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September 6, 2016
How To Control Your Anger Before It Controls You
Do you struggle with your anger? Do you feel the need to control it when it arises, because if you don’t, you’re afraid it will control you?
It’s not the anger that’s getting in the way… It’s the need for control that’s preventing you from finding the freedom that’s available to you.
Explore control and why you feel the need to assert a level of control over anything in life.
The only way to control anger or to control anything is to give up the false notion of control itself.
In the presence of heightened emotion, we must give up the need to control because the only way to experience it without being overrun or overcome by it, is simply by surrendering to it.
The more we can surrender to the feeling and the more we can trust in the truth that whatever we are experiencing will pass, the more we are then able to let go of control and the more we are then simply able to flow with what is.
Let go of control. Understand that your control is killing you and your control and your judgment is the root cause of why you remain distanced from everything that you desire in your life.
Be aligned with the greater flow of energy and the greater universal principle of expansion that is your natural state of being!
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TRANSCRIPT
How To Control Your Anger Before It Controls You
Hi Sweet Friends, I’m Panache Desai.
I’m a contemporary thought leader and vibrational catalyst and I have empowered individuals like you from all over the world in oneness in a depth of connection that is transcendent and ever present in every moment of their lives. One of the things that so many people struggle with is their anger.
People believe that there’s a need to control their anger when it arises. Otherwise, they’re afraid in some way that it is going to control them and I’d like to postulate that it’s the control itself that’s getting in the way of you finding the freedom that’s available to you.
So what we have to first do is explore control and why we feel the need to assert a level of control over anything in life.
The reason why we need to control our reality is not that because we’re afraid of what’s outside of us… But it’s because we’re afraid of feeling what’s within us.
We’ll manage every relationship; we’ll manage every circumstance and every situation in life so that it doesn’t remind us of the anger that we have yet to feel within our core.
My sweet friends, the only way to control anger or to control anything in life is to give up the false notion of control itself. As long as you are needing to assert some level of control, what you are saying is that you don’t have the capacity to feel whatever there is to feel.
Control leads to victimhood. It leads to victimization because you cannot outrun what is unresolved within your being. Something will trigger you. No matter how managed or pristine your life is, somebody will say or do something that will evoke the feeling and response or reaction within you of that which has yet to be accepted as the truth of who you are.
It is for that reason that in the presence of heightened emotion we must give up the need to control because in the presence of heightened emotion the only way to experience it without being overrun by it or overcome by it is simply by surrendering to it.
The more we can surrender to the feeling and the more we can trust in the truth that whatever we are experiencing will pass, the more we are then able to let go of control and the more we are then simply able to flow with what is.
This false notion of needing to control our anger in order to prevent it from controlling us is what’s really keeping you from authentically just expressing everything that you’ve come here to express.
Anger has been invalidated in our experience. It has been made wrong. There is so much judgment around the experience of anger, all the while missing the point that anger is a natural part of life and living - and that the more we can welcome anger and the more we can be at peace in the experience of it, dare I say it…
…The more we can meet it with love. The more it begins to diminish. The faster it begins to move through. The less we hold onto it, the less we accumulate it within us and ultimately the more we are empowered to move through life from a place of harmony and peace.
There is a common misconception that in the enlightened state there will be an absence of human emotion; I want you to know that that just simply isn’t true.
Everything continues to play out in the way that it does; it’s just that your relationship with it is forever transformed. You and your inner resistance to it and in doing so you are empowered to move through it gracefully to the point where nobody outside of you is harmed by it.
Violence in all ways ends. You begin to practice harmony and peace and nonviolence within yourself. That is the state that is born of welcoming. That is the state that is born of accepting and so the whole notion of control in any and all areas of life is born of fear and its born of this false premise that in some way something should not be happening.
In some way something could be prevented. In some way you can render yourself immune to what every other human being as a part of this experience has to go through on a daily basis. It is for that reason that I say to you, “No longer control your anger.”
Simply feel it and experience it and relax into it knowing that you can surrender to it and trust that in doing so it will begin and end inside of your being. That it doesn’t have to come out in the form of words that will hurt others.
It doesn’t have to come out in the form of violence. It doesn’t have to come out in any way that is discordant with life. You can begin to meet it from a place of coherence and in doing so you can set yourself and every other person in your life free.
Let go of control. Understand that your control is killing you and your control and your judgment is the root cause of why you remain distanced from everything that you desire in your life.
Surrender and trust understanding that that is the domain of the Divine. That is the dominion of Divinity and that the more you can surrender and trust every experience, recognizing that everything that comes to visit is just visiting, the more you can once again be aligned with the greater flow of energy and the greater universal principle of expansion that is your natural state of being.
Receive Teachings, Inspiration and Vibrational Activations Straight to Your Inbox!
It’s not the anger that’s getting in the way… It’s the need for control that’s preventing you from finding the freedom that’s available to you.
Explore control and why you feel the need to assert a level of control over anything in life.
The only way to control anger or to control anything is to give up the false notion of control itself.
In the presence of heightened emotion, we must give up the need to control because the only way to experience it without being overrun or overcome by it, is simply by surrendering to it.
The more we can surrender to the feeling and the more we can trust in the truth that whatever we are experiencing will pass, the more we are then able to let go of control and the more we are then simply able to flow with what is.
Let go of control. Understand that your control is killing you and your control and your judgment is the root cause of why you remain distanced from everything that you desire in your life.
Be aligned with the greater flow of energy and the greater universal principle of expansion that is your natural state of being!
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TRANSCRIPT
How To Control Your Anger Before It Controls You
Hi Sweet Friends, I’m Panache Desai.
I’m a contemporary thought leader and vibrational catalyst and I have empowered individuals like you from all over the world in oneness in a depth of connection that is transcendent and ever present in every moment of their lives. One of the things that so many people struggle with is their anger.
People believe that there’s a need to control their anger when it arises. Otherwise, they’re afraid in some way that it is going to control them and I’d like to postulate that it’s the control itself that’s getting in the way of you finding the freedom that’s available to you.
So what we have to first do is explore control and why we feel the need to assert a level of control over anything in life.
The reason why we need to control our reality is not that because we’re afraid of what’s outside of us… But it’s because we’re afraid of feeling what’s within us.
We’ll manage every relationship; we’ll manage every circumstance and every situation in life so that it doesn’t remind us of the anger that we have yet to feel within our core.
My sweet friends, the only way to control anger or to control anything in life is to give up the false notion of control itself. As long as you are needing to assert some level of control, what you are saying is that you don’t have the capacity to feel whatever there is to feel.
Control leads to victimhood. It leads to victimization because you cannot outrun what is unresolved within your being. Something will trigger you. No matter how managed or pristine your life is, somebody will say or do something that will evoke the feeling and response or reaction within you of that which has yet to be accepted as the truth of who you are.
It is for that reason that in the presence of heightened emotion we must give up the need to control because in the presence of heightened emotion the only way to experience it without being overrun by it or overcome by it is simply by surrendering to it.
The more we can surrender to the feeling and the more we can trust in the truth that whatever we are experiencing will pass, the more we are then able to let go of control and the more we are then simply able to flow with what is.
This false notion of needing to control our anger in order to prevent it from controlling us is what’s really keeping you from authentically just expressing everything that you’ve come here to express.
Anger has been invalidated in our experience. It has been made wrong. There is so much judgment around the experience of anger, all the while missing the point that anger is a natural part of life and living - and that the more we can welcome anger and the more we can be at peace in the experience of it, dare I say it…
…The more we can meet it with love. The more it begins to diminish. The faster it begins to move through. The less we hold onto it, the less we accumulate it within us and ultimately the more we are empowered to move through life from a place of harmony and peace.
There is a common misconception that in the enlightened state there will be an absence of human emotion; I want you to know that that just simply isn’t true.
Everything continues to play out in the way that it does; it’s just that your relationship with it is forever transformed. You and your inner resistance to it and in doing so you are empowered to move through it gracefully to the point where nobody outside of you is harmed by it.
Violence in all ways ends. You begin to practice harmony and peace and nonviolence within yourself. That is the state that is born of welcoming. That is the state that is born of accepting and so the whole notion of control in any and all areas of life is born of fear and its born of this false premise that in some way something should not be happening.
In some way something could be prevented. In some way you can render yourself immune to what every other human being as a part of this experience has to go through on a daily basis. It is for that reason that I say to you, “No longer control your anger.”
Simply feel it and experience it and relax into it knowing that you can surrender to it and trust that in doing so it will begin and end inside of your being. That it doesn’t have to come out in the form of words that will hurt others.
It doesn’t have to come out in the form of violence. It doesn’t have to come out in any way that is discordant with life. You can begin to meet it from a place of coherence and in doing so you can set yourself and every other person in your life free.
Let go of control. Understand that your control is killing you and your control and your judgment is the root cause of why you remain distanced from everything that you desire in your life.
Surrender and trust understanding that that is the domain of the Divine. That is the dominion of Divinity and that the more you can surrender and trust every experience, recognizing that everything that comes to visit is just visiting, the more you can once again be aligned with the greater flow of energy and the greater universal principle of expansion that is your natural state of being.
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August 31, 2016
How To Feel Fear To Move Past It
There is one thing and one thing alone that is keeping you from love and intimacy, more money, better health, youthfulness and vibrancy…
That one thing is the biggest chokehold in your experience of being human and that one thing is fear—but more your inability to function in the presence of that energy…
Fear is a sure fire sign that you’re bumping up against the edge of your known reality or your comfort zone. I want to empower you right now to navigate the experience of fear when it arises from within you.
Fear triggers the part of us that’s rooted in survival and that’s why we’re unable to deal with it. We either fight, run away or freeze.
All of these behaviors don’t serve us and they don’t allow us to fully thrive and flourish into all that we’re becoming and all that we’re growing into.
How do you own fear and recognize that it is an ally in your evolution?
Think of a time or a moment when fear began to arise within you.
Take a breath and get in touch with that moment of fear.
Begin to presence that one moment in your life that triggers the experience of fear over and over again.
Once you’ve got it, simply presence where fear is currently expressing itself in the body.
Do the opposite of what your survival functioning deems that you need to do in this moment.
Begin to give your attention to your body. Rest your awareness in your lower back, your stomach, your heart wherever that tension is.
Get in touch with the specific manifestation of stress or fear or worry that you’re present to right now.
Be courageous. Welcome your fear. Bring it into your awareness.
Give it your attention in your body and allow the chokehold that it has had on your life to loosen until it no longer has any power over you. You are a limitless being with a limitless potential and you have the capacity to move into alignment with all that you desire and more.
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TRANSCRIPT
How To Feel Fear To Move Past It
Hi Sweet Friends, it’s Panache!
What if I told you that there was one thing and one thing alone that was keeping you from the love and intimacy that you desire more than anything in your life?
What if I told you there was one thing that was keeping you from more money than you could ever spend within your lifetime?
What if I told you that there was one thing and one thing alone that was keeping you from the health, youthfulness and vibrancy that is your birthright?
What if I told you that there is one singular thing that is the biggest choke hold in your experience of being human…
…And what if I told you that that one thing, my beloved friends, was fear, and not specifically fear, but more your inability to function in the presence of that energy?
Everything is nothing more than an energy in motion. Fear is going to arise in your experience when you’re up to living an extraordinary life. In fact, people who are committed to living an extraordinary existence will feel fear more than people who aren’t.
Fear is a sure fire sign that you’re bumping up against the edge of your known reality or your comfort zone. Every time fear arises in my experience, I start to get excited because I know that more health, more money, more vitality, more connection and more intimacy awaits me on the other side of it…
…And it is for that reason that I want to empower you right now to navigate the experience of fear when it arises from within you.
Fear triggers the part of us that’s rooted in survival and that’s why, for the most part, we’re unable to deal with it. We either fight, we run away or we freeze.
All of these behaviors don’t serve us in the midst of a business decision. All of these behaviors don’t serve us in the midst of a disagreement with a spouse or a partner. These behaviors, as much as they insure our survival, don’t allow us to fully thrive and flourish into all that we’re becoming and all that we’re growing into.
It’s time to own fear and it’s time to recognize that fear is an ally in your evolution. You see, the only issue with fear is that you get stuck by it. You allow it to limit you, and my sweet friends, I want to remind you that you’re only ever as limited as you allow yourself to be…
So are you ready? Good! Think of a time or a moment when fear began to arise within you. It could be all of a sudden you’re in an office meeting and your work schedule has been pushed out three months in advance and you don’t feel like you have the skills required to keep up with everything.
In that moment, fear manifests overwhelm or stress.
Fear could have arisen in the midst of a relationship where your spouse shares the dreaded words, we need to talk. In that moment all of a sudden, tightness and constriction begins to come over your body and you’re unable to function. The thought of this conversation lingers within your experience all day long, robbing you of your ability to be creative, to inspire and to uplift.
In some cases, it can come in the form of a world event, an economic meltdown, a mass shooting, an act of terrorism… It can come in the form of news that someone in your family has received regarding their health.
Fear takes so many forms and the more we’re empowered to be open in the presence of it, the less we’re impacted by it because it’s those people that have mastered their ability to no longer let fear limit them, that go on to win in every single situation in life and living.
It’s those individuals that go on to excel in the greatest of ways and we have so many great living examples of entrepreneurs of people in the world who are creative, of people in the world who are showing us a greater way of being who have in turn taken the time to master fear.
They’ve taken the time to own their fear and to actively seek out everywhere within them where they are still afraid so that they can excel and so that they can operate at the leading vibrational edge.
Just take a breath right now. Just get in touch with that moment of fear. Get in touch with those words that you are afraid to hear. Get in touch with that experience that just tightens your belly… that all of a sudden leaves you stressed out and just filled with tension.
