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Yesterday was only meant to be lived once

Yesterday is only meant to be lived onceWe all make mistakes. We stumble, fall down, and get some bumps and bruises along the way. It’s something we share with all humanity, from our greatest enemies to our favorite heroes. But the difference between which we become more alike is what we bring with us from yesterday into today. What is it, exactly, that you are carrying?Our enemies bring the hurt and carry all the pain it caused. The mess ups, the fears, the creeping doubt that because we fell once, we are doomed to fall again and again. The more we focus on what happened, the more we spiral downwards into ourselves, where the only thing that is created today is more of the regrets of yesterday. When we live in the past mistakes, we cannot escape them; we don’t give ourselves a chance at doing differently today at all, because we are holding onto the chains of exactly what we did before. We just relive things that can’t hurt us anymore except in the choices we make right now. And, if this is us right now, all we are doing with the power of today is allowing yesterday to steal it away and hurt us again with ghosts of what happened before.But there is another way.Heroes often have the same yesterday’s as you do. They stumble, fall down, and get some bumps and bruises along the way; the difference is that they don’t carry those things with them in the morning, allowing these things to weight them down and drag them through the mud again and again. They know that is not way to live. Instead, they hand them over to today, exchanging them for knowledge, experience, and the ability to grow from what didn’t work. They still carry the memories of yesterday; we all do, and always will. But they use these things as reminders, not life sentences. As memories, not walls. As opportunities to learn something about themselves and the world around them. Not as a prison to keep their light locked away within. They use them, today; they don’t all themselves to be used by them.Yesterday mattered. Yesterday. Just don’t let it matter today more than today does. That’s what a hero would do. And you can be one, too.- a sign

Bountiful Lives

Abundance comes to mind immediately when I see the word bountiful. Bountiful is a state of mind, it is a choice, a decision to believe that the Universe is abundant and bountiful providing for each and every single one of us. Bountiful lives require a decision to live that way because it is our God given right as children of The Most High!



Carnival is in Trinidad and Tobago is here, it is one of my favourite times of year because of the creativity, the colour, the fun, the meeting of people that I haven't seen in a very long time

It is a time that people come together in joy!

I have never experienced anything like it

Carnival in Trinidad and Tobago was born out of a rebellion, and has evolved into something full of joy, fun, innovation and change.
People either love it or hate it!
It sparks debate and controversy as well
Today is the start! There will be parties, food, events, hanging out, and much joy until next Tuesday at midnight.
If you don't hear from me, I'm inside with the Joy!
Peace

Have you read any of Akosua's work?What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal
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Lessons in Patience

Waiting time is a great self-love assignment. Of course the romance will fill a space in your life, and hopefully the career win is going to be fulfilling. But without those future things, you're still supreme now. You're good and beautiful today. And when you tap that self assuredness, that dignity and self worth, you're more likely to manifest what you desire for your future because you're manifesting it today. Danielle La Porte


Patience is quite a challenging skill to master! It requires a level of self belief in our part minus any proof!
How many of us look for proof that we are in the right path? 
I know that I do! I would look for proof and sometimes there is no visible proof, just a gut feeling
People would ask me questions about what I was doing, why I was doing it and self doubt sometimes set in

Patience requires courage. The Courage to make decisions
Patience requires vision - seeing the thing you desire in it's entirety
Patience requires the ability to not be defensive - no excuses, no rationale's, no justification
Patience requires showing up - this is called active waiting
Patience requires acceptance - that it may never ever look the way you anticipate, it usually it always better

Practice it, see how the magic manifests in your life

Peace
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Are You Waiting to Feel Ready?

excessive expectations will block your fulfillment because life will never be able to meet your demands or fantasies that come from scarcity. And...holding on to expectations with desperate or demanding energy will drain the sweet fuck out of you. And then you end up too brittle and tired to magnetize anything to you — or enjoy it if you do get what you want . Danielle La Porte
“Being” ready is an action, “Feeling” ready is the result“If only I was ready.”You are, or you wouldn’t be wondering about such things. But the problem is you are looking at “ready” as a feeling, like being hungry, and you don’t find it there. “Ready” is just a decision, like eating. It comes in response to wanting food. Wanting something more. And that’s all that ready really is. Being hungry for something more.We understand hunger and eating, because we do it daily. We eat for necessity and for enjoyment, we eat with others and we eat alone; we eat to survive. Eating does not depend on us having a good day or a bad day, waking up late, or even where we are. When we are hungry, we do what we have to; we find a way.But we can ignore the feeling of hunger if we choose to, no matter how imperative it is. Hunger will never make you eat, even if you will die without doing so.Being ready is just as simple, and just as imperative. If you are waiting to feel ready in order to make any change, great or small, you’ll die standing still. The feeling comes after the doing; it’s what happens when you see that you ARE ready after you’ve done something about it. In truth, feeling ready isn’t feeling hungry; that’s passion. Feeling ready is just being full; it comes after you’ve done something about it.And the sooner you do it, the better. Just like eating, the sooner you satisfy your hunger, the sooner you have the energy to get through the obstacles in front of you. Many of us take eating for granted, simply because we do it so often we expect the next meal. We have confidence it will come, even in an uncertain world. The sooner you can feel that way about being ready, the sooner the world becomes yours. And you get there by feeding yourself a consistent dose of “doing”.There is no feeling “ready” like we imagine it. Just an “I am hungry for more, and I am starting today. Regardless.” Now get to satisfying that hunger.- A sign

What is Your Definition of Courage?

