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July 6, 2016
How To Make Great Choices For Yourself Rather Than Just Jumping To Fill A Void
After a divorce or a breakup of a relationship, there’s typically a tendency to want to fill that void with something new. More often than not, this is an attempt to validate yourself as being a good person who is lovable and desirable.
However, what I’ve discovered is that reaching outside of you for somebody else isn’t the answer.
That may bring a certain level of temporary satisfaction, but it isn’t going to bring you the fulfillment that you are actually seeking in relationship.
When we engage in these back to back relationship scenarios, we’re not allowing ourselves to evolve vibrationally enough to begin to attract something greater into our lives.
It’s important that we:
• Begin to pause…
• Take time for self-reflection…
• Allow ourselves to hit the reset button…
• And recognize the unconscious drivers that are prompting us to immediately begin to reach for another…
All of this happens because we’ve made people, in some way, the solution to our own inner incompletions and that simply isn’t true!
We must address everything that is within us. We must look within our own hearts and see why we continue to make the choices and decisions that we’re making.
The majority of choices we make are unconscious… However, evolution of awareness and consciousness in energy allows us to choose differently.
Allow yourself to become aware of where you are choosing from and ultimately follow that which feels the most expansive.
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HOW TO MAKE GREAT CHOICES FOR YOURSELF RATHER THAN JUST JUMPING TO FILL A VOID...
Hi Sweet Friends, It’s Panache!
More often than not, after a divorce or a breakup of a relationship, there’s a tendency to want to fill that void with something new. More often than not this is an attempt to validate yourself as being a good person, as being lovable, as being desirable.
However, what I’ve discovered is that reaching outside of you for somebody else isn’t the answer.
That although that may bring a certain level of temporary satisfaction or a validation that you’re not broken or that you weren’t the problem or that somebody actually can be with you; it isn’t going to bring you the fulfillment that you are actually seeking in relationship.
You see, when we engage in these back to back relationship scenarios or dating scenarios, we’re not allowing ourselves to evolve vibrationally enough to begin to attract something greater into our lives.
That’s why it’s important that we begin to pause, that we take the time for self-reflection, that we allow ourselves to hit the reset button and that most importantly of all, we begin to recognize the unconscious drivers that are prompting us to immediately begin to reach for another.
I firmly believe that all of this happens because we’ve made people, in some way, the solution to our own inner incompletions and that simply isn’t true!
We must, at a certain point, begin to address everything that is within us. We must, at a certain point, begin to look within our own hearts, to begin to see why we continue to make the choices and decisions that we’re making.
The majority of choices that people make, as it pertains to relationship post-divorce or post breakup, are unconscious. They’re completely unaware of why they’re attracted to the people they’re attracted to and why they’re bringing somebody else immediately into their lives.
And more often than not, I’ve discovered that they will choose a person who exactly meets their unconscious requirements and that after they’ve gone through the initial point of attraction and that post-sexual phase of intimacy, the same conditions that they experienced in their marriage or in their relationship will begin to arise again.
So please do yourself a favor and pause. Allow yourself to be okay being by yourself. Take the time to begin to uncover what it is in you that continues to make the same choices and then in turn experience the same outcomes.
You see, evolution of awareness and consciousness in energy allows us to choose differently. It allows us to bring into being different outcomes, different possibilities and different scenarios for us in the world.
It is for that reason that we must stop, that we must pause and that we must simply allow ourselves to take a break from the endless hamster wheel of trying to fill some imaginary void that we believe we have or trying to find some level of validation that we felt as though we didn’t have in our past relationships.
There is a reason why you are where you are. Make the most of this precious pause. Make the most of this golden opportunity and allow yourself to redefine the way relationships show up for you. Allow yourself to become aware of where you are choosing from and ultimately follow that which feels the most expansive.
You are being guided home to your own heart and this precious pause will allow you to permanently reside there forever more.
However, what I’ve discovered is that reaching outside of you for somebody else isn’t the answer.
That may bring a certain level of temporary satisfaction, but it isn’t going to bring you the fulfillment that you are actually seeking in relationship.
When we engage in these back to back relationship scenarios, we’re not allowing ourselves to evolve vibrationally enough to begin to attract something greater into our lives.
It’s important that we:
• Begin to pause…
• Take time for self-reflection…
• Allow ourselves to hit the reset button…
• And recognize the unconscious drivers that are prompting us to immediately begin to reach for another…
All of this happens because we’ve made people, in some way, the solution to our own inner incompletions and that simply isn’t true!
We must address everything that is within us. We must look within our own hearts and see why we continue to make the choices and decisions that we’re making.
The majority of choices we make are unconscious… However, evolution of awareness and consciousness in energy allows us to choose differently.
Allow yourself to become aware of where you are choosing from and ultimately follow that which feels the most expansive.
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HOW TO MAKE GREAT CHOICES FOR YOURSELF RATHER THAN JUST JUMPING TO FILL A VOID...
Hi Sweet Friends, It’s Panache!
More often than not, after a divorce or a breakup of a relationship, there’s a tendency to want to fill that void with something new. More often than not this is an attempt to validate yourself as being a good person, as being lovable, as being desirable.
However, what I’ve discovered is that reaching outside of you for somebody else isn’t the answer.
That although that may bring a certain level of temporary satisfaction or a validation that you’re not broken or that you weren’t the problem or that somebody actually can be with you; it isn’t going to bring you the fulfillment that you are actually seeking in relationship.
You see, when we engage in these back to back relationship scenarios or dating scenarios, we’re not allowing ourselves to evolve vibrationally enough to begin to attract something greater into our lives.
That’s why it’s important that we begin to pause, that we take the time for self-reflection, that we allow ourselves to hit the reset button and that most importantly of all, we begin to recognize the unconscious drivers that are prompting us to immediately begin to reach for another.
I firmly believe that all of this happens because we’ve made people, in some way, the solution to our own inner incompletions and that simply isn’t true!
We must, at a certain point, begin to address everything that is within us. We must, at a certain point, begin to look within our own hearts, to begin to see why we continue to make the choices and decisions that we’re making.
The majority of choices that people make, as it pertains to relationship post-divorce or post breakup, are unconscious. They’re completely unaware of why they’re attracted to the people they’re attracted to and why they’re bringing somebody else immediately into their lives.
And more often than not, I’ve discovered that they will choose a person who exactly meets their unconscious requirements and that after they’ve gone through the initial point of attraction and that post-sexual phase of intimacy, the same conditions that they experienced in their marriage or in their relationship will begin to arise again.
So please do yourself a favor and pause. Allow yourself to be okay being by yourself. Take the time to begin to uncover what it is in you that continues to make the same choices and then in turn experience the same outcomes.
You see, evolution of awareness and consciousness in energy allows us to choose differently. It allows us to bring into being different outcomes, different possibilities and different scenarios for us in the world.
It is for that reason that we must stop, that we must pause and that we must simply allow ourselves to take a break from the endless hamster wheel of trying to fill some imaginary void that we believe we have or trying to find some level of validation that we felt as though we didn’t have in our past relationships.
There is a reason why you are where you are. Make the most of this precious pause. Make the most of this golden opportunity and allow yourself to redefine the way relationships show up for you. Allow yourself to become aware of where you are choosing from and ultimately follow that which feels the most expansive.
You are being guided home to your own heart and this precious pause will allow you to permanently reside there forever more.
June 29, 2016
How Do I Find the Strength to Support My Kids as I Watch Them Struggle With Divorce?
Our children are often seen as the casualties of divorce… They are so evolved and empathic—that in some ways they are already aware of the relationship dynamics that you and your spouse are only just discovering.