Just begin to presence that one moment in your life that triggers the experience of fear over and over again and once you’ve got it, I want you to simply presence where fear is currently expressing itself in the body.
For most people, fear shows up in the lower back or the shoulders. For some, it shows up in their stomachs. For some, it shows up in their hearts. Depending on what triggered the feeling of fear that determines where fear shows up in our physicality.
And all I want you to do right now, in the absence of the actual stimuli, in the absence of the actual thing in reality that evokes the presence of fear…
…I want you to simply, through your memory, through your ability to recall, through your ability to evoke a moment where fear arises… I want you to presence it, and here’s what I want you to do….
…I want you to do the opposite of what your survival functioning deems that you need to do in this moment. We can’t run. We can’t fight. We can’t freeze but what we can do is take a page out of nature’s playbook and simply feel the fear that’s arising within us.
Everything in nature experiences fear, however the only difference is once fear or the form of fear of the thing that triggers fear is gone… they’ll shake it out, they’ll go back to a place of neutrality and they’ll go on with our day.
The only problem is that we as human beings don’t have that same capacity.
So begin to give your attention to your body. Begin to rest your awareness in your lower back, your stomach, your heart wherever that tension is. Shoulders… Some of you carry the weight of the world in your shoulders.
And begin to get in touch with the specific manifestation of stress or fear or worry that you’re present to right now. Begin to get in touch with that.
The very second, my sweet friends, you cultivate the courage to give fear your attention, your awareness and no longer run away from it is the moment that you have conquered fear and it is the moment that you have set yourself up for a life of more money than you can ever spend, more health than you could ever imagine, intimacy and love that is boundless…
It is in that moment that you become limitless. It is in that moment that you go from being finite to infinite.
Now just imagine if this one simple tool and if this one simple awareness could fundamentally transform your experience exponentially 10 fold, 100 fold, 1000 fold, 10,000 fold, 100,000 fold, 100,000,000 fold…
…How often would you welcome fear? Would you still be afraid of it? Would you still engage in it, in a way that is based in survival or would you own fear?
Would you be empowered in the presence of it and would you simply surrender to it, welcoming it knowing that everything that you want is on the other side of your fear?
My sweet friends, today… Be courageous. Welcome your fear. Bring it into your awareness.
Give it your attention in your body and allow the chokehold that it has had on your life to loosen until it no longer has any power over you. You are a limitless being with a limitless potential and you have the capacity to move into alignment with all that you desire and more.
Simply be with this, apply this, use it… Use it every time fear arises and watch what happens.
I love you! Here’s to living fearlessly!
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That one thing is the biggest chokehold in your experience of being human and that one thing is fear—but more your inability to function in the presence of that energy…
Fear is a sure fire sign that you’re bumping up against the edge of your known reality or your comfort zone. I want to empower you right now to navigate the experience of fear when it arises from within you.
Fear triggers the part of us that’s rooted in survival and that’s why we’re unable to deal with it. We either fight, run away or freeze.
All of these behaviors don’t serve us and they don’t allow us to fully thrive and flourish into all that we’re becoming and all that we’re growing into.
How do you own fear and recognize that it is an ally in your evolution?
Think of a time or a moment when fear began to arise within you.
Take a breath and get in touch with that moment of fear.
Begin to presence that one moment in your life that triggers the experience of fear over and over again.
Once you’ve got it, simply presence where fear is currently expressing itself in the body.
Do the opposite of what your survival functioning deems that you need to do in this moment.
Begin to give your attention to your body. Rest your awareness in your lower back, your stomach, your heart wherever that tension is.
Get in touch with the specific manifestation of stress or fear or worry that you’re present to right now.
Be courageous. Welcome your fear. Bring it into your awareness.
Give it your attention in your body and allow the chokehold that it has had on your life to loosen until it no longer has any power over you. You are a limitless being with a limitless potential and you have the capacity to move into alignment with all that you desire and more.
Receive Teachings, Inspiration and Vibrational Activations Straight to Your Inbox!
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TRANSCRIPT
How To Feel Fear To Move Past It
Hi Sweet Friends, it’s Panache!
What if I told you that there was one thing and one thing alone that was keeping you from the love and intimacy that you desire more than anything in your life?
What if I told you there was one thing that was keeping you from more money than you could ever spend within your lifetime?
What if I told you that there was one thing and one thing alone that was keeping you from the health, youthfulness and vibrancy that is your birthright?
What if I told you that there is one singular thing that is the biggest choke hold in your experience of being human…
…And what if I told you that that one thing, my beloved friends, was fear, and not specifically fear, but more your inability to function in the presence of that energy?
Everything is nothing more than an energy in motion. Fear is going to arise in your experience when you’re up to living an extraordinary life. In fact, people who are committed to living an extraordinary existence will feel fear more than people who aren’t.
Fear is a sure fire sign that you’re bumping up against the edge of your known reality or your comfort zone. Every time fear arises in my experience, I start to get excited because I know that more health, more money, more vitality, more connection and more intimacy awaits me on the other side of it…
…And it is for that reason that I want to empower you right now to navigate the experience of fear when it arises from within you.
Fear triggers the part of us that’s rooted in survival and that’s why, for the most part, we’re unable to deal with it. We either fight, we run away or we freeze.
All of these behaviors don’t serve us in the midst of a business decision. All of these behaviors don’t serve us in the midst of a disagreement with a spouse or a partner. These behaviors, as much as they insure our survival, don’t allow us to fully thrive and flourish into all that we’re becoming and all that we’re growing into.
It’s time to own fear and it’s time to recognize that fear is an ally in your evolution. You see, the only issue with fear is that you get stuck by it. You allow it to limit you, and my sweet friends, I want to remind you that you’re only ever as limited as you allow yourself to be…
So are you ready? Good! Think of a time or a moment when fear began to arise within you. It could be all of a sudden you’re in an office meeting and your work schedule has been pushed out three months in advance and you don’t feel like you have the skills required to keep up with everything.
In that moment, fear manifests overwhelm or stress.
Fear could have arisen in the midst of a relationship where your spouse shares the dreaded words, we need to talk. In that moment all of a sudden, tightness and constriction begins to come over your body and you’re unable to function. The thought of this conversation lingers within your experience all day long, robbing you of your ability to be creative, to inspire and to uplift.
In some cases, it can come in the form of a world event, an economic meltdown, a mass shooting, an act of terrorism… It can come in the form of news that someone in your family has received regarding their health.
Fear takes so many forms and the more we’re empowered to be open in the presence of it, the less we’re impacted by it because it’s those people that have mastered their ability to no longer let fear limit them, that go on to win in every single situation in life and living.
It’s those individuals that go on to excel in the greatest of ways and we have so many great living examples of entrepreneurs of people in the world who are creative, of people in the world who are showing us a greater way of being who have in turn taken the time to master fear.
They’ve taken the time to own their fear and to actively seek out everywhere within them where they are still afraid so that they can excel and so that they can operate at the leading vibrational edge.
Just take a breath right now. Just get in touch with that moment of fear. Get in touch with those words that you are afraid to hear. Get in touch with that experience that just tightens your belly… that all of a sudden leaves you stressed out and just filled with tension.
Just begin to presence that one moment in your life that triggers the experience of fear over and over again and once you’ve got it, I want you to simply presence where fear is currently expressing itself in the body.
For most people, fear shows up in the lower back or the shoulders. For some, it shows up in their stomachs. For some, it shows up in their hearts. Depending on what triggered the feeling of fear that determines where fear shows up in our physicality.
And all I want you to do right now, in the absence of the actual stimuli, in the absence of the actual thing in reality that evokes the presence of fear…
…I want you to simply, through your memory, through your ability to recall, through your ability to evoke a moment where fear arises… I want you to presence it, and here’s what I want you to do….
…I want you to do the opposite of what your survival functioning deems that you need to do in this moment. We can’t run. We can’t fight. We can’t freeze but what we can do is take a page out of nature’s playbook and simply feel the fear that’s arising within us.
Everything in nature experiences fear, however the only difference is once fear or the form of fear of the thing that triggers fear is gone… they’ll shake it out, they’ll go back to a place of neutrality and they’ll go on with our day.
The only problem is that we as human beings don’t have that same capacity.
So begin to give your attention to your body. Begin to rest your awareness in your lower back, your stomach, your heart wherever that tension is. Shoulders… Some of you carry the weight of the world in your shoulders.
And begin to get in touch with the specific manifestation of stress or fear or worry that you’re present to right now. Begin to get in touch with that.
The very second, my sweet friends, you cultivate the courage to give fear your attention, your awareness and no longer run away from it is the moment that you have conquered fear and it is the moment that you have set yourself up for a life of more money than you can ever spend, more health than you could ever imagine, intimacy and love that is boundless…
It is in that moment that you become limitless. It is in that moment that you go from being finite to infinite.
Now just imagine if this one simple tool and if this one simple awareness could fundamentally transform your experience exponentially 10 fold, 100 fold, 1000 fold, 10,000 fold, 100,000 fold, 100,000,000 fold…
…How often would you welcome fear? Would you still be afraid of it? Would you still engage in it, in a way that is based in survival or would you own fear?
Would you be empowered in the presence of it and would you simply surrender to it, welcoming it knowing that everything that you want is on the other side of your fear?
My sweet friends, today… Be courageous. Welcome your fear. Bring it into your awareness.
Give it your attention in your body and allow the chokehold that it has had on your life to loosen until it no longer has any power over you. You are a limitless being with a limitless potential and you have the capacity to move into alignment with all that you desire and more.
Simply be with this, apply this, use it… Use it every time fear arises and watch what happens.
I love you! Here’s to living fearlessly!
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August 24, 2016
How To Take A Risk When You’re Afraid Of Failing
Do you have dreams that have gone unrealized?
Pieces of music that have remained unwritten… Books that have remained unfinished… Expressions that have been wanting to be born into this world that haven’t been allowed to see the light of day… Businesses that never made it past the business plan…
There is so much in you that wants to be shared that you are not allowing to be expressed through you at this time, and that’s for one reason and one reason alone…
You’re afraid of failing, to be powerful, and to really birth what’s within you into this world.
There are two things that are required to overcome this:
1) an ability to risk and
2) a heightened sense of vulnerability.
How do you develop these abilities?
- Grab a pen and piece of paper…
- Write a list of things or experiences that you would have if you couldn’t fail…
- Dream and tap into the possibility of what your life would be like if fear or fear of failure wasn’t even an option…
What if everything was just an experience? What if everything that you engaged in was just an opportunity?
It is through our willingness to take a risk, to take a chance, to go for something, to live for a greater reason than we know, that we begin to realize our dreams. And even if that thing isn’t the actual thing, we’ll be guided towards whatever else is.
There is no such thing as failure.
Everything that’s unfolding is unfolding to further support you in cultivating the self-confidence, self-belief and self-nurturing and self-love required to excel at the highest level.
We must have the courage to dream bigger and to never settle for a life that doesn’t fill us with love, with passion and with joy.
It will be your willingness to show up over and over again in spite of your fear, that will set everybody that encounters whatever you birth, free.
So will you be one of those people that overcome the fear of failure or will you continue to be someone who allows the deepest dream and the deepest possibility that they have within them to die with them?
I believe in you. You can’t fail. You will win. Go out and get it!
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How To Take A Risk When You’re Afraid of Failing
Hi, Sweet Friends. It’s Panache!
Often I hear about dreams that have gone unrealized.
Pieces of music that have remained unwritten, books that have remained unfinished, expressions that have been wanting to be born into this world that haven’t been allowed to see the light of day. Businesses that never made it past the business plan.
There is so much in you that wants to be shared that you are not allowing to be expressed through you at this time, and that’s for one reason and one reason alone… You’re afraid of failing, to be powerful and to really birth what’s within us into this world.
There are two things that are required—an ability to risk and a heightened sense of vulnerability.
It is through our willingness to take a risk, to take a chance, to go for something, to live for a greater reason than we know, that we begin to realize our dreams. And even if that thing isn’t the actual thing, we’ll be guided towards whatever else is.
You see my sweet friends, as I see you and as I see your life, there’s no such thing as failure. Everything that’s unfolding is unfolding to further support you in cultivating the self-confidence, self-belief and self-nurturing and self-love required to excel at the highest level.
So what if you could never fail?
What if failure in truth is never really trying? What if you could actually have a relationship that was loving, even though historically every relationship that you’ve had has led to your heart being broken?
What if you could actually be in business for yourself and start to generate exponential amounts of income that far surpass the salary that you’re holding onto out of survival because you believe that if you go out on your own in some way you’ll be jeopardizing what you have.
We must have the courage to dream bigger and to never settle for a life that doesn’t fill us with love, with passion and with joy.
So many of us right now have just given up. We’re just sitting on the sidelines, and not only are we sitting on the sidelines, but we’re filled with a level of resentment about why life hasn’t been the way that we know it could have been.
Well I want you to know that as long as you’re breathing, it’s never too late. I want you to know that as long as there’s life, that possibility that’s within you, that authentic contribution that you’ve come here to share, is still alive with you.
And it is now more important than ever that you begin to inspire the world with your music. That you begin to inspire the world with your creativity, because it won’t be the end result that will serve as the inspiration…
It will be your willingness to show up over and over again in spite of your fear, that will set everybody that encounters whatever you birth, free.
To those who risk much, much is given. To those who have the courage to go beyond their comfort zone and what’s familiar, the rewards are exponential.
The more you risk… The more you put yourself out there… The more you have uncomfortable conversations… The more you put yourself in uncomfortable situations… The more you are joining an elite group of human beings that have absolutely crushed this thing called life.
They’ve squeezed everything that life has to offer completely; on their tombstone it says “I did this thing, I lived and I did this thing.” And that’s what I want for you.
I want you to share that same level of passion and enthusiasm that those people have, that right now, inspire you, because the only thing that separates you from them is your unwillingness to risk.
