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July 9, 2013
Love SOS – Dealing with a relationship ending
When a relationship goes wrong it feels literally like we ourselves are ‘breaking apart’. Unless we are very fortunate indeed and meet our ‘one true love’ early on (and some lucky people do!), most of us will experience the shattering pain of heartbreak at some point in our lives – and often more than once, on our search for that special person. If that’s you right now chances are even if you’ve been in this place before, you’re wondering how you will ever get out of it. When a relationship goes wrong, our image of ourselves is not only shattered (the other person doesn’t love us), but all our hopes for the future look to have died with the relationship. This is why it hurts so much. Acknowledging the hurt and not resisting it is actually the best thing we can do at this stage and you would be surprised at how many people try to skip it (understandable – because it hurts so much!), usually by denial and jumping straight ‘back on the horse’ so to speak – the ‘I’m okay, and s/he can go f*@$! themselves’ approach. The problem with this approach is that the hurt and the pain are still there despite our actions, and also we are missing a growth opportunity – to change our energy and therefore attract a different outcome the next time. The fact is, opening up to our pain is the very process that opens up the space for a new love to appear!
In the 60’s, Elisabeth Kubler-Ross proposed there are five key stages for getting over someone dying. These stages also apply to any situation where we lose someone important to us or even something important like our jobs. These stages hold the key to us moving through the painful landscape of loss and lead us out to our destination – healing and love. We will usually experience at least three of these stages – sometimes all of them, and sometimes the order can vary. They are:
1: Denial: This can be: ‘I don’t believe this is happening’ or as I mentioned earlier, the ‘S/he can go f*@$! themselves’ approach. We can even feel euphoria as in ‘Thank God, I’m free!’. We’re hard-wired to avoid pain. It’s understandable we don’t want to go there.
2: Anger: When anger arrives it at least shows we’re no longer in denial. We’re acknowledging the pain. ‘It’s all their fault’, ‘Oh, no! Not again!’, ‘It’s not fair!’. This is the stage where some people will rush out and start dating again to ‘get back’ at the other person. Anger is not a good place to be and hanging around someone whose sole motivation for being with someone is revenge is not good karma. It’s okay to be angry – just don’t spread it around. Acknowledge where you’re at and you’ll move on much faster.
3: Bargaining: ‘Come back to me’. Owch! Bargaining can make the previous stages look like a picnic by comparison. We can debase ourselves promising we’ll change forgetting that perhaps it wasn’t our fault the relationship tanked and the most important thing of all – that for love to last the other person needs to accept us how we are – not for what they want us to change into. It’s also saying to the universe that we are not loveable just the way we are and that unless we have someone in our lives we are worthless – not good messages to broadcast! Also, please beware. If the relationship has ended due to someone’s abusive behaviour and they are now begging you to take them back and promising to change and it will ‘never happen again’ – chances are they won’t and it will. Bargaining is another way we try to avoid the pain and move through to the next stage. Sometimes we bargain with a higher power – this is often the stage we will get a reading to see if there is a chance of a reconciliation. Sometimes there is. It all depends if both parties are willing to acknowledge what caused the break-up and deal with it.
4: Depression: ‘I’ll never be happy again’. ‘Love sucks’. Arriving at this stage shows we are now firmly grounded in reality. We have accepted the relationship is over. No matter how painful things are, this is the point where true healing starts to enter our hearts as we grieve and let go.
5: Acceptance: ‘I’m going to be okay’. We’ve done some powerful soul work by this stage. Our depression lifts and we emerge with new insights into ourselves and our relationship needs and we now see the old relationship through new eyes. We may have insights into why it didn’t work out and possibly why the person might not have been right for us. We’ve changed energetically and we can look forward to now attracting new love into our lives with the promise of perhaps a different outcome next time.
Every relationship we attract fuels our soul growth no matter whether it lasts or not. We have many many soul contracts with many many souls. When we start to see each encounter as a soul evolution opportunity for both us and the other person, love then becomes the only result of the relationship – no matter how it ends up.
