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What Does it Mean to Flexible?

Flexibility means surrendering, giving up your preconceived notions about people, circumstances and the way things should be. Flexibility is a reflection of your willingness to do what needs to be done with no attachment to how it gets done - Iyanla Vanzant

Having something done a certain way because "it was always done that way", or because someone we trust told us that it is meant to be that way is safe. Many times, what we want to do and be turns out differently, and we stress the hell out of ourselves looking to change it. We think it is wrong or we feel guilty that it is different, we don't recognise this way.

Life is so much bigger than what we know.

Life has so many possibilities and pathways, why limit ourselves to only what we know?
I get it, yes it's safer, its easier to control the outcome, we know where we are going.
I have learnt that when I am willing to be flexible, the results are so much more fascinating and magnificent and mind blowing.
I was taught that to have a decent life included the specific steps of going to school, doing well, passing all the grades, getting a University education and then a job, a car, a family and die. Throw in some vacations in there for good measure.
I walked that road and here I am with some what was prescribed as the formula, but there were twists and turns which stressed me out to the point of making myself crazy.
Where I am now, I am pretty much content with  my situation, knowing that my willingness to be open to flexing the path has lead me here.
Be flexible
Let life guide you
Listen to the guidance
Keep and open mind
and know that Life holds something magnificent for you if you do
Peace
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Intelligence alone doesn’t guarantee that you’re making the right choices in life.

Intelligence alone doesn’t guarantee that you’re making the right choices in life. There’s no way to figure it all out with your mind, because “it all” is way beyond anybody’s ability to comprehend. There are times when divine guidance alone can lead you safely even through life’s gnarly jungles . Intelligence for Dummies


Its question time during meditation... you’re always wanting to know:
“what can we do about this situation?” or “what are the exact things I need to know?” “how can I fix it?” “how does it work here?” "what was the feedback?" In your deep searching it seems that you believe that things are circumstantial & conditional therefore you are going about trying to create the perfect circumstances & control all the conditions, assuming that knowing all of it will create the space for you to be ALL that you are to be. 
The all that you are to be is never ever dependent on outside circumstances & outer expressions alone. If this is the place where you live inside your head then you will never know what it is to follow your intuition. To follow your gut. 
To act on faith & self belief &inner guidance.
Life is so much bigger than what you know & what someone tells you.
If you live from that space, You will always follow &
Always look for external validation.
Listen. Listen.Listen - go "inside" & listen.
Then make movements
Its called Divine Guidance.
Peace

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We Develop in Different Ways & Times

Our culture's obsession with early achievement has become detrimental to the majority of the population- to the multitudes of us who develop in different ways at different places. It pushes the message that you haven't become famous, reinvented an industry or banked seven figures while you're still young enough to get carded, you've somehow made a wrong turn in life. Rich Karlglaad

Okay, so confessions on the journey, I am terrified of "getting old" of "dying old"
I just had a birthday - these milestones have a tendency of sending me into a spiral of  overthinking. 
The overthinking leads to thoughts like : there is so much I haven't done yet and time is running out.
There is so much I must do and time is running out.
Am I too old for this shit?
Am I wasting my time waiting?
Am I not using time wisely?
Am I going to die old and alone?
(I told you it was a spiral)

I work myself up to a frenzy and it then becomes a whole drama going on in my mind about what to do, what not to do, and when to do it!
After calming down, I get to a point of acceptance where I say "self, it is what it is, until it is not, so what now?" 
The pressure I put myself under about where I am at the present moment is a combination of fear and uncertainty.

