Akosua Dardaine Edwards's Blog, page 91
June 4, 2019
Perception Shifts
+ perception shifts // make way for your blessing. + intuitive impulses will crown you later. + manifest & materialize. + the revolution is seeded in the revelation. + inwardness doesn’t have to be a recoiling. + the art of letting go . Olivia Jade
I am always amazed at how simple life becomes when I am willing to just open my mind. That's it! I may not even do anything conclusive, only the opening of my mind. From the opening of my mind there is also the willingness to shift my perception.
Our perceptions come from a combination of our experiences, beliefs, surroundings and education.
Some of us never challenge these perceptions, and sometimes there is not a need to because they are serving our highest good. When they are not serving our highest good, we continue to persevere with them because its what we know, its convenient, its easy.
So how did I learn to shift my perceptions?
1. Be Willing to Keep An Open Mind - the mantra is "I am willing to see this differently"
2. Ask Yourself - Are these beliefs serving me? and be willing to sit with the answer
3. Surround Yourself with New Experiences - do something new whenever you can
4. Speak to people outside of your circle to be exposed to different ways - suspend the judgement
5.Listen
Peace
Have you read any of Akosua's work?
What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal
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June 1, 2019
Subconsciously
Simply put, any thought, message or order that is given to the subconscious often enough and convincingly enough will in time be accepted as truth and consistently be carried out with exact precision irrespective of whether it benefits you or not. The most important thing you must know is that it is subjective in nature. This means that it can not reason or distinguish between positive and negative.
Tania Kotsos
Our subconscious mind is an important part of our guidance system, it listens and creates. That's it. When we consistently feed it information and "instructions" it creates
What you see manifesting in reality is most times the thoughts and beliefs and instructions you fed to your subconscious playing itself out in reality.
The beautiful thing about knowing about the power of the subconscious mind is that we can pay attention to it and make a shift. It may not be easy but it can be done.
Pay attention to your thoughts and your beliefs even your words because the subconscious will reflect them back to you, positively or negatively!
Peace
Have you read any of Akosua's work?
What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal
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Our subconscious mind is an important part of our guidance system, it listens and creates. That's it. When we consistently feed it information and "instructions" it creates
What you see manifesting in reality is most times the thoughts and beliefs and instructions you fed to your subconscious playing itself out in reality.
The beautiful thing about knowing about the power of the subconscious mind is that we can pay attention to it and make a shift. It may not be easy but it can be done.
Pay attention to your thoughts and your beliefs even your words because the subconscious will reflect them back to you, positively or negatively!
Peace
Have you read any of Akosua's work?
What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal
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May 30, 2019
The Mirror is Your Friend
Essentially, the bottom line cause of break-ups and divorce is when one or both of the partners can no longer stand to see themselves in the other person.
Dr Edrica Richardson
I continue to be fascinated by the concept that all of my relationships are mirrors, the good and the not so good within my personality is reflected back to me through the people that I have in my life, the people I like and the ones that I a have challenge liking. The reflections that I have difficulty in accepting are the things that show me where I need to grow, heal, release judgement and let go.
It makes perfect sense to me now that I feel so angry, helpless and sometimes even guilty when I don;t fancy someone. The anger and such shows that I am really feeling that way about myself, I am having difficulty with the reflection.
Now I can say that the mirror is really showing me where I have open wounds or unresolved issues. How marvellous is that, how wonderful it is to know when people who frustrate us or make us unhappy leave our lives it usually means that the would is healed?
If we look at it that way then it makes the pain a little easier to bear.
The mirrors also show us our beliefs, some of which are harmful to us. We have all acquired certain beliefs throughout our lifetime that cause us to react and act in certain habitual ways that either support us or don't.
The problem is that you did not consciously choose many (if not any) of those beliefs that govern your experiences and relationships at the subconscious level. Instead, your beliefs were, unbeknown to you, handed to you by society, the media, your parents and your friends. There are also those beliefs that came part and parcel with your culture and upbringing, and the stricter your culture in the area of relationships, the more ingrained those specific beliefs.
