I have written earlier.