Honesty and transparency are the necessary antidote to help them move into a place of understanding and awareness around how life is going to look like now in your household.
Sometimes it’s the hardest decisions of all that lead to the greatest amount of growth, and our children, being at the forefront of our experience, are the pioneers and the leading force that propels us on into that yearning.
• Give them a different blueprint for what relationship looks like…
• Meet them with transparency and openness…
• Provide them a framework (a level of certainty around what life is going to be like post the breakup or post the completion of the divorce)…
• Allow them to find some stability and structure…
Children serve as an accelerating catalyst to help us reconcile everything within us. So be open to their love. Be honest with them. Don’t hide your feelings from them. Allow them to be there for you as much as you are there for them and don’t worry and don’t be afraid.
What you are going through will not impact them in any way that will be to their detriment. This is a part of their greater journey. This will serve as an empowerment touchstone that will guide them into a greater level of discernment as they engage in relationships.
Be open, be honest, be loving - be there for them. Continue to be the parent that you are and know that that is enough!
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HOW DO I FIND THE STRENGTH TO SUPPORT MY KIDS?
Hi Sweet Friends,
I’m Panache Desai.
Our children are often seen as the casualties of divorce. And in fact are one of the greater reasons why the majority of couples who are currently in relationship but yet have to fully realize the passion and love that’s available to them will continue to exist in their dynamic that leads to greater levels of unfulfilment.
Our children are so evolved, they’re so empathic; in some ways they are already aware of the relationship dynamics that you and your spouse are only just discovering.
It is for this reason that I’ve discovered that honesty and transparency to the degree to which it is responsible based on their age, is the necessary antidote to help them move into a place of understanding and awareness around how life is going to look like now in your household.
One of the biggest complaints that I hear from divorcees is that they are afraid to continue to expose their children to certain behaviors that their ex demonstrated on a regular basis. They are worried that they are going to present some fragmented picture of what love is and how love is supposed to play out in our lives.
I want you to know that children, of their own volition will begin to find new archetypes for relationship. They’ll begin to find new ways to engage in life, that ultimately, as much as you feel as though this experience may be scarring them, it isn’t.
Your decision to move into a more loving place within yourself will provide them greater access to love and peace within themselves.
Sometimes it’s the hardest decisions of all that lead to the greatest amount of growth, and our children, being at the forefront of our experience, are the pioneers and the leading force that propels us on into that yearning.
Because the truth is, my beloved friends, sometimes you just can’t do it for yourself but eventually you’ll get to a place where you will want to give them a different blueprint for what relationship looks like.
And so right now, meet your children with transparency and openness. Provide them a framework, a level of certainty around what life is going to be like post the breakup or post the completion of the divorce.
Allow them once again to find some stability and structure and as much as possible, consciously uncouple knowing that the more you and your spouse are on the same page about how you would like to show up for the kids, the more you’ll be able to create pathways and conscious avenues of exploration so that they are guided into greater levels of love and appreciation for the parents that they have.
It’s really up to you how life unfolds from this moment on. And more often than not, children serve as an accelerating catalyst to help us reconcile everything within us.
They have this ability to reach into us and touch our hearts in a way that nobody else can. So be open to their love. Be honest with them. Don’t hide your feelings from them. Allow them to be there for you as much as you are there for them and don’t worry and don’t be afraid.
What you are going through will not impact them in any way that will be to their detriment. In truth, this is a part of their greater journey. This is something that they have signed up to experience, and in turn, it will serve as an empowerment touchstone that will guide them into a greater level of discernment as they engage in relationships.
Be open, be honest, be loving - be there for them. Continue to be the parent that you are and know that that is enough!
Honesty and transparency are the necessary antidote to help them move into a place of understanding and awareness around how life is going to look like now in your household.
Sometimes it’s the hardest decisions of all that lead to the greatest amount of growth, and our children, being at the forefront of our experience, are the pioneers and the leading force that propels us on into that yearning.
• Give them a different blueprint for what relationship looks like…
• Meet them with transparency and openness…
• Provide them a framework (a level of certainty around what life is going to be like post the breakup or post the completion of the divorce)…
• Allow them to find some stability and structure…
Children serve as an accelerating catalyst to help us reconcile everything within us. So be open to their love. Be honest with them. Don’t hide your feelings from them. Allow them to be there for you as much as you are there for them and don’t worry and don’t be afraid.
What you are going through will not impact them in any way that will be to their detriment. This is a part of their greater journey. This will serve as an empowerment touchstone that will guide them into a greater level of discernment as they engage in relationships.
Be open, be honest, be loving - be there for them. Continue to be the parent that you are and know that that is enough!
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HOW DO I FIND THE STRENGTH TO SUPPORT MY KIDS?
Hi Sweet Friends,
I’m Panache Desai.
Our children are often seen as the casualties of divorce. And in fact are one of the greater reasons why the majority of couples who are currently in relationship but yet have to fully realize the passion and love that’s available to them will continue to exist in their dynamic that leads to greater levels of unfulfilment.
Our children are so evolved, they’re so empathic; in some ways they are already aware of the relationship dynamics that you and your spouse are only just discovering.
It is for this reason that I’ve discovered that honesty and transparency to the degree to which it is responsible based on their age, is the necessary antidote to help them move into a place of understanding and awareness around how life is going to look like now in your household.
One of the biggest complaints that I hear from divorcees is that they are afraid to continue to expose their children to certain behaviors that their ex demonstrated on a regular basis. They are worried that they are going to present some fragmented picture of what love is and how love is supposed to play out in our lives.
I want you to know that children, of their own volition will begin to find new archetypes for relationship. They’ll begin to find new ways to engage in life, that ultimately, as much as you feel as though this experience may be scarring them, it isn’t.
Your decision to move into a more loving place within yourself will provide them greater access to love and peace within themselves.
Sometimes it’s the hardest decisions of all that lead to the greatest amount of growth, and our children, being at the forefront of our experience, are the pioneers and the leading force that propels us on into that yearning.
Because the truth is, my beloved friends, sometimes you just can’t do it for yourself but eventually you’ll get to a place where you will want to give them a different blueprint for what relationship looks like.
And so right now, meet your children with transparency and openness. Provide them a framework, a level of certainty around what life is going to be like post the breakup or post the completion of the divorce.
Allow them once again to find some stability and structure and as much as possible, consciously uncouple knowing that the more you and your spouse are on the same page about how you would like to show up for the kids, the more you’ll be able to create pathways and conscious avenues of exploration so that they are guided into greater levels of love and appreciation for the parents that they have.
It’s really up to you how life unfolds from this moment on. And more often than not, children serve as an accelerating catalyst to help us reconcile everything within us.
They have this ability to reach into us and touch our hearts in a way that nobody else can. So be open to their love. Be honest with them. Don’t hide your feelings from them. Allow them to be there for you as much as you are there for them and don’t worry and don’t be afraid.
What you are going through will not impact them in any way that will be to their detriment. In truth, this is a part of their greater journey. This is something that they have signed up to experience, and in turn, it will serve as an empowerment touchstone that will guide them into a greater level of discernment as they engage in relationships.
Be open, be honest, be loving - be there for them. Continue to be the parent that you are and know that that is enough!
How To Find the Strength to Support Your Kids As They Struggle With Divorce
Our children are often seen as the casualties of divorce… They are so evolved and empathic—that in some ways they are already aware of the relationship dynamics that you and your spouse are only just discovering.
Honesty and transparency are the necessary antidote to help them move into a place of understanding and awareness around how life is going to look like now in your household.
Sometimes it’s the hardest decisions of all that lead to the greatest amount of growth, and our children, being at the forefront of our experience, are the pioneers and the leading force that propels us on into that yearning.
