Marguerite Bennett's Blog, page 34

chefpyro:my cat: *grabs my hand the same way felines in the wild use to snap their prey’s neck*me:...

chefpyro:

my cat: *grabs my hand the same way felines in the wild use to snap their prey’s neck*

me: aww. you think you can kill me? fool. you are far too weak to challenge me. i love you

"Let’s examine that a bit. “Men don’t see dirt the way women do.” That’s a pretty common assertion...."

“Let’s examine that a bit. “Men don’t see dirt the way women do.” That’s a pretty common assertion. And it’s bullshit. Vision problems aside, we’re all seeing the same dirty house; we’re just interpreting it differently. You and your boyfriend both walk in, see the pile of crap on the kitchen counter, and have different reactions to it. You likely think, “Man, that pile of crap is really bugging me. I should really clean it up a little.” He likely sees it and thinks, “Huh. Pile of crap. It’ll get taken care of.”

Why does he think that? Well, because we’re dealing with endless generations of social gender constructs that tell us that taking care of the home is “women’s work.” Whether you or your boyfriend or your parents or your peer group believe these constructs is largely irrelevant, though, because it’s so deeply ingrained in our society that it permeates every level of culture: You see it in TV shows, movies, commercials, in the workplace, in literature, and in almost every facet of life. There’s no escaping it.

So when someone says, “Men don’t see dirt the way women do,” what they’re actually saying is, “Men have been conditioned over generations to process the dirt that they see in a way that requires no further action on their part.” It’s not genetic. It’s learned. And it can be unlearned.”

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Ask UfYH: Don’t Give Me This Whole “Men Don’t See the Mess” Bullshit | Persephone Magazine (via brutereason)

what the fuxk i never realised this
when my apartment is a mess im nearly in tears from being so upset and bothered and whatever male partner is like meh

and i ask them to at least put their trash in the bin cause i dont have the energy to pick up their empty chip bags and soda bottles all day long and they say ok

And then it sits for a week because it doesnt bother them

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This even happens between me (a trans guy) and my cis male roommate. to my endless frustration. He’s a great guy otherwise, but he just doesn’t react to disarray the same way I do.

I think part of it is cis men assuming someone else will do it, but that’s not the whole of it. I think they’re not conditioned to view dirt and disarray as something that reflects on their value as a person. Cis men aren’t taught that their value depends on their appeal to others, nor are they taught that the appeal of their home directly affects their own appeal, as well as their perceived effectiveness at their primary social roles.

Meaning that when roomie was living on his own, his apartment was impossible to walk through not because he assumed anyone would fix it for him, but because he didn’t think to prioritize it. Nor, had he through to, did he know how to keep house.

Which is point three. It’s absolutely appalling that boys aren’t taught basic housekeeping, because it gives them an excuse to never try AND it puts them in a very bad position if and when they do live on their own. And housekeeping is more complicated than the general consensus acknowledges. How is someone supposed to know the difference between dish soap and detergent, or what cleaners you shouldn’t use on wood, or on unsealed walls? When are clothes supposed to be washed in hot water versus cold? What does cleaning carpets entail, and how is that different from wood or tile?

So yeah. A lot of cis men just assume a woman will get around to doing it, I’m sure, but that’s not the whole story. Men are conditioned not to feel that uncleanliness reflects heavily upon them and they’re not given the knowledge to keep house when and if they actually realize they need to. Understanding that might be a little more effect than just blaming (cis) men for being, once again, oafish and terrible.

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I seat an unhealthy percentage of my self-worth in the cleanliness of my baseboards.

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A post shared by Chase Dekker Wild-Life Images (@chasedekkerphotography) on Apr 16, 2017 at 6:11pm PDT

mylestring:

why-animals-do-the-thing:

gossipinglawns:

honeysucker:

swdyww:

Love u

This gave me shivers if I ever saw a whale this close in the wild I would like transcend

This video is so fuckig beautiful…….

This is my favorite “close whale experience” video because nobody even tried to touch the whale. 

THIS ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^

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babyanimalgifs:

if ur feeling sad, look at this capybara; he’s just happy to be friends with everyone

micdotcom:Hundreds rally outside Trump Tower to protest white...

micdotcom:

Hundreds rally outside Trump Tower to protest white supremacy
“Racism is evil,”
But for the thousands of people who showed up outside Trump Tower in New York City on Monday evening to protest, the president’s words were a bucket of ice water on a violent blaze in America that was left to burn out of control for far too long. Read more (8/14/17 6 PM)

revolutionarykoolaid:Another Day in White Supremacy (8/26/17):...

revolutionarykoolaid:

Another Day in White Supremacy (8/26/17): The absolute piece of shit known as Joe Arpaio should be rotting in a jail cell, but the even more disgusting, festering pestilence known as Donald Trump pardoned him today. Using the cover of an oncoming hurricane, and the slow news day of a Friday, Trump also signed a ban on the military paying for reassignment surgery (more on that later). Absolutely disgusted! (x) 

your-naked-magic-oh-dear-lord:pugsarelub:seaymph:I want to make you feel like a humid Southern...

your-naked-magic-oh-dear-lord:

pugsarelub:

seaymph:

I want to make you feel like a humid Southern night, where the Spanish moss drips from the trees like lace, and honeysuckle buds perfume the air. Sticky, glistening skin. Sultry and forever.

and fifty dozen mosquitos are sucking your body dry and cicadas scream so loud you can never sleep and watch where your honeysuckle ass steps or you’ll plant your foot on a pissed off copperhead

One person is from the south. One person isn’t. Guess which.

cinexphile:Wonder Woman (2017) by Doaly

cinexphile:

Wonder Woman (2017) by Doaly

karnythia:solacekames:steviemcfly:You can’t pull a “he had a...

karnythia:

solacekames:

steviemcfly:

You can’t pull a “he had a black friend” when your son commits an act of terrorism in the name of white supremacy, also has swastikas and shit on his facebook.

I think we all know of families where the parents are wonderful people and their kid just turned out the wrong way so I don’t believe in blanket familial blame. But what I do blame parents like this for is willful ignorance. If someone in your family is turning into a fucking Nazi terrorist, you can’t just “let it slide” and continue to give them material support. You have to disengage. You have to speak up. 

It’s kind of haunting that if his mother hadn’t supported him by watching his cat while he went off to Charlottesville, Heather Heyer might still be alive today.

I don’t actually believe she didn’t know. Note that knee jerk defense of Trump. She might not have known what he planned to do, but she knew her son was a racist and she thought it was no big deal. I’d also bet the friend she references is a kid from high school who can barely remember her son’s name. Or a coworker.