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May 4, 2019
Top 5 Lessons this Week
When you trust yourself, you trust others. Your connections deepen.
When you trust yourself, you're more productive, and the work is created with ease.
When you trust yourself, you're more confident. You're not comparing yourself to others or second-guessing what you're doing.
When you trust yourself, you can surrender more. You can relax and feel the ease you've been craving. Kate Courageous
Good day lovies
I missed you, the week ran I had the opportunity to be a part of a wonderful group of people from different countries throughout the Caribbean. The days began early and went on long. Yesterday was the last day of the workshop piloting two tools for community businesses one called the Green/Blue Radar and the Value Chain Analysis for Climate Smart Solutions.
Despite it being a workshop for community businesses, I had some profound lessons:
1. Expect the Unexpected - this is my biggest expectation because I cannot predict anything, I have zero control over every single thing. When the unexpected shows up I say, I was expecting you! Let me handle this
2. Let Go Of The Need to Be In Control - Let the shoulds go, let the "this is the way it should be" go. Let go of the ego.
3.Set Boundaries - Boundaries determine what you allow in your life and what you don't.
4. Show up and do your best in the moment - sometimes you may be feeling like crap and have to execute, show up do your best and leave the guilt out.
5.Unlearning is just as important as Learning - sometimes the AHA moment comes in the Unlearning.
Peace
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When you trust yourself, you're more productive, and the work is created with ease.
When you trust yourself, you're more confident. You're not comparing yourself to others or second-guessing what you're doing.
When you trust yourself, you can surrender more. You can relax and feel the ease you've been craving. Kate Courageous
Good day lovies
I missed you, the week ran I had the opportunity to be a part of a wonderful group of people from different countries throughout the Caribbean. The days began early and went on long. Yesterday was the last day of the workshop piloting two tools for community businesses one called the Green/Blue Radar and the Value Chain Analysis for Climate Smart Solutions.
Despite it being a workshop for community businesses, I had some profound lessons:
1. Expect the Unexpected - this is my biggest expectation because I cannot predict anything, I have zero control over every single thing. When the unexpected shows up I say, I was expecting you! Let me handle this
2. Let Go Of The Need to Be In Control - Let the shoulds go, let the "this is the way it should be" go. Let go of the ego.
3.Set Boundaries - Boundaries determine what you allow in your life and what you don't.
4. Show up and do your best in the moment - sometimes you may be feeling like crap and have to execute, show up do your best and leave the guilt out.
5.Unlearning is just as important as Learning - sometimes the AHA moment comes in the Unlearning.
Peace
Have you read any of Akosua's work?What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal
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April 30, 2019
Losing - a new perspective
You must be willing to lose everything to gain everything
- Iyanla
When we are afraid of losing something, we resist, we hold on, we justify, we make excuses, we rationalise
And I get it, change is tough, it seems inconvenient, it seems almost a bother.
There is no growth without change, without doing the inconvenient, without being courageous, without showing up!
Are you willing to lose everything to gain everything? That question used to freak me out, how on earth can I just give up what I have worked for?
Until I learnt that everything is temporary and giving up things can be part of the journey.
Are you willing to lose everything to gain everything?
Are you willing to look at losing through a different lens?
If we look at it as a clearing of sorts, to make way for what you really want, your purpose, your calling.
Do the little things, let go of resentment, let go of bitterness, let go of people who are not in your tribe, let go of core reliefs that does not serve you, start there.
Peace
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When we are afraid of losing something, we resist, we hold on, we justify, we make excuses, we rationalise
And I get it, change is tough, it seems inconvenient, it seems almost a bother.
There is no growth without change, without doing the inconvenient, without being courageous, without showing up!
Are you willing to lose everything to gain everything? That question used to freak me out, how on earth can I just give up what I have worked for?
Until I learnt that everything is temporary and giving up things can be part of the journey.
Are you willing to lose everything to gain everything?
Are you willing to look at losing through a different lens?
If we look at it as a clearing of sorts, to make way for what you really want, your purpose, your calling.
Do the little things, let go of resentment, let go of bitterness, let go of people who are not in your tribe, let go of core reliefs that does not serve you, start there.
Peace
Have you read any of Akosua's work?What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
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April 29, 2019
You May Need to Say No
You’ll probably want to say yes.