Quantum Creating: produce the movie of your life
There’s no doubt that movies are one of the most powerful storytelling mediums we’ve ever invented. Stories or guiding myths, have always been with us and were created to help us through life’s challenges. In ancient times, the Shaman storyteller of the tribe would relate these stories. Have you ever wondered why all those gods and goddesses appeared all too human when it came to their actions? That’s because the stories around them were used to parallel human experience and we could use them as examples to guide us through similar situations.
Now our stories have moved from the ancient oral tradition, through to print and now to films, they have become far more powerful tools and we can use our favourite films to help us when we are faced with a big decision, want to make changes on a soul level or create success. First of all, think about what you would like to change. Perhaps you have a job interview coming up, want to emerge from a situation you feel powerless right now to change or want to create love or success in another area in your life. Now, think of a movie you have enjoyed watching where the protagonist was facing a similar situation to yours. If it’s been a while since you saw the film, you might want to watch it again at this point. Next, take a scene from the film that felt particularly resonant for you. Perhaps you had an intense emotional reaction to what the main character was going through as you identified with him or her so strongly. Now – close your eyes and remove the actor playing the role from the scene and imagine yourself as that character instead. Imagine yourself saying their lines and feeling their emotions. Don’t forget, it’s doesn’t matter whether you think you can act or not so let go of any inner critic that surfaces. What matters is you feeling what they are feeling – not whether your performance gets an Academy Award or not!
See the actors who are in your movie with you using your name – not the name of the character you are playing. This is YOUR story now. And because it is you can now start writing and directing it any way you want – adding to the script and having the actors say to you anything you want such as what you may need to hear to deal with your situation or reach your goals. Perhaps one of the actors with you represents an ex or someone you have had issues with in the past. If so, you can now ‘script’ them to explain why they acted towards you the way they did. You will be surprised at what can emerge.
If you have a list of goals, try to find a movie with a scene in it that represents your goal or whose central character has the qualities you are going to need to reach that goal. Don’t forget – you can choose as many films and as many scenes as you need. Look for movies whose ending gives you the outcome you are aiming for. By putting yourself in the main characters shoes, allowing yourself to feel how they are feeling at their moment of triumph, you then set yourself up for a similar ending.
As you get more adept at this, you can of course script your ‘movie’ from scratch instead of borrowing from another film and write, star and direct the movie of how you want your life to be from here on in. You can then cast whoever you want to be in this film – family, friends, your future soul-mate and have them say and do the things you need them to do for you. This slice of ‘reel’ life you are creating can have powerful effects in our lives – from our relationships to our careers, our confidence and sense of wellbeing.
After all – if you don’t see yourself as having a starring role in your own life, how do you expect other people to? So use this healing and highly creative visualization technique to create not just the ‘happy endings’ you want to see in any situation, but to empower you in any situation you find yourself in. After all – stories in films aren’t usually about movie stars – they’re inspired by people like you! So, take charge of the ultimate production – your life. That’s ‘reel’ power.
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Incredible July Monthly Astrology Videos 2013
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June 24, 2013
Numerology: 3rd, 12th, 21st and 30th Number 3 Life Path
Numerology: Secrets of your Birthday -3rd, 12th, 21st, 30th: Number 3 Life Path
If you were born on the 3rd, 12th, 21st, 30th day of any month you have a Number 3 Life Path Master Number.
Usually optimistic, outgoing and inspirational, you have an affinity with people born under the sign of Sagittarius no matter what your own birth sign and if you meet someone born under this sign, consider you might be karmically linked in some way. You an a puzzle residing within an enigma. You are an excellent teacher and possess great leadership abilities and are honest, direct and usually helpful. On the other hand you may also be critical, unmotivated, dictatorial, prone to exaggeration and lazy. You do have a natural way with words and you may want to consider using your gift of the gab for something other than impressing others (which you excel at!). You would do well in any job where words or communication is important.
In your lifetime you may face some challenges and if so you need to have faith in your inner power. If you can maintain this you will be able to surmount any problems you may face. You are a winner in the game of life and will ultimately triumph no matter what is thrown at you, provided you keep your inner beliefs intact. When things go wrong for your number they go wrong in a big way. Dealings with the law are also likely with this number.