• Give them a different blueprint for what relationship looks like…
• Meet them with transparency and openness…
• Provide them a framework (a level of certainty around what life is going to be like post the breakup or post the completion of the divorce)…
• Allow them to find some stability and structure…
Children serve as an accelerating catalyst to help us reconcile everything within us. So be open to their love. Be honest with them. Don’t hide your feelings from them. Allow them to be there for you as much as you are there for them and don’t worry and don’t be afraid.
What you are going through will not impact them in any way that will be to their detriment. This is a part of their greater journey. This will serve as an empowerment touchstone that will guide them into a greater level of discernment as they engage in relationships.
Be open, be honest, be loving - be there for them. Continue to be the parent that you are and know that that is enough!
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HOW TO FIND THE STRENGTH TO SUPPORT YOUR KIDS AND THEY STRUGGLE WITH DIVORCE
Hi Sweet Friends,
I’m Panache Desai.
Our children are often seen as the casualties of divorce. And in fact are one of the greater reasons why the majority of couples who are currently in relationship but yet have to fully realize the passion and love that’s available to them will continue to exist in their dynamic that leads to greater levels of unfulfilment.
Our children are so evolved, they’re so empathic; in some ways they are already aware of the relationship dynamics that you and your spouse are only just discovering.
It is for this reason that I’ve discovered that honesty and transparency to the degree to which it is responsible based on their age, is the necessary antidote to help them move into a place of understanding and awareness around how life is going to look like now in your household.
One of the biggest complaints that I hear from divorcees is that they are afraid to continue to expose their children to certain behaviors that their ex demonstrated on a regular basis. They are worried that they are going to present some fragmented picture of what love is and how love is supposed to play out in our lives.
I want you to know that children, of their own volition will begin to find new archetypes for relationship. They’ll begin to find new ways to engage in life, that ultimately, as much as you feel as though this experience may be scarring them, it isn’t.
Your decision to move into a more loving place within yourself will provide them greater access to love and peace within themselves.
Sometimes it’s the hardest decisions of all that lead to the greatest amount of growth, and our children, being at the forefront of our experience, are the pioneers and the leading force that propels us on into that yearning.
Because the truth is, my beloved friends, sometimes you just can’t do it for yourself but eventually you’ll get to a place where you will want to give them a different blueprint for what relationship looks like.
And so right now, meet your children with transparency and openness. Provide them a framework, a level of certainty around what life is going to be like post the breakup or post the completion of the divorce.
Allow them once again to find some stability and structure and as much as possible, consciously uncouple knowing that the more you and your spouse are on the same page about how you would like to show up for the kids, the more you’ll be able to create pathways and conscious avenues of exploration so that they are guided into greater levels of love and appreciation for the parents that they have.
It’s really up to you how life unfolds from this moment on. And more often than not, children serve as an accelerating catalyst to help us reconcile everything within us.
They have this ability to reach into us and touch our hearts in a way that nobody else can. So be open to their love. Be honest with them. Don’t hide your feelings from them. Allow them to be there for you as much as you are there for them and don’t worry and don’t be afraid.
What you are going through will not impact them in any way that will be to their detriment. In truth, this is a part of their greater journey. This is something that they have signed up to experience, and in turn, it will serve as an empowerment touchstone that will guide them into a greater level of discernment as they engage in relationships.
Be open, be honest, be loving - be there for them. Continue to be the parent that you are and know that that is enough!
Honesty and transparency are the necessary antidote to help them move into a place of understanding and awareness around how life is going to look like now in your household.
Sometimes it’s the hardest decisions of all that lead to the greatest amount of growth, and our children, being at the forefront of our experience, are the pioneers and the leading force that propels us on into that yearning.
• Give them a different blueprint for what relationship looks like…
• Meet them with transparency and openness…
• Provide them a framework (a level of certainty around what life is going to be like post the breakup or post the completion of the divorce)…
• Allow them to find some stability and structure…
Children serve as an accelerating catalyst to help us reconcile everything within us. So be open to their love. Be honest with them. Don’t hide your feelings from them. Allow them to be there for you as much as you are there for them and don’t worry and don’t be afraid.
What you are going through will not impact them in any way that will be to their detriment. This is a part of their greater journey. This will serve as an empowerment touchstone that will guide them into a greater level of discernment as they engage in relationships.
Be open, be honest, be loving - be there for them. Continue to be the parent that you are and know that that is enough!
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HOW TO FIND THE STRENGTH TO SUPPORT YOUR KIDS AND THEY STRUGGLE WITH DIVORCE
Hi Sweet Friends,
I’m Panache Desai.
Our children are often seen as the casualties of divorce. And in fact are one of the greater reasons why the majority of couples who are currently in relationship but yet have to fully realize the passion and love that’s available to them will continue to exist in their dynamic that leads to greater levels of unfulfilment.
Our children are so evolved, they’re so empathic; in some ways they are already aware of the relationship dynamics that you and your spouse are only just discovering.
It is for this reason that I’ve discovered that honesty and transparency to the degree to which it is responsible based on their age, is the necessary antidote to help them move into a place of understanding and awareness around how life is going to look like now in your household.
One of the biggest complaints that I hear from divorcees is that they are afraid to continue to expose their children to certain behaviors that their ex demonstrated on a regular basis. They are worried that they are going to present some fragmented picture of what love is and how love is supposed to play out in our lives.
I want you to know that children, of their own volition will begin to find new archetypes for relationship. They’ll begin to find new ways to engage in life, that ultimately, as much as you feel as though this experience may be scarring them, it isn’t.
Your decision to move into a more loving place within yourself will provide them greater access to love and peace within themselves.
Sometimes it’s the hardest decisions of all that lead to the greatest amount of growth, and our children, being at the forefront of our experience, are the pioneers and the leading force that propels us on into that yearning.
Because the truth is, my beloved friends, sometimes you just can’t do it for yourself but eventually you’ll get to a place where you will want to give them a different blueprint for what relationship looks like.
And so right now, meet your children with transparency and openness. Provide them a framework, a level of certainty around what life is going to be like post the breakup or post the completion of the divorce.
Allow them once again to find some stability and structure and as much as possible, consciously uncouple knowing that the more you and your spouse are on the same page about how you would like to show up for the kids, the more you’ll be able to create pathways and conscious avenues of exploration so that they are guided into greater levels of love and appreciation for the parents that they have.
It’s really up to you how life unfolds from this moment on. And more often than not, children serve as an accelerating catalyst to help us reconcile everything within us.
They have this ability to reach into us and touch our hearts in a way that nobody else can. So be open to their love. Be honest with them. Don’t hide your feelings from them. Allow them to be there for you as much as you are there for them and don’t worry and don’t be afraid.
What you are going through will not impact them in any way that will be to their detriment. In truth, this is a part of their greater journey. This is something that they have signed up to experience, and in turn, it will serve as an empowerment touchstone that will guide them into a greater level of discernment as they engage in relationships.
Be open, be honest, be loving - be there for them. Continue to be the parent that you are and know that that is enough!
June 21, 2016
How To Rediscover Yourself After Divorce
After divorce, how can one rediscover themselves and begin to once again open up to the possibility of love?
Divorce happens because we’ve lost sight of who we are. It’s important post-divorce to date yourself. Take the time to really know who you are.
Fill out a dating profile.
Identify what it is that brings you joy.
Cultivate the ability to be with yourself.
Forge a strong foundation of self-love and self-belief within yourself.
Engage in self inquiry and discovery. Become reacquainted with you are now.