Those are the things you must say no to in order to protect your time. In order to move the needle forward on your life, your expansion, your joys—you have to say no to the things you often want to say yes to. You need the no more than you need yes M
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I want to say yes to so many things. So many activities, projects, events. I have learnt that I simply cannot say yes to them all, for a number of reasons
Well, of course, there is one of me and many events. There is also limited time.
There is of course discernment and boundaries. The things that you must say no to help in building your courage, discernment and boundaries. Very important tools on the Journey.
Discernment allows you to use your intuition when making a decision.
Saying no allows you to focus on self care, that time which is essential in refilling your cup.
Saying no also provides the practice in releasing guilt which is so much of a wasted emotion.
Learning to say No is totally a required tool on the Journey.
Peace
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I want to say yes to so many things. So many activities, projects, events. I have learnt that I simply cannot say yes to them all, for a number of reasons
Well, of course, there is one of me and many events. There is also limited time.
There is of course discernment and boundaries. The things that you must say no to help in building your courage, discernment and boundaries. Very important tools on the Journey.
Discernment allows you to use your intuition when making a decision.
Saying no allows you to focus on self care, that time which is essential in refilling your cup.
Saying no also provides the practice in releasing guilt which is so much of a wasted emotion.
Learning to say No is totally a required tool on the Journey.
Peace
Have you read any of Akosua's work?What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal
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April 27, 2019
Transformation vs Loss
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Personal transformation can and does have global effects. As we go, so goes the world, for the world is us. The revolution that will save the world is ultimately a personal one.”
Marianne Williamson
What did I learn today? Ok, so simple thing, I lost my car keys on the streets of Kampala while I was iving there. I don’t know how and I have no explanation! Not a great feeling, so I kicked into finding a solution time. Called back to base, I was a bit out of it, they told me they will send someone to collect me, sit tight then we will discuss when I get back. Simple right? Well who knew there would be some lesson in this? When I arrived to base, I’m hot and sweaty and not best pleased feeling pretty careless for losing the key then she started talking and I thought hmm let me pay attention I know the tone of voice when there’s a story coming.She said to me Madam, on your journey, you often experience the loss of things, especially things that are near and dear to you, You may sometimes feel the path of your past is littered with people, possessions and perceptions that were once a comfort to you but you could not hold ontoIt often appears as though you need to lose things before you can see beyond them. Hear me, - before you can see beyond them. You mistake symbols for the real thing. A human relationship is a symbol of love, but love itself is greater than any relationship. A job is an avenue of income, but it is not the source of your sustenance.
You cling to your relationships as though as though they are the love of your life, you cling to your job as though they are your security, to your bodies as though you are merely flesh and bone, You place so much importance on your symbols in defining who you are that you cannot get beyond them to see the real youOn this journey, you must be able to see who you really are beyond the people,places and things that you are identified with. It’s all a matter of perspective, Your attention needs a kaleidoscope twist! You know what that is? Nothing has to be inserted or removed to get a new view. So twist the kaleidoscope so that you can see other possibilitiesTransformation is the issue here not loss! You will appear to lose these very things if that is the only way you will allow yourself to get a new angle on life
I said to her are we still talking about me losing the keys here?
Madam, you have very many odd responses and remarks for someone who is supposed to be smart! Let’s go get the car before someone steals it!
Peace!
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What did I learn today? Ok, so simple thing, I lost my car keys on the streets of Kampala while I was iving there. I don’t know how and I have no explanation! Not a great feeling, so I kicked into finding a solution time. Called back to base, I was a bit out of it, they told me they will send someone to collect me, sit tight then we will discuss when I get back. Simple right? Well who knew there would be some lesson in this? When I arrived to base, I’m hot and sweaty and not best pleased feeling pretty careless for losing the key then she started talking and I thought hmm let me pay attention I know the tone of voice when there’s a story coming.She said to me Madam, on your journey, you often experience the loss of things, especially things that are near and dear to you, You may sometimes feel the path of your past is littered with people, possessions and perceptions that were once a comfort to you but you could not hold ontoIt often appears as though you need to lose things before you can see beyond them. Hear me, - before you can see beyond them. You mistake symbols for the real thing. A human relationship is a symbol of love, but love itself is greater than any relationship. A job is an avenue of income, but it is not the source of your sustenance.
