Lilah Suzanne's Blog, page 69

hey, so i'm kind of trying to get back into the dating scene (post college grad, now working a 9-5 after a creative blowout at my first job) but i live with my parents in a bedroom that hasn't changed decoration since i was 16. moving out isn't a financial

You know, a lot people are referring to this age group as the “boomerang generation” which seems like an unfair label given out by the generation that caused the state of the economy in the first place, but it’s actually kind of fun, if you think about it. You’re practical and reasonable while also gliding through the air all light and fast and banana-shaped. In other words, the situation is not ideal, but you can still make the best of it.

So you have some options. You can get creative, and find ways to get your sexy on elsewhere: Cars. Bathrooms. Other people’s houses. (But like, people you know. I feel like that’s an important caveat. Breaking and entering is just not worth the excitement.) Hotel rooms can be fun. Pretend you’re both spies working for opposing government operatives and you tell yourself it’s only about the hot sex but actually you’ve fallen for each other and maybe someday you can run off to Kazakhstan together and finally live the peaceful life you’ve always longed for.

Or, you know, something that isn’t one of my more elaborate fantasies.

You could take a brief vow of chastity, wait until you’ve got a little more space, particularly given the way your life seems to be in flux both personally and professionally. Absence makes the heart grow fonder, so they say.

A third possibility is to bring someone home anyway, but be upfront about it. It’s respectful and sets boundaries and yes, it’s awkward, but you are an adult and not actually sixteen so don’t act like it. No sneaking around. No lying about just “watching a movie.” And maybe change the decor a little? The only thing worse than getting caught heels up and naked by your mother may be doing it under a Spice Girls poster. Been there, done that.

hey, so i'm kind of trying to get back into the dating scene (post college grad, now working a 9-5 after a creative blowout at my first job) but i live with my parents in a bedroom that hasn't changed decoration since i was 16. moving out isn't a financial

You know, a lot people are referring to this age group as the “boomerang generation” which seems like an unfair label given out by the generation that caused the state of the economy in the first place, but it’s actually kind of fun, if you think about it. You’re practical and reasonable while also gliding through the air all light and fast and banana-shaped. In other words, the situation is not ideal, but you can still make the best of it.

So you have some options. You can get creative, and find ways to get your sexy on elsewhere: Cars. Bathrooms. Other people’s houses. (But like, people you know. I feel like that’s an important caveat. Breaking and entering is just not worth the excitement.) Hotel rooms can be fun. Pretend you’re both spies working for opposing government operatives and you tell yourself it’s only about the hot sex but actually you’ve fallen for each other and maybe someday you can run off to Kazakhstan together and finally live the peaceful life you’ve always longed for.

Or, you know, something that isn’t one of my more elaborate fantasies.

You could take a brief vow of chastity, wait until you’ve got a little more space, particularly given the way your life seems to be in flux both personally and professionally. Absence makes the heart grow fonder, so they say.

A third possibility is to bring someone home anyway, but be upfront about it. It’s respectful and sets boundaries and yes, it’s awkward, but you are an adult and not actually sixteen so don’t act like it. No sneaking around. No lying about just “watching a movie.” And maybe change the decor a little? The only thing worse than getting caught heels up and naked by your mother may be doing it under a Spice Girls poster. Been there, done that.

hey, so i'm kind of trying to get back into the dating scene (post college grad, now working a 9-5 after a creative blowout at my first job) but i live with my parents in a bedroom that hasn't changed decoration since i was 16. moving out isn't a financial

You know, a lot people are referring to this age group as the “boomerang generation” which seems like an unfair label given out by the generation that caused the state of the economy in the first place, but it’s actually kind of fun, if you think about it. You’re practical and reasonable while also gliding through the air all light and fast and banana-shaped. In other words, the situation is not ideal, but you can still make the best of it.

So you have some options. You can get creative, and find ways to get your sexy on elsewhere: Cars. Bathrooms. Other people’s houses. (But like, people you know. I feel like that’s an important caveat. Breaking and entering is just not worth the excitement.) Hotel rooms can be fun. Pretend you’re both spies working for opposing government operatives and you tell yourself it’s only about the hot sex but actually you’ve fallen for each other and maybe someday you can run off to Kazakhstan together and finally live the peaceful life you’ve always longed for.

Or, you know, something that isn’t one of my more elaborate fantasies.

You could take a brief vow of chastity, wait until you’ve got a little more space, particularly given the way your life seems to be in flux both personally and professionally. Absence makes the heart grow fonder, so they say.

A third possibility is to bring someone home anyway, but be upfront about it. It’s respectful and sets boundaries and yes, it’s awkward, but you are an adult and not actually sixteen so don’t act like it. No sneaking around. No lying about just “watching a movie.” And maybe change the decor a little? The only thing worse than getting caught heels up and naked by your mother may be doing it under a Spice Girls poster. Been there, done that.

"Suzanne keeps the humor warm and the sex real."