This is the foundational relationship for every other relationship that you will have in life and that if you wish to move on into greater levels of love and intimacy, then you must first take the time to get to know who you are.
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HOW TO REDISCOVER YOURSELF AFTER DIVORCE...
Hi Sweet Friends, I’m Panache Desai.
I’m often asked how, after divorce, one can rediscover themselves and begin to once again open up to the possibility of love.
Divorce often happens because we’ve lost sight of who we are. We fail to recognize that life is a progression and a natural evolution. We continue to relate to ourselves as a past form of whom we are or a past fragment instead of being fully immersed in the present moment experience of life and living.
It’s important post-divorce to date yourself. To begin to take the time to really know who you are and to begin to discover what your likes and preferences are. This happens over time.
Fill out the dating profile. Begin to spend time with you. Identify what it is that brings you joy. Identify what your passions are. Begin to once again get in touch with what life looks like as you navigate your way through being single and through being with yourself.
The more you cultivate the ability to be with yourself, the more you’re empowered to deal with life as it continues to move on post-divorce. Ultimately you begin to realize that it isn’t about having a partner or going on dates.
It’s about forging a strong foundation of self-love and self-belief within yourself so that you are whole and complete and so that you are engaging in life with spaciousness so that there is an absence of need.
So that you are able to meet every requirement that you have in every moment because you have engaged in self inquiry and discovery so powerfully that you can begin to answer some of the following questions:
What makes me happy?
What is it that lights me up?
What is my passion?
What allows me to wake up in the morning filled with excitement?
What qualities do I wish to experience as a part of my life?
What core values do I wish to share and embody?
Who am I?
How do I choose to live in each moment?
As you begin to engage in this form of self inquiry and as you begin to once again become reacquainted with who you are now, you will start to create a profile, you will start to be able to understand the time requirements necessary so that you can begin to feed your relationship bank.
So that you can begin to once again invest in yourself and nurture the most important relationship of all, the one that you are having with you.
I’ve discovered that this primary relationship is the foundational relationship for every other relationship that you will have in life and that if you wish to move on into greater levels of love and intimacy then you must first, please take the time to get to know who you are.
Commit to a pause. Commit to a time of exploration. Find the right support system for you. Begin this inquiry.
Allow yourself to know yourself and in doing so, create the many avenues and doorways for love that you want to experience; that you know in your heart is always available, that you are growing into.
Divorce isn’t the end of anything. It’s the beginning of empowerment and it’s the beginning of loving yourself more completely and more fully than you ever have before.
Learn something about yourself. Fill out this dating profile!
Divorce happens because we’ve lost sight of who we are. It’s important post-divorce to date yourself. Take the time to really know who you are.
Fill out a dating profile.
Identify what it is that brings you joy.
Cultivate the ability to be with yourself.
Forge a strong foundation of self-love and self-belief within yourself.
Engage in self inquiry and discovery. Become reacquainted with you are now.
This is the foundational relationship for every other relationship that you will have in life and that if you wish to move on into greater levels of love and intimacy, then you must first take the time to get to know who you are.
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HOW TO REDISCOVER YOURSELF AFTER DIVORCE...
Hi Sweet Friends, I’m Panache Desai.
I’m often asked how, after divorce, one can rediscover themselves and begin to once again open up to the possibility of love.
Divorce often happens because we’ve lost sight of who we are. We fail to recognize that life is a progression and a natural evolution. We continue to relate to ourselves as a past form of whom we are or a past fragment instead of being fully immersed in the present moment experience of life and living.
It’s important post-divorce to date yourself. To begin to take the time to really know who you are and to begin to discover what your likes and preferences are. This happens over time.
Fill out the dating profile. Begin to spend time with you. Identify what it is that brings you joy. Identify what your passions are. Begin to once again get in touch with what life looks like as you navigate your way through being single and through being with yourself.
The more you cultivate the ability to be with yourself, the more you’re empowered to deal with life as it continues to move on post-divorce. Ultimately you begin to realize that it isn’t about having a partner or going on dates.
It’s about forging a strong foundation of self-love and self-belief within yourself so that you are whole and complete and so that you are engaging in life with spaciousness so that there is an absence of need.
So that you are able to meet every requirement that you have in every moment because you have engaged in self inquiry and discovery so powerfully that you can begin to answer some of the following questions:
What makes me happy?
What is it that lights me up?
What is my passion?
What allows me to wake up in the morning filled with excitement?
What qualities do I wish to experience as a part of my life?
What core values do I wish to share and embody?
Who am I?
How do I choose to live in each moment?
As you begin to engage in this form of self inquiry and as you begin to once again become reacquainted with who you are now, you will start to create a profile, you will start to be able to understand the time requirements necessary so that you can begin to feed your relationship bank.
So that you can begin to once again invest in yourself and nurture the most important relationship of all, the one that you are having with you.
I’ve discovered that this primary relationship is the foundational relationship for every other relationship that you will have in life and that if you wish to move on into greater levels of love and intimacy then you must first, please take the time to get to know who you are.
Commit to a pause. Commit to a time of exploration. Find the right support system for you. Begin this inquiry.
Allow yourself to know yourself and in doing so, create the many avenues and doorways for love that you want to experience; that you know in your heart is always available, that you are growing into.
Divorce isn’t the end of anything. It’s the beginning of empowerment and it’s the beginning of loving yourself more completely and more fully than you ever have before.
Learn something about yourself. Fill out this dating profile!
HOW DO I BEGIN REDISCOVERING MYSELF?
How Do I Begin Rediscovering Myself?
After divorce, how can one can rediscover themselves and begin to once again open up to the possibility of love?
Divorce happens because we’ve lost sight of who we are. It’s important post-divorce to date yourself. Take the time to really know who you are.
1. Fill out a dating profile.
2. Identify what it is that brings you joy.
3. Cultivate the ability to be with yourself.
4. Forge a strong foundation of self-love and self-belief within yourself.
Engage in self inquiry and discovery. Become reacquainted with you are now.
This is the foundational relationship for every other relationship that you will have in life and that if you wish to move on into greater levels of love and intimacy, then you must first take the time to get to know who you are.
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HOW DO I BEGIN REDISCOVERING MYSELF?
Hi Sweet Friends, I’m Panache Desai.
I’m often asked how after divorce, one can rediscover themselves and begin to once again open up to the possibility of love.
Divorce often happens because we’ve lost sight of who we are. We fail to recognize that life is a progression and a natural evolution. We continue to relate to ourselves as a past form of whom we are or a past fragment instead of being fully immersed in the present moment experience of life and living.
It’s important post-divorce to date yourself. To begin to take the time to really know who you are and to begin to discover what your likes and preferences are. This happens over time.
Fill out the dating profile. Begin to spend time with you. Identify what it is that brings you joy. Identify what your passions are. Begin to once again get in touch with what life looks like as you navigate your way through being single and through being with yourself.
The more you cultivate the ability to be with yourself, the more you’re empowered to deal with life as it continues to move on post-divorce. Ultimately you begin to realize that it isn’t about having a partner or going on dates.
It’s about forging a strong foundation of self-love and self-belief within yourself so that you are whole and complete and so that you are engaging in life with spaciousness so that there is an absence of need.
So that you are able to meet every requirement that you have in every moment because you have engaged in self inquiry and discovery so powerfully that you can begin to answer some of the following questions:
What makes me happy?
What is it that lights me up?
What is my passion?
What allows me to wake up in the morning filled with excitement?
What qualities do I wish to experience as a part of my life?
What core values do I wish to share and embody?
Who am I?
How do I choose to live in each moment?
As you begin to engage in this form of self inquiry and as you begin to once again become reacquainted with who you are now, you will start to create a profile, you will start to be able to understand the time requirements necessary so that you can begin to feed your relationship bank.