Since your relationships are based on those beliefs, your experiences only prove to re-enforce them for you, thereby creating something of a virtuous or vicious cycle depending on whether your beliefs support a healthy and balanced relationship or not.
Now that I have learnt about mirrors I can now pay attention to how I treat myself, when I do this the people around me will reflect that.
I can also reduce the judgement that I hold about others within my circle and those outside.
PeaceHave you read any of Akosua's work?
What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal
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I continue to be fascinated by the concept that all of my relationships are mirrors, the good and the not so good within my personality is reflected back to me through the people that I have in my life, the people I like and the ones that I a have challenge liking. The reflections that I have difficulty in accepting are the things that show me where I need to grow, heal, release judgement and let go.
It makes perfect sense to me now that I feel so angry, helpless and sometimes even guilty when I don;t fancy someone. The anger and such shows that I am really feeling that way about myself, I am having difficulty with the reflection.
Now I can say that the mirror is really showing me where I have open wounds or unresolved issues. How marvellous is that, how wonderful it is to know when people who frustrate us or make us unhappy leave our lives it usually means that the would is healed?
If we look at it that way then it makes the pain a little easier to bear.
The mirrors also show us our beliefs, some of which are harmful to us. We have all acquired certain beliefs throughout our lifetime that cause us to react and act in certain habitual ways that either support us or don't.
The problem is that you did not consciously choose many (if not any) of those beliefs that govern your experiences and relationships at the subconscious level. Instead, your beliefs were, unbeknown to you, handed to you by society, the media, your parents and your friends. There are also those beliefs that came part and parcel with your culture and upbringing, and the stricter your culture in the area of relationships, the more ingrained those specific beliefs.
Since your relationships are based on those beliefs, your experiences only prove to re-enforce them for you, thereby creating something of a virtuous or vicious cycle depending on whether your beliefs support a healthy and balanced relationship or not.
Now that I have learnt about mirrors I can now pay attention to how I treat myself, when I do this the people around me will reflect that.
I can also reduce the judgement that I hold about others within my circle and those outside.
PeaceHave you read any of Akosua's work?
What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal
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May 29, 2019
Relationships Are Mirrors
The universe will perfectly align us with those who mirror back to us the areas in which we need to heal or they will mirror back to us the space of self-love that we've created. In this way, our relationships are our greatest spiritual assignments; they magnify whatever it is that's going on within us.
Jennifer Kass
Relationships, I have learnt, are mirrors. I have said this many times before here It is yes a hard pill to swallow. Mirrors where we are able to see where we are, what we love and what requires healing, tweaking, shifting and re-affirming.
When this is the case, do you adjust the mirror?
We really will be defeating the purpose if we change look to change the reflection
Newsflash- the reflection is you! And you have the power to make the change to you!
When a part of you is manifested through the actions of others, you must choose whether or not you want to keep this part of you alive.
If you do, embrace it. Welcome it. However, if you determine what you see is not something you want in your life, if it is not a part of your nature that you want to cultivate, run!
Run as fast as you can in another direction.
Do not make excuses!
Do not entertain the people or condition in any way!
Do not make excuses!
Do not entertain the people or the condition in any way!
If you stay, if you involve yourself in trying to fix or change what is going on, you are dancing with a demon.
Take just enough time to better understand what you are dealing with and to be able to recognize it when you see it again.
See it.
Accept it.
Then reject it and haul ass!”
Peace!!
Relationships, I have learnt, are mirrors. I have said this many times before here It is yes a hard pill to swallow. Mirrors where we are able to see where we are, what we love and what requires healing, tweaking, shifting and re-affirming.
When this is the case, do you adjust the mirror?
We really will be defeating the purpose if we change look to change the reflection
Newsflash- the reflection is you! And you have the power to make the change to you!
When a part of you is manifested through the actions of others, you must choose whether or not you want to keep this part of you alive.
If you do, embrace it. Welcome it. However, if you determine what you see is not something you want in your life, if it is not a part of your nature that you want to cultivate, run!
Run as fast as you can in another direction.
Do not make excuses!
Do not entertain the people or condition in any way!
Do not make excuses!
Do not entertain the people or the condition in any way!