Being linked to Sagittarius which rules journeys, adventure and travel you need a lot of stimulation in your life and you also crave the adventure of romance! Despite the fact that you may face trials in your life, others will see you are carefree and successful. Your optimistic nature is what attracts people to you and you are someone that people turn to in times of crisis – perhaps because you know all too well what this is like. You will benefit from travel so do as much of this as you can and you are a number likely to take up residence far from the land of your birth.
Your finances will fluctuate throughout your life and this may be between extremes of feast and famine. Don’t take the good times for granted but at the same time, know that any lean periods won’t last forever. When things change they usually do so with little or no warning. You may experience months or even years of little or no money then receive a large sum or job offer which seems to come ‘out of the blue’. You are able to get by on very little but your soul lesson is to understand it is your attitude which attracts wealth. Act as if you are wealthy and the universe will mirror your belief.
Number 3’s are usually attractive not just to the opposite sex but their own sex as well. Understand this has nothing to do with your sexual orientation – you’re just hot! Having said that, you are usually a loyal partner and expect the same in return. If you have children then one of your children will be the cause of you to be extremely proud – or the complete opposite. Your number is very good for friendships and if you share your hopes and dreams with your friends you will often find them willing to help you achieve your goals. If you are a 3 who has few friends then you have a bit of serious soul work to do. Start to share yourself with others – project a happy attitude and share whatever you have – even if it is just your time or those hopes and dreams. By sharing whatever you have no matter how little, you will be amazed at how life improves out of sight for you and the number of people you attract in the process.
Should something happen that you lose your partner through divorce or death, it is almost certain you will find someone else. The same goes for business partners and collaborators. So please do not think if you suffer a relationship breakdown that you will end up on your own.
If you focus on physical and worldly matters – if your goals are just the pursuit of money and ‘things’ for example, you will be dogged by failure and those tough times I mentioned earlier which just drag on and on. To enjoy all the soul benefits this number wants to give you you need to concentrate on spiritual matters and the inner ‘you’ and then watch as your outer world transforms. Once you understand this, the sky really is the limit for you!
If you were born on the 12th, 21st or 30th of any month please see the additional information contained in your power number which you can find in this section.
June 23, 2013
Job Loss: What To Do When You Lose The Job That Defined You
It’s the loss that is all too common nowadays but the one that we tend to dismiss as the least important emotionally. Unlike relationship breakdown, we tend not to look at the emotional impact of losing a job instead concentrating on the financial fallout. But for many people, losing their job can be even more devastating as they not only have the worry of how they will cope financially, but in many instances, feel as if they were their job, resulting in confusion, loss of identity and shaken confidence.
It’s easy to see how this can happen. Just think about the last time you met someone new. Chances are within a couple of minutes one of you asked the question: what do you do? For many of us, our identity is inextricably linked to our job title. What we do defines us, especially if it is something we have worked long and hard to gain expertise at, or that we feel is intrinsically linked to our soul purpose.
Losing your job is just like going through a break-up. The first thing to understand is that just like someone whose marriage has broken up – you are not defined by your job title any more than someone going through a divorce was defined by the title Mrs or Mr. You are far more than that! And just as someone goes from being part of a couple to being single again and then entering into a new relationship, you will pass through the stage of being unemployed to being in a new job or new way of working. How many people have come out of a relationship they thought was their soulmate only to discover an even more fabulous relationship! Tune into your psychic ability look for clues with your intuition and KNOW that the Universe won’t let you down.
Don’t get stuck in the past. While it’s good to look back at any situation and see what we can learn from it, it’s counterproductive to keep replaying events over and over again in our heads. This is like someone who has gone through a break-up and keeps on re-running head movies of them and their ex while saying they want a new relationship – and then wondering why it doesn’t appear! Instead of looking back at your previous job, look forward to your new one. If you’re not able yet to fully visualise the kind of work environment you want to be in, charge your job search with excitement such as thinking about getting to know your next group of colleagues, being in a stimulating work environment and finding a new place to buy coffee or have lunch.