We move when we are ready
We shift when we are ready
We grow when we are ready
Ready is a decision, ready is a state of willingness, ready is a mindset of faith and courage.
Sometimes to get ready we have to go through many different journeys. Journeys take time.
So, here I am, after all of the stressing, recognising that all of the Journeys that I have been on has lead me to this here place, safe in the knowledge that the journeys will continue to lead me to exactly where I am supposed to be in the right time. If I am not ready, then I cannot move.
Get Ready!
Get Willing!
And in the meantime, enjoy the Journey
Peace


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Making Up Stories

It is our "job" to continue imagining higher states of being - higher thoughts, word and deeds, so we continue creating ourselves anew . Neal Donald Walsh

I wanted to know what was going on but so afraid to ask. I wanted to get the full story but really didn't want to be disappointed. So what did I do? I made up a story about it.
An elaborate one as well- mostly negative and drama filled.
What I have learnt is that making up stories is an easy way out until it starts affecting your real life and your real decisions.
Making up stories is exactly what it is- making up something that may not ever exist.
It is in no way easier than facing the truth, accepting the reality and feeling the feelings associated with it
It may be challenging for a little while, long term though making up stories keeps us in denial, unhealed and sometimes in the dark!
When you find yourself making up a story, especially a drama filled negative one, stop yourself, say "I am making up a story", chuckle to yourself. If you still feel the need to make up one, make it a positive, fun filled one.
Peace


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Congratulations to the Success Laventille Secondary Class on 2019

Discomfort is a teacher; it’s an invitation to learn and grow. Rihard Rohr



Yesterday I had the distinct honour and privilege of speaking at a school graduation, and not just any graduation, the Success Laventille Secondary School Graduation. This school remains a beacon of light within their community.

Despite all the challenges they face of being in the middle of a gang territory, the ones who made it through the five years showed up when they can to take advantage of the education that was on offer.
They were persistent and resilient and confident.
They knew that they wanted to complete this part of their journey
They wanted to transcend their circumstances.

I salute them
I was humbled and privileged to be there because it is an honor to be considered as someone who can have an impact on these individuals who are now leaving their safe space to navigate out into the world.
I take these requests and responsibilities seriously.

I wish the graduating class of the Success Laventille Secondary School 2019 all the best

Peace

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You Are Activity in Motion

“It is only when you take responsibility for your life that you discover how powerful you truly are.” Allanah HuntThis is a friendly nudge to take responsibility for your own life

There is not YOU and LIFEThere is not YOU trying to do lifeWe are life itself - it is not happening to usTurn to your own self as evidence of lifeWhen you are coming up with the who you are, just don't come up with the things you have, the things you own, the outer things.What is the activity of your life?What is the vibration of your life?What are you resonating with?The test is to demonstrate what know and have considered a test.Life is not a pop quiz.Bring everything , bring all of you, bring it all togetherIt is time to stand on what we know, not on what we haveWe waste time in judgement about how wrong a situation is, how wrong the situation we are in is - Let that go
We don't need the energy of what is wrong.It's called healing, it's called growth, it's called transformationYou cannot heal what you don't feelYou have to be willing to stand in this NOWOr sometimes we pretend it is irrelevant because we don't want to deal with itLook at itThe question is will be who we really are?Peace
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everyone's rituals and road maps are different.

everyone's rituals and road maps are different. what works for you may not be conventional, or part of the collective idea that to be successful you have to follow a trend. find your rhythm how you see fit. it may not be in tune with the noise of commonplace notions.   Olivia Jade

There are many guru's, books, you-tube vids, apps and the whole nine yards giving advice on how to be successful. Sharing what worked for them has helped  many  recognise and realise their potential, however there are others who have read all the books, listen to the podcasts, attended all the workshops but are stuck! Does it mean that they are doing something wrong? that they are basically clueless? What is it?

I have learned that this is when we have to decide to set set our own paths, make our own habits and be willing to do different things to find your way. Not because your way is different it means that it not valid. And when we do this boldly and authentically it paves the way for others to do the same and know that they are not alone.
What happens is, we don't trust our intuition and our way because it has not been validated by others, there was no one famous who wrote a book about it, did a seminar and so on. Newsflash - those people were not always famous.
We are afraid to branch off on our own, do different things and rock the status quo.
Be willing to do things your way!
Listen, this is your life, your growth, your peace of mind.
Somebody else's way may work, or it may not.
The Universal Laws that exist work whether we believe it or not. I have learnt that living with the knowledge of these laws makes it less important for us to rely on external validation and praise combined with knowing who you are!