If you choose courage, you will know failure disappointment setback and vulnerability Brene Browne


What does courage look like to you?
When do you tap into the courage that you need?
Do you even believe that you have courage?
Courage, I have learnt, is showing up despite the fear
It is starting the business, speaking up, writing the poem, getting the book done, asking the person out
Courage shows your vulnerable side, because being vulnerable is part of being courageous
The strength to show all sides, to not wear a mask
That is Courage to me

Peace

Have you read any of Akosua's work?What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

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What is Your Why?

Keeping up will run you dry. It’ll run you ragged. And there will always be someone to keep up with no matter what you’ve done, what you have, or who you are. So the only way to win the game of keeping up, is to stop keeping up entirely. Instead, create, pursue, and desire from a place that matters most to you and only you. Maxi

How many times have you done something or gotten something because other people had it and said it was worth having?
How many times have you gone somewhere because it was the "in" place to be?
Do you ask yourself the reasons?
I have learnt that if the reason is to be popular, keep up, show your worth chances are it will be a hollow or shallow experience that keeps us on the treadmill of going, doing, and acquiring.

If we do something, have something, go somewhere because we want to, a soul calling, an intuitive response, the feeling is so much deeper
Many times we are on auto pilot and it is easier to follow the crowd rather than deal with our own calling- it is our calling so we alone will hear it, there may not be many people who understand,whether it is small or huge
It takes courage to go against the grain but trust me it is well worth it.

Follow Your Heart
Follow Your Intuition
Follow Your Purpose
you will be better off for it
Peace


Have you read any of Akosua's work?What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

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Do you know your "it"?

Most of us want to get away from where we are over to something else. Something spiritual, something peaceful, something successful. People are not in the way of your path, people are your path


This morning as soon as I woke up, I got a phone call, the insurance company, they wanted to know when I would pay by  due bill. It triggered me immediately - pay my bill? It comes directly out of my bank account. They told me no it is a cash payment. I was even more pissed.
I asked them how did they receive the previous payment, the lady responded through the bank account, OK then so what changed? I did not change it!
She started being defensive, she started putting the blame on everyone else, I started doing the same!
Then it hit me:
1. I recognised what my trigger was in that moment- it brought up some fear, when the fear came up I responded in fear
2. Responding to defence with defence hardly ever produces solutions

I asked the lady to put herself in my shoes
I asked her if we can find a solution
She was still annoyed and talking away imploring me to pay the bill
I continued to be annoyed as well, lady I want to pay my bill, I prefer if you can do your job properly rather than call  me before 8am, then the lesson kicked in
I asked her to consider the possibility that I  only want a solution, that I am annoyed about the approach she took.
She responded by agreeing to do some more investigation and return my call. I counted that as progress
When we know what our "it" is, when we can call it, identify it, name it, then we are in a position to change, heal, improve, grow
Anything other than that is what we call here "spinning top in mud"
The next time you start defending, making excuses, rationales and justification
take a pause
lay down the excuses and reasons and ask yourself
is this my "it" and proceed accordingly

Peace

Have you read any of Akosua's work?What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

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You Cannot Lose

The fear of sacrifice and loss is one of the greatest obstacles to our spiritual progress. And as long as we think we are losing something real, we will drag our feet . ACIM


One of my favourite teachers on this journey Ms Iyanla Vanzant says "You cannot lose"
Metaphysically you just cannot lose! What trips us up is the feeling that we will lose something.
I cannot tell you how my life shifted when I truly believed in this - I cannot lose
I can learn
I can change
I can cry
I can move
I can shift
but I cannot lose

I cannot lose...

When I approach every event, every opportunity with this knowledge I can leave out the fear, the doubt, the anxiety, the stress!
I know that I can trust myself to not lose but to learn
Peace

Have you read any of Akosua's work?What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

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Are You Fully Present?

Be present enough to appreciate where you are. Don’t get lost on future trips or comparison journeys. Your life is unfolding in direct proportion to what you truly believe is possible. Want more. Dream big. Desire much. But do not forget to appreciate now. Stacey HERERA

Being  fully present in the moment was a lesson that I learnt that has changed the way I approached my life in such a profound way.
Being in the moment for me, is being fully present, fully invested and focused where I am.
No thinking about what I have to do tomorrow, what I did not do today, what I forgot to do, what I am resisting doing and all the other random thoughts that accompany these feelings.
Being in the moment also involves not comparing the experience to something that I did before, something I saw somewhere or what I believe it should be.

When I am in the moment, I feel a sense of freedom, a sense of possibility and a sense of calmness. I fully experience what is happening.
Making the choice to be in the moment can be challenging, it is a choice of trusting that you are in the right place at the right time and believing that whatever is in front of you, you can handle! The key to that is trusting and honouring
your self.

Peace

Have you read any of Akosua's work?What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

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Happy Valentine's Day

Commit To Being Loving
• Set the intention to be loving each and every day.
• Set the intention to stop being distant every day. • Every morning close your eyes for sixty seconds and visualize yourself displaying loving behaviors and releasing avoidant behaviours.  ⠀⠀Kyle Jones


Today is Valentine's Day, I wish you all the love and fun and excitement and peace!
It is always a pleasure for me to see all the happiness that these days drum up around me
People are smiling, they are speaking to you on the street, if it takes a day to have this happen, why not?
I can put up with the commercialism of it if it leads to a happy set of people, even if it is for one day.
So my friends, happy Valentine's Day and remember to love yourself.

Sharing a podcast on Self Love  - Akosua is Interviewed on the Self Care Sundays Podcast
https://podtail.com/podcast/self-care-sundays/ep-112-author-and-sp

Peace