Above all, don’t feel guilty that you don’t have a job to go to right now. You’ll be back to work soon enough. In the interim, be mindful a major relationship has ended, allow yourself time to mourn and above all – just as if you’ve been through a break-up, remind yourself that you deserve to be loved – or in this case, employed, for every quality you bring to your work. You are far more than just a job title you are a unique, beautiful and divine soul. Remember – work can define us but it is never all that we are or capable of being.
Your Quantum Self: Make the Law of Attraction Work for You!
If you’re a regular visitor here and you enjoy reading my articles on Quantum Reality and Quantum Creating then you’ll be familiar with the concept that everything in the universe if comprised of energy – us, the chair you’re sitting on reading this, the grass, the Sun, the Solar System and the very fabric of the universe itself – things are not solid matter but energy waves and our energy ‘vibration’ is what attracts people and experiences to us. Like attracts like. It’s proven both on a scientific and a psychological level that what we focus on becomes our reality – if you focus on negative thoughts and experiences – that’s what you get more of. This is not to say if something tragic or hideous happens to you it is ‘your fault’ but changing your thoughts, I believe, can manifest a more abundant reality.
However, it’s not just our thoughts we can change but our energy vibration as well. And by doing this we can really make the Law of Attraction work for us and super-charge our Quantum Creating process. It’s got nothing to do with affirmations or even goal-setting per se, although it usually does speed up the manifestation process.
Step 1: This requires total honesty from you. Look at what you are attracting right now. What are you not happy with? Be ruthlessly honest with yourself here. Do you attract potential partners who won’t commit? Are you stuck in a job where you are not rewarded properly? Make a list of everything you are attracting you don’t like and go into as much detail as you want about what’s not working.
Step 2: Now – how does this make you feel? Again, be honest and I’m also going to ask you to do something that may sound a little strange or even counter-productive. Really go into these feelings. Wallow in them if you like. Write them all down – all the unhappiness, yuckiness, frustration, unworthiness, blame, worry and dissatisfaction you feel in this particular area of you life. Now, when you’ve finished writing, re-read it and then sit with it for a moment longer. This is the energy you are broadcasting to the universe around this particular issue or area in your life. Not nice, is it? Now you’ve tuned into it, can you see why you’re not getting anywhere fast?
Step 3: Acknowledge – Forgive – Re-tune: You’re now having a profound spiritual ‘Ah-ha!’ moment. A revelation. This is big – probably bigger than you can imagine in terms of the impact it’s going to have for your soul path. Acknowledge this energy, forgive anyone you have to (this includes yourself) and no we come to the exciting part – we’re going to re-tune you. Just like a radio or a transmitter you’ve been stuck at a certain frequency – and the same boring station listening to the same music playing over and over again. Now, I want you to think either about an area in your life that is working or – don’t panic here if you’re saying ‘But nothing is working right now!’ – go back to a really good day. We’ve all had them. Those days where you wake up energised and leave the house with a spring in your step and probably a big goofy grin you’re not aware of plastered all over your face. Suddenly everyone you encounter smiles at you (including that cute guy or girl you see every day who’s never acknowledged you until now!). Everything flows smoothly for you, little synchronicities happen and life just seems good. No matter what our present circumstances, we’ve all had days like this. Think back and then write down how that time made you feel. Now – re-read it and sit with that energy. It’s very different to the previous energy, isn’t it? Just image if you could hold that kind of energy and send it out to the universe instead. How different would your life and circumstances be?
The amazing thing is now you have ‘tuned’ into the positive energy and recalled how you felt at that particular time, you can now tap into it whenever and however often you want. The more you do this, the longer you begin to ‘broadcast’ on this new energetic frequency. And the universe just has to respond back as like attracts like. Soon you will be amazed as your negative situations and problems start to resolve themselves or just vanish – not because they have changed – but because you no longer hold the same vibration as they do.
Our vibration determines our spiritual life path and lessons. The great thing is once we understand this we can change the curriculum if you like, at any time and become the spiritually evolved energetic beings we were always destined to be.