So:

1. Know who you are without the titles and things
2. Be willing to do something different
3. Know that there will be challenges and naysayers
4. Be disciplined and consistent
5. Feel all the feelings and let it go

You know you best and no one else can be you better than you

Peace
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Internalised Oppression

Do not throw away truth in favour of illusions ACIM

When I was out in Uganda,  We were offered this opportunity for  support from a well known ex politician from Texas USA who has since left office. The leader of the operation turned it down. I asked why, the world knows him and maybe we can get the electricity supply we need at our main base that we have been waiting and doing somersaults to get for over 6 months.Sometimes I would ask questions and many times the response seems to have nothing to do with the question. I still listen because there usually was some lesson in there.Madam, you were taught that “you are what you have”. That there is the power struggle! So you have learnt that if you have more you are more, I AM more. If you have less you are less, I AM less. So here comes the West oh look at how much less they have they must BE less. why?Because you people associate yourself with what you HAVE. You are no more or no less than what you have, I am telling you that you are something, I’ve been telling you from the start and you don’t believe me because you don’t HAVE anything to show, you don’t HAVE it, you have no outer material possessions to back it up! Those “things” are not who you are!You have been taught once I have it then I am it. No, it doesn’t work that way. That is Internalised Oppression. Nobody keeps you down, you’re doing it all on your own, you are doing it all by yourself. You convince yourself you can’t have it. What a way to keep the “isms” going.Let us not get caught up in the charity trap that reflects a value judgement that because someone who has material wealth and want to “help us who has less” for publicity alone. 
Peace!!
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Gratitude is a Devotion

Gratitude is a devotion
It takes courage to be grateful . Guru Singh


Giving thanks for:

1. Watermelon this morning for Breakfast
2. Sunshine
3. Technology which allows communication with my friends throughout the world
4. Meeting new people and hearing their lessons on their own journey
5. Healing
6. The ability to speak and share lessons with my grandmother
7. Chocolate with nuts
8. Starch Mangoes
9. Courage to do new things and have new experiences
10. All the people I have met on the Journey thus far

Peace

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Instant Gratification Is Unsustainable

I find one major block to creating lasting change is that many want instant gratification or a quick fix, even when it comes to healing. When I talk about the inner work and explain that results are all about small consistent steps, that doesn’t seem as appealing. But it works. When people ask ok but how do you do it, I say over and over again ‘repetition’ and daily practice. It’s not about learning more theory, adding in more steps or knowing more healing modalities. Just pick one reprogramming process and stick to it for 30 days. You will see results Maryham Hassna

This week I have been frustrated. I get frustrated when I feel that my process for attaining a goal is going too slow, I get frustrated when I cannot have things exactly my way.
I have been training with some runners since February. I have been waking up early at 4.15am to get to the place on time, breaking up my days to get to the training on the evening. Yet I have seen zero results, not on my body and not on my running and certainly not in the waistline!
I woke up this morning and refused to go, what's the point? I was basically so frustrated and slipped into the child like behaviour!
And right on time, the Universe responded, I read the passage quoted above by the brilliant Maryham Hasnaa and it dawned on me, consistency and discipline is always the formula, there really is no sustainable lasting quick fix. The other thing that dawned upon me is the part perception plays in forming my opinion. I have been comparing myself to the other seasoned running and to others. Comparison is a form of self sabotage. So, guess what? I'm done with that!
My perception - well taking the time to learn the lessons where this one is concerned, it is taking a bit longer to master this lesson.
The Lessons :

1. Be Patient - it takes time to build anything
2. Be Willing to see the situation differently
3. Keep reminding yourself of your intention - the why!
4. Feel the Feelings

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