You cling to your relationships as though as though they are the love of your life, you cling to your job as though they are your security, to your bodies as though you are merely flesh and bone, You place so much importance on your symbols in defining who you are that you cannot get beyond them to see the real youOn this journey, you must be able to see who you really are beyond the people,places and things that you are identified with. It’s all a matter of perspective, Your attention needs a kaleidoscope twist! You know what that is? Nothing has to be inserted or removed to get a new view. So twist the kaleidoscope so that you can see other possibilitiesTransformation is the issue here not loss! You will appear to lose these very things if that is the only way you will allow yourself to get a new angle on life
I said to her are we still talking about me losing the keys here?
Madam, you have very many odd responses and remarks for someone who is supposed to be smart! Let’s go get the car before someone steals it!
Peace!
Have you read any of Akosua's work?What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
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April 26, 2019
It is your moral duty to be happy
It is your moral duty to be happy: however you cannot exercise this duty by clutching unrealistic beliefs, struggling with unworkable assumptions, juggling painful images, jumping to false conclusions, running with impulsive decisions or hasty judgements Sufi Hazarat Inayat Khan
You probably heard it before, that happiness is an inside job. It is truly your own responsibility. Being happy involves making choices that may sometimes piss other people off, that may not be popular or that may make you feel guilty based on unquestioned core beliefs.
This is not to say that you have to be a complete jerk! It merely suggests that guilt, people pleasing and holding others responsible for your own happiness is a recipe for disaster.
So, find a way to make yourself happy, make the choice, do the thing, learn the lessons and do something that makes you happy every day.
Peace
Akosua
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April 25, 2019
Your choice is determined by what you value
If you allow yourselves to become preoccupied with the temporal, you are
living in time. As always, your choice is determined by what you value. Time and eternity cannot both be real because they contradict each other. If you will accept only what is timeless as real, you will begin to understand eternity and make it yours
.ACIM
As I stood in the kitchen this morning I realised that some of the things I worried or fussed about seems no longer important, don't get me wrong, those things are still there, but now my attention is somewhere else so there is less time for me to dwell on it.
What I have learnt is there is a balance between giving of yourself to a cause because you want to and giving of yourself because of expectations.
It is all in the intention. The Why
When I am fully immersed in serving with the sole intention of serving, the little things do not become big things, I am able to discern that some of the things that I am fussing over is really a call to action to shift focus from ego or they are totally unimportant.
When we are called into serving something bigger than ourselves, we can discern an ego based decision with a purpose based decision.
The foundations upon which we build our lives sometimes change, they become stronger and more solid
The pettiness and entitlement behaviour becomes less and less, we become less judgemental and more compassionate.
We are all called to serve in some way. Some may ignore the calling and continue to search
I truly believe there is a unique divine purpose for each and every one of us, when we decide to listen to the guidance and follow it, our level of service to our communities, our own lives becomes even more phenomenal and purposeful.
Peace
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As I stood in the kitchen this morning I realised that some of the things I worried or fussed about seems no longer important, don't get me wrong, those things are still there, but now my attention is somewhere else so there is less time for me to dwell on it.
What I have learnt is there is a balance between giving of yourself to a cause because you want to and giving of yourself because of expectations.
It is all in the intention. The Why
When I am fully immersed in serving with the sole intention of serving, the little things do not become big things, I am able to discern that some of the things that I am fussing over is really a call to action to shift focus from ego or they are totally unimportant.
When we are called into serving something bigger than ourselves, we can discern an ego based decision with a purpose based decision.
The foundations upon which we build our lives sometimes change, they become stronger and more solid
The pettiness and entitlement behaviour becomes less and less, we become less judgemental and more compassionate.
We are all called to serve in some way. Some may ignore the calling and continue to search
I truly believe there is a unique divine purpose for each and every one of us, when we decide to listen to the guidance and follow it, our level of service to our communities, our own lives becomes even more phenomenal and purposeful.
Peace
Have you read any of Akosua's work?What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
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April 24, 2019
10 Lessons I have Learnt
All things are lessons that God would have us learn
- ACIM
10 Lessons that I have Learnt:
1. The Little Things Are Really The Big Things - showing up for friends and family, the sunrise, the ocean, the phone call, the text, the showing up!