Your fear of failure is keeping you from success. Your fear of failure is keeping you from love, intimacy and connection. Your fear of failure is keeping you from starting a family. Your fear of failure is keeping you from financial prosperity and increase.
It is your fear of failure that is inhibiting your creativity. It is your fear of failure that is single handedly robbing you of the aliveness that is your birth right.
So what would you do if you couldn’t fail?
I want you to right now grab a pen and piece of paper and I want you to write a list of things or experiences that you would have if you couldn’t fail. I want you to begin to dream again.
I want you to begin to even tap into the possibility of what your life would be like if fear or fear of failure wasn’t even an option. If it was no longer on the table.
What if everything was just an experience? What if everything that you engaged in was just an opportunity?
You know there are so many people that have lived historically that we call geniuses that failed over and over and over again. So were they really geniuses? Or were they just stubborn when it came to their vision and the implementation of their vision?
And for most of them, when they first shared what it was that they wanted to birth into this world, they were ridiculed. They were met with opposition. People laughed at them and eventually over time because they were so steadfast in their belief and their passion and their commitment to what they wanted to birth… Little by little, their breakthroughs and their innovations, became mainstream, to the point now today we take them for granted.
So will you be one of those people that overcome the fear of failure or will you continue to be someone who allows the deepest dream and the deepest possibility that they have within them to die with them?
It is my deepest wish that you won’t allow your music to die with you. It is my deepest wish that you won’t allow that book that remains unwritten to die with you. It is my deepest wish that you won’t allow past failed relationships to keep you from the love and intimacy that I know is available to you because you’re adorable, because you are worthy of it.
It is my deepest wish that you won’t hold past financial failures as a measure of how life is going to unfold financially for you. Risk greatly, dare greatly, be vulnerable and allow yourself to attract greater possibilities into your experience than you could ever imagine.
I believe in you. You can’t fail. You will win. Go out and get it!
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Pieces of music that have remained unwritten… Books that have remained unfinished… Expressions that have been wanting to be born into this world that haven’t been allowed to see the light of day… Businesses that never made it past the business plan…
There is so much in you that wants to be shared that you are not allowing to be expressed through you at this time, and that’s for one reason and one reason alone…
You’re afraid of failing, to be powerful, and to really birth what’s within you into this world.
There are two things that are required to overcome this:
1) an ability to risk and
2) a heightened sense of vulnerability.
How do you develop these abilities?
- Grab a pen and piece of paper…
- Write a list of things or experiences that you would have if you couldn’t fail…
- Dream and tap into the possibility of what your life would be like if fear or fear of failure wasn’t even an option…
What if everything was just an experience? What if everything that you engaged in was just an opportunity?
It is through our willingness to take a risk, to take a chance, to go for something, to live for a greater reason than we know, that we begin to realize our dreams. And even if that thing isn’t the actual thing, we’ll be guided towards whatever else is.
There is no such thing as failure.
Everything that’s unfolding is unfolding to further support you in cultivating the self-confidence, self-belief and self-nurturing and self-love required to excel at the highest level.
We must have the courage to dream bigger and to never settle for a life that doesn’t fill us with love, with passion and with joy.
It will be your willingness to show up over and over again in spite of your fear, that will set everybody that encounters whatever you birth, free.
So will you be one of those people that overcome the fear of failure or will you continue to be someone who allows the deepest dream and the deepest possibility that they have within them to die with them?
I believe in you. You can’t fail. You will win. Go out and get it!
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How To Take A Risk When You’re Afraid of Failing
Hi, Sweet Friends. It’s Panache!
Often I hear about dreams that have gone unrealized.
Pieces of music that have remained unwritten, books that have remained unfinished, expressions that have been wanting to be born into this world that haven’t been allowed to see the light of day. Businesses that never made it past the business plan.
There is so much in you that wants to be shared that you are not allowing to be expressed through you at this time, and that’s for one reason and one reason alone… You’re afraid of failing, to be powerful and to really birth what’s within us into this world.
There are two things that are required—an ability to risk and a heightened sense of vulnerability.
It is through our willingness to take a risk, to take a chance, to go for something, to live for a greater reason than we know, that we begin to realize our dreams. And even if that thing isn’t the actual thing, we’ll be guided towards whatever else is.
You see my sweet friends, as I see you and as I see your life, there’s no such thing as failure. Everything that’s unfolding is unfolding to further support you in cultivating the self-confidence, self-belief and self-nurturing and self-love required to excel at the highest level.
So what if you could never fail?
What if failure in truth is never really trying? What if you could actually have a relationship that was loving, even though historically every relationship that you’ve had has led to your heart being broken?
What if you could actually be in business for yourself and start to generate exponential amounts of income that far surpass the salary that you’re holding onto out of survival because you believe that if you go out on your own in some way you’ll be jeopardizing what you have.
We must have the courage to dream bigger and to never settle for a life that doesn’t fill us with love, with passion and with joy.
So many of us right now have just given up. We’re just sitting on the sidelines, and not only are we sitting on the sidelines, but we’re filled with a level of resentment about why life hasn’t been the way that we know it could have been.
Well I want you to know that as long as you’re breathing, it’s never too late. I want you to know that as long as there’s life, that possibility that’s within you, that authentic contribution that you’ve come here to share, is still alive with you.
And it is now more important than ever that you begin to inspire the world with your music. That you begin to inspire the world with your creativity, because it won’t be the end result that will serve as the inspiration…
It will be your willingness to show up over and over again in spite of your fear, that will set everybody that encounters whatever you birth, free.
To those who risk much, much is given. To those who have the courage to go beyond their comfort zone and what’s familiar, the rewards are exponential.
The more you risk… The more you put yourself out there… The more you have uncomfortable conversations… The more you put yourself in uncomfortable situations… The more you are joining an elite group of human beings that have absolutely crushed this thing called life.
They’ve squeezed everything that life has to offer completely; on their tombstone it says “I did this thing, I lived and I did this thing.” And that’s what I want for you.
I want you to share that same level of passion and enthusiasm that those people have, that right now, inspire you, because the only thing that separates you from them is your unwillingness to risk.
Your fear of failure is keeping you from success. Your fear of failure is keeping you from love, intimacy and connection. Your fear of failure is keeping you from starting a family. Your fear of failure is keeping you from financial prosperity and increase.
It is your fear of failure that is inhibiting your creativity. It is your fear of failure that is single handedly robbing you of the aliveness that is your birth right.
So what would you do if you couldn’t fail?
I want you to right now grab a pen and piece of paper and I want you to write a list of things or experiences that you would have if you couldn’t fail. I want you to begin to dream again.
I want you to begin to even tap into the possibility of what your life would be like if fear or fear of failure wasn’t even an option. If it was no longer on the table.
What if everything was just an experience? What if everything that you engaged in was just an opportunity?
You know there are so many people that have lived historically that we call geniuses that failed over and over and over again. So were they really geniuses? Or were they just stubborn when it came to their vision and the implementation of their vision?
And for most of them, when they first shared what it was that they wanted to birth into this world, they were ridiculed. They were met with opposition. People laughed at them and eventually over time because they were so steadfast in their belief and their passion and their commitment to what they wanted to birth… Little by little, their breakthroughs and their innovations, became mainstream, to the point now today we take them for granted.
So will you be one of those people that overcome the fear of failure or will you continue to be someone who allows the deepest dream and the deepest possibility that they have within them to die with them?
It is my deepest wish that you won’t allow your music to die with you. It is my deepest wish that you won’t allow that book that remains unwritten to die with you. It is my deepest wish that you won’t allow past failed relationships to keep you from the love and intimacy that I know is available to you because you’re adorable, because you are worthy of it.
It is my deepest wish that you won’t hold past financial failures as a measure of how life is going to unfold financially for you. Risk greatly, dare greatly, be vulnerable and allow yourself to attract greater possibilities into your experience than you could ever imagine.
I believe in you. You can’t fail. You will win. Go out and get it!
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August 17, 2016
How To Get Past Crippling Fear
There’s one thing that we all are afraid of… and it’s change. It’s the unknown.
Is the fear of the unknown keeping you from your greatness?
We’re most afraid of that which isn’t familiar because we’ve been conditioned to operate inside of what’s known and what is familiar. The only problem is that what’s known and what’s familiar doesn’t allow us to be extraordinary and dynamic.
We have to constantly evolve beyond that which we know and that which we are aware of is a limitation. We have to constantly innovate. We have to constantly be creative. We have to constantly follow the evolutionary impulse within us to be more and to express in a greater way and to share more.
Repetitious cycles and monotony lead to mediocrity.
How do you break free of repetitious cycles and monotony? How do you break free of living on auto pilot in order to really be alive?
Try this challenge:
Drive to work a different way today…
Stop at a different Starbucks…
Have a conversation with somebody that you wouldn’t ordinarily speak to…
Break the monotony of your routine by introducing behaviors that are unique and different than you would ordinarily allow for or that in some cases you would be too afraid to exhibit or exemplify.
Challenge yourself every day to do things differently. Challenge yourself in small ways to break the monotony of your existence.
Life requires dynamic action and dynamic action requires your full engagement and your willingness to not only be with your fear but to boldly traverse out into the unknown understanding that that is where every possibility resides.
So challenge yourself. Do things differently. Have different conversations. Ask different questions. Choose different routes. Eat in different restaurants. Have different experiences.
Engage with your reality in a different way to see how that begins to ripple out and to see what possibilities begin to come back into your life.
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How To Get Past Crippling Fear
Hi Sweet Friends, it’s Panache and thank you for joining me as I share with you another evolutionary insight that can transform your life and add massive value to your experience.
There’s one thing that we all are afraid of and it’s change. It’s the unknown.
We’re most afraid of that which isn’t familiar because we’ve been conditioned to operate inside of what’s known and what is familiar. The only problem is that what’s known and what’s familiar doesn’t allow us to be extraordinary and dynamic.
I’ll give you an example:
Just imagine if you showed up in your relationship in the same way every single day and you never grew… You never evolved. You never found new ways to express your love. You didn’t find new restaurants to go to. You didn’t find new gifts to give. You didn’t find new expressions of love…
How long do you think that relationship would last or most importantly of all, how long would the passion continue to be sustained in that relationship?
I bet you if just maintain the status quo in your relationship, the passion quota, the intimacy quota and the love quota would gradually over time begin to diminish if not completely fade away.
You see, we have to constantly evolve beyond that which we know and that which we are aware of is a limitation. We have to constantly innovate. We have to constantly be creative. We have to constantly follow the evolutionary impulse within us to be more and to express in a greater way and to share more.
It’s the same thing in work. Just imagine if you went through the same thing over and over again every day; how engaged would you be? How productive would you be? How willing would you be to create and innovate in the work space if all you did was the same thing over and over again?
Repetitious cycles and monotony lead to mediocrity.
You must be willing to break free of repetitious cycles and monotony. You must be willing to break free of living on auto pilot in order to really be alive because the truth is, most human beings are functioning on auto pilot thinking that that is living and it really isn’t.
So I want to challenge you today.
I want to invite you to be more because when I see you, I see an untapped and unrealized potential that is infinite.
I want you to drive to work a different way today. I want you to stop at a different Starbucks. I want you to have a conversation with somebody that you wouldn’t ordinarily speak to. I want you to break the monotony of your routine by introducing behaviors that are unique and different than you would ordinarily allow for or that in some cases you would be too afraid to exhibit or exemplify.
Challenge yourself every day to do things differently. Challenge yourself in small ways to break the monotony of your existence. To come alive, to stop living that groundhog day life thinking that if you just keep doing more of the same that something’s gonna shift when it isn’t.
Life requires dynamic action and dynamic action requires your full engagement and your willingness to not only be with your fear but to boldly traverse out into the unknown understanding that that is where every possibility resides.
Like investing in a stock, you just keep putting the same money in the same stock over and over and over again you don’t diversify your portfolio.|
Well, it’s all well and good until one day something happens in that stock—the CEO misuses funds, something occurs, some tragedy, the stock plummets by 50% in its value. In that moment your entire 401 K, your life savings or everything that you’ve been building toward, is gone.
It is for that reason that we must cultivate the ability to diversify our experience, to diversify how we’re showing up, to go beyond what we know and what we’ve been told because it’s in that that we start to hit this sweet spot of synchronicity.
It’s in that that all of a sudden we’re guided to more. It’s in that that if we’re open and we’re curious, we can begin to fully own the truth that life is on our side. We can begin to trust in life.
We can begin to understand that life is forever guiding us into promotion, expansion and increase. We can begin to live in a way that defies what everybody else is doing because we’ve cultivated the courage to embrace the unknown.
We’ve cultivated the courage to break free of the familiar and we’ve cultivated the courage ultimately to live a life that is unique. To live a life that no longer needs the approval of another person. To live a life that’s in alignment with our hearts and most importantly of all to leave our own unique mark on this world.
Your fear of the unknown is keeping you from your greatness. Your fear of the unknown is keeping you from all that you desire. Your fear of the unknown is keeping you from excelling in the highest possible way that you can imagine.
So challenge yourself. Do things differently. Have different conversations. Ask different questions. Choose different routes. Eat in different restaurants. Have different experiences.
Engage with your reality in a different way to see how that begins to ripple out and to see what possibilities begin to come back into your life.
I can’t wait to read your comments and posts. Share with me what one thing you’re doing differently and how it has dynamically expanded your ability to overcome your fear of the unknown.
I love you! Be courageous today!
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Is the fear of the unknown keeping you from your greatness?
We’re most afraid of that which isn’t familiar because we’ve been conditioned to operate inside of what’s known and what is familiar. The only problem is that what’s known and what’s familiar doesn’t allow us to be extraordinary and dynamic.