“Suzanne keeps the humor warm and the sex real.”

-

Publishers Weekly

Now available for pre-order from the Interlude Press web store. Pre-orders from the IP store will begin receiving Spice two weeks before its international release April 2nd.

(via interludepress)

"Five Stars"

interludepress:

"So often, romance is serious and passionate involving exaggerated misunderstandings and artificial barriers.  This is just real.  The story is funny and sweet and almost painfully well observed.  I loved it." 

—Inked Rainbow Reads

Spice is available for pre-order in the IP Webstore. Pre-orders will begin receiving their copies two weeks before Spice’s worldwide launch on April 2nd. Pre-order a print edition from direct from IP, and get the multi-format eBook for free. See the IP web store for details.

mander3-swish:Dear lilahsuzanne & lynncharlesnet,I DARE you to write a collaborative story...

mander3-swish:

Dear lilahsuzanne & lynncharlesnet,

I DARE you to write a collaborative story featuring Dini and Walt. 

mic drop.

Oh I love this! A dog crossover fic. Okay, as it happens I just finished lynncharlesnet's Chef's Table recently so I'll take a stab at it:

Walt: Friend? Friend! YAY FREIND! FRIEND TIME YAY! *bounce* *run* *bounce*
Dini: *snorts loudly but in a dainty sort of way* *looks for softest available surface for napping* *trots off*

Let's talk rimming. I mean, I'm intrigued. But there's definitely an eeewwww factor for me, at least if I'm on the 'giving' end. Suggestions?

Ah the ol’ salad toss. Seems like rimming is everywhere these days. Everyone is talking about it, doing it, wearing it on the red carpet. Wait, I may be thinking of bold primary colors.

Though rimming has actually been around for a long time, it does feel like a hot topic lately and personally I think it’s great! That we’re…talking…about it…

There are tons of nerve endings and sensitive spots there, and though it probably won’t result in orgasm just from rimming alone, it feels really good and is a wonderful addition to any sexual buffet.

I want to emphasize that it’s important to be open minded and to reciprocate and try new things. Maybe you’ll find that you really, really enjoy it. Maybe not. Maybe sometimes, under the right circumstances, you’ll add just a little taste on the side. But you also don’t have to do anything you’re uncomfortable with, not even when it seems like everyone is doing it.

Some tips:

Take a shower or bath together first, get each other extra squeaky clean and ready for fun then dive on in. Or if your partner would prefer to tidy up more thoroughly alone, use that anticipation to add to the experience; they’re doing something for both of you, and you can express gratitude for their thoughtfulness with your enthusiasm. And by enthusiasm I mean your tongue.

As always, be safe not sorry and use protection. For anilingus that means a barrier like a dental dam, or in a pinch, a non-lubricated condom with the tip snipped off and then cut open down one side. You can even try a flavored condom for a little extra something. And if your partner has a vagina, rimming should be the last item you put on your plate to avoid spreading bacteria.

Salad, anyone?

Hi, sorry to bother you but I was wondering if Pivot and Spice has any graphic content? Or will Spice? I'm currently going on a book binge and I'm not sure which I can buy as a print book and which as an ebook! Thank you :)

Not a bother at all! They both have some graphic adult content, Spice more so than Pivot and Slip. I wouldn’t call it hardcore erotica I don’t think, but to be on the safe side I’d say ebook. Hope you enjoy whatever you decide!

Prism Book Alliance Guest Post and Giveaway:After Happily Ever After

I am an unabashed lover of romantic comedies. The cheesier and more predictably cliched the better. The formula works: Two people who are clearly meant to be together kept apart by mistakes, misunderstandings, and comedic near misses, only to finally get it right in the end and wind up happily ever after. In a lot of ways, I set out to recreate the standard rom-com in Spice, beat by hackneyed beat. But I wanted to do it while turning some things on their head, not in a rom-coms are dumb and I’ll make it better sort of way, more like a what if we tried something new here?

Read More on Prism Book Alliance

Eros, My BF is a low down, dirty no good, cheating... well, you know. He's also the best sex I've ever had. Should I keep him around with no strings?

Oh but there are strings. Many of them. A snaring, sticky web of tangled up strings.

I’m not actually opposed to friends with benefits as a concept. I think if two people go into it with eyes wide open and ground rules set and an awareness of both the risks and the inevitable ending (and there needs to be an ending, otherwise: strings!) FWB is doable. In theory. Gotta watch out for those pesky feelings that may crop up.

But a friends with benefits with an ex? Never gonna work. There are already feelings. You’ll never get closure. You’ll be using sex with him as a way to keep from moving on and starting over which sucks, and is hard, but being physically and emotionally tied to someone who treats you like crap despite being dynamite in the sack is much more difficult.

Cut the strings, free yourself and hopefully next time you’ll find someone who treats you right and blows your mind in bed. Win-win!

In the meantime, I have many suggestions for some high quality vibrators that should fix you right up.