2. Do your Best in the Moment - even if you are suffering and unwell, the best in the moment eliminates guilt
3. Your Health is Your Wealth - no health, no work, no money
4. This Too Shall Pass - nothing lasts forever and everything is temporary
5. Do Not Compare Yourself to Others - You don't know their story, or the work they have put in
6. Follow Your Intuition - it hardly ever leads you astray
7. Nothing you buy or acquire will improve your self belief
8. The Doubts will be there - do not listen to them or let it fool you
9. Show up as yourself every single time!
10. Put yourself first
PeaceHave you read any of Akosua's work?What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
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10 Lessons that I have Learnt:
1. The Little Things Are Really The Big Things - showing up for friends and family, the sunrise, the ocean, the phone call, the text, the showing up!
2. Do your Best in the Moment - even if you are suffering and unwell, the best in the moment eliminates guilt
3. Your Health is Your Wealth - no health, no work, no money
4. This Too Shall Pass - nothing lasts forever and everything is temporary
5. Do Not Compare Yourself to Others - You don't know their story, or the work they have put in
6. Follow Your Intuition - it hardly ever leads you astray
7. Nothing you buy or acquire will improve your self belief
8. The Doubts will be there - do not listen to them or let it fool you
9. Show up as yourself every single time!
10. Put yourself first
PeaceHave you read any of Akosua's work?What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
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April 23, 2019
Not Interested in Competition
Not interested in conflict, competition or guilt Carolyn MyssOne of my very good friends told me that I compete only with myself. I found that to be both a reminder and a testament of how I want to live.
I want to be my best me. I define my best me as eating well, resting well, working well and sharing well.
Well meaning with the view that I am doing what is the absolute best thing for me in that moment, and when the best is with me and within me, I can share from that cup of wellness.
Many times before I have made many decisions from a space of guilt and competing with others. I have learnt that this method promoted my feelings of not enoughness. There was no amount of peace I got from comparing where I was and what I had to others. It really just made me work more and more without purpose.
Having felt these feelings of not enoughness, guilt and overwork, I vowed that I refuse to feel that way ever again and decided to concentrate on doing my best in the moment.
Some days I may be not be feeling 100% and on those days I still focus on doing my best in the moment minus guilt.
Peace
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April 20, 2019
What we look for is what we see.
What we look for is what we see. If you see a world that denies you what you need, that is the world you will experience, but if you see a world that gives you everything you need and more, that is the world you will co-create with and expand with your vision of life. Anne Davin
This morning I went on a hiking trail, a group invited me to go. Firstly I was hesitant because I know that they are quite fit, they usually run marathons and this trail was part of their training. Secondly, I am recovering from my injured shoulder so I was also fearful of how the hand would hold up. In the end I decided to go, to challenge myself and to come out of the comfort zone.
I am so happy that I did go
It was tough, the hills were long and the trail included fallen trees and bush
I made the decision to start talking to myself with encouraging words, to rest when I am tired and to only compete with myself.
At one point I lost the group, I was alone in the forest with the birds and trees, I stopped and looked up, the sun was shining through the trees, the leaves were red and looked like a carpet on the ground, the birds and other insects were making a choir. As I stopped I saw butterflies around me. I took a deep breath
It became clear that it really is mindset over matter and what you seek you will find
If I focused on how hard it was, how much the leaves made the trail slippery I would miss the red leaves, the butterflies, the sun peeking through the trees, the butterflies guiding me on the path.
What are you looking for on your trail?
Peace
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April 19, 2019
Everything is Fleeting
You want everything to remain the same. You don’t accept that everything is temporary. Life moves in cycles generating new life and yes, death, and nothing will stop that universal movement. Accepting that everything that exists is only temporary allows you to release your attachment to things, people and even to your definition of yourself. This is how you continue to learn and evolve. Ana RodriguezI have been practising healthy detachment - which in my definition is keeping in mind always that everything is temporary, feel the feelings, then let it go knowing that all things are lessons that God would have us learn. It seems that when I decide on a way forward, the Universe says - ah let me see if you are serious.For the week since practising this principle:1. My favourite bracelet broke into fine pieces and scattered all over the floor.2. Someone who is supposed to be a good friend has proven that their definition of friendship is different to mine3. There has been talk that I may be involuntarily transitioning out of a long term contract arrangement that I have been in to earn income
All incidents reminding me that everything changes and the moment that I want to hold on to it is the start of suffering.
What are you holding on to that you need to let go of to move you forward?Peace
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