Akosua Dardaine Edwards's Blog, page 86
August 31, 2019
Stay in Touch with Your Intuition
That’s the thing about when you push – yourself, your chances, your hopes, your abilities – there’s always the chance that you’re pushing too hard and too fast to notice what’s really going on. You’re gunning for the outcome and you miss the information presenting itself in the process
. Maxi Mc Coy
I am sharing today a message from Maxi McCy which resonated with me in a huge way
"When something happens to us. That intuition was normally there, in a way. But we ignore. We temper. We quiet it down. We want to move quickly, relentlessly, to what we want anyways. When I look back on being screwed over, I had signals. I had signals when the woman representing me in business was a total fraud, and I’m lucky that I got every dime back from her because many didn’t. Or the time that I had indicators from the get-go when everything that date was telling me just did. not. add. up. In the end, it required me to call and act like I was someone I wasn’t to verify his education and employment. Yes, I went there. And it didn’t end well.
Bad feelings. Weird feelings. Off feelings. They’re there. Sometimes they’re unfounded and simply fear based. Sometimes they’re completely founded and knowing based. And the only time that you’re really f*cking your own self over is when you rationalize the latter. When you talk yourself out of feeling what you feel. When you analyze your intuition out of the picture. When you call yourself crazy, overreacting, dramatic, or emotional. Don’t do that. Your body – this beautiful, knowing, powerful intelligence – is trying to tell you something. Let it speak. Let it guide. Let it work its way through a decision alongside whatever your head is saying.
Stay in touch. Do what needs to be done to stay there – by breathing, by getting quiet, by crying, by being still, by meditating, by taking a bath, by not talking about it, by journaling, by moving your body, by praying – and the wisdom you need will show up. And it’ll be all yours. Avoid that wisdom, and ya…you’re screwing yourself. But you’ll learn. Every bad choice we make is an opportunity to remember what our intuition was saying in the beginning"
Peace
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I am sharing today a message from Maxi McCy which resonated with me in a huge way
"When something happens to us. That intuition was normally there, in a way. But we ignore. We temper. We quiet it down. We want to move quickly, relentlessly, to what we want anyways. When I look back on being screwed over, I had signals. I had signals when the woman representing me in business was a total fraud, and I’m lucky that I got every dime back from her because many didn’t. Or the time that I had indicators from the get-go when everything that date was telling me just did. not. add. up. In the end, it required me to call and act like I was someone I wasn’t to verify his education and employment. Yes, I went there. And it didn’t end well.
Bad feelings. Weird feelings. Off feelings. They’re there. Sometimes they’re unfounded and simply fear based. Sometimes they’re completely founded and knowing based. And the only time that you’re really f*cking your own self over is when you rationalize the latter. When you talk yourself out of feeling what you feel. When you analyze your intuition out of the picture. When you call yourself crazy, overreacting, dramatic, or emotional. Don’t do that. Your body – this beautiful, knowing, powerful intelligence – is trying to tell you something. Let it speak. Let it guide. Let it work its way through a decision alongside whatever your head is saying.
Stay in touch. Do what needs to be done to stay there – by breathing, by getting quiet, by crying, by being still, by meditating, by taking a bath, by not talking about it, by journaling, by moving your body, by praying – and the wisdom you need will show up. And it’ll be all yours. Avoid that wisdom, and ya…you’re screwing yourself. But you’ll learn. Every bad choice we make is an opportunity to remember what our intuition was saying in the beginning"
Peace
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August 30, 2019
Take Your Power Back
Your thoughts are powerful. Your stories are powerful. Tell a story about power and agency, see yourself and the people in your world as powerful, able to participate in miracles that transform themselves and their world, and you lend them your power
. Hiro Boga
I wanted to test this theory of powerful thoughts and telling myself powerful stories. I decided to do it with during a long run. Running is an activity that has now become a part of my life, I can safely say it was never something that I was interested in or loved, only because I felt that I would not be able to do it.
On the 10K route yesterday I decided to think and tell myself only powerful thoughts.
There is a particular part of the hill that I walk because I believed it was hard, I would burn out and plainly that I would not be able to make it
And so began by power thought test - you can do it was the mantra. I also invited the negative thought in then replaced it with the mantra as soon as it surfaced. At the end of the run, the trainer said to me - "you looked really comfortable running the hills" well well well apart from the continuous run without stopping I was told this as confirmation of the how powerful our thoughts are.