We have to constantly evolve beyond that which we know and that which we are aware of is a limitation. We have to constantly innovate. We have to constantly be creative. We have to constantly follow the evolutionary impulse within us to be more and to express in a greater way and to share more.
Repetitious cycles and monotony lead to mediocrity.
How do you break free of repetitious cycles and monotony? How do you break free of living on auto pilot in order to really be alive?
Try this challenge:
Drive to work a different way today…
Stop at a different Starbucks…
Have a conversation with somebody that you wouldn’t ordinarily speak to…
Break the monotony of your routine by introducing behaviors that are unique and different than you would ordinarily allow for or that in some cases you would be too afraid to exhibit or exemplify.
Challenge yourself every day to do things differently. Challenge yourself in small ways to break the monotony of your existence.
Life requires dynamic action and dynamic action requires your full engagement and your willingness to not only be with your fear but to boldly traverse out into the unknown understanding that that is where every possibility resides.
So challenge yourself. Do things differently. Have different conversations. Ask different questions. Choose different routes. Eat in different restaurants. Have different experiences.
Engage with your reality in a different way to see how that begins to ripple out and to see what possibilities begin to come back into your life.
Receive Teachings, Inspiration and Vibrational Activations Straight to Your Inbox!
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How To Get Past Crippling Fear
Hi Sweet Friends, it’s Panache and thank you for joining me as I share with you another evolutionary insight that can transform your life and add massive value to your experience.
There’s one thing that we all are afraid of and it’s change. It’s the unknown.
We’re most afraid of that which isn’t familiar because we’ve been conditioned to operate inside of what’s known and what is familiar. The only problem is that what’s known and what’s familiar doesn’t allow us to be extraordinary and dynamic.
I’ll give you an example:
Just imagine if you showed up in your relationship in the same way every single day and you never grew… You never evolved. You never found new ways to express your love. You didn’t find new restaurants to go to. You didn’t find new gifts to give. You didn’t find new expressions of love…
How long do you think that relationship would last or most importantly of all, how long would the passion continue to be sustained in that relationship?
I bet you if just maintain the status quo in your relationship, the passion quota, the intimacy quota and the love quota would gradually over time begin to diminish if not completely fade away.
You see, we have to constantly evolve beyond that which we know and that which we are aware of is a limitation. We have to constantly innovate. We have to constantly be creative. We have to constantly follow the evolutionary impulse within us to be more and to express in a greater way and to share more.
It’s the same thing in work. Just imagine if you went through the same thing over and over again every day; how engaged would you be? How productive would you be? How willing would you be to create and innovate in the work space if all you did was the same thing over and over again?
Repetitious cycles and monotony lead to mediocrity.
You must be willing to break free of repetitious cycles and monotony. You must be willing to break free of living on auto pilot in order to really be alive because the truth is, most human beings are functioning on auto pilot thinking that that is living and it really isn’t.
So I want to challenge you today.
I want to invite you to be more because when I see you, I see an untapped and unrealized potential that is infinite.
I want you to drive to work a different way today. I want you to stop at a different Starbucks. I want you to have a conversation with somebody that you wouldn’t ordinarily speak to. I want you to break the monotony of your routine by introducing behaviors that are unique and different than you would ordinarily allow for or that in some cases you would be too afraid to exhibit or exemplify.
Challenge yourself every day to do things differently. Challenge yourself in small ways to break the monotony of your existence. To come alive, to stop living that groundhog day life thinking that if you just keep doing more of the same that something’s gonna shift when it isn’t.
Life requires dynamic action and dynamic action requires your full engagement and your willingness to not only be with your fear but to boldly traverse out into the unknown understanding that that is where every possibility resides.
Like investing in a stock, you just keep putting the same money in the same stock over and over and over again you don’t diversify your portfolio.|
Well, it’s all well and good until one day something happens in that stock—the CEO misuses funds, something occurs, some tragedy, the stock plummets by 50% in its value. In that moment your entire 401 K, your life savings or everything that you’ve been building toward, is gone.
It is for that reason that we must cultivate the ability to diversify our experience, to diversify how we’re showing up, to go beyond what we know and what we’ve been told because it’s in that that we start to hit this sweet spot of synchronicity.
It’s in that that all of a sudden we’re guided to more. It’s in that that if we’re open and we’re curious, we can begin to fully own the truth that life is on our side. We can begin to trust in life.
We can begin to understand that life is forever guiding us into promotion, expansion and increase. We can begin to live in a way that defies what everybody else is doing because we’ve cultivated the courage to embrace the unknown.
We’ve cultivated the courage to break free of the familiar and we’ve cultivated the courage ultimately to live a life that is unique. To live a life that no longer needs the approval of another person. To live a life that’s in alignment with our hearts and most importantly of all to leave our own unique mark on this world.
Your fear of the unknown is keeping you from your greatness. Your fear of the unknown is keeping you from all that you desire. Your fear of the unknown is keeping you from excelling in the highest possible way that you can imagine.
So challenge yourself. Do things differently. Have different conversations. Ask different questions. Choose different routes. Eat in different restaurants. Have different experiences.
Engage with your reality in a different way to see how that begins to ripple out and to see what possibilities begin to come back into your life.
I can’t wait to read your comments and posts. Share with me what one thing you’re doing differently and how it has dynamically expanded your ability to overcome your fear of the unknown.
I love you! Be courageous today!
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August 12, 2016
6 Things That Hold Us Back From Seeing Ourselves for Who We Really Are
Imagine what would happen if everybody understood that they were divine? Most of us have never even caught a glimpse of this.
We sit to meditate and instead of experiencing blissful oneness we’re bombarded with all the things we don’t want to look at. Particularly our attachment to things being a certain way. Our resistance to what is brings our inner critic to the forefront and weighs down our entire energy body.
We encounter our learned patterns and conditioning which keep us from seeing our authentic selves. We choose to remain on a hamster wheel of limitation even if it means we will never even come close to experiencing our own greatness. Because living small is familiar and comfortable.
These hindrances are Universal, but they don’t have to maintain a death-like grip on our present experience. We can be empowered to relax into who we truly are, and start to witness the nature of oneness unfolding before our eyes.
Attachment
"Grasping at things can only yield one of two results: Either the thing you are grasping at disappears, or you yourself disappear. It is only a matter of which occurs first." - Goenka
Attachment is the opposite of acceptance. When we want things to be a certain way, we become attached physically, mentally and become energetically bound to a certain outcome. When we don’t get the desired outcome it shows up in our energy and in our lives as suffering and discontent.
Division
We think we’re separate. We think that the people around us, the strangers walking in the street, the person who cut us off in traffic, are completely independent from us. That our inner experiences are highly similar seems not to cross our minds as an indicator that perhaps, we’re all in this together. The separation we mentally construct causes pain on a subconscious level. We think that we’re alone, without ever offering ourselves the realization of our essential connection to all that exists.
Story
We’re conditioned to act a certain way, to walk through the world with convention, following the invisible rules, not breaking the cultural taboos so deeply entrenched into all of us.
We’re told from a young age that we’re too fat, too smart, too slow, not athletic, or that we should always get our way.
None of us should have to feel constrained by our conditioning. Breaking down the barriers of our stories takes consistently reminding ourselves that the truth is so much deeper than our created limitations.
By taking a step back and asking if our choices feel aligned with connection, acceptance and true joy we can better see what actions stem from conditioning and which actions stem from our true nature.
Resistance
We resist things that make sense. War, disease, political distress, it makes sense to push against the harsh experiences these events bring upon us and the world. But does that resistance actually serve our souls?
Can we get further by allowing and choosing love first? Would releasing the inclination to resist the things we don’t like create a deeper experience of peace within us, and thus manifest more peace in the outside world? Only our authentic selves know the answer.
“We can never obtain peace in the outer world until we make peace with ourselves.” - Dalai Lama
Judgement
Resistance creates judgement, which creates suffering. When we see something we don’t like, something that triggers a barrier within us, the knee jerk reaction is to jump into judgement. It’s next to impossible to never judge.
Yet the part of us that is completely pure, the divine light of awareness, doesn’t contain judgement. There is a witness, and there is a judge, and it’s up to us to choose who gets to sit in the driver’s seat.
Assumptions
We assume we know and understand how things are, how the world is, why things are happening externally, why people do what they do. But the truth is until we’ve stepped into the full story, how can we ever know anything?
Assumptions take us away from the mystery of life, the connection to seeking deeper understanding and growing our empathy muscle. To assume is to rob yourself of the chance to truly know.
Join me August 23rd for my free online seminar, ‘Leaning Into Life: Connect to the Truth Within You’. This hour long exploration will offer you techniques to move into alignment in a way where you will feel supported and freed from resistance and struggle. Register here for this transformational deep dive into the truth of who you really are.
We sit to meditate and instead of experiencing blissful oneness we’re bombarded with all the things we don’t want to look at. Particularly our attachment to things being a certain way. Our resistance to what is brings our inner critic to the forefront and weighs down our entire energy body.
We encounter our learned patterns and conditioning which keep us from seeing our authentic selves. We choose to remain on a hamster wheel of limitation even if it means we will never even come close to experiencing our own greatness. Because living small is familiar and comfortable.
These hindrances are Universal, but they don’t have to maintain a death-like grip on our present experience. We can be empowered to relax into who we truly are, and start to witness the nature of oneness unfolding before our eyes.
Attachment
"Grasping at things can only yield one of two results: Either the thing you are grasping at disappears, or you yourself disappear. It is only a matter of which occurs first." - Goenka
Attachment is the opposite of acceptance. When we want things to be a certain way, we become attached physically, mentally and become energetically bound to a certain outcome. When we don’t get the desired outcome it shows up in our energy and in our lives as suffering and discontent.
Division
We think we’re separate. We think that the people around us, the strangers walking in the street, the person who cut us off in traffic, are completely independent from us. That our inner experiences are highly similar seems not to cross our minds as an indicator that perhaps, we’re all in this together. The separation we mentally construct causes pain on a subconscious level. We think that we’re alone, without ever offering ourselves the realization of our essential connection to all that exists.
Story
We’re conditioned to act a certain way, to walk through the world with convention, following the invisible rules, not breaking the cultural taboos so deeply entrenched into all of us.
We’re told from a young age that we’re too fat, too smart, too slow, not athletic, or that we should always get our way.
None of us should have to feel constrained by our conditioning. Breaking down the barriers of our stories takes consistently reminding ourselves that the truth is so much deeper than our created limitations.
By taking a step back and asking if our choices feel aligned with connection, acceptance and true joy we can better see what actions stem from conditioning and which actions stem from our true nature.
Resistance
We resist things that make sense. War, disease, political distress, it makes sense to push against the harsh experiences these events bring upon us and the world. But does that resistance actually serve our souls?
Can we get further by allowing and choosing love first? Would releasing the inclination to resist the things we don’t like create a deeper experience of peace within us, and thus manifest more peace in the outside world? Only our authentic selves know the answer.
“We can never obtain peace in the outer world until we make peace with ourselves.” - Dalai Lama
Judgement
Resistance creates judgement, which creates suffering. When we see something we don’t like, something that triggers a barrier within us, the knee jerk reaction is to jump into judgement. It’s next to impossible to never judge.
Yet the part of us that is completely pure, the divine light of awareness, doesn’t contain judgement. There is a witness, and there is a judge, and it’s up to us to choose who gets to sit in the driver’s seat.
Assumptions
We assume we know and understand how things are, how the world is, why things are happening externally, why people do what they do. But the truth is until we’ve stepped into the full story, how can we ever know anything?
Assumptions take us away from the mystery of life, the connection to seeking deeper understanding and growing our empathy muscle. To assume is to rob yourself of the chance to truly know.
Join me August 23rd for my free online seminar, ‘Leaning Into Life: Connect to the Truth Within You’. This hour long exploration will offer you techniques to move into alignment in a way where you will feel supported and freed from resistance and struggle. Register here for this transformational deep dive into the truth of who you really are.
August 10, 2016
The Best Step To Overcoming Fear
Are you consumed by fear but don’t think you’re ready to tackle it and you don’t know where to begin to overcome it?
The only power that fear has over you is the power that you’ve assigned it. You are equipped to tackle it. You just need to move into a place of receiving and of allowing. Become completely comfortable in your own comfortability.
Here’s how you do it:
Become completely comfortable in your own comfortability.
Drive a car that you can’t afford to buy right now - go and test drive it.
Go and have a meal in a restaurant that you can’t afford to eat the full meal in; just sit there and have the appetizer and enjoy every bite.
Go into a situation with someone that you know you’re attracted to and put yourself in proximity to them and feel everything that there is to feel inside of you.
Put yourself in environments where you evoke fear on purpose, where you consciously presence fear. Put yourself in situations that are beyond the way you imagine yourself to be.
This will allow you to be equipped to tackle fear when it arises.
Don’t allow fear to limit you. Run toward it in all forms and be freed to fully experience, to fully have and to fully be all that you desire.
Get uncomfortable. Uncomfortability is the solution to fear. Stretch yourself. It’s the solution to limitation and know that more love awaits you on the other side of all that you are afraid to experience.
Get uncomfortable today!
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The Best Step To Overcoming Fear
Hi Sweet Friends, it’s Panache!
By now you know that fear is the greatest choke hold on your life. You’ve learned to relax into the experience of it. You know now that it no longer has any power over you—or the only power that it has over you is the power that you have assigned it.
You are now equipped to tackle fear. To move into a place of receiving, to move into a place of allowing. And here’s how you do it—by becoming completely comfortable in your own comfortability and that looks like the following:
Driving a car that you can’t afford to buy right now - go and test drive it.
Going and having a meal in a restaurant that you can’t afford to eat the full meal in; just sit there and have the appetizer and enjoy every bite.