So that you can begin to once again invest in yourself and nurture the most important relationship of all, the one that you are having with you.
I’ve discovered that this primary relationship is the foundational relationship for every other relationship that you will have in life and that if you wish to move on into greater levels of love and intimacy then you must first, please take the time to get to know who you are.
Commit to a pause. Commit to a time of exploration. Find the right support system for you. Begin this inquiry.
Allow yourself to know yourself and in doing so, create the many avenues and doorways for love that you want to experience; that you know in your heart is always available, that you are growing into.
Divorce isn’t the end of anything. It’s the beginning of empowerment and it’s the beginning of loving yourself more completely and more fully than you ever have before.
Learn something about yourself. Fill out this dating profile!
After divorce, how can one can rediscover themselves and begin to once again open up to the possibility of love?
Divorce happens because we’ve lost sight of who we are. It’s important post-divorce to date yourself. Take the time to really know who you are.
1. Fill out a dating profile.
2. Identify what it is that brings you joy.
3. Cultivate the ability to be with yourself.
4. Forge a strong foundation of self-love and self-belief within yourself.
Engage in self inquiry and discovery. Become reacquainted with you are now.
This is the foundational relationship for every other relationship that you will have in life and that if you wish to move on into greater levels of love and intimacy, then you must first take the time to get to know who you are.
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HOW DO I BEGIN REDISCOVERING MYSELF?
Hi Sweet Friends, I’m Panache Desai.
I’m often asked how after divorce, one can rediscover themselves and begin to once again open up to the possibility of love.
Divorce often happens because we’ve lost sight of who we are. We fail to recognize that life is a progression and a natural evolution. We continue to relate to ourselves as a past form of whom we are or a past fragment instead of being fully immersed in the present moment experience of life and living.
It’s important post-divorce to date yourself. To begin to take the time to really know who you are and to begin to discover what your likes and preferences are. This happens over time.
Fill out the dating profile. Begin to spend time with you. Identify what it is that brings you joy. Identify what your passions are. Begin to once again get in touch with what life looks like as you navigate your way through being single and through being with yourself.
The more you cultivate the ability to be with yourself, the more you’re empowered to deal with life as it continues to move on post-divorce. Ultimately you begin to realize that it isn’t about having a partner or going on dates.
It’s about forging a strong foundation of self-love and self-belief within yourself so that you are whole and complete and so that you are engaging in life with spaciousness so that there is an absence of need.
So that you are able to meet every requirement that you have in every moment because you have engaged in self inquiry and discovery so powerfully that you can begin to answer some of the following questions:
What makes me happy?
What is it that lights me up?
What is my passion?
What allows me to wake up in the morning filled with excitement?
What qualities do I wish to experience as a part of my life?
What core values do I wish to share and embody?
Who am I?
How do I choose to live in each moment?
As you begin to engage in this form of self inquiry and as you begin to once again become reacquainted with who you are now, you will start to create a profile, you will start to be able to understand the time requirements necessary so that you can begin to feed your relationship bank.
So that you can begin to once again invest in yourself and nurture the most important relationship of all, the one that you are having with you.
I’ve discovered that this primary relationship is the foundational relationship for every other relationship that you will have in life and that if you wish to move on into greater levels of love and intimacy then you must first, please take the time to get to know who you are.
Commit to a pause. Commit to a time of exploration. Find the right support system for you. Begin this inquiry.
Allow yourself to know yourself and in doing so, create the many avenues and doorways for love that you want to experience; that you know in your heart is always available, that you are growing into.
Divorce isn’t the end of anything. It’s the beginning of empowerment and it’s the beginning of loving yourself more completely and more fully than you ever have before.
Learn something about yourself. Fill out this dating profile!
How Do I Begin Rediscovering Myself?
After divorce, how can one can rediscover themselves and begin to once again open up to the possibility of love?
Divorce happens because we’ve lost sight of who we are. It’s important post-divorce to date yourself. Take the time to really know who you are.
1. Fill out a dating profile.
2. Identify what it is that brings you joy.
3. Cultivate the ability to be with yourself.
4. Forge a strong foundation of self-love and self-belief within yourself.
Engage in self inquiry and discovery. Become reacquainted with you are now.
This is the foundational relationship for every other relationship that you will have in life and that if you wish to move on into greater levels of love and intimacy, then you must first take the time to get to know who you are.
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HOW DO I BEGIN REDISCOVERING MYSELF?
Hi Sweet Friends, I’m Panache Desai.
I’m often asked how after divorce, one can rediscover themselves and begin to once again open up to the possibility of love.
Divorce often happens because we’ve lost sight of who we are. We fail to recognize that life is a progression and a natural evolution. We continue to relate to ourselves as a past form of whom we are or a past fragment instead of being fully immersed in the present moment experience of life and living.
It’s important post-divorce to date yourself. To begin to take the time to really know who you are and to begin to discover what your likes and preferences are. This happens over time.
Fill out the dating profile. Begin to spend time with you. Identify what it is that brings you joy. Identify what your passions are. Begin to once again get in touch with what life looks like as you navigate your way through being single and through being with yourself.
The more you cultivate the ability to be with yourself, the more you’re empowered to deal with life as it continues to move on post-divorce. Ultimately you begin to realize that it isn’t about having a partner or going on dates.
It’s about forging a strong foundation of self-love and self-belief within yourself so that you are whole and complete and so that you are engaging in life with spaciousness so that there is an absence of need.
So that you are able to meet every requirement that you have in every moment because you have engaged in self inquiry and discovery so powerfully that you can begin to answer some of the following questions:
What makes me happy?
What is it that lights me up?
What is my passion?
What allows me to wake up in the morning filled with excitement?
What qualities do I wish to experience as a part of my life?
What core values do I wish to share and embody?
Who am I?
How do I choose to live in each moment?
As you begin to engage in this form of self inquiry and as you begin to once again become reacquainted with who you are now, you will start to create a profile, you will start to be able to understand the time requirements necessary so that you can begin to feed your relationship bank.
So that you can begin to once again invest in yourself and nurture the most important relationship of all, the one that you are having with you.
I’ve discovered that this primary relationship is the foundational relationship for every other relationship that you will have in life and that if you wish to move on into greater levels of love and intimacy then you must first, please take the time to get to know who you are.
Commit to a pause. Commit to a time of exploration. Find the right support system for you. Begin this inquiry.
Allow yourself to know yourself and in doing so, create the many avenues and doorways for love that you want to experience; that you know in your heart is always available, that you are growing into.
Divorce isn’t the end of anything. It’s the beginning of empowerment and it’s the beginning of loving yourself more completely and more fully than you ever have before.
Learn something about yourself. Fill out this dating profile!
Divorce happens because we’ve lost sight of who we are. It’s important post-divorce to date yourself. Take the time to really know who you are.
1. Fill out a dating profile.
2. Identify what it is that brings you joy.
3. Cultivate the ability to be with yourself.
4. Forge a strong foundation of self-love and self-belief within yourself.
Engage in self inquiry and discovery. Become reacquainted with you are now.
This is the foundational relationship for every other relationship that you will have in life and that if you wish to move on into greater levels of love and intimacy, then you must first take the time to get to know who you are.
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HOW DO I BEGIN REDISCOVERING MYSELF?
Hi Sweet Friends, I’m Panache Desai.
I’m often asked how after divorce, one can rediscover themselves and begin to once again open up to the possibility of love.
Divorce often happens because we’ve lost sight of who we are. We fail to recognize that life is a progression and a natural evolution. We continue to relate to ourselves as a past form of whom we are or a past fragment instead of being fully immersed in the present moment experience of life and living.