The next time you are in a situation that is uncomfortable, unknown, scary, you don't know what to do, pay attention to the language you speak, the thoughts you tell yourself. Flip the script and remember you are powerful, your thoughts are powerful.
Holding on to the statements such as
"This is just how I am"
"I cannot deal with this"
"I refuse to deal with this"
sends a message that you have decided to give up your power.
Take your Power Back!
Peace
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I wanted to test this theory of powerful thoughts and telling myself powerful stories. I decided to do it with during a long run. Running is an activity that has now become a part of my life, I can safely say it was never something that I was interested in or loved, only because I felt that I would not be able to do it.
On the 10K route yesterday I decided to think and tell myself only powerful thoughts.
There is a particular part of the hill that I walk because I believed it was hard, I would burn out and plainly that I would not be able to make it
And so began by power thought test - you can do it was the mantra. I also invited the negative thought in then replaced it with the mantra as soon as it surfaced. At the end of the run, the trainer said to me - "you looked really comfortable running the hills" well well well apart from the continuous run without stopping I was told this as confirmation of the how powerful our thoughts are.
The next time you are in a situation that is uncomfortable, unknown, scary, you don't know what to do, pay attention to the language you speak, the thoughts you tell yourself. Flip the script and remember you are powerful, your thoughts are powerful.
Holding on to the statements such as
"This is just how I am"
"I cannot deal with this"
"I refuse to deal with this"
sends a message that you have decided to give up your power.
Take your Power Back!
Peace
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Have you read any of Akosua's work?What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
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August 29, 2019
Go for It...
We all have excuses for why we don’t shine. For why we don’t show up fully as our beautiful, magical, glorious, radiant, divine Selves. There is too much talent going to waste. If you are wondering if you are needed this is your wake up call. You are here, that means we need you . Mayaam Hasnaa
Excuses and justifications are most times fear. Fear of failure or fear of success.
The "what if's" come in and plays havoc with our brains if we are not grounded in who we are.
Ask around those who are living their dreams and their best lives - they let go of excuses and justifications, they take responsibility for where they are, the learn the lessons and walk the talk.
There is always a reason not to do something, not to start something, not to take that risk. Many times they all seem like pretty valid reasons. How does the excuses, reasons and rationale given to stay stuck where you are compare to the feeling you get from living your best life? You will never know if you don't take that step.
What's the worst that can happen? You end up exactly where you started!
Shine
Show up
Take that Risk
Take Responsibility
you will thank yourself when you do.
Peace
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Communication requires Acceptance
We are required to communicate in this world if we want to have healthy and functional relationships. We can get a bit further in this life if we acknowledge that we need something and show the person the way. I’m not asking you to spoon feed a person, nor am I asking you to explain the same thing 49 times. I’m asking you to consider what it might feel like to balance out all of the ways that love can be given and received and equalize it.
Vienna Pharaon
A friend of mine was chatting with me yesterday, he was bemoaning the fact that his wife does not listen to him. I asked him what does he mean by "she does not listen to him"? He responded with- she hardly ever does what he says or asks her to do.
That got me to thinking, does listening to someone only mean that we do what they say or ask us to, in the same way and form?
I would say no.
I would say that listening means hearing someone and using the feedback to make the best decision possible for themselves. Sometimes that response may be completely different to what what advice was given or request made.
It can never be doing exactly what someone else says out of fear, people pleasing and lack of self belief.
Communication is a skill, it takes practice, patience, compassion and acceptance Acceptance is simply recognition. When you recognize a thing, you see it for what it is. All of our experiences, no matter how awful they appear to be, are temporary. According to Iyanla Vanzant, Acceptance of an experience as a temporary situation can make it a lot easier to handle. There are times when all the skills required to communicate effectively will become necessary when dealing with others. It is a wonderful lesson in growth when communication becomes a love language.
The willingness to communicate is important, there will be times people may not agree nor listen to you and your point of view, how do you respond in that case?
Remember that there are different love languages, different points of views. Diversity is a beautiful thing!
Peace
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A friend of mine was chatting with me yesterday, he was bemoaning the fact that his wife does not listen to him. I asked him what does he mean by "she does not listen to him"? He responded with- she hardly ever does what he says or asks her to do.