Going into a situation with someone that you know you’re attracted to and putting yourself in proximity to them and feeling everything that there is to feel inside of you—which in most cases will be nervousness. There may even be a sense of unworthiness that arises. There may be butterflies in the stomach that may be tension that arises.
I want you to put yourselves in environments where you evoke fear on purpose, where you consciously presence fear. Put yourselves in situations that are beyond the way you imagine yourself to be—and this in turn allows you to be equipped to tackle fear when it arises.
You see, eventually you stop running from fear and you start toward it.
The more you run toward your fear and the more you run toward that which makes you fearful, the more you are on purpose triggering breakthrough after breakthrough after breakthrough that builds momentum after momentum after momentum to align you with your magnificence.
Fear only has control over you as long as you allow it to have control over you.
So right now in this moment begin to think about one thing that you can do to consciously evoke the emotion of fear—and that could be quite simply going to the local Mercedes dealership or going to the local Ferrari dealership or going to the local Hyundai dealership.
Going to any car dealership right now that is way beyond anything that you have the capacity to write a check for or to lease and just simply test driving that car and feeling everything there is to feel within you.
The resistance within you around that experience—when we consciously engage or evoke the resistance—we move into alignment with the receiving—and in that same way we can apply this to every single area of life and living.
You know, some of you want greater financial freedom—well then you must be willing to lovingly evoke everything within you around that reality.
Some of you want greater connection and intimacy; then you must be willing to evoke fear.
You must be willing to run toward the fear that keeps you distanced from what it is that you desire and that’s the secret and that’s the magic of overcoming fear.
By running towards it, by embracing it, by understanding that it isn’t working against you; that fear is actually working in your favor because in this world of polarity and in this world of opposites, the other side of fear is love.
The other vibrational spectrum of fear is love. That’s why when something fearful happens in the world, people usually are brought together as a result of it.
It’s just that we’re so hyper focused on the fear that we miss the togetherness and the love and the oneness and the heart opening that comes as a result of that which is fearful.
So if the end result of you confronting your fear and tackling your fear is more love, more health, more abundance, more intimacy, more connection, a relationship that lights you up…
Then what are you afraid of?
I invite you to stretch, to grow. I invite you to befriend the energy of fear because fear is the gatekeeper.
Fear is the doorway and the threshold that we must cross as extraordinary individuals in order to receive what it is that we want, or the treasure that we wish to receive in our lives.
Don’t allow fear to limit you. Run toward fear in all forms and be freed to fully experience, to fully have and to fully be all that you desire.
There are so many ways now that you can be empowered to deal with this energy as it arises. The foundational awareness that arises, is first of all, around fear when you’re present to it, so it’s no longer unconscious.
The second awareness that arises is your ability to move in the face of it and the third awareness that arises is your ability to consciously trigger it, understanding that all that you desire and want is on the other side of it.
And so run toward that which makes you afraid. Stretch, grow, move, expand, evolve.
Allow yourself to really live because the people that I’ve met that are most alive are the ones that are no longer limited by fear. They’re no longer afraid to be human. They’re no longer afraid to have. They’re no longer afraid to be.
Get uncomfortable. Uncomfortability is the solution to fear. Stretch yourself, it’s the solution to limitation and know that more love awaits you on the other side of all that you are afraid to experience.
Get uncomfortable today!
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The only power that fear has over you is the power that you’ve assigned it. You are equipped to tackle it. You just need to move into a place of receiving and of allowing. Become completely comfortable in your own comfortability.
Here’s how you do it:
Become completely comfortable in your own comfortability.
Drive a car that you can’t afford to buy right now - go and test drive it.
Go and have a meal in a restaurant that you can’t afford to eat the full meal in; just sit there and have the appetizer and enjoy every bite.
Go into a situation with someone that you know you’re attracted to and put yourself in proximity to them and feel everything that there is to feel inside of you.
Put yourself in environments where you evoke fear on purpose, where you consciously presence fear. Put yourself in situations that are beyond the way you imagine yourself to be.
This will allow you to be equipped to tackle fear when it arises.
Don’t allow fear to limit you. Run toward it in all forms and be freed to fully experience, to fully have and to fully be all that you desire.
Get uncomfortable. Uncomfortability is the solution to fear. Stretch yourself. It’s the solution to limitation and know that more love awaits you on the other side of all that you are afraid to experience.
Get uncomfortable today!
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The Best Step To Overcoming Fear
Hi Sweet Friends, it’s Panache!
By now you know that fear is the greatest choke hold on your life. You’ve learned to relax into the experience of it. You know now that it no longer has any power over you—or the only power that it has over you is the power that you have assigned it.
You are now equipped to tackle fear. To move into a place of receiving, to move into a place of allowing. And here’s how you do it—by becoming completely comfortable in your own comfortability and that looks like the following:
Driving a car that you can’t afford to buy right now - go and test drive it.
Going and having a meal in a restaurant that you can’t afford to eat the full meal in; just sit there and have the appetizer and enjoy every bite.
Going into a situation with someone that you know you’re attracted to and putting yourself in proximity to them and feeling everything that there is to feel inside of you—which in most cases will be nervousness. There may even be a sense of unworthiness that arises. There may be butterflies in the stomach that may be tension that arises.
I want you to put yourselves in environments where you evoke fear on purpose, where you consciously presence fear. Put yourselves in situations that are beyond the way you imagine yourself to be—and this in turn allows you to be equipped to tackle fear when it arises.
You see, eventually you stop running from fear and you start toward it.
The more you run toward your fear and the more you run toward that which makes you fearful, the more you are on purpose triggering breakthrough after breakthrough after breakthrough that builds momentum after momentum after momentum to align you with your magnificence.
Fear only has control over you as long as you allow it to have control over you.
So right now in this moment begin to think about one thing that you can do to consciously evoke the emotion of fear—and that could be quite simply going to the local Mercedes dealership or going to the local Ferrari dealership or going to the local Hyundai dealership.
Going to any car dealership right now that is way beyond anything that you have the capacity to write a check for or to lease and just simply test driving that car and feeling everything there is to feel within you.
The resistance within you around that experience—when we consciously engage or evoke the resistance—we move into alignment with the receiving—and in that same way we can apply this to every single area of life and living.
You know, some of you want greater financial freedom—well then you must be willing to lovingly evoke everything within you around that reality.
Some of you want greater connection and intimacy; then you must be willing to evoke fear.
You must be willing to run toward the fear that keeps you distanced from what it is that you desire and that’s the secret and that’s the magic of overcoming fear.
By running towards it, by embracing it, by understanding that it isn’t working against you; that fear is actually working in your favor because in this world of polarity and in this world of opposites, the other side of fear is love.
The other vibrational spectrum of fear is love. That’s why when something fearful happens in the world, people usually are brought together as a result of it.
It’s just that we’re so hyper focused on the fear that we miss the togetherness and the love and the oneness and the heart opening that comes as a result of that which is fearful.
So if the end result of you confronting your fear and tackling your fear is more love, more health, more abundance, more intimacy, more connection, a relationship that lights you up…
Then what are you afraid of?
I invite you to stretch, to grow. I invite you to befriend the energy of fear because fear is the gatekeeper.
Fear is the doorway and the threshold that we must cross as extraordinary individuals in order to receive what it is that we want, or the treasure that we wish to receive in our lives.
Don’t allow fear to limit you. Run toward fear in all forms and be freed to fully experience, to fully have and to fully be all that you desire.
There are so many ways now that you can be empowered to deal with this energy as it arises. The foundational awareness that arises, is first of all, around fear when you’re present to it, so it’s no longer unconscious.
The second awareness that arises is your ability to move in the face of it and the third awareness that arises is your ability to consciously trigger it, understanding that all that you desire and want is on the other side of it.
And so run toward that which makes you afraid. Stretch, grow, move, expand, evolve.
Allow yourself to really live because the people that I’ve met that are most alive are the ones that are no longer limited by fear. They’re no longer afraid to be human. They’re no longer afraid to have. They’re no longer afraid to be.
Get uncomfortable. Uncomfortability is the solution to fear. Stretch yourself, it’s the solution to limitation and know that more love awaits you on the other side of all that you are afraid to experience.
Get uncomfortable today!
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August 3, 2016
How To Make Forgiveness Stick
Are you dealing with emotional scars?
Although scars don’t define us, they do leave a lasting mark. The mark ultimately serves as a milestone in our development—and ultimately over time, our relationship with our scars transforms until eventually they become a source of beauty.
Over time, as our perception evolves and as our level of harmony evolves within us, that scar that we’ve experienced emotionally and the emotional wounding will transform.
Eventually, you will evolve on from this moment and you will develop courage to move on from the past.
How do you forget that which caused the emotional scarring? And more importantly, how do you make forgiveness stick to be able to forget?
Know that that which has impacted you, will serve as a milestone, a catalyst and a guidepost for you as you evolve on from this moment…
Know that it’s up to you to find the wholeness in the perceived brokenness…
Know that your past doesn’t define you…
Have the courage to simply be with whatever there is. Feel it…
Experience the pain and hold onto the memory. Know that we are not defined by where we have been—and the memory and the scar serves a function and a purpose—which is to inspire you to be greater.
Through forgiveness, you no longer need to forget—you only need to forget that which you cannot forgive.
A memory without the pain or the trauma no longer keeps you trapped. You are no longer held hostage. Once you’ve allowed yourself to be freed of everything that was associated with that moment—all you’re left with is a memory that is filled with neutrality.
Your scars don’t define you, they make you beautiful. That which you have forgiven, you don’t need to forget. Be with everything that’s unfolding and allow harmony and balance to be restored.
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How To Make Forgiveness Stick
Hi Sweet Friends, it’s Panache!
When life impacts us on a physical level—based on the velocity of the impact—more often than not, we’ll be left with a scar.
Life and life’s events will leave a mark, and although many of you may not have physical scars, some of you—as a result of your past experiences—have been left with emotional scars.
Ultimately, you have been in situations where you’ve been able to forgive, but you’ll never be able to forget what happened… And, in the same way that our scars don’t define us, they leave a lasting mark on us.
They leave a mark that ultimately serves as a milestone in our development, and ultimately over time our relationship with our scars transforms until eventually they become a source of beauty.
And in that same way that scar that we have experienced emotionally—over time—as our perception evolves—as our level of harmony evolves within us—that emotional wounding, and I know for right now many of you are like “you’re crazy Panache, you weren’t in my home, you didn’t experience what I had to experience, you didn’t go through what I had to go through…”
I want you to know that it especially applies to you. I want you to know that your relationship with the wounding of the pain of the heartbreak—with the absolute grief and lost that you felt, will transform.
And for many of you it’s still fresh and it’s still raw. But I want you to know that it will—that that which has impacted you—that which you may or may not yet be able to fully forgive—will serve as a milestone and a catalyst and a guidepost for you as you evolve on from this moment or as you have the courage to move on from the past.
You see we don’t need to forget what happened. We don’t need to all of a sudden just have our mind erased. What happened; happened for a reason.
It’s up to us to find the greater love and the peace and the opportunity or the possibility for connection that is embedded in the trauma or the scar that we still carry to this day.
So you think that your scars, your past wounding in some way make you ugly. Well I want you to know that they make you beautiful and I want you to know that any and all lasting marks that have been made on your life—if physically or emotionally—have been made for you to transform your relationship with them so that you can see the beauty in yourself once more.
So that you can find the wholeness in the perceived brokenness—so that you can stand solid in your foundation of self-knowing, self-awareness and self-love and in turn be an inspiration for others who have yet to find that same courage.
Our past doesn’t define us. Our choices and our decisions and our wounds don’t define who we are. They don’t determine the outcome of our lives.
We must have the courage to simply be with whatever there is. To simply feel whatever there is to feel. To be with our perceived scars and our brokenness because it is in that that they transform.
It is in that that we are allowed to evolve; it is in that that we’re allowed to move on.
And I know for many of you, you’re holding onto generational pain of traumatic incidents that occurred on this planet to entire populations of people. And, that you’ve been conditioned to believe in some way forgetting what happened, is in some way, doing your lineage or your people, your tribe, an entire disservice and I want you to know that that simply isn’t true.
Pain doesn’t serve anybody. Pain simply keeps us trapped in cycles that don’t allow us to express fully all that we are.
So really it’s time to experience the pain and hold onto the memory knowing that we are the product of where we have come from, but we are not defined by where we have been and the memory and the scar serves a function and a purpose that to inspire you to be greater.
I’ve met people from all over the world that have incredible physical challenges, impediments and real life scars that were life threatening who have gone on to no longer be defined by what happened—to no longer be victimized by the words that were spoken over them—to no longer be held back by what occurred consciously or unconsciously in their lives.
They’ve gone on to excel in every single area—because the truth is my beloved friends…
Through forgiveness, you no longer need to forget—you only need to forget that which you cannot forgive.
Once you’ve forgiven it, it no longer has any power over you and at that point, the memory of it can exist without all of the density and the charge that it once carried.
A memory without the pain or the trauma no longer keeps you trapped. You are no longer held hostage. Once you’ve allowed yourself to be freed of everything that was associated with that moment, or when that moment of life or moments of life that unfolded—all you’re left with is a memory that is filled with neutrality.
All you’re left with is a place of conscious observation. It is in that that you discover the beauty. It is in that that you discover the greater possibility of life.
So I love you. I love your scars. I love everything that has impacted you physically and emotionally because all of that is serving now to further you into all that you’ve come here to be.
Your scars don’t define you, they make you beautiful. That which you have forgiven, you don’t need to forget. Be with everything that’s unfolding and allow harmony and balance to be restored.
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Although scars don’t define us, they do leave a lasting mark. The mark ultimately serves as a milestone in our development—and ultimately over time, our relationship with our scars transforms until eventually they become a source of beauty.
Over time, as our perception evolves and as our level of harmony evolves within us, that scar that we’ve experienced emotionally and the emotional wounding will transform.