It’s important post-divorce to date yourself. To begin to take the time to really know who you are and to begin to discover what your likes and preferences are. This happens over time.
Fill out the dating profile. Begin to spend time with you. Identify what it is that brings you joy. Identify what your passions are. Begin to once again get in touch with what life looks like as you navigate your way through being single and through being with yourself.
The more you cultivate the ability to be with yourself, the more you’re empowered to deal with life as it continues to move on post-divorce. Ultimately you begin to realize that it isn’t about having a partner or going on dates.
It’s about forging a strong foundation of self-love and self-belief within yourself so that you are whole and complete and so that you are engaging in life with spaciousness so that there is an absence of need.
So that you are able to meet every requirement that you have in every moment because you have engaged in self inquiry and discovery so powerfully that you can begin to answer some of the following questions:
What makes me happy?
What is it that lights me up?
What is my passion?
What allows me to wake up in the morning filled with excitement?
What qualities do I wish to experience as a part of my life?
What core values do I wish to share and embody?
Who am I?
How do I choose to live in each moment?
As you begin to engage in this form of self inquiry and as you begin to once again become reacquainted with who you are now, you will start to create a profile, you will start to be able to understand the time requirements necessary so that you can begin to feed your relationship bank.
So that you can begin to once again invest in yourself and nurture the most important relationship of all, the one that you are having with you.
I’ve discovered that this primary relationship is the foundational relationship for every other relationship that you will have in life and that if you wish to move on into greater levels of love and intimacy then you must first, please take the time to get to know who you are.
Commit to a pause. Commit to a time of exploration. Find the right support system for you. Begin this inquiry.
Allow yourself to know yourself and in doing so, create the many avenues and doorways for love that you want to experience; that you know in your heart is always available, that you are growing into.
Divorce isn’t the end of anything. It’s the beginning of empowerment and it’s the beginning of loving yourself more completely and more fully than you ever have before.
Learn something about yourself. Fill out this dating profile!
June 14, 2016
When is Divorce the Right Decision?
WHEN IS DIVORCE THE RIGHT DECISION?
Should you get a divorce? You’re faced with this heart wrenching choice of either moving on from a relationship that you’ve known for years or staying and having the courage to begin to explore everything you need to within you, to begin to take your relationship to a brand new expression.
The answer needs your active participation and inquiry because at the deepest level you know the answer to the question.
When the level of unworkability reaches enough of a threshold or a crescendo something in your life will unfold to present you with a greater possibility or a greater experience of self-love and self-care.
Begin to look at how you are showing up inside of your relationship. Begin to address what your expectations are. This is an opportunity to dive deeper into connection.
Get clear about your role in your relationship dynamic.
Get clear about any and all expectations that you have around your partner.
Get clear about your partner’s ability to meet your needs.
Be honest with yourself. You have the answer that you need within you. Your heart knows when divorce is the right decision. Follow your inner guidance and intuition.
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WHEN IS DIVORCE THE RIGHT DECISION?
Hi Sweet Friends, I’m Panache Desai.
I’m often asked when divorce is the right decision…
More and more divorce is becoming an ever increasing statistic in society and people are being faced with this heart wrenching choice of either moving on from a relationship that they’ve known for years or staying and having the courage to begin to explore everything that they need to within them, to begin to take their relationship to a brand new expression.
Of course any answer that I give you needs your active participation and inquiry because ultimately at the deepest level, I believe you already know what the answer to that question is.
And, typically the answer is--when the level of unworkability reaches enough of a threshold or a crescendo something in your life will unfold to present you with a greater possibility or a greater experience of self-love and self-care.
And, typically in that moment this question, when is divorce the right decision will begin to be asked…
It’s something that I feel we have to constantly hold in our awareness… and it’s not so much that we need to hold divorce as a finality in our hearts in every moment of being in a relationship but that ultimately relationships are an opportunity to consciously choose love every single day…
…and that it takes all that we are, our attention, our appreciation, our allowing, our love in order to thrive in an ever busy environment where we are distracted…
…where we are pulled in a million different directions and where the needs and wants of others are constantly superseding our own needs and wants.
It is important my beloved friends, that you begin to look at how you are showing up inside of your relationship. It’s important that you begin to address what your expectations are.
Are you holding your partner to a level of being that they have no hope of ever accessing?
Are you blaming them for the love that you are unable to source and find from within yourself?
Ultimately this question is an opportunity to dive deeper into connection because more often than not, when divorce begins to arise in the forefront of your awareness, there is a greater evolutionary impulse within you that is wanting to be answered.
In every moment of life, we are presented with a choice. We’re presented with an opportunity. We’re presented with a greater platform through which we can come to know ourselves and we can abide in love as our new normal.
And so, as you are seated where you are right now, get clear about your role in your relationship dynamic. Get clear about any and all expectations that you have around your partner. Get clear about your partner’s ability to meet your needs.
Begin to be honest with yourself about the greater intuitive hidden guidance that you have inside of you about the future direction of your life.
You have the answer that you need within you and sometimes it’s as simple as having an uncomfortable conversation and beginning to walk into authenticity hand in hand with the person that you have committed to through your entire life in order to find out what’s available to you, in order to discover what’s next.
Your heart knows when divorce is the right decision. Your life will begin to show you. Please don’t wait until something breaks or something gives in.
Should you get a divorce? You’re faced with this heart wrenching choice of either moving on from a relationship that you’ve known for years or staying and having the courage to begin to explore everything you need to within you, to begin to take your relationship to a brand new expression.
The answer needs your active participation and inquiry because at the deepest level you know the answer to the question.
When the level of unworkability reaches enough of a threshold or a crescendo something in your life will unfold to present you with a greater possibility or a greater experience of self-love and self-care.
Begin to look at how you are showing up inside of your relationship. Begin to address what your expectations are. This is an opportunity to dive deeper into connection.
Get clear about your role in your relationship dynamic.
Get clear about any and all expectations that you have around your partner.
Get clear about your partner’s ability to meet your needs.
Be honest with yourself. You have the answer that you need within you. Your heart knows when divorce is the right decision. Follow your inner guidance and intuition.
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WHEN IS DIVORCE THE RIGHT DECISION?
Hi Sweet Friends, I’m Panache Desai.
I’m often asked when divorce is the right decision…
More and more divorce is becoming an ever increasing statistic in society and people are being faced with this heart wrenching choice of either moving on from a relationship that they’ve known for years or staying and having the courage to begin to explore everything that they need to within them, to begin to take their relationship to a brand new expression.
Of course any answer that I give you needs your active participation and inquiry because ultimately at the deepest level, I believe you already know what the answer to that question is.
And, typically the answer is--when the level of unworkability reaches enough of a threshold or a crescendo something in your life will unfold to present you with a greater possibility or a greater experience of self-love and self-care.
And, typically in that moment this question, when is divorce the right decision will begin to be asked…
It’s something that I feel we have to constantly hold in our awareness… and it’s not so much that we need to hold divorce as a finality in our hearts in every moment of being in a relationship but that ultimately relationships are an opportunity to consciously choose love every single day…
…and that it takes all that we are, our attention, our appreciation, our allowing, our love in order to thrive in an ever busy environment where we are distracted…
…where we are pulled in a million different directions and where the needs and wants of others are constantly superseding our own needs and wants.
It is important my beloved friends, that you begin to look at how you are showing up inside of your relationship. It’s important that you begin to address what your expectations are.
Are you holding your partner to a level of being that they have no hope of ever accessing?
Are you blaming them for the love that you are unable to source and find from within yourself?