That got me to thinking, does listening to someone only mean that we do what they say or ask us to, in the same way and form?
I would say no.
I would say that listening means hearing someone and using the feedback to make the best decision possible for themselves. Sometimes that response may be completely different to what what advice was given or request made.
It can never be doing exactly what someone else says out of fear, people pleasing and lack of self belief.
Communication is a skill, it takes practice, patience, compassion and acceptance Acceptance is simply recognition. When you recognize a thing, you see it for what it is. All of our experiences, no matter how awful they appear to be, are temporary. According to Iyanla Vanzant, Acceptance of an experience as a temporary situation can make it a lot easier to handle. There are times when all the skills required to communicate effectively will become necessary when dealing with others. It is a wonderful lesson in growth when communication becomes a love language.
The willingness to communicate is important, there will be times people may not agree nor listen to you and your point of view, how do you respond in that case?
Remember that there are different love languages, different points of views. Diversity is a beautiful thing!
Peace
Come Join us in Guyana
https://welead.21qcaribbean.com/
Have you read any of Akosua's work?What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
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August 27, 2019
One Year On
Too many of us are not living our dreams because we are living our fears.
– Les Brown
It's been exactly one year since the book "The Bootstapper's Way" was published.
Confessions on the Journey I have completely neglected this baby. I neglected it because of my own views on how it became a reality.
The book represented to me a type of unfinished business, the PhD I started was unfinished, the task to complete the research I started was unfinished and here comes this book as a testament to unfinished business.
Today the photo popped up in my FB feed as a memory. I looked at it and I thought, OMG, why did I ever think of this as a testament of unfinished business?
I decided right there and then to flip the script, change my whole mind.
What a difference a year makes?
I started smiling and being so grateful that I had the opportunity to be a part of this body of work!
Grateful for the experiences which brought forward this body of work
and looking forward to welcoming it into the family, with a new mindset.
Lessons:
1. A mindset shift can make a huge difference
2. Gratitude is everything
Peace
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It's been exactly one year since the book "The Bootstapper's Way" was published.
Confessions on the Journey I have completely neglected this baby. I neglected it because of my own views on how it became a reality.
The book represented to me a type of unfinished business, the PhD I started was unfinished, the task to complete the research I started was unfinished and here comes this book as a testament to unfinished business.
Today the photo popped up in my FB feed as a memory. I looked at it and I thought, OMG, why did I ever think of this as a testament of unfinished business?
I decided right there and then to flip the script, change my whole mind.
What a difference a year makes?
I started smiling and being so grateful that I had the opportunity to be a part of this body of work!
Grateful for the experiences which brought forward this body of work
and looking forward to welcoming it into the family, with a new mindset.
Lessons:
1. A mindset shift can make a huge difference
2. Gratitude is everything
Peace
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August 26, 2019
Get Curious instead of Defensive
Compromising is power. Saying sorry. Changing ways. Getting curious instead of defensive. Have an mindful reaction instead of being reactionary. Thinking before we speak. Going out of our way. Trying to approach things differently. Not leading the way. Or maybe leading the way. Adjustments away from our default can bring so much closeness in our most important relationships
. Maxi McCoy
What is your default response?
Do you even know what it is?
Do you recognise when you are giving away your power?
Over the past ten days I have been involved in a whirlwind of a festival, with many moving parts. It called for patience, flexibility, stamina and an open mind.
There were times when tempers were flared, and responses had to be mindful
I was able to see what my default responses are, when I am triggered and how I respond to that.
These are my top lessons:
1. Our response comes from our experiences and how we feel about ourselves - no one can make us feel inferior, or any other way. We feel how we feel and then others come and hold up a mirror.
2. Compromising does not mean being a door mat. Compromise allows you to renegotiate some of your boundaries and reclaim your power
3. Your way is not always the best way - be willing to listen
4. Follow your Intuition - all the time, even if it makes zero logical sense
5. Be a Leader - even if it means leading your own self!
6. Have fun on the journey, laugh, pay attention and find time to sleep
Peace
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What is your default response?
Do you even know what it is?
Do you recognise when you are giving away your power?
Over the past ten days I have been involved in a whirlwind of a festival, with many moving parts. It called for patience, flexibility, stamina and an open mind.