If you stay, if you involve yourself in trying to fix or change what is going on, you are dancing with a demon.
Take just enough time to better understand what you are dealing with and to be able to recognize it when you see it again.
See it.
Accept it.
Then reject it and haul ass!”
Peace!!
May 28, 2019
Guilt is a Wasted Emotion
The idea is not to judge yourself, or even analyze what happened. It is simply natural (un-natural, really) for us to become afraid of being at peace, and therefore we will do things that bring about the opposite state.
Not judging yourself means you are forgiving yourself, and forgiveness is the only answer that leads to peace
. ACIM
Reading A Course in Miracles during my journey, time and time again the teachings insist that guilt is a wasted emotion. I did not get it. I kept asking myself how can guilt be wasted? Isn't all emotions valid? I was just not sure how guilt is a wasted emotion. I kept asking myself - what am I missing?
And then, like clockwork, the fog started clearing. Guilt is always disruptive, it is the voice of the ego ego. The ego believes in separation and so condones guilt. Delusional ideas are not real, but they can be believed, when they are believed the relevant actions follow.
There are only two emotions, love and fear. Guilt is a form of fear. It all made perfect sense now. Guilt is a wasted emotion because it is rooted in fear and ego.
When we are guilty we look for punishment, and if we don't get it from outside we punish from the inside, we punish ourselves.
I have learnt that when a feeling of guilt comes, judgement follows and forgiveness should go right after that.
Simple just like that!
Peace
Have you read any of Akosua's work?
What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal
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Reading A Course in Miracles during my journey, time and time again the teachings insist that guilt is a wasted emotion. I did not get it. I kept asking myself how can guilt be wasted? Isn't all emotions valid? I was just not sure how guilt is a wasted emotion. I kept asking myself - what am I missing?
And then, like clockwork, the fog started clearing. Guilt is always disruptive, it is the voice of the ego ego. The ego believes in separation and so condones guilt. Delusional ideas are not real, but they can be believed, when they are believed the relevant actions follow.
There are only two emotions, love and fear. Guilt is a form of fear. It all made perfect sense now. Guilt is a wasted emotion because it is rooted in fear and ego.
When we are guilty we look for punishment, and if we don't get it from outside we punish from the inside, we punish ourselves.
I have learnt that when a feeling of guilt comes, judgement follows and forgiveness should go right after that.
Simple just like that!
Peace
Have you read any of Akosua's work?
What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal
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May 27, 2019
I will not value what is valueless
I will not value what is valueless
- ACIM
What do you value more than anything?
Can you measure it, count it, take it with you?
Is it tangible?
What brings you joy?
Is it something that you can touch, feel, smell, taste, hold, move take?
Do you even know what you value, what brings you joy?
After much thought and lessons, these are my top 6 things that I value - for now- because it changes:
1. Seeing the sun rise over the ocean - anywhere in the world
2. Seeing the sun rise on Mucurapo road on a Jouvert morning
3. Seeing the sun set on the African continent
4. Chatting with my grandma in her kitchen as she cooks me my favourite dish of bake and pumpkin
5. Being out in nature, hearing the birds and other sounds of nature
6. Watching Arsenal Football Club play football and winning in my favourite chair.
As I reflect on all of this I have come to realise that these things have absolutely nothing to do with anyone giving me permission to do, having loads of cash in my pocket, and all the other trappings that I put in my mind to say I need to live well. It's funny when I break it down like this I feel so much better than comparing it to what someone else says that I need to live full life
Choose what brings you joy, choose what you value and know that it is within you to access it and live it!
Peace
Have you read any of Akosua's work?
What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal
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What do you value more than anything?
Can you measure it, count it, take it with you?
Is it tangible?
What brings you joy?
Is it something that you can touch, feel, smell, taste, hold, move take?
Do you even know what you value, what brings you joy?