Ultimately this question is an opportunity to dive deeper into connection because more often than not, when divorce begins to arise in the forefront of your awareness, there is a greater evolutionary impulse within you that is wanting to be answered.
In every moment of life, we are presented with a choice. We’re presented with an opportunity. We’re presented with a greater platform through which we can come to know ourselves and we can abide in love as our new normal.
And so, as you are seated where you are right now, get clear about your role in your relationship dynamic. Get clear about any and all expectations that you have around your partner. Get clear about your partner’s ability to meet your needs.
Begin to be honest with yourself about the greater intuitive hidden guidance that you have inside of you about the future direction of your life.
You have the answer that you need within you and sometimes it’s as simple as having an uncomfortable conversation and beginning to walk into authenticity hand in hand with the person that you have committed to through your entire life in order to find out what’s available to you, in order to discover what’s next.
Your heart knows when divorce is the right decision. Your life will begin to show you. Please don’t wait until something breaks or something gives in.
How To Know When Divorce Is The Right Decision
Should you get a divorce? You’re faced with this heart wrenching choice of either moving on from a relationship that you’ve known for years or staying and having the courage to begin to explore everything you need to within you, to begin to take your relationship to a brand new expression.
The answer needs your active participation and inquiry because at the deepest level you know the answer to the question.
When the level of unworkability reaches enough of a threshold or a crescendo something in your life will unfold to present you with a greater possibility or a greater experience of self-love and self-care.
Begin to look at how you are showing up inside of your relationship. Begin to address what your expectations are. This is an opportunity to dive deeper into connection.
Get clear about your role in your relationship dynamic.
Get clear about any and all expectations that you have around your partner.
Get clear about your partner’s ability to meet your needs.
Be honest with yourself. You have the answer that you need within you. Your heart knows when divorce is the right decision. Follow your inner guidance and intuition.
Follow your inner guidance and intuition and allow yourself to be guided into clarity as to how you move on from here.
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HOW TO KNOW WHEN DIVORCE IS THE RIGHT DECISION...
Hi Sweet Friends, I’m Panache Desai.
I’m often asked when divorce is the right decision…
More and more divorce is becoming an ever increasing statistic in society and people are being faced with this heart wrenching choice of either moving on from a relationship that they’ve known for years or staying and having the courage to begin to explore everything that they need to within them, to begin to take their relationship to a brand new expression.
Of course any answer that I give you needs your active participation and inquiry because ultimately at the deepest level, I believe you already know what the answer to that question is.
And, typically the answer is--when the level of unworkability reaches enough of a threshold or a crescendo something in your life will unfold to present you with a greater possibility or a greater experience of self-love and self-care.
And, typically in that moment this question, when is divorce the right decision will begin to be asked…
It’s something that I feel we have to constantly hold in our awareness… and it’s not so much that we need to hold divorce as a finality in our hearts in every moment of being in a relationship but that ultimately relationships are an opportunity to consciously choose love every single day…
…and that it takes all that we are, our attention, our appreciation, our allowing, our love in order to thrive in an ever busy environment where we are distracted…
…where we are pulled in a million different directions and where the needs and wants of others are constantly superseding our own needs and wants.
It is important my beloved friends, that you begin to look at how you are showing up inside of your relationship. It’s important that you begin to address what your expectations are.
Are you holding your partner to a level of being that they have no hope of ever accessing?
Are you blaming them for the love that you are unable to source and find from within yourself?
Ultimately this question is an opportunity to dive deeper into connection because more often than not, when divorce begins to arise in the forefront of your awareness, there is a greater evolutionary impulse within you that is wanting to be answered.
In every moment of life, we are presented with a choice. We’re presented with an opportunity. We’re presented with a greater platform through which we can come to know ourselves and we can abide in love as our new normal.
And so, as you are seated where you are right now, get clear about your role in your relationship dynamic. Get clear about any and all expectations that you have around your partner. Get clear about your partner’s ability to meet your needs.
Begin to be honest with yourself about the greater intuitive hidden guidance that you have inside of you about the future direction of your life.
You have the answer that you need within you and sometimes it’s as simple as having an uncomfortable conversation and beginning to walk into authenticity hand in hand with the person that you have committed to through your entire life in order to find out what’s available to you, in order to discover what’s next.
Your heart knows when divorce is the right decision. Your life will begin to show you. Please don’t wait until something breaks or something gives in.
The answer needs your active participation and inquiry because at the deepest level you know the answer to the question.
When the level of unworkability reaches enough of a threshold or a crescendo something in your life will unfold to present you with a greater possibility or a greater experience of self-love and self-care.
Begin to look at how you are showing up inside of your relationship. Begin to address what your expectations are. This is an opportunity to dive deeper into connection.
Get clear about your role in your relationship dynamic.
Get clear about any and all expectations that you have around your partner.
Get clear about your partner’s ability to meet your needs.
Be honest with yourself. You have the answer that you need within you. Your heart knows when divorce is the right decision. Follow your inner guidance and intuition.
Follow your inner guidance and intuition and allow yourself to be guided into clarity as to how you move on from here.
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TRANSCRIPT
HOW TO KNOW WHEN DIVORCE IS THE RIGHT DECISION...
Hi Sweet Friends, I’m Panache Desai.
I’m often asked when divorce is the right decision…
More and more divorce is becoming an ever increasing statistic in society and people are being faced with this heart wrenching choice of either moving on from a relationship that they’ve known for years or staying and having the courage to begin to explore everything that they need to within them, to begin to take their relationship to a brand new expression.
Of course any answer that I give you needs your active participation and inquiry because ultimately at the deepest level, I believe you already know what the answer to that question is.
And, typically the answer is--when the level of unworkability reaches enough of a threshold or a crescendo something in your life will unfold to present you with a greater possibility or a greater experience of self-love and self-care.
And, typically in that moment this question, when is divorce the right decision will begin to be asked…
It’s something that I feel we have to constantly hold in our awareness… and it’s not so much that we need to hold divorce as a finality in our hearts in every moment of being in a relationship but that ultimately relationships are an opportunity to consciously choose love every single day…
…and that it takes all that we are, our attention, our appreciation, our allowing, our love in order to thrive in an ever busy environment where we are distracted…
…where we are pulled in a million different directions and where the needs and wants of others are constantly superseding our own needs and wants.
It is important my beloved friends, that you begin to look at how you are showing up inside of your relationship. It’s important that you begin to address what your expectations are.
Are you holding your partner to a level of being that they have no hope of ever accessing?
Are you blaming them for the love that you are unable to source and find from within yourself?
Ultimately this question is an opportunity to dive deeper into connection because more often than not, when divorce begins to arise in the forefront of your awareness, there is a greater evolutionary impulse within you that is wanting to be answered.
In every moment of life, we are presented with a choice. We’re presented with an opportunity. We’re presented with a greater platform through which we can come to know ourselves and we can abide in love as our new normal.
And so, as you are seated where you are right now, get clear about your role in your relationship dynamic. Get clear about any and all expectations that you have around your partner. Get clear about your partner’s ability to meet your needs.
Begin to be honest with yourself about the greater intuitive hidden guidance that you have inside of you about the future direction of your life.
You have the answer that you need within you and sometimes it’s as simple as having an uncomfortable conversation and beginning to walk into authenticity hand in hand with the person that you have committed to through your entire life in order to find out what’s available to you, in order to discover what’s next.
Your heart knows when divorce is the right decision. Your life will begin to show you. Please don’t wait until something breaks or something gives in.