Eventually, you will evolve on from this moment and you will develop courage to move on from the past.
How do you forget that which caused the emotional scarring? And more importantly, how do you make forgiveness stick to be able to forget?
Know that that which has impacted you, will serve as a milestone, a catalyst and a guidepost for you as you evolve on from this moment…
Know that it’s up to you to find the wholeness in the perceived brokenness…
Know that your past doesn’t define you…
Have the courage to simply be with whatever there is. Feel it…
Experience the pain and hold onto the memory. Know that we are not defined by where we have been—and the memory and the scar serves a function and a purpose—which is to inspire you to be greater.
Through forgiveness, you no longer need to forget—you only need to forget that which you cannot forgive.
A memory without the pain or the trauma no longer keeps you trapped. You are no longer held hostage. Once you’ve allowed yourself to be freed of everything that was associated with that moment—all you’re left with is a memory that is filled with neutrality.
Your scars don’t define you, they make you beautiful. That which you have forgiven, you don’t need to forget. Be with everything that’s unfolding and allow harmony and balance to be restored.
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TRANSCRIPT
How To Make Forgiveness Stick
Hi Sweet Friends, it’s Panache!
When life impacts us on a physical level—based on the velocity of the impact—more often than not, we’ll be left with a scar.
Life and life’s events will leave a mark, and although many of you may not have physical scars, some of you—as a result of your past experiences—have been left with emotional scars.
Ultimately, you have been in situations where you’ve been able to forgive, but you’ll never be able to forget what happened… And, in the same way that our scars don’t define us, they leave a lasting mark on us.
They leave a mark that ultimately serves as a milestone in our development, and ultimately over time our relationship with our scars transforms until eventually they become a source of beauty.
And in that same way that scar that we have experienced emotionally—over time—as our perception evolves—as our level of harmony evolves within us—that emotional wounding, and I know for right now many of you are like “you’re crazy Panache, you weren’t in my home, you didn’t experience what I had to experience, you didn’t go through what I had to go through…”
I want you to know that it especially applies to you. I want you to know that your relationship with the wounding of the pain of the heartbreak—with the absolute grief and lost that you felt, will transform.
And for many of you it’s still fresh and it’s still raw. But I want you to know that it will—that that which has impacted you—that which you may or may not yet be able to fully forgive—will serve as a milestone and a catalyst and a guidepost for you as you evolve on from this moment or as you have the courage to move on from the past.
You see we don’t need to forget what happened. We don’t need to all of a sudden just have our mind erased. What happened; happened for a reason.
It’s up to us to find the greater love and the peace and the opportunity or the possibility for connection that is embedded in the trauma or the scar that we still carry to this day.
So you think that your scars, your past wounding in some way make you ugly. Well I want you to know that they make you beautiful and I want you to know that any and all lasting marks that have been made on your life—if physically or emotionally—have been made for you to transform your relationship with them so that you can see the beauty in yourself once more.
So that you can find the wholeness in the perceived brokenness—so that you can stand solid in your foundation of self-knowing, self-awareness and self-love and in turn be an inspiration for others who have yet to find that same courage.
Our past doesn’t define us. Our choices and our decisions and our wounds don’t define who we are. They don’t determine the outcome of our lives.
We must have the courage to simply be with whatever there is. To simply feel whatever there is to feel. To be with our perceived scars and our brokenness because it is in that that they transform.
It is in that that we are allowed to evolve; it is in that that we’re allowed to move on.
And I know for many of you, you’re holding onto generational pain of traumatic incidents that occurred on this planet to entire populations of people. And, that you’ve been conditioned to believe in some way forgetting what happened, is in some way, doing your lineage or your people, your tribe, an entire disservice and I want you to know that that simply isn’t true.
Pain doesn’t serve anybody. Pain simply keeps us trapped in cycles that don’t allow us to express fully all that we are.
So really it’s time to experience the pain and hold onto the memory knowing that we are the product of where we have come from, but we are not defined by where we have been and the memory and the scar serves a function and a purpose that to inspire you to be greater.
I’ve met people from all over the world that have incredible physical challenges, impediments and real life scars that were life threatening who have gone on to no longer be defined by what happened—to no longer be victimized by the words that were spoken over them—to no longer be held back by what occurred consciously or unconsciously in their lives.
They’ve gone on to excel in every single area—because the truth is my beloved friends…
Through forgiveness, you no longer need to forget—you only need to forget that which you cannot forgive.
Once you’ve forgiven it, it no longer has any power over you and at that point, the memory of it can exist without all of the density and the charge that it once carried.
A memory without the pain or the trauma no longer keeps you trapped. You are no longer held hostage. Once you’ve allowed yourself to be freed of everything that was associated with that moment, or when that moment of life or moments of life that unfolded—all you’re left with is a memory that is filled with neutrality.
All you’re left with is a place of conscious observation. It is in that that you discover the beauty. It is in that that you discover the greater possibility of life.
So I love you. I love your scars. I love everything that has impacted you physically and emotionally because all of that is serving now to further you into all that you’ve come here to be.
Your scars don’t define you, they make you beautiful. That which you have forgiven, you don’t need to forget. Be with everything that’s unfolding and allow harmony and balance to be restored.
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July 27, 2016
Forgiving Someone Who Will Never Change
Is it possible to forgive someone who will never change?
Simply by wanting someone to change, you’re perpetuating your own experience of suffering. Life isn’t about changing the people around you… It’s about loving yourself. The more you love yourself, the less you’re focused on the people around you and their behaviors.
How do you begin to love yourself so that you can forgive someone who will never be different and will never change?
Disengage from the false external belief about correcting the behaviors of those outside of you…
Focus on loving yourself and growing in your foundational platform of self-love…
Meet others where they’re at and simply be with them but love yourself enough to not be around them if it’s harmful…
Give up the need for others to be different and for them to change…
Let go of any outcomes as they relate to anyone outside of you…
Focus on your own inner state and connection…
Life has a way of naturally restoring order, harmony and balance in people’s lives and sometimes it’s our pushing for something or it’s our wanting life to be different, that doesn’t allow for harmony and balance to be restored.
The more we can focus on what we know is best for us and leave others to be in their own evolution, the more we are furthering the expansion of ourselves and everyone in our lives.
It’s the attachment to anything needing to be different that creates the suffering. All we can do is love ourselves enough to know that their behavior has nothing to do with us.
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Forgiving Someone Who Will Never Change
Hi Sweet Friends, its Panache!
I was asked the other day if it’s possible to forgive someone who will never change…
I want you to know that life isn’t about changing the people around you, it’s about loving yourself. The more you love yourself, the less you’re focused on people around you and their behaviors.
Now I know for many of you in this case, this question relates to a father, or a mother, or a spouse, or a sibling—somebody that’s close to you, somebody that you deeply love and care about, and I want you to know that it is in the wanting that individual to change, that you are perpetuating your experience of suffering.
I’ve noticed that change doesn’t work—you know, for example in my life, my father has been a smoker his whole life, and my mother and I have been on a campaign since as early as I can remember to get him to give up smoking—and we’ve been vocal about it and we’ve sent him outside the house to smoke and we’ve made it as inconvenient as possible for him to smoke in our proximity, and yet he has continued to do so until quite recently.
It’s almost as though the very second we gave up the need for him to give up smoking, he naturally felt the inner inclination to stop smoking and actively sought the help that he needed to now be cigarette-free for multiple months.
Life has a way of naturally restoring order, harmony and balance in people’s lives and sometimes it’s our pushing for something or it’s our wanting life to be different, that doesn’t allow for harmony and balance to be restored.
We all know at the deepest level what is best for us and the more we can focus on what we know is best for us and leave others to be in their own evolution, the more we are furthering the expansion of ourselves and everyone in our lives.
And some of you are like, “well, yeah right, but my father…it’s not about smoking with my father—my father is angry and abusive or my mother is a manic depressive or my sibling is suicidal, what do I do about them...?”
It’s the attachment to anything needing to be different that creates the suffering. In the presence of an angry father, all we can do is love ourselves enough to know that their behavior has nothing to do with us.
In the presence of a depressed, manic mother, all we can do is love ourselves enough to know that their behavior has nothing to do with us. And, in the presence of a sibling who is suicidal or who is constantly stuck in cycles of drama or victimhood, all we can do is know and love ourselves enough to know that their choices and decisions, whatever they may be, have nothing to do with us.
The more we disengage from this false external belief, that it is about correcting the behaviors of those outside of us, and the more we start to focus on loving ourselves and growing in our foundational platform of self-love—the more life seems to take care of itself powerfully, the more life evolves in ways that we have yet to fully imagine or even acknowledge.
In my father’s case, my mother and I could have held onto this reality of him not smoking and instead of loving him in the midst of his unconscious choice to smoke—I firmly believe that it was the introduction of our ability to love him in the midst of his unconscious choice to smoke that transformed his need to smoke…
And, in that same way where we can meet people where they’re at and we can simply be with them—and of course, if someone’s violent—don’t be around them… Love yourself enough to not be around them.
But if what we’re talking about is the majority of instances where somebody’s upset or angry or in drama or is constantly on this hamster wheel of victimhood or whatever that is… In the presence of that, by you being you—you’re offering them an invitation to be themselves.
So can you forgive someone who will never be different, who will never change?
Give up the need for them to be different. Give up the need for them to change. Allow life to work its alchemy in them as much as it has worked in you and trust and believe that there is promotion and increase in their destiny as much as there is promotion and increase in yours.
The more you can let go of any outcomes as they relate to anyone outside of you and the more you focus on your own inner state and the more you focus on your own inner connection (which isn’t selfish) —the more you can begin to emit love and emit peace and harmony into your world which then, in turn, reminds others that this is who they really are.
I can’t wait to see what unfolds for you. Post your comments here and let me know how these insights and these awarenesses are impacting you in your life.
I love you with all my heart and I thank you for loving me.
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Simply by wanting someone to change, you’re perpetuating your own experience of suffering. Life isn’t about changing the people around you… It’s about loving yourself. The more you love yourself, the less you’re focused on the people around you and their behaviors.
How do you begin to love yourself so that you can forgive someone who will never be different and will never change?
Disengage from the false external belief about correcting the behaviors of those outside of you…
Focus on loving yourself and growing in your foundational platform of self-love…
Meet others where they’re at and simply be with them but love yourself enough to not be around them if it’s harmful…
Give up the need for others to be different and for them to change…
Let go of any outcomes as they relate to anyone outside of you…
Focus on your own inner state and connection…
Life has a way of naturally restoring order, harmony and balance in people’s lives and sometimes it’s our pushing for something or it’s our wanting life to be different, that doesn’t allow for harmony and balance to be restored.
The more we can focus on what we know is best for us and leave others to be in their own evolution, the more we are furthering the expansion of ourselves and everyone in our lives.
It’s the attachment to anything needing to be different that creates the suffering. All we can do is love ourselves enough to know that their behavior has nothing to do with us.
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Forgiving Someone Who Will Never Change
Hi Sweet Friends, its Panache!
I was asked the other day if it’s possible to forgive someone who will never change…
I want you to know that life isn’t about changing the people around you, it’s about loving yourself. The more you love yourself, the less you’re focused on people around you and their behaviors.
Now I know for many of you in this case, this question relates to a father, or a mother, or a spouse, or a sibling—somebody that’s close to you, somebody that you deeply love and care about, and I want you to know that it is in the wanting that individual to change, that you are perpetuating your experience of suffering.
I’ve noticed that change doesn’t work—you know, for example in my life, my father has been a smoker his whole life, and my mother and I have been on a campaign since as early as I can remember to get him to give up smoking—and we’ve been vocal about it and we’ve sent him outside the house to smoke and we’ve made it as inconvenient as possible for him to smoke in our proximity, and yet he has continued to do so until quite recently.
It’s almost as though the very second we gave up the need for him to give up smoking, he naturally felt the inner inclination to stop smoking and actively sought the help that he needed to now be cigarette-free for multiple months.
Life has a way of naturally restoring order, harmony and balance in people’s lives and sometimes it’s our pushing for something or it’s our wanting life to be different, that doesn’t allow for harmony and balance to be restored.
We all know at the deepest level what is best for us and the more we can focus on what we know is best for us and leave others to be in their own evolution, the more we are furthering the expansion of ourselves and everyone in our lives.
And some of you are like, “well, yeah right, but my father…it’s not about smoking with my father—my father is angry and abusive or my mother is a manic depressive or my sibling is suicidal, what do I do about them...?”
It’s the attachment to anything needing to be different that creates the suffering. In the presence of an angry father, all we can do is love ourselves enough to know that their behavior has nothing to do with us.
In the presence of a depressed, manic mother, all we can do is love ourselves enough to know that their behavior has nothing to do with us. And, in the presence of a sibling who is suicidal or who is constantly stuck in cycles of drama or victimhood, all we can do is know and love ourselves enough to know that their choices and decisions, whatever they may be, have nothing to do with us.
The more we disengage from this false external belief, that it is about correcting the behaviors of those outside of us, and the more we start to focus on loving ourselves and growing in our foundational platform of self-love—the more life seems to take care of itself powerfully, the more life evolves in ways that we have yet to fully imagine or even acknowledge.
In my father’s case, my mother and I could have held onto this reality of him not smoking and instead of loving him in the midst of his unconscious choice to smoke—I firmly believe that it was the introduction of our ability to love him in the midst of his unconscious choice to smoke that transformed his need to smoke…
And, in that same way where we can meet people where they’re at and we can simply be with them—and of course, if someone’s violent—don’t be around them… Love yourself enough to not be around them.
But if what we’re talking about is the majority of instances where somebody’s upset or angry or in drama or is constantly on this hamster wheel of victimhood or whatever that is… In the presence of that, by you being you—you’re offering them an invitation to be themselves.