After much thought and lessons, these are my top 6 things that I value - for now- because it changes:
1. Seeing the sun rise over the ocean - anywhere in the world
2. Seeing the sun rise on Mucurapo road on a Jouvert morning
3. Seeing the sun set on the African continent
4. Chatting with my grandma in her kitchen as she cooks me my favourite dish of bake and pumpkin
5. Being out in nature, hearing the birds and other sounds of nature
6. Watching Arsenal Football Club play football and winning in my favourite chair.
As I reflect on all of this I have come to realise that these things have absolutely nothing to do with anyone giving me permission to do, having loads of cash in my pocket, and all the other trappings that I put in my mind to say I need to live well. It's funny when I break it down like this I feel so much better than comparing it to what someone else says that I need to live full life
Choose what brings you joy, choose what you value and know that it is within you to access it and live it!
Peace
Have you read any of Akosua's work?
What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal
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May 25, 2019
Individuation and Me
T
o find out what is truly individual in ourselves, profound reflection is needed; and suddenly we realize how uncommonly difficult the discovery of individuality in fact is.
Carl Jung
Many of us have been socialised to believe that we must toe the line, follow the crowd, remain status quo and not be too different. Especially people of colour because there were consequences for being "too out there". Some were prepared to deal with the consequences and many were not ready or prepared.
I have been thinking about individuation and how going through the process of self reflection and inner work brings up to the fore what is inside of us, what our truth is. At times, this shift can be uncomfortable for those who make it, not only because it is new, it may go against everything we know and it is completely non status quo.
The process of self reflection and knowledge of self makes the isolation or differences of opinion easier to accept.
I have learnt that a lot of my angst lies in the non acceptance of the process of my own individuation and the fear that goes along with it. I have also learnt that it remains absolutely necessary to continue the process and step out on it despite the fear. Failing to do that will contribute to me living a lesser life and neglecting my truth.
Remembering that this too shall pass and paving the path for others is part of the journey in honour of those who paved a path for me
Peace
Have you read any of Akosua's work?
What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal
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Many of us have been socialised to believe that we must toe the line, follow the crowd, remain status quo and not be too different. Especially people of colour because there were consequences for being "too out there". Some were prepared to deal with the consequences and many were not ready or prepared.
I have been thinking about individuation and how going through the process of self reflection and inner work brings up to the fore what is inside of us, what our truth is. At times, this shift can be uncomfortable for those who make it, not only because it is new, it may go against everything we know and it is completely non status quo.
The process of self reflection and knowledge of self makes the isolation or differences of opinion easier to accept.
I have learnt that a lot of my angst lies in the non acceptance of the process of my own individuation and the fear that goes along with it. I have also learnt that it remains absolutely necessary to continue the process and step out on it despite the fear. Failing to do that will contribute to me living a lesser life and neglecting my truth.
Remembering that this too shall pass and paving the path for others is part of the journey in honour of those who paved a path for me
Peace
Have you read any of Akosua's work?
What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal
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May 24, 2019
Transformation can start where you are
Perhaps most of the people who have emerged from a setback stay in their same jobs, with their same lives, but they are different. It’s not about self anymore; it’s about relation, it’s about the giving yourself away. Their joy is in seeing others shine
. David Brooks
I was thinking about transformation, what it means and what sparks it. I thought about how much a transformation in my eyes looked like a totally different life, a drastic move and just like clockwork I bumped into the work of David Brooks who makes the case for a transformed life and person can be just a about the transformation of behaviour within the same environment. I see that this point of view makes quite a bit of sense, it is not about changing places where you are but changing the attitude and approach of our responses. It is about what is now important to your life, the approach to challenges and set backs.
Many times, the transformation is about shedding the ego, about giving and serving. This approach can be taken anywhere and at anytime. You can be in the same job, same marriage in many cases with this new approach.
Who Knew?
The Simple is so Profound!
Peace
Have you read any of Akosua's work?
What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal
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I was thinking about transformation, what it means and what sparks it. I thought about how much a transformation in my eyes looked like a totally different life, a drastic move and just like clockwork I bumped into the work of David Brooks who makes the case for a transformed life and person can be just a about the transformation of behaviour within the same environment. I see that this point of view makes quite a bit of sense, it is not about changing places where you are but changing the attitude and approach of our responses. It is about what is now important to your life, the approach to challenges and set backs.