There were times when tempers were flared, and responses had to be mindful
I was able to see what my default responses are, when I am triggered and how I respond to that.
These are my top lessons:
1. Our response comes from our experiences and how we feel about ourselves - no one can make us feel inferior, or any other way. We feel how we feel and then others come and hold up a mirror.
2. Compromising does not mean being a door mat. Compromise allows you to renegotiate some of your boundaries and reclaim your power
3. Your way is not always the best way - be willing to listen
4. Follow your Intuition - all the time, even if it makes zero logical sense
5. Be a Leader - even if it means leading your own self!
6. Have fun on the journey, laugh, pay attention and find time to sleep
Peace
Come Join us in Guyana
https://welead.21qcaribbean.com/
Have you read any of Akosua's work?What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal
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August 22, 2019
Being Happy Includes Kindness
Most people think happiness is about achieving something but it's not. Happiness is about being happy with yourself and treating yourself with love and kindness
Kyle Jones
Today I want to share a post from the wonderful mind of Kyle D Jones who speaks the truth to me!
How do you learn to love yourself?”
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Loving yourself is about establishing loving habits in every area of your life. These are the six areas of life you need to have loving habits: (1) physical, (2) mental, (3) emotional, (4) financial, (5) relational and (6) spiritual.
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My top thirty (30) loving habits are listed below:
1. Practice self-awareness throughout your day
2. Drinking at least eight glasses of water every day
3. Exercising at least twenty minutes a day
4. Working towards your short term and long term goals on a daily basis
5. Brushing and flossing your teeth twice a day
6. Having a daily skin care routine
7. Making sure your body is getting the proper nutrients
8. Getting enough sleep at night to wake up feeling good
9. Having the courage to face your fears
10. Being self-compassionate
11. Having a stress relieving technique
12. Taking personal responsibility for your feelings
13. Becoming skilled at identifying and meeting your needs
14. Setting boundaries
15. Receiving emotional support from an online coach or therapist
16. Being a lifelong learner
17. Writing in your gratitude journal daily
18. Staying away from negative people
19. Staying away from abusive relationships
20. Refusing to compare yourself to others
21. Giving yourself permission to make mistakes
22. Refusing to take other people’s behaviors personally
23. Putting down your phone as much as possible
24. Spending time in nature as much as possible
25. Printing out your bank statements every month and tracking your spending
26. Letting go of unhealthy spending habits
27. Making a budget at the beginning of every day, week and month
28. Having six months of living expenses saved for emergencies
29. Praying daily
30. Meditating daily
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The more loving habits you have, the more you start to make yourself feel loved and valued. You also need to make sure these loving habits are in every area of your life, not just one or two
Today I want to share a post from the wonderful mind of Kyle D Jones who speaks the truth to me!
How do you learn to love yourself?”
⠀⠀
Loving yourself is about establishing loving habits in every area of your life. These are the six areas of life you need to have loving habits: (1) physical, (2) mental, (3) emotional, (4) financial, (5) relational and (6) spiritual.
⠀⠀
My top thirty (30) loving habits are listed below:
1. Practice self-awareness throughout your day
2. Drinking at least eight glasses of water every day
3. Exercising at least twenty minutes a day
4. Working towards your short term and long term goals on a daily basis
5. Brushing and flossing your teeth twice a day
6. Having a daily skin care routine
7. Making sure your body is getting the proper nutrients
8. Getting enough sleep at night to wake up feeling good
9. Having the courage to face your fears
10. Being self-compassionate
11. Having a stress relieving technique
12. Taking personal responsibility for your feelings
13. Becoming skilled at identifying and meeting your needs
14. Setting boundaries
15. Receiving emotional support from an online coach or therapist
16. Being a lifelong learner
17. Writing in your gratitude journal daily
18. Staying away from negative people
19. Staying away from abusive relationships
20. Refusing to compare yourself to others
21. Giving yourself permission to make mistakes
22. Refusing to take other people’s behaviors personally
23. Putting down your phone as much as possible
24. Spending time in nature as much as possible
25. Printing out your bank statements every month and tracking your spending
26. Letting go of unhealthy spending habits
27. Making a budget at the beginning of every day, week and month
28. Having six months of living expenses saved for emergencies
29. Praying daily
30. Meditating daily
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The more loving habits you have, the more you start to make yourself feel loved and valued. You also need to make sure these loving habits are in every area of your life, not just one or two
August 21, 2019
Sleep is a super power
Hello Lovies
Its been a while!! I have been caught up, literally with our Caribbean Arts Festival - CARIFESTA which is a ten day festival of the Arts and Culture bringing together 20 countries and 2000 delegates - sort of like an Olympic games for the arts! The festival started on the 16th of August and will run for ten days, so we are now half way through and Its been quite a whirlwind.