So can you forgive someone who will never be different, who will never change?
Give up the need for them to be different. Give up the need for them to change. Allow life to work its alchemy in them as much as it has worked in you and trust and believe that there is promotion and increase in their destiny as much as there is promotion and increase in yours.
The more you can let go of any outcomes as they relate to anyone outside of you and the more you focus on your own inner state and the more you focus on your own inner connection (which isn’t selfish) —the more you can begin to emit love and emit peace and harmony into your world which then, in turn, reminds others that this is who they really are.
I can’t wait to see what unfolds for you. Post your comments here and let me know how these insights and these awarenesses are impacting you in your life.
I love you with all my heart and I thank you for loving me.
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July 20, 2016
How To Forgive Yourself
Many of you believe you've done things that may be deemed unforgivable. Maybe you hurt someone or you stood by and allowed something to occur that caused harm...
You can't hold yourself hostage for the love and the awareness that you didn't have at the time of the incident. You must evaluate yourself based on the experiences that you've had up until this point instead of based on who you were when the original incident occurred.
Holding on to the guilt, the shame and the unworthiness that you're holding within you, is not serving you and it's not serving the other individual involved either. You must cultivate the courage to let yourself off the hook.
How do you let go of the guilt and forgive yourself?
Know that everything that has occurred that you’ve taken personal responsibility for (for the most part) has happened unconsciously…
Know that unconscious choices to stay or to abide in a state of powerlessness, in the midst of trauma and abuse (as it’s unfolding) still occur…
Know that that which you believe you’ve done that damaged another person, actually in some way, has served as an evolutionary catalyst for them…
You must lovingly cultivate an inclusive relationship with the part of you that you believe was responsible for the wounding of another.
Begin to give that aspect of you a hug and cultivate a loving relationship with the part of you that was once rooted in fear. You have only ever done the best that you can.
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How To Forgive Yourself
Hi Sweet Friend its Panache!
I know that many of you believe in your heart that you have done things that are unforgivable. Either you actually did something to somebody else that hurt them or you stood by and allowed something to occur that you have deemed to be unforgivable.
Just take a deep breath. What I’m about to say is going to stretch you and it’s going to expand you. I want you to know that you can’t hold yourself hostage for the love and the awareness that you didn’t have.
Many of you when you look back on yourselves through the lens of your awareness based on where you are now—you can begin to see yourself as wanting or missing. You evaluate yourself based on the experiences that you’ve had up until this point instead of based on who you were at that point when that original incident occurred.
Quite honestly everything that has occurred that you have taken personal responsibility for, for the most part has happened unconsciously. I know this because I know who you are.
None of you that are here would consciously ever do anything to hurt another human being. It flies in the face of your purpose. It flies in the face of who you are as a human being and yet unconscious choices based in fear still happen.
Unconscious choices to stay or to abide in a state of powerlessness in the midst of trauma and abuse, as its unfolding, still occur.
So what I want to do in our time together is provide you a safe place to land. To simply let you know that that which you believe you have done that damaged another person, actually in some way has served as an evolutionary catalyst for them.
Even though you’ve personalized it and made it about you and are riddled with guilt and shame around the decisions and choices that you made at that point…. I want you to know that holding on to the guilt and the shame and the unworthiness that you are currently holding within you is not serving you and it’s not serving that individual.
In time, all things are revealed and through the lens of limited human perception we can’t begin to see the greater plan as to why things happen in the way that they do. It is for that reason that we must turn to feeling what there is to feel within us.
It is for that reason that we must cultivate the courage to let ourselves off the hook and that doesn’t mean that we’re giving ourselves permission to consciously repeat and recycle unconscious patterns over and over and over again.
I’m not giving you a “trash everybody in your life” hall pass. That’s not what I’m advocating, but what I’m advocating is for you to lovingly cultivate an inclusive relationship with the part of you that you believe was responsible for the wounding of another.
I’m advocating that you begin to give that aspect of you a hug and that you cultivate a loving relationship with the part of you that was once rooted in fear.
And so, here’s what I want you to do… I want you to close your eyes and open your palms and I want you right now to begin to feel the loving support of this energy and this presence that is God, that is the Divine, that is love.
I want you to allow this presence to just envelope you, to provide you the safety and the comfort and the nurturing, to really explore that which you have hidden away, that which you are ashamed of, that which is now be relegated to the ranks of your shadow, that which you will not allow to see the light of day - actions or behaviors that may well be the root cause of any addictive patterns or behaviors that you have right now.
Everything that you have in some way may mean that you are less of a person and that you are less available to love and be loved in return. Everything that you have made may mean that you are not a loving, compassionate, empathic, caring human being.
I’d like you to just see yourself at the age where that original incident occurred. For some of you, it may be in a marriage, newly married, abusive, explosive partner and you’re just frightened for your life and there’s an inability on your part for you to intervene or say or do anything. You just freeze in the presence of that rage.
For others of you, it may be at work where a work colleague was being shamed and bullied consistently and you knew that it wasn’t right and you didn’t speak up because you were afraid of being ostracized or in some way losing your position.
For others of you, it may be not intervening when you knew that somebody was making a bad choice or a decision that later led to them taking their own life in some way because the pain inside of them was so unmanageable.
Just see yourself at the age when that original transgression occurred, where either you were perceiving yourself as the perpetrator or the enabler. Either way, just see yourself in your mind’s eye at that age. And what I would like you to do, my beloved sweet friends, is just simply see yourself as you are, giving you, at that age, a hug.
I would love for you to embrace yourself right now completely without judgment in the same way that a mother embraces her child over and over again, regardless of what that child does. In the same way, the Divine is only ever embracing you in that same way.
I want you, right now, to give yourself a hug with profound acceptance, with profound love and most importantly of all with compassion and empathy for yourself. For yourself, recognizing; and I’m not just saying this as a throwaway, I mean it as a statement of fact that you have only ever done the best that you can.
So the best that you could do in that moment was freeze in the fear. The best that you could do in that moment was hurt another person. The best that you could do in that moment was lash out. The best that you could do in that moment was engage in your reality through your survival functioning or through your survival mechanism—your fight or flight or freeze mechanism.
But that is just a part of you, that isn’t the totality of who you are.
So as you’re embracing yourself, at whatever age this original incident occurred, I’m just going to lovingly support that part of you in once again being fully enveloped in the light, being fully embraced by the light, in coming home to the divinity that it is and the light being revealed in the midst of this situation and scenario.
I want to support you right now in this moment in being freed of this burden that you’ve been carrying around or you feel responsible for what you did or for what you didn’t do. Either way, the identification with what occurred is the cause of suffering.
I’m going to lovingly ask that as you embrace this aspect of you, that the suffering associated with this incident just dissolve, recognizing again that you are a loving, kind, empathic, compassionate soul and that you would never do anything to hurt another person on purpose.
I know this about you. I know that you are innately love. I know that you are innately kindness. I know that you are a blessing upon this earth.
Just continue to breathe, relax and receive, and I invite you beyond this one particular example to do this for every aspect of you that you believe in some way played the role of transgressor or played the role of enabler.
I’d like you to lovingly go through every incident where you acted in a way that you believe hurt somebody or you acted in a way that allowed somebody to be hurt and I’d like you to gather up all of those parts of you that you perceive to be broken, because I want you to know that it is in through your embracing all of these parts, that you come back to wholeness, you come back to oneness and most importantly of all, you come back to love.
I want you to know that there is nothing that you could ever do, that would stop the Divine from loving you. I want you to know that you are held in the highest, always, and that my sweet friends, you are returning to love.
You can't hold yourself hostage for the love and the awareness that you didn't have at the time of the incident. You must evaluate yourself based on the experiences that you've had up until this point instead of based on who you were when the original incident occurred.
Holding on to the guilt, the shame and the unworthiness that you're holding within you, is not serving you and it's not serving the other individual involved either. You must cultivate the courage to let yourself off the hook.
How do you let go of the guilt and forgive yourself?
Know that everything that has occurred that you’ve taken personal responsibility for (for the most part) has happened unconsciously…
Know that unconscious choices to stay or to abide in a state of powerlessness, in the midst of trauma and abuse (as it’s unfolding) still occur…
Know that that which you believe you’ve done that damaged another person, actually in some way, has served as an evolutionary catalyst for them…
You must lovingly cultivate an inclusive relationship with the part of you that you believe was responsible for the wounding of another.
Begin to give that aspect of you a hug and cultivate a loving relationship with the part of you that was once rooted in fear. You have only ever done the best that you can.
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How To Forgive Yourself
Hi Sweet Friend its Panache!
I know that many of you believe in your heart that you have done things that are unforgivable. Either you actually did something to somebody else that hurt them or you stood by and allowed something to occur that you have deemed to be unforgivable.
Just take a deep breath. What I’m about to say is going to stretch you and it’s going to expand you. I want you to know that you can’t hold yourself hostage for the love and the awareness that you didn’t have.
Many of you when you look back on yourselves through the lens of your awareness based on where you are now—you can begin to see yourself as wanting or missing. You evaluate yourself based on the experiences that you’ve had up until this point instead of based on who you were at that point when that original incident occurred.
Quite honestly everything that has occurred that you have taken personal responsibility for, for the most part has happened unconsciously. I know this because I know who you are.
None of you that are here would consciously ever do anything to hurt another human being. It flies in the face of your purpose. It flies in the face of who you are as a human being and yet unconscious choices based in fear still happen.
Unconscious choices to stay or to abide in a state of powerlessness in the midst of trauma and abuse, as its unfolding, still occur.
So what I want to do in our time together is provide you a safe place to land. To simply let you know that that which you believe you have done that damaged another person, actually in some way has served as an evolutionary catalyst for them.
Even though you’ve personalized it and made it about you and are riddled with guilt and shame around the decisions and choices that you made at that point…. I want you to know that holding on to the guilt and the shame and the unworthiness that you are currently holding within you is not serving you and it’s not serving that individual.
In time, all things are revealed and through the lens of limited human perception we can’t begin to see the greater plan as to why things happen in the way that they do. It is for that reason that we must turn to feeling what there is to feel within us.
It is for that reason that we must cultivate the courage to let ourselves off the hook and that doesn’t mean that we’re giving ourselves permission to consciously repeat and recycle unconscious patterns over and over and over again.
I’m not giving you a “trash everybody in your life” hall pass. That’s not what I’m advocating, but what I’m advocating is for you to lovingly cultivate an inclusive relationship with the part of you that you believe was responsible for the wounding of another.
I’m advocating that you begin to give that aspect of you a hug and that you cultivate a loving relationship with the part of you that was once rooted in fear.
And so, here’s what I want you to do… I want you to close your eyes and open your palms and I want you right now to begin to feel the loving support of this energy and this presence that is God, that is the Divine, that is love.
I want you to allow this presence to just envelope you, to provide you the safety and the comfort and the nurturing, to really explore that which you have hidden away, that which you are ashamed of, that which is now be relegated to the ranks of your shadow, that which you will not allow to see the light of day - actions or behaviors that may well be the root cause of any addictive patterns or behaviors that you have right now.
Everything that you have in some way may mean that you are less of a person and that you are less available to love and be loved in return. Everything that you have made may mean that you are not a loving, compassionate, empathic, caring human being.
I’d like you to just see yourself at the age where that original incident occurred. For some of you, it may be in a marriage, newly married, abusive, explosive partner and you’re just frightened for your life and there’s an inability on your part for you to intervene or say or do anything. You just freeze in the presence of that rage.
For others of you, it may be at work where a work colleague was being shamed and bullied consistently and you knew that it wasn’t right and you didn’t speak up because you were afraid of being ostracized or in some way losing your position.
For others of you, it may be not intervening when you knew that somebody was making a bad choice or a decision that later led to them taking their own life in some way because the pain inside of them was so unmanageable.
Just see yourself at the age when that original transgression occurred, where either you were perceiving yourself as the perpetrator or the enabler. Either way, just see yourself in your mind’s eye at that age. And what I would like you to do, my beloved sweet friends, is just simply see yourself as you are, giving you, at that age, a hug.
I would love for you to embrace yourself right now completely without judgment in the same way that a mother embraces her child over and over again, regardless of what that child does. In the same way, the Divine is only ever embracing you in that same way.
I want you, right now, to give yourself a hug with profound acceptance, with profound love and most importantly of all with compassion and empathy for yourself. For yourself, recognizing; and I’m not just saying this as a throwaway, I mean it as a statement of fact that you have only ever done the best that you can.
So the best that you could do in that moment was freeze in the fear. The best that you could do in that moment was hurt another person. The best that you could do in that moment was lash out. The best that you could do in that moment was engage in your reality through your survival functioning or through your survival mechanism—your fight or flight or freeze mechanism.
But that is just a part of you, that isn’t the totality of who you are.
So as you’re embracing yourself, at whatever age this original incident occurred, I’m just going to lovingly support that part of you in once again being fully enveloped in the light, being fully embraced by the light, in coming home to the divinity that it is and the light being revealed in the midst of this situation and scenario.
I want to support you right now in this moment in being freed of this burden that you’ve been carrying around or you feel responsible for what you did or for what you didn’t do. Either way, the identification with what occurred is the cause of suffering.
I’m going to lovingly ask that as you embrace this aspect of you, that the suffering associated with this incident just dissolve, recognizing again that you are a loving, kind, empathic, compassionate soul and that you would never do anything to hurt another person on purpose.
I know this about you. I know that you are innately love. I know that you are innately kindness. I know that you are a blessing upon this earth.
Just continue to breathe, relax and receive, and I invite you beyond this one particular example to do this for every aspect of you that you believe in some way played the role of transgressor or played the role of enabler.