Many times, the transformation is about shedding the ego, about giving and serving. This approach can be taken anywhere and at anytime. You can be in the same job, same marriage in many cases with this new approach.
Who Knew?
The Simple is so Profound!
Peace
Have you read any of Akosua's work?
What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal
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May 23, 2019
Judgement Issues?
In the realm of consciousness, a judgement is a classification. It is a thought that classifies people and things as right or wrong, good or bad, fair or unfair when measured against what we believe. Iyanla
What we believe is right or wrong for us are foundations and pillars of how we live, how we make decisions, how we choose our tribe. Many times what we believe came from a combination of tradition, stories passed down, religion, family, and experience. There are times however that the information we base our life choices on have changed or they no longer serve us. Additionally, we use the information as a basis for our interaction with others. When the other person is different, does something different, acts different, dresses different, speaks different,sometimes we get thrown off. We react sometimes in fear, most times in fear because fear can manifest itself in so many different ways. We believe what they are doing is wrong, or bad or unfair or flip side, good, great and wonderful compared to what we believe
So what if they do not share your beliefs? Are they wrong, bad, good, great or are they just different?
Many times when we respond negatively it is in response to something that triggers us. I have learnt that it is an opportunity to bring the feeling to the forefront and focus on how it can be healed.
What are some of your triggers when judging a situation?
Ask yourself why?
Then analyse whether the beliefs that brought them to the fore still serve you
Peace
Have you read any of Akosua's work?
What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self LoveNyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal
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What we believe is right or wrong for us are foundations and pillars of how we live, how we make decisions, how we choose our tribe. Many times what we believe came from a combination of tradition, stories passed down, religion, family, and experience. There are times however that the information we base our life choices on have changed or they no longer serve us. Additionally, we use the information as a basis for our interaction with others. When the other person is different, does something different, acts different, dresses different, speaks different,sometimes we get thrown off. We react sometimes in fear, most times in fear because fear can manifest itself in so many different ways. We believe what they are doing is wrong, or bad or unfair or flip side, good, great and wonderful compared to what we believe
So what if they do not share your beliefs? Are they wrong, bad, good, great or are they just different?
Many times when we respond negatively it is in response to something that triggers us. I have learnt that it is an opportunity to bring the feeling to the forefront and focus on how it can be healed.
What are some of your triggers when judging a situation?
Ask yourself why?
Then analyse whether the beliefs that brought them to the fore still serve you
Peace
Have you read any of Akosua's work?
What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self LoveNyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal
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May 22, 2019
Mind Over Matter
Many of us believe that what happens to us gives rise to the feelings we experience. The truth is, it’s the other way around
. Iyanla.
The power of the mind is immense, there are many of a tale about how changing one's mind can change one's life, there is talk about mind over matter, there is also the belief that the thoughts that we think manifests itself into our reality. Our lives reflect back to us what we are thinking on both a conscious and unconscious level.
If you want to see what you are thinking in real time, look at your life, look at the conditions of your life and be courageous enough to be vulnerable, courageous, and grateful that we have the opportunity to get the necessary information to support your growth, your development and your highest self. Isn't that what life is all about?
Practice paying attention to your thoughts, practice noticing when it is running in a direction that is negative all the time, practice knowing that you can use this powerful tool in tandem with your heart to manifest something different in your life.
Let me know how that goes!
Peace
Have you read any of Akosua's work?What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self LoveNyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal
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The power of the mind is immense, there are many of a tale about how changing one's mind can change one's life, there is talk about mind over matter, there is also the belief that the thoughts that we think manifests itself into our reality. Our lives reflect back to us what we are thinking on both a conscious and unconscious level.
If you want to see what you are thinking in real time, look at your life, look at the conditions of your life and be courageous enough to be vulnerable, courageous, and grateful that we have the opportunity to get the necessary information to support your growth, your development and your highest self. Isn't that what life is all about?
Practice paying attention to your thoughts, practice noticing when it is running in a direction that is negative all the time, practice knowing that you can use this powerful tool in tandem with your heart to manifest something different in your life.
Let me know how that goes!
Peace
Have you read any of Akosua's work?What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self LoveNyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal
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