Today I had some time to breathe and there was nothing more that I wanted to do than to touch base with y'all and see what's up!?
I have been paying attention to the lessons on this Journey of being part of a team that executes the largest arts festival in the region
The top five lessons thus far
1. Take nothing personally - a lesson that can apply anywhere and in any situation
2. Get some sleep - Sleep is a super power - functioning with little
3. Everything cannot be scripted and controlled in the way I want it to be-many times the surrender to the flow and process brings even more joy and awe
4. People show you what is inside them when in crisis so pay attention and recognise the fear
5.Let Go and Let God - when you have done all you can, let it go
Peace
Its been a while!! I have been caught up, literally with our Caribbean Arts Festival - CARIFESTA which is a ten day festival of the Arts and Culture bringing together 20 countries and 2000 delegates - sort of like an Olympic games for the arts! The festival started on the 16th of August and will run for ten days, so we are now half way through and Its been quite a whirlwind.
Today I had some time to breathe and there was nothing more that I wanted to do than to touch base with y'all and see what's up!?
I have been paying attention to the lessons on this Journey of being part of a team that executes the largest arts festival in the region
The top five lessons thus far
1. Take nothing personally - a lesson that can apply anywhere and in any situation
2. Get some sleep - Sleep is a super power - functioning with little
3. Everything cannot be scripted and controlled in the way I want it to be-many times the surrender to the flow and process brings even more joy and awe
4. People show you what is inside them when in crisis so pay attention and recognise the fear
5.Let Go and Let God - when you have done all you can, let it go
Peace
August 15, 2019
Transformation
One of the things that makes you so very qualified to help people isn't the number of certifications or degrees you have, it's not your education. While that's extremely important, what makes you most qualified to help people is that you have a strong desire to help people.
Caring. Loving. Being present. Being attuned. Creating safety.
These are the things that make you most qualified to help and serve others. Mastin Kipp
When you step into something you are mindful of what you step into. How it would impact you & you deliberately go into a thing- a career, a business, even a relationship, & because we know that something is going to happen TO us
the reverse
is where YOU take YOU with YOU into a thing and you TRANSFORM what you are stepping into
Where the environment shifts because of that you are bringing
This is an unto moment
This is about how we bring the best of who we are & the best of what we know to the circumstances to allow it to transform
Peace
August 10, 2019
What Are You Doing With Your Power?
Deep down inside of us there is a power,it's an inherent power, its an authentic power and nothing that has ever happened to you has diminished your power
Iyanla Vanzant
Blaming others is a misuse of your power
Depending on other people to make you happy is a misuse of your power
Holding other people responsible for your life is a misuse of your power
People pleasing is a misuse of your power
What Are You Doing with Your Power?
Not taking care of your body - health wise is a misuse of your power
Giving into fear is a misuse of your power
Not taking care of your mind - is a misuse of your power
What Are You Doing With Your Power?
Denying your dreams - is a misuse of your power
Denying your purpose - is a misuse of your power
Ignoring your intuition - is a misuse of your power
You have the power to make the decisions in your life, for your life and about your life
Use it
Don't Give Away or Misuse your power
Peace
Blaming others is a misuse of your power
Depending on other people to make you happy is a misuse of your power
Holding other people responsible for your life is a misuse of your power
People pleasing is a misuse of your power
What Are You Doing with Your Power?
Not taking care of your body - health wise is a misuse of your power
Giving into fear is a misuse of your power
Not taking care of your mind - is a misuse of your power
What Are You Doing With Your Power?
Denying your dreams - is a misuse of your power
Denying your purpose - is a misuse of your power
Ignoring your intuition - is a misuse of your power
You have the power to make the decisions in your life, for your life and about your life
Use it
Don't Give Away or Misuse your power
Peace