I’d like you to lovingly go through every incident where you acted in a way that you believe hurt somebody or you acted in a way that allowed somebody to be hurt and I’d like you to gather up all of those parts of you that you perceive to be broken, because I want you to know that it is in through your embracing all of these parts, that you come back to wholeness, you come back to oneness and most importantly of all, you come back to love.
I want you to know that there is nothing that you could ever do, that would stop the Divine from loving you. I want you to know that you are held in the highest, always, and that my sweet friends, you are returning to love.
July 13, 2016
How To Forgive And Let Go
Are you still carrying within you the burdens of the past? Things that have happened to you that you simply just can't forgive or move on from?
As much as you may be justified in holding onto these things… In actuality, it's just further keeping you trapped in limitation. As long as you're holding onto the slights or the traumas of the past, you can't be available for the love and the blessings that are arising in the present and the glorious life that is emerging in the future.
You must cultivate the ability to experience and feel everything you have inside of you around what has happened, so that you can get to a place of neutrality and abide in this ever-present expansion that is wanting to unfold deep within you.
How can you reconcile everything within you that you believe you need to forgive? Try this exercise:
Grab a piece of paper and a pen.
Jot down a painful or traumatic experience that you’ve had in your life.
Write down the particulars, the details (whatever unfolded)—just commit it to paper.
Jot down a couple of sentences about what happened and what you specifically experienced.
Be with what you’ve written down on the page and acknowledge what happened.
This exercise will allow you to create a connection or a doorway through which resolution and completion can begin to occur in your experience. You’re giving your density an outlet for expression.
What we do not bring into the light of our awareness controls us. This brave, courageous first step of committing words to the page is actually a doorway to bring that which is unconscious into the light of our conscious awareness, and that, simply stated, is how forgiveness, at the deepest level, unfolds within us.
Continue to abide in this and continue to participate in setting yourself free from the past.
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HOW TO FORGIVE AND LET GO
Hi beloved Friends, It’s Panache!
Many of you are still carrying within you the burdens of the past—things that have happened to you that you simply just can’t forgive or move on from.
I want you to know that as much as you may be justified in holding onto these things—that in truth, actually all they are serving or all they’re accomplishing to do is further keep you trapped in limitation.
As long as you’re holding onto the slights of the past or the traumas of the past, you can’t be available for the love and the blessings that are arising in the present and the glorious life that is emerging in the future.
It is for that reason that you must cultivate the ability to experience and feel everything that you have to inside of you around what has happened so that you can get to a place of neutrality and so that you can abide in this ever present expansion that is wanting to unfold deep within you.
So right now I want to provide you with a tangible exercise that you can do in this moment to begin to help you reconcile everything within your life that you believe you need to forgive.
People, for the most part, are acting unconsciously. That means that they’re not even aware of what it is that they’re doing.
Hurt people hurt people in turn.
And it is for that reason that we as conscious beings must end the cycle of hurt and hate by relinquishing whatever it is that we’re holding onto as it relates to the past so that we can be free.
So what I want you to do right now is to grab a piece of paper and a pen. I’m just gonna give you a few seconds to go ahead and get everything that you need and what I would like you to do is to begin to jot down a painful experience or traumatic experience that you’ve had in your life.
It can be something that has happened to you that you have deemed to be unforgivable—like abuse, abandonment, or rejection in the worst way. Somebody did something to you that was so unconscionable, that it is forever impacted you.
I want you to find whatever that one thing is and write it down. And for those of you that haven’t had the intensity of those experiences, I can guarantee you that there is still one thing from your past that you’re holding onto.
Regardless of how you perceive it and regardless of the level of intensity, or the intensity of feeling that you have around it, just take a moment and just jot it down. I would like to know from your perspective, what happened. Just simply write down the particulars, write down the details, write down whatever unfolded—just commit it to paper.
There’s something magical that happens when we can begin to allow consciousness, or a stream of consciousness to flow through us in the form of the written word—something that I’ve lovingly come to call purge writing.
You know there are so many things that have occurred to us that we’ve internalized, that out of fear of being abandoned or rejected, or out of fear of not being loved, we won’t even share with those people that are closest to us.
The good news is that we don’t have to. We just need to create a conscious creative outlet for the feelings that we have repressed or suppressed and denied within us.
Ultimately, my beloved friend, that which you hold onto, limits you. That which you refuse to feel, keeps you stuck in a reality that doesn’t allow you to receive.
And so just jot down a couple of sentences about what happened, about what specifically you experienced and in jotting down these words on the page, you’re now creating a connection or a doorway through which resolution and completion can begin to occur in your experience and most importantly of all, where you can come back to a place of harmony and love inside of your own heart.
Just continue to just jot some stuff down. I know many of you right now, your hand’s just moving on the page and everything’s just streaming out of you. Just let it. It’s okay. What we’re doing is giving our density an outlet for expression.
What if I can’t forgive? What if what happened to me was so intense that in some way has left me damaged or broken? What if I will never be able to be loved again because of what happened or never be able to be vulnerable or intimate again because of the trauma and the pain that I’ve experienced that quite honestly had nothing to do with me. I was the end result of the trauma and victimhood and hurtfulness and pain of another human being. It’s not my fault Panache, I’m tired and I want to move on.
These are sentiments that I know all too well my beloved friends.
Now what I want you to do is just simply be with what you have written down on the page. For some of you, this may be the first time that you’ve acknowledged to yourself what happened. For some of you, this memory or this occurrence has been so painful that you’ve filed it away in the back of your memory banks never to see the light of day.
Well I want you to know that that which we do not bring into the light of our awareness controls us. This brave courageous act, this brave courageous first step of committing words to the page is actually an entrée or a doorway to bring that which is unconscious into the light of our conscious awareness and that simply stated is how forgiveness at the deepest level unfolds within us.
For some of you right now, that may be “I was abused”. For some of you that may be “I was adopted”, “my mother gave me away” and for some of you that may be “I stayed in an abusive relationship where my child was in danger because I was living with somebody who was volatile”.
For some of you, that may be “somebody financially cheated me” and for others of you that may be a sexual violation of some kind or a lifetime of being bullied.
Whatever it is my beloved friends the first step is to acknowledge it. The truth always sets us free and in this moment I want you to know that it is 100% safe for you to begin to open the door because there is so much love and so much grace and so much presence right now that is wanting to support you and it’s wanting to lift this burden off of you.
I’m sorry that you went through what you went through and I want you to know that you no longer need to carry the weight of what happened around with you.
Come back to this, revisit it; be with the words that you’ve committed to the page; allow more words to flow. Consciously engage in a purge writing practice where you just simply think of the event and allow your hand to move on the page.
You, my beloved friend, by virtue, of the fact that you’re here—are being given an opportunity to relinquish the past, to move on from it and most importantly of all, move beyond the question of “What if I can’t forgive? ”.
This simply allowing forgiveness in its authentic and most real form to occur by bringing it into being, by allowing yourself to translate the experience into feeling and by most importantly of all opening your heart once again to love.
I want to thank you for the courage that it takes to acknowledge what once happened to you. I know it isn’t easy and I want you to know that as a result of your courage, you’ll be supported by the energy and by grace to move on from that which you once believed you would never move on from.
I love you with all of my heart, I’m here for you. Thank you for being here. Continue to abide in this and continue to participate in setting yourself free from the past.
As much as you may be justified in holding onto these things… In actuality, it's just further keeping you trapped in limitation. As long as you're holding onto the slights or the traumas of the past, you can't be available for the love and the blessings that are arising in the present and the glorious life that is emerging in the future.
You must cultivate the ability to experience and feel everything you have inside of you around what has happened, so that you can get to a place of neutrality and abide in this ever-present expansion that is wanting to unfold deep within you.
How can you reconcile everything within you that you believe you need to forgive? Try this exercise:
Grab a piece of paper and a pen.
Jot down a painful or traumatic experience that you’ve had in your life.
Write down the particulars, the details (whatever unfolded)—just commit it to paper.
Jot down a couple of sentences about what happened and what you specifically experienced.
Be with what you’ve written down on the page and acknowledge what happened.
This exercise will allow you to create a connection or a doorway through which resolution and completion can begin to occur in your experience. You’re giving your density an outlet for expression.
What we do not bring into the light of our awareness controls us. This brave, courageous first step of committing words to the page is actually a doorway to bring that which is unconscious into the light of our conscious awareness, and that, simply stated, is how forgiveness, at the deepest level, unfolds within us.
Continue to abide in this and continue to participate in setting yourself free from the past.
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TRANSCRIPT
HOW TO FORGIVE AND LET GO
Hi beloved Friends, It’s Panache!
Many of you are still carrying within you the burdens of the past—things that have happened to you that you simply just can’t forgive or move on from.
I want you to know that as much as you may be justified in holding onto these things—that in truth, actually all they are serving or all they’re accomplishing to do is further keep you trapped in limitation.
As long as you’re holding onto the slights of the past or the traumas of the past, you can’t be available for the love and the blessings that are arising in the present and the glorious life that is emerging in the future.
It is for that reason that you must cultivate the ability to experience and feel everything that you have to inside of you around what has happened so that you can get to a place of neutrality and so that you can abide in this ever present expansion that is wanting to unfold deep within you.
So right now I want to provide you with a tangible exercise that you can do in this moment to begin to help you reconcile everything within your life that you believe you need to forgive.
People, for the most part, are acting unconsciously. That means that they’re not even aware of what it is that they’re doing.
Hurt people hurt people in turn.
And it is for that reason that we as conscious beings must end the cycle of hurt and hate by relinquishing whatever it is that we’re holding onto as it relates to the past so that we can be free.
So what I want you to do right now is to grab a piece of paper and a pen. I’m just gonna give you a few seconds to go ahead and get everything that you need and what I would like you to do is to begin to jot down a painful experience or traumatic experience that you’ve had in your life.
It can be something that has happened to you that you have deemed to be unforgivable—like abuse, abandonment, or rejection in the worst way. Somebody did something to you that was so unconscionable, that it is forever impacted you.
I want you to find whatever that one thing is and write it down. And for those of you that haven’t had the intensity of those experiences, I can guarantee you that there is still one thing from your past that you’re holding onto.
Regardless of how you perceive it and regardless of the level of intensity, or the intensity of feeling that you have around it, just take a moment and just jot it down. I would like to know from your perspective, what happened. Just simply write down the particulars, write down the details, write down whatever unfolded—just commit it to paper.
There’s something magical that happens when we can begin to allow consciousness, or a stream of consciousness to flow through us in the form of the written word—something that I’ve lovingly come to call purge writing.
You know there are so many things that have occurred to us that we’ve internalized, that out of fear of being abandoned or rejected, or out of fear of not being loved, we won’t even share with those people that are closest to us.
The good news is that we don’t have to. We just need to create a conscious creative outlet for the feelings that we have repressed or suppressed and denied within us.
Ultimately, my beloved friend, that which you hold onto, limits you. That which you refuse to feel, keeps you stuck in a reality that doesn’t allow you to receive.
And so just jot down a couple of sentences about what happened, about what specifically you experienced and in jotting down these words on the page, you’re now creating a connection or a doorway through which resolution and completion can begin to occur in your experience and most importantly of all, where you can come back to a place of harmony and love inside of your own heart.
Just continue to just jot some stuff down. I know many of you right now, your hand’s just moving on the page and everything’s just streaming out of you. Just let it. It’s okay. What we’re doing is giving our density an outlet for expression.
What if I can’t forgive? What if what happened to me was so intense that in some way has left me damaged or broken? What if I will never be able to be loved again because of what happened or never be able to be vulnerable or intimate again because of the trauma and the pain that I’ve experienced that quite honestly had nothing to do with me. I was the end result of the trauma and victimhood and hurtfulness and pain of another human being. It’s not my fault Panache, I’m tired and I want to move on.
These are sentiments that I know all too well my beloved friends.
Now what I want you to do is just simply be with what you have written down on the page. For some of you, this may be the first time that you’ve acknowledged to yourself what happened. For some of you, this memory or this occurrence has been so painful that you’ve filed it away in the back of your memory banks never to see the light of day.
Well I want you to know that that which we do not bring into the light of our awareness controls us. This brave courageous act, this brave courageous first step of committing words to the page is actually an entrée or a doorway to bring that which is unconscious into the light of our conscious awareness and that simply stated is how forgiveness at the deepest level unfolds within us.
For some of you right now, that may be “I was abused”. For some of you that may be “I was adopted”, “my mother gave me away” and for some of you that may be “I stayed in an abusive relationship where my child was in danger because I was living with somebody who was volatile”.
For some of you, that may be “somebody financially cheated me” and for others of you that may be a sexual violation of some kind or a lifetime of being bullied.
Whatever it is my beloved friends the first step is to acknowledge it. The truth always sets us free and in this moment I want you to know that it is 100% safe for you to begin to open the door because there is so much love and so much grace and so much presence right now that is wanting to support you and it’s wanting to lift this burden off of you.
I’m sorry that you went through what you went through and I want you to know that you no longer need to carry the weight of what happened around with you.
Come back to this, revisit it; be with the words that you’ve committed to the page; allow more words to flow. Consciously engage in a purge writing practice where you just simply think of the event and allow your hand to move on the page.
You, my beloved friend, by virtue, of the fact that you’re here—are being given an opportunity to relinquish the past, to move on from it and most importantly of all, move beyond the question of “What if I can’t forgive? ”.
This simply allowing forgiveness in its authentic and most real form to occur by bringing it into being, by allowing yourself to translate the experience into feeling and by most importantly of all opening your heart once again to love.
I want to thank you for the courage that it takes to acknowledge what once happened to you. I know it isn’t easy and I want you to know that as a result of your courage, you’ll be supported by the energy and by grace to move on from that which you once believed you would never move on from.
I love you with all of my heart, I’m here for you. Thank you for being here. Continue to abide in this and continue to participate in setting yourself free from the past.