December 31, 2015
The Whisper of Something Great
Panache’s New Year’s Wish for You
We are on the cusp of a New Year and people are scrambling to make sense of an awakening deep within. It’s an inner-calling to evolve. Suddenly you feel braver, more capable. As if you could take on the world. Sadly, most will misinterpret the quiet whisper that is stirring their heart believing they should reevaluate their life and create resolutions in an effort to transform themselves.
This year I’ll lose weight.
This year I’ll find the partner of my dreams.
This year I’ll land the perfect job.
This year I’ll climb out of debt.
This year I’ll reach my evolutionary potential.
New Year’s resolutions are like the one-night stands of transformation. They are a superficial attempt at shifting your life. These empty promises, rooted in judgment and fear, are simply mental exercises that yield no lasting results. With a glass of champagne and a wing and a prayer you hope that your life will magically transform as you usher in another chapter of your life.
With the birth of a New Year everything in your reality is shifting, changing and evolving into more. Our planet is experiencing greater vibrational shifts and changes. The transformational matrix is expanding. All of creation is moving you into greater possibility so that you can support this global awakening. Our energetic reality is calling forth big changes.
And that quiet stirring you sense? It’s your soul. Quietly, patiently, relentlessly calling you into your limitless nature. It’s not about looking back. Instead look forward and make the space to hear it.
My New Year’s prayer for you is that you disconnect from the cacophony and chaos of life and instead listen to the silence. Turn off your cell phones, your tablets, your computers, your televisions and your high tech toys and simply be still. Create the time and space for a mindfulness practice. Slow down. Breathe deeply. Reconnect with nature and allow your senses to feel magnificently alive.
As we start anew this day, make a seismic shift on the level of vibration and frequency, one that will call forth your deepest evolution. With this new-found spaciousness you will begin to connect with your inner observer, the seat of your beingness and you will be open to finding something truly awesome. Your destiny. Your purpose. Your reason for being on this earth.
Allow me to help you translate this evolutionary whisper. You are being called to live your soul’s agenda. And that unfolds when you are willing to begin living your Divine design, a life that is in alignment with your true, authentic nature. Not what someone else wants you to be, but who you were created to be.
Unique, messy, emotional, inquisitive, authentic, courageous, conscious and connected. Someone willing to walk forward with an open heart into an uncertain future knowing that all of creation is moving you into more. Surrender. Your life is an endless practice. Take your time. Live your truth. And shine your light so brightly that an entire planet may find their own way too.
Happy New Year.
We are on the cusp of a New Year and people are scrambling to make sense of an awakening deep within. It’s an inner-calling to evolve. Suddenly you feel braver, more capable. As if you could take on the world. Sadly, most will misinterpret the quiet whisper that is stirring their heart believing they should reevaluate their life and create resolutions in an effort to transform themselves.
This year I’ll lose weight.
This year I’ll find the partner of my dreams.
This year I’ll land the perfect job.
This year I’ll climb out of debt.
This year I’ll reach my evolutionary potential.
New Year’s resolutions are like the one-night stands of transformation. They are a superficial attempt at shifting your life. These empty promises, rooted in judgment and fear, are simply mental exercises that yield no lasting results. With a glass of champagne and a wing and a prayer you hope that your life will magically transform as you usher in another chapter of your life.
With the birth of a New Year everything in your reality is shifting, changing and evolving into more. Our planet is experiencing greater vibrational shifts and changes. The transformational matrix is expanding. All of creation is moving you into greater possibility so that you can support this global awakening. Our energetic reality is calling forth big changes.
And that quiet stirring you sense? It’s your soul. Quietly, patiently, relentlessly calling you into your limitless nature. It’s not about looking back. Instead look forward and make the space to hear it.
My New Year’s prayer for you is that you disconnect from the cacophony and chaos of life and instead listen to the silence. Turn off your cell phones, your tablets, your computers, your televisions and your high tech toys and simply be still. Create the time and space for a mindfulness practice. Slow down. Breathe deeply. Reconnect with nature and allow your senses to feel magnificently alive.
As we start anew this day, make a seismic shift on the level of vibration and frequency, one that will call forth your deepest evolution. With this new-found spaciousness you will begin to connect with your inner observer, the seat of your beingness and you will be open to finding something truly awesome. Your destiny. Your purpose. Your reason for being on this earth.
Allow me to help you translate this evolutionary whisper. You are being called to live your soul’s agenda. And that unfolds when you are willing to begin living your Divine design, a life that is in alignment with your true, authentic nature. Not what someone else wants you to be, but who you were created to be.
Unique, messy, emotional, inquisitive, authentic, courageous, conscious and connected. Someone willing to walk forward with an open heart into an uncertain future knowing that all of creation is moving you into more. Surrender. Your life is an endless practice. Take your time. Live your truth. And shine your light so brightly that an entire planet may find their own way too.
Happy New Year.
November 24, 2015
Putting the Sacred Back in the Holidays
We’re days away from the kick-off to the 2015 holiday season. In our home, my wife’s grocery list was drafted and checked off weeks ago. The pantry’s contents were reorganized and all baking essentials that were old were tossed. Shopping was completed. Without consciously seeing it, Jan’s already begun to bump up against her need to create the perfect holiday, all stemming from the ghost of holidays past. The Thanksgivings and Christmases that fell short. The arguments that can never be taken back. The gifts that were never received. The love that was never shared and the tears that never seemed to end.
One of my singular joys has been to free her from the ghosts of holidays past. This December, we will have been married seven years. Together we have created new holiday traditions, ones that are rooted in love and truly reflect our union. We are living proof that you don’t have to keep repeating the same unconscious holiday patterns over and over again.
Outside our back door sits a beautiful white marble Jain Buddha and as of last week it is flanked by Olaf, a mesh-lit dancing snowman from the movie Frozen. Behind it all stands a tall bark tree covered in multicolored lights, empty of needles, leaves or any of the typical dressing a traditional Christmas tree exhibits.
Somewhere in the midst of these icons resides the perfect balance of how we can gracefully navigate our way through the holidays. The centeredness of the Buddha, the infectious joy of Olaf and the ever-present reminder of the light that lives within us all as expressed by the tree.
So as you prepare to celebrate, I invite you to open to a greater level of sacredness. Recognize your own singular empowerment. You have a choice. Either relive the same experience over and over again, or create a new, more resonant and loving way to gather together during the holidays.
Recognize your triggers
Feel your feelings
Choose differently
I am honored to share with you this holiday activation from one of my life teleclasses to support you in freeing yourself of the ghosts of Christmas past.
Click here to access the replay.
One of my singular joys has been to free her from the ghosts of holidays past. This December, we will have been married seven years. Together we have created new holiday traditions, ones that are rooted in love and truly reflect our union. We are living proof that you don’t have to keep repeating the same unconscious holiday patterns over and over again.
Outside our back door sits a beautiful white marble Jain Buddha and as of last week it is flanked by Olaf, a mesh-lit dancing snowman from the movie Frozen. Behind it all stands a tall bark tree covered in multicolored lights, empty of needles, leaves or any of the typical dressing a traditional Christmas tree exhibits.
Somewhere in the midst of these icons resides the perfect balance of how we can gracefully navigate our way through the holidays. The centeredness of the Buddha, the infectious joy of Olaf and the ever-present reminder of the light that lives within us all as expressed by the tree.
So as you prepare to celebrate, I invite you to open to a greater level of sacredness. Recognize your own singular empowerment. You have a choice. Either relive the same experience over and over again, or create a new, more resonant and loving way to gather together during the holidays.
Recognize your triggers
Feel your feelings
Choose differently
I am honored to share with you this holiday activation from one of my life teleclasses to support you in freeing yourself of the ghosts of Christmas past.
Click here to access